MC Avengers - Chocolate cake anyone?

[mistlethrush]

I've started a new thread as the old one was full - hope everyone finds their way here OK.

Lots of congrats all round.

I think I've almost resigned myself to ds being an only one...

Just back from the doctors armed with antibiotics for an infection, great! But having bloods taken on Thursday before my referral to consultant at the end of the month, so things seem to moving quite fast, which is a good thing as it's keeping me busy and distracted, first counselling session tomorrow too
Sparky Huge congratulations to you, will keep everything crossed for a long and sticky pg for you
mistle sorry to hear your feeling down
Munchies I have to second Kate that does sound suspiciously like implantation bleeding
Wook I know what you mean about the first AF after m/c, like others have send it is the start of a new chapter and it means your body is back to "normal" which is always a good sign.
Joy Good luck on the 2WW, let's hope TEW stays away
Kate What book have you ordered hun? You know me nosey
nauseous It's not over til the red lady sings, so you never know With regards to your EDD, going away and having endless amounts of sex sounds like a really good idea to me However you decide to spend the day, I'm sure will feel right for you. My DH got a new tattoo, so now he's got an excuse for another one (damn just thought of that!) I bought a tree, a rowan tree which means tree of life. Not decided what to do to mark 2nd m/c yet, will decide later on closer to EDD maybe. Hope you have a lovely time whatever you decide to do

Mistlethrush - i'm so sorry you're feeling low at the moment. Sending big hugs.

Molliemooma - shame asbout the infection, at least you've got something to get rid of it. Not sure what your consult's regarding - but good luck.

Sparky bloody hell! That is great! Another one! Congrats to all of you- wonderful, wonderful.

Nauseous, I'm in much the same place as you, cycle and testing wise. Not symptom-spotting, and anyway have had no symptoms at all. Due on probs tomorrow or thereabouts (my cycles are an unknown quantity!). Almost don't want to test because I am so sure it will be negative. Am going to wait until the weekend.

Anyway am going on holiday next week, so if I'm not up the duff, at least I can sample the local wine and delicious cheeses!

Mistlethrush sorry you are feeling so blue. No advice really, just hugs.

Hi everyone, is it OK if I join you? I had a mc last week and am wondering what happens next for us (DH and I).

I am very, very lucky to have one DS already (aged 21 months) and whilst I'm fairly sure I'd like to get straight back on with ttc, DH is really hesitant. He says he's worried about me having to go through this again. With it all being so recent, I don't want to rush into any decisions...but yet I feel like I know its what I want.

Does anyone know what I'm trying to say? How do you know? How do I convince DH?

Congratulations to everyone that's got their BFP's recently too .

Calsworld not sure if I'm the best person to respond as dh has effectively prevented any chance of another mc... Its amazing how effective the counting method can be if they really don't want to 'put you through it' again - even better, don't try at all - much easier to go to sleep

Being slightly more constructive, why don't you give yourself (and him) a month off - hopefully this will take some of the pressure off him. I think that the higher fertility following a mc doesn't wear off immediately, so hopefully you'll still be able to take advantage of it in a month or two.

Sparky Congratulations!

Mistlethrush sorry you are feeling down. Take care.

I am 2 weeks late so I thought I had better test. I got a BFP but I think it is over already as I am getting a bad stomach cramps and brown discharge. Maybe I shouldn't have tested and I could have stayed unaware and just thought it was my AF coming . I have been though it 3 times before so I know the signs. If it is going to happen then there is nothing I or anyone else can do so I don't think I will go to EPU this time I will just let whatever is going to happen happen. Does that sound mad?

Dustin- don't know what to say... So sorry if it's happening again. Personall- and this is just me- I would probably head to the EPU just to be sure. But honestly? It is your body and you know what's best for you. Really hope you're wrong about the mc though... Fingers crossed.

As for me, I woke up with cramps. Period has arrived bang on time. Ah well. Am not too upset really. We've only been trying since May.

Maybe next time.

Thanks Joy.Sorry about your AF- Good luck for next month.

I think I will have to go but I am just so fed up of being prodded about with.

Dustin - sorry that this appears to be happening again.

The positive things about going - you get it on your records - the negative things we know too well. However, probably better to make sure that all is OK afterwards (speaking from experience here) - even if you ring them up now and ask whether it would be possible to come in in say a month to get the OK after the event?

Hugs xxx

Dustin - how are you doing? Hope you are wrong and its not about to happen again. Have you gone to your EPU yet? Am keeping y fingers crossed for you.

Dustin how you feeling? Have you decided what to do? As mistle said at least if you go it's on your records...although of course as we all know, there's very little you can do about it Have everything crossed for you.

Mistle - how you feeling?

Joy - damn the evil witch .

PS - Ladyhelen - how are you feeling? I have no symptoms at all other than AF like cramps so am convinced of the worse already....

Sparky, am in a constant state of knicker checking. Again! I am knackered beyond belief and I am still getting twinges too, but I think that is the uterus stretching or something. I remember having these twinges in my last 2 in the early weeks. I had heartbeats at 7 week scans so I wouldn't worry too much yet- easier said than done I know!

hi ladies
mollie sorry about the infection i hope you are feeling much better soon
DUSTIN congrats on your BFP so sorry you think this one may not be a sticky one i hope you are wrong and the brown spotting is your little bean burrowing in deeper holding on tight for the long ride ahead
joy so sorry AF arrived good luck for this coming cycle
im still waiting to Ov im on CD22 now and still nothing!! me and DH have been ahem...BDing like demons son our bases are covered if an egg does appear i have no idea what is happening with my cycles recently
hope everyone else is doing well
xx ei xx

Hi everyone, congratulations to all the positives! I hope you have happy pregnancies, the anxiety after a mc can be hard to deal with.

Dustin, I hope you're okay, it's horribly scary.

kate2179, I'm so sorry you lost Thomas, it's gut wrenching isn't it. I had a feel okay day today then just crashed this evening - crying, sad, scared, guilty, tired, angry. Wish it would get easier some time soon.

I have an appointment with the consultant who deals with bereavement & my midwife next Tuesday, we'll get the results of my blood tests & also Toby's post mortem results. I'm feel quite anxious about it. I've also been referred to the Silver Star Unit at the JR in Oxford - they specialise in women with shit obstetric histories (Toby was my 8th pregnancy ). Unfortunately the dr I need to see is on holiday for the next two weeks but we have an appointment for as soon as she comes back.

I'm on CD14 - OPks are getting darker, but no real fertile CM yet, I expect I'll ovulate somewhere around CD17. I've never managed to conceive when I've ovulated as late as that so I'm not hopeful & tbh I'm still feeling pretty scared and ambivalent about the whole ttc business. I'm almost as scared of being pregnant as of not IYKWIM.

DUSTIN hope you're as well as you can be. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Sadminster - I hope you get somewhere with the Silver Star Unit. Is this the first lot of assistance you've had?? I'm sorry I don't know your background.

My AF is due on Sat so I'm getting fidgety and distracted. Thank god for work or I'd be a mess. Despite reading somewhere that endo women only have a 2% chance of conception per month,I'm still secretly hoping that this is the month. Hmmph. We'll see. Wonder if can hold off of testing till Sunday when my weekend guests have gone? BTW- Anyone else here with endo?

Hi Nauseous, I too have endo. I conceived OK first time around but it took me 6 months of ttc to conceive 2nd time around and I mc at 11 weeks. I had been planning on going to see the doc if I hadn't got pregnant as with endo, the advice is to go sooner rather than later.

I feel a bit of a fraud posting here when so many of you seem to have been through so much, I really can't find the words, you're all so brave.

Dustin I hope you're OK
Sadminster - getting the results must be quite nervewracking - I hope they tell you something useful
Mollie hope that infection is getting better now and that the counselling session was helpful yesterday
Sparky - a belated congratulations on your BFP
joy - I hope you're counting down the days ready to start BD again

Thanks everyone for thinking of me.

Sadminster sorry you have had such a hard time. Good luck with silver star- hope they can help you.

Calsworld you are not a fraud. It is hard for anyone having a mc. Good luck ttc.

I rang my doctor to refer me to the EPU (we can't self- refer here). Unfortunately the EPU is very busy and they can't fit me in until monday. Just feel really worried that it is happening again.

Dustin, sorry you can't get seen any earlier, its horribly frustrating. Could you go to A&E and get a referral to EPU from then? Would it be quicker?

Oh bugger, guys, I'm back already, after just a few days on Knicker Checkers - maybe I didn't take enough velcro with me , but at least this time it wasn't a mmc.

Just trying to be positive about the future and eating huge piles of crisp sarnies.

All the very best of luck to everyone on this thread. I've been lurking in the shadows for ages, just started posting, and it has given me so much hope.

hi ive had to leave knicker checkers, can i join u guys? had drawn out mc few weeks ago and final appointment at hosp today, hormone levels now showing negative pg test at last. how long has everyone waited b4 trying again? and how long did it take for ur 1sr period after mc? xx

sussex I am so sorry to hear this, awful.
I understand how calsworld feels about being a fraud in a way when so many of you have been through so much. I totally understand what sussex says though about this thread giving hope, it's a lifeline for me just to know that others have experienced what I have, and worse, and it's up and down, but everyone is still here and still with hope.
For my part, I have gone almost back to square one, having just got an email from a friend saying she's due on March 20th having just had a successful scan. I am absolutely delighted for her, especially as she had an m/c at 7 wks before this pg, and her story gives me lots of hope too. But my due date would have been March 9th ish and so just reading her due date has had me in floods, after a week or so of feeling so much more positive. Ho hum!

Maz and Sussex, I am so, so sorry for you both.

Maz, I'm afraid I can't answer your question as I only mc last week and have only, finally stopped bleeding today - which feels like a tremendous milestone and hopefully, another door, in a long corridor, that I can close.

Wook, thank you for your understanding - please stay strong, my EDD was 26th March so not too far away from yours - you never know, we may well be carrying LO's by then which would be some comfort at least, I hope?

Have had a lovely chinese takeaway and am supping on red wine to achieve ultimate relaxation after soaking in two baths today - greedy girl!

maz really, really sorry for you. I had to ahve 3 d&cs just to get up straight after a mmc at Christmas and couldn't even consider trying again until at least May, as was close to depression. This time, we are just going to give it a month or so before starting again (I'm 41 at the end of October and am starting to feel the pressure a little).

wook thank you for your kind words and I totally empathise. My SIL (who I don't really get on with) and I both conceived at the same time last year and they had a lovely, perfect, healthy baby girl at the end of July. Of course, I'm happy for them, but a small part of me...well, you know .