MC Avengers - Chocolate cake anyone?

[mistlethrush]

I've started a new thread as the old one was full - hope everyone finds their way here OK.

Ha! I'm being a lot stronger willed - although possibly longer to go (expecting af Mon/Tues next week?) still feeling queasy though....

You see, you could have bought a whole tub of icecream if you hadn't tested...

NSNA - I think a text to that effect would be just right. Does he do sarcasm - could get quite interesting if he does... "I'm so sorry to hear what an awful time you're having with your car - and your job on top of it - I can't think of anything worse to be going through at the moment." type lines...

lissielou - CD 32

mistlethrush - it was only a cheapie test so don't feel to extravagant. I have two tubs of icecream sitting in the freezer (along with 6 packs of fish fingers and 2 bags of french fry oven chips - the Tesco delivery man made a very pointed comment about fish fingers...) ready for DD's birthday party on Sunday.

Good one Mistlethrush ...he does sarcasm, I think he invented it!!

I am annoyed with myself for allowing myself to get angry and upset over juvenile 'sibling' issues...

Cece - sorry about the BFN! What DPO are you?

I do think that Stage 4 of 'TTC madness' should be symptom spotting on CD 3 or 4. How many times have I been convinced that I had PG symptoms, only to remember that I hadn't actually O'd yet!! (I did exactly that on Monday!!)

I've not symptom spotted for AGES! Not been any point - and didn't realise that I was pregant last autumn until was thinking af must be due and checking mn and finding out it was 3 days over due....

cece sorry about the BFN, but if it makes you feel any better, I don't think you're at all mad. Mad is whoever started the 'I took the HPT APART because I wanted to really make sure there wasn't a line somewhere' thread Sorry if that was anyone here!

And LOL about the Stage 4, NSNA! and sorry you're brother is being weird. I also live in a different country than my family - my brother and I don't talk that often, but he'll call every once in a while. He hasn't since the mc, but my mother's told me he doesn't really know what to say. I can totally understand and it doesn't bother me because I know how he feels. I would imagine your brother might be similar. I know it hurts that he sent a big long email about all of his problems, but well, I don't think guys really get it. I think it's one thing if it's their partner going through mc or if they've been through it before, but I think it's hard for men to understand in general. That probably doesn't make you feel any better, but I think I would just chalk it up to that if it were my brother. Don't let it upset you. Hope you're feeling better! {{hugs}}

notsonewanymore,

After your comments about your brother I have just realised that my sister hasn't mentioned my mc (at 18 weeks) or sent a card or anything

Oh and I htink I OV a bit later this month so probably about DPO 13

Cece - sorry about your sister - whilst brothers do have a bit of an excuse (being blokes) you would have thought that sisters would have 'got' it a bit more.

Although, when I went back to work after mc in my previous company, the only person that spoke to me and said they were sorry etc was a male colleague who was younger than me - I was at none of the other women mentioning and also at how mature and caring this younger man was (he is lovely)(although much too young for me ).

Yes, I think you are a bit ahead of me - probably about 10dpo for me! Suddenly getting cold feet about the whole thing and thinking that perhaps we ought to just keep to the one fantastic one we have rather than rock the boat, and however we would manage to afford a 2nd (going private school route - 1 is bad enough!)

cece sorry you got a BFN. I have no will power when it comes to testing. I bought 20 cheapie (but quite sensitive)early tests for £5 so that I could test whenever I felt like it! I only get a BFP 16 days after the last bd (I don't temp so wouldn't know what DPO that is) but this doesn't stop me from testing earlier!

Hello all

Yesterday was our edd and we survived it OK, which surprised me really as had been dreading it and in fact the world didn't actually end. Actually feels like a new start.

Hi Claire - glad you can think that way, great positive way forward

ClairePO - so good that you feel that way - it's a real hurdle and to have overcome it feeling positive is a major achievement.

cece and NSNA - sorry about the rubbish siblings. After a friend of mine mc'd, her sister was apparently p*ed off that she didn't go to her hen night a week later . Seemingly there is no accounting for people's behaviour...

I have a question. After bd'ing on Saturday I now have occasional mild period-like cramps (m/c bleeding ended two weeks ago), like the implantation cramps that I had the first time around. I'm sure this is just wishful thinking on my part, and just something to do with the physical healing process, but it's freaking me out a bit. Anyone else here ever got pg without waiting for af?

daisy I know plenty of people IRL and online who have gotten PG without having a period first. There's nothing to suggest that you're at any higher risk of it happening again. In fact, I recently read that an embryo has a better chance of implanting because your lining is fresh.

Good luck!

Daisy - join me for symptom spotting and the 2ww!

Just reading down,sorry about your BFN cece NASA I had pretty much exactly the same thing with my brother, had told parents and siblings, then when we lost at 9 weeks my mum passed on news. One brother and his wife said sorry next time I spoke, the other brother didn't even acknowledge. I emailed him about him getting drunk a few weeks later and his response, my first contact from him, was vitriolic about my mum having told me about him being drunk. Not even a 'how are you' or a 'hello' even.
I still feel upset about it now.

daisy that sounds promising, fingers crossed for you.

OMG I saw some diet chat further down, I need to get myself back on my diet after the weekend away but I want cake. And I had a mars bar for brekkie.

I just bought everyone an apple cake bar from M&S. They're really nice and light and delicious!

Thanks PrePG, mistle and claire. It would be too good to be true, and my boobs aren't hurting (or growing) yet, which they did immediately last time, but I'll definitely join you mistle - I'm going to buy some tests today (but not going to test till the 2 May - I got PG 14 Jan and tested 2 Feb last time, and I'm superstitious!) xx

thanks scully, been ok, but rowing a bit with dh about my being a bit insular. seems to have smoothed that out.

Clare so glad you go past your edd so positively gives me hope.

Sorry for those rubbish siblings. mine have been ok, but I usually bring the subject up. The best one has been my 19yr old brother

thanks scully, been ok, but rowing a bit with dh about my being a bit insular. seems to have smoothed that out.

Clare so glad you go past your edd so positively gives me hope.

Sorry for those rubbish siblings. mine have been ok, but I usually bring the subject up. The best one has been my 19yr old brother

So who here felt really down during their first period post-mc? Maybe it's just a coincidence, I'm not really sure, but I just can't stop reliving the whole thing lately The doctor's face when he was looking at the scan, telling my parents, spending the day on the sofa with DH - every time I think about it all, I just have to choke back tears. I just can't shake the feeling. I should be happy that we're getting to move on and will be able to TTC again.

thanks scully, been ok, but rowing a bit with dh about my being a bit insular. seems to have smoothed that out.

Clare so glad you go past your edd so positively gives me hope.

Sorry for those rubbish siblings. mine have been ok, but I usually bring the subject up. The best one has been my 19yr old brother

hmm not sure what happened there.

prepreg know what you mean about re-living every tiny detail. on both mine that first post mc period was the worst, but every subsequent one has brought back memories and tears

hmm not sure what happened there.

prepreg know what you mean about re-living every tiny detail. on both mine that first post mc period was the worst, but every subsequent one has brought back memories and tears

cece sorry re bfn - IKWYM re phantom lines - I kept on taking my HPT out of the bin to check it just in case a line appeared - ironically a few days later it did and i WAS pg

Daisy and mistle can I join you? I am only unofficially symptom spotting as i havent been doing any counting or anything but you never know. Every time I catch myself checking or imagining symptoms I try to stop it as I cant believe it would happen so fast - I havent had AF yet either so it would be a quick turnaround. I keep waiting for a metallic taste as that was v strong with DS and also last time...dont want to tempt fate. IKWYM mistle re cold feet - I did that when i was pg but now I feel a bit guilty for worrying when all I want is to be pg again. Cant win either way.

Well done clare onwards and upwards

NSNAM I hadnt even told my brother I was pg so havent had to put him straight (he's living abroad). My sisters have been lovely though. It really is almost a taboo subject though isnt it?

Can I ask for some advice now please? I am supposed to be going to a lunch tomorrow for a girl at work who is going off on maternity leave - part of me wants to go (she's nice, I dont want to be a party pooper) but part of me is not too keen as there'll be loads of 'when r u going to have another' chat and general baby talk. What do I do? Was thinkning of going for the main course and ducking out early if it gets tto upsetting. What do you think??