MC Avengers - Chocolate cake anyone?

[mistlethrush]

I've started a new thread as the old one was full - hope everyone finds their way here OK.

Bunny fingers crossed that all's OK. Will be thinking of you. Let us know. Lots of love xxx

thanks for the good wishes. just back from scan and saw little bean waving at me - heartbeat, right size etc. they couldnt find the source of the bleed or cramping. feeling sheepish for freaking out. but i truly thought that was the end. the mc's have really messed with my head.

thanks again ladies for your good wishes... going off to lie on couch now and finish crying my tears of relief...

glad things are OK. Take care!

bunny that's fantastic - you must be hugely relieved. Of course you were freaking out - who wouldn't? Certainly no need to feel sheepish.

I'm fine - thanks for asking. Feeling really optimistic and happy today - in large measure due to everyone's wise words here, I'm sure. I'm seeing the doctor next Wednesday, and will ask for an 8-week scan then. She was great after my mc and I'm sure she'll oblige.

Enjoy your evening - and have a large glass of something healthy to celebrate

bunny Fantastic Brilliant Excellent news.
daisyj Glad to hear you are feeling a bit brighter.

Bit of optimism for those who were worried about pg friends and feeling rubbish around them (I think it was this thread) Saw my friend and her 11 wk old DD for the 3rd time and it was lovely. Each time I see her it gets easier and today I felt really at ease with the LO and enjoyed making her giggle and having a cuddle - so there is hope and it does get easier eventually.

Hope you don't mind me joining in with this. Had m/c in september and have been ttc since then. yesterday was 4 days late after 2 clockwork 28 day cycles and was just beginning to hope...my mistake. am now thrown back into that miserable down patch of every cycle when i just can't believe it will ever happen. i know that others out there are feeling like this and thought it might help to talk to you!

Hi thesquiz - of course you can join us - you are most welcome. So sorry for your disappointment. It's so tough playing the waiting game, isn't it?

I was so worried about how I would cope with eveything (ttc, not conceiving, or conceiving and then begin terrified that I would mc again) that I knew I had to do something that would keep me sane - I chose acupuncture and have just learned to meditate, too. I have no idea if either of these things helped me conceive again so quickly (had a BFP last week on first cycle of ttc after mc in March - first time around it took us about 10 months), but they certainly have both provided some me-time and a feeling that I was actively doing something to help...

Have you tried anything like that?

x

Hi daisyj; thank you for your reply! feel better already..!

I did try acupuncture earlier this year; I probably didn't give it much of a chance, I think I expected to conceive immediately and when I didn't it sort of fizzled out...
I am trying to keep it all in proportion and to get on with other stuff, the thing I hate most is the feeling that all these months are sort of dead time, wasted waiting for this to happen; but I am finding it harder and harder to keep positive. I do have dd, now 2, so have much to be thankful for, but it was all so easy that time round and now it's all hideous! Bah!

Hello thesquiz I also had a mc in September and have a 2y old DS. I also feel like I am in limbo and can't really get on with my life. The problem I am having is I keep having other medical problems cropping up which means I have to keep putting off ttc which is frustrating. It is hard to keep positive but this thread really helps.

Bunny so glad your scan checked out okay!

And DAISYJ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I just saw this what wonderful wonderful news!!! So so happy for you!!!! {{{hugs}}}

thanks lastbox and everyone else. still slightly scared as still bleeding (more like spotting).

thesquiz welcome - i also tried acupuncture and chinese herbs (vile but made myself drink it) as i was determined to give my body the best chance to recover from th 2 mc's quite close to each other. acupuncturist said to allow myself 3 full mths of treatment before ttc. we got impatient and tried at 2 mths which ended in a CP (positive pregnancy test 2 days after period due, but then period arrived the same day as positive test!). anyway, i think any alternative therapy is great even if it helps to mentally stablise you (it certainly helped me as i was crying lots and very depressed before the acupuncture treatments).

lbot thank you, sweetie!! . Was thinking about you yesterday. How are you? Tell us your news...

Forgot to say congratulations daisyj

bunny really pleased that scan was ok.

Fingers crossed for both of you x

Hello to everyone else.

Hi! Thinking of moi? I'm flattered! !

No news here, really - although I am having a confusing cycle. Last Wednesday I travelled to the US on holiday - was CD16 and I typically ov around CD18, so DH and I tried to be as productive as possible in the run-up as he wasn't coming with me. Well, I'm back in the UK now and I don't even know if I've ov'd! I temp, so I'm not sure if my temps were affected by the travel. But if I haven't then there's still time I just hope that I'm not ov'ing late due to the agnus castus I'm taking... It seems to be helping in all sorts of senses - ie my temps, which are generally very low, have been higher than normal and my EWCM has been very plentiful, although very patchy! - which is also what leads me to believe I haven't ov'd yet. Perhaps my body's been trying but knew DH wasn't around?

Anyway, how are you feeling, Daisy?

Actually, I'm feeling a bit grotty today, but I think that might just be the heavy weather. I've just been saying on another thread, though, that I'm taking anything that feels different from last time as a 'good' thing. This time my belly is achy and it feels like there's more going on.

I'm a bit queasy, too, and I can't think of anything I really feel like eating right now (even though I'm hungry most of the time) except for curry - we have a really great local Indian, and right now it's the only thing that doesn't make me want to go 'ugh'.

Can't wait to have my GP appointment next week and book in for early scan. Time goes so slooowly!

Well, you did ask! I just ate some lunch and it's not agreeing with me, hence the grumps! Will come back in a better mood next time.

lbot, I find air travel does really funny things to my cycle. It often makes me spot, and once I even had an extra period. I sometimes think there's no logic to these things, even if you think you know what your cycle's doing. I can't remember if I've said it here, but my friend, who has a 30-day cycle, BD'd once one month on day 7 or 8, 11 months ago, and now has a lovely two-month old!

Thanks for the congrats dustin - so sorry things are tough right now. Glad you're here, though

Hello,
Do you mind if i join to ask for some advice? I have read lots of your posts and feel so sorry for everyone, but you are all being so brave.

I discovered that there was no heartbeat at my 20 week scan back in May. Our baby had died about 2 weeks earlier (when I thought the sickness might be finally going away ).

Since then the only test that has been done was a genetic one to test that there was no chromosome problems - there wasn't and the baby was also the right size for her dates. All I have been told is that it's just 'one of those things' . Not sure that's good enough.

I am now thinking about ttc and have realised that I can't face another pregnancy where the same thing might happen all over again. I think I should have some tests and have mentioned it to the GP, who was willing but not knowledgeable. I think the consultant I saw was not a real baby specialist either.

Can anyone offer advice on tests after late loss? I really don't understand the NHS very well, and as this happend in May, it looks like I'm not making decisions very quickly at the moment either! Feeling pretty messy emotionally and suspect that this is not helping.

SweetPea - I'm so very sorry for your loss.

It must all seem like a complete whirlwind right now, but I think you're completely justified in wanting some answers. Unfortunately, I'm not particularly familiar with the NHS either, but is it possible for you to be referred to a GYN? They're not necessarily "baby specialists" but should be able to help you discern what's happening in your body. Your doctor can probably do a blood test to determine whether you have any blood clotting disorders.

You mention 'sickness' - were you ill while you were pregnant?

Again, I'm so sorry for what you've had to go through {{{hugs}}}

Hi LBOT,
Thank you. No, I wasn't ill, the pregnancy was text book - raging pregnancy symptoms all the way including lots of throwing up and constant nausea! I think that's one of the reasons that I am so dreading going through it all again, and yet I really want to be pregnant.
I think the consultant I saw was a GYN (obviously I should know, but, well, they don't introduce themselves do they?). All he suggested was try a junior aspirin, but I have read on here of other people having tests after a late loss, and I want to push for those, but just want to know what is standard really.
Thanks for your kind words.

SweetPea - so very very sorry for your loss. It can be so hard to get answers and a late mc is so horribly distressing and confusing - I'm not surprised it's taken you a little while to get to this point. There are lots of women on this thread who have been through this kind of thing and I'm sure they'd be better equipped than me to offer you advice. However, there is a book that might be a good starting point, with some explanations as to various reasons for different stages of miscarriage. It's called Miscarriage: What Every Woman Needs to Know, by Lesley Regan. It won't give you definitive answers, but it might help give you an idea of some of the questions to ask. And I do think that you need answers. Mc might be 'one of those things' before 12 weeks, but it can also be a bit more complicated than that, particularly later on. The reason for mc before 12 weeks is frequently chromasomal, but after that it is often caused by other things. There is some good information that you can click through to here:

www.library.nhs.uk/womenshealth/viewResource.aspx?resID=84634

Sorry if I'm telling you things you already know, but hopefully anything that helps you to ask the right questions will be a good thing. Good luck, and stick around - there are some very wise women here!

Hi Daisyj,
Thank you for that. I haven't done much research, I think I was in denial, thinking it was just bad luck and it wouldn't happen again (I am an optimist!), but wondering if I might be pregnant again (I'm not) has suddenly mande me realise that I have to be more pro-active, or I will go mad in the next year!

Hi Ladies,

I know some of you from other threads I think, but wanted to get some help from you ladies.

I am TTC#1 and got PG in the first month of TTC. Unfortunately I have had an MC today at 5+3.

Do you know how soon we can start trying again? I've had problems for a week so was expecting this and so am already feeling positive about trying again. The Doc says that he can't see any reason why we can't start trying as long as we're ready emotionally.

Has anyone else had a healthy PG if they've fallen PG again within a month of MC, before waiting for an AF. I'm not suggesting that we'll be lucky enough to fall again so quickly, but I'd just like some advice really...

xxx

Hi Dawn, so sorry this has happened to you. You should be able to start again straight away. There are plenty of people on here who have got pg straight after a mc and have gone on tohave healthy little ones.

Only you will know how you feel and whether you are ready.

Hi Dawn, so sorry to hear about your m/c. After mine the only thing I could think about was trying again, and having looked into it then couldn't find any reason why not to, as long as you feel up to it. I think sometimes it takes a while for hormones etc to settle down which may mean your body isn't ready straightaway, but on the other hand it is also said that you can be at your most fertile immediately afterwards, so I'd say there's no harm in trying! although don't let your expectations run away with you...!

Thanks teeheelaydee and thesquiz. We're looking to buy our first house before the end of the year aswell so we've got a lot to focus on which will help I think!!

Onwards and upwards!!

xxx

Dawn - don't put yourself under too much pressure! If you feel up to it, and have not been advised otherwise, certainly no point in stopping ttc - but you might want to just leave things to nature a bit rather than actively ttc ifswim given the house situation - then if it happens, that's great, but you're not actively planning, so its not so disappointing if it doesn't happen.

AF here today for me - not really much of a surprise, although still trying to kid myself that there was a chance this month. I might just have to throw away the idea, get rid of all the baby stuff etc - that would probably be a catalyst for something positive happening!