MC Avengers - Chocolate cake anyone?

[mistlethrush]

I've started a new thread as the old one was full - hope everyone finds their way here OK.

kate your nutritional regime is not too OTT. you've gotta do what you feel is right to feel better. and that's a personal thing. i have been drinking the vilest herbs from my acupuncturist and letting her stick needles in me when i have a needle phobia. whatever it takes. anyway, when i had my chemical pg last mth, it was really upsetting as i thought i was on this health kick and never felt better healthwise and i did loads of research. i suspected that i had a short luteal phase (as did my acupuncturist) as she made me temp. long of the short is that i read somewhere that taking an extra 50-100mg of vit b6 really helps sort out the low progesterone problem (without resortng to chemical means). i asked my gp and she said it was no harm. so i started taking it right away. i partly think that's why this one is sticking (so far). fingers crossed anyway. but i thought i'd share this on this thread in case it's relevant to anyone else. (ps i take it on top my pregnacare vits).

hope you gals are doing well... and enjoying the cakes!

Teehee - I've been in a similar position some time ago - going back after 6months off sick, although I was able to go in once a fourtnight to deal with emails - about an hour was as much as I could cope with. I think I could have done with an extra two or three weeks really (and got signed off by Dr for that with no problem) but my boss threatened me with getting someone to replace me - so it was effectively go back or have no job. Not an ideal atmosphere to go back in....

Bunny - I find accupuncture really good - and did when I was pregnant too. Could quite happily go every week apart from not being able to afford it

Dh and I have had ready meal curry tonight - which he'd got for last night as we were out singing - but that went on longer than expected, so too late to eat it last night.

But I'd quite like a cup cake for afterwards if that's OK. Yummy!

mistle How is it going now that you are back. I am feeling so much better than when I went off but am worried that is because I am not really in the 'real world'. I have asked to go 4 days a week when I do go back so I am hoping that will reduce the stress levels and help the next bean stick.

bunny How soon before your BFP did you start the vitamin B6 and are there any risks from taking it as that sounds interesting. Also did you take the pregnacare before conceiving.

Dinner with DP's mother tonight who is a pain at the best of times but I am expecting lots on 'medical' suggestions and some "How are you?" I sometimes feel that people won't be satisfied unless I break down in a heap !

I was shattered when I went back - I was doing 4 days per week anyway, but was really glad of that. I really should have taken more time off to get a bit better first, but then there was the pressure from my boss...

All I could do was cope with work - which meant further support from dh who had to cope with all the domestic things for a bit longer.

This is some time ago now - 2 years prior to ds arriving, and he's now 3.3!

Recommendations - make it as easy on yourself as possible. Take lunch in with you if you can go somewhere quiet for an hour to eat it. Don't expect to do anything when you come home. Let the housework slip - you need to just let yourself cope with the most important things which will be coping with work and recovering from that! Good luck

No, it will never end.

Was talking to one of my colleagues just now, and she says even 8 months later they are still finding dust in the cupboards!

We're hoping it'll be finished by mid-October. My mum does keep telling me that once it's all done I'll never remember the pain!

teehee - good luck with starting work again. I'm sure it feels really daunting, but we'll all be thinking of you. Make sure you come and see us at lunchtime on your first day, for moral support .

I thought it was childbirth where you forget the pain !

Thanks for the good wishes. I'm actually going back on a rehab to begin with so next week I am doing 4 hours a day Mon/Wed/Fri and it will increase for about 4 weeks. The benefits of working for a big company I suppose. So I will be able to let you know how is goes.

Being off work has made me think I would be quite happy to be a stay at home mum so my desire to have little ones has increased - if that's possible.

Teehee - I always thought that I would be quite happy staying at home, although I knew that it wasn't on in terms of money coming in etc. However, when ds arrived, I was SO ready to get back to work at 6mo! If I do ever manage to get round to having a 2nd, I may well find that I don't last out the full 9mo before going back although I hasten to add that I went back 3dpw so ds wasn't in nursery ALL week!

I think I have the best of both worlds this way - I get to have time with ds when we 'do' things together - music and swimming in particular, as well as the everyday dog-walk, but I also have my own 'life' not as a mum when I'm at work (its great being able to concentrate on only two or three things at the same stage, drink a cup of tea when you want it, and go to the loo on your own!

I understand exactly what you are saying Mistle, I really didn't want to go back after dd1 at 9mths, but financially had to, and it was tough 4 days a week initially, and then 5 later.
With dd2, I went back 3 days a week, when she was 18mths old and I enjoyed having some adult time, and earning my own money.
Hope going back isn't too hard for you Teehee.
That's interesting what you said about the Vit6 Bunney, I hadn't heard that. Will ask my acpuncturist next week when I see her, if it will help me.

Really ought to start having vits again trouble is trying to have them with 'main' meal - don't really have a 'main' meal when its convenient to take them at the moment! Will look into B6 - if you don't have to have it on full stomach I might manage to take that more regularly!

COOOOOEEEEE!

Any one for some carrot cake and a cup of coffee? I will be making espressos, but if anyone wants one with milk in, I suppose I could manage that....

Kate, I haven't posted on here for a while but after reading your story I had to give some support. A friend of mine is due two weeks after I was. It is her third and would have been my first (I lost the baby at 16 weeks). We ended up having a bit of email correspondence (I couldn't talk to her) and in the end agreed that it would be too painful for me to see her until after the baby was born. Sounds drastic but I had to do what was right for me even if it meant losing a friend (maybe temporarily, maybe permanently)

Hello Sugr, I was interested to see your post as I am in a similar quandry. I have a friend who is due 3 weeks before mine was. I don't know how to deal with this at all. She is a close friend who has had her own difficulties with pregnancies in the past. We were delighted to be pregnant together. Now the situation is awful. I briefly saw her last week and couldn't speak to her. When she had gone,I just dissolved. I don't know what to do now.

On an up note, I am pretty sure I ov'd two days ago. Had a BD and then was in pain all day yesterday in my lower abdomen (OV pain?).So I guess I am now on the 2WW. Hurrah!

BTW, we've got a chocolate swiss roll here. Anyone interested?

Is the coffee and carrot cake still around - just what I need.

lh2 I was in the same position as you back in May and really hoped I would be OK as had seen my friend while she was pg but when her DD was born I didn't really have any contact for about 6 weeks. Then I realised I missed my friend so met her & baby for lunch - somewhere out so it could be fairly short and it was fine but I needed 6 weeks first.

Take it as it comes - it's hard to know how you will react but I'm sure if she is a good friend she will understand and give you the space you need.

p.s - I did cry buckets after seeing her but that's OK - I managed to wait til I got home !

I've been in similar situation - secretary at work due 2 wks before edd - now had baby -I've had crying on shoulder of friend at work (when out at lunch) and got it out of my system I think. Not sure I've managed to encourage sufficient action to be on 2ww this month

Well it was only one BD! I wanted to give it another go last night but was too uncomfortable from this ache that I had. I doubt this one go would do it. Its the only time I've BD'd before getting my first AF following my (5) miscarriages.

I think my friend understands. As I said, she has had her own problems including the exact reverse of this one. Sadly she lost a little boy at 32 weeks a few years ago. I then got pg with DS about 5 months afterwards ( having had 2 mcs along the way) so she knows what its like, and I know that its not great to be the pregnant one when those close to you are having problems. She did go on to have another little boy so she is now pg with number 2( or actually number 3 ).

i have had 5 MC and every time it gets harder.

i know its hard to watch a friend go through a pregnancy when you want a baby so badly.

in 2007 I had my 4th MC and my friend at the time got pregnant, she cried on my shoulder that she wanted the baby so much but her boyfriend didn't, she the had an abortion and cried on my shoulder again that she regretted it. The whole time I wanted to slap her for being so selfish.

SARS, now that is a really crap position to be in. How unbelievably selfish of her.

Hi everyone - how is everyone?

Back from holiday and a few weeks off MN - I felt like having a break from everything tbh. Feeling more positive and raring to go. Currently trying to BD madly but cycle is all over the place so who knows what's going on. Still catching up on the thread but had to say SARS that you obviously are a saint to not have slapped your friend, not sure I would have been so good and I have only had one mc. I hope she appreciated it.

I'm on vits too ones sponsored by TOmmys so some cash goes to them when you buy a box and i figure they wouldnt put their name to anything not good. Trying to de-stress as much as possible so getting sleep, cut right back on alcohol and spending time with DS rather than worring about ttc (well, not too much I hope).

Hi everyone - can I join? We're not actively ttc (still bleeding from the last loss) but the thought that we could is all that's keeping me sane.

I have two kids (2000 & 2006) & 6 losses including twins - three at 8 weeks & earlier ('98-'01), one at 12 weeks ('02), one at 14+ ('05, IVF, started as twins), and we just lost our son Toby at 17 weeks last Monday.

I have borderline positives for APS (Hughes Syndrome), we're probably mad to even consider trying again

Minster, sorry that you're joining. Have you been given any explanation re Toby? It doesn't stop the hurt, but it might help mentally a bit.

Havn't done as badly as you - 'only' 3, but 1st went on to be mp, and everyone afterwards results in big black 'will it/won't it scenario with possibility of mp reoccuring.

Never quite got onto the IVF either - twice got to the top of the list and conceived naturally both times. This time of the year seems to be good for conception for me - all edds March - June, but don't think that there's been enough action at the moment. Not helped by dh expecting redundancy any minute and hating his job...

Welcome minster and sorry for your losses. Truly heartreaking to go through so much. Fingers crossed for you for a sticky BFP soon.

Hi mistle how are you doing? I'm sorry things aren't looking good job wise for your DH.

Thanks - we're waiting for post mortem results, atm they're saying it looks like an infecion 'just one of those things' I seem to have a lot of 'those things' happen to me.

minster welcome - you're in the right place. I would have gone a bit loopy withouth the ladies here . Pull up a chair and have a Tunnocks tea cake. I had three last night, so I need you all to come and save me from myself...

I'd like to think that the reason I 'needed' three tea cakes last night is because of my ... BFP!!!! In the loos at work this morning (I tested twice!). I had a BFN on Sunday, so I'm totally shocked, but I really wanted to know, as loads of social things coming up in next few days and wanted to know if I could drink.

I'm quite... well... don't know really... Scared...? I haven't 'felt' pregnant (just VERY hungry), boobs a bit sore, but not much, and not much else. I'm going to try really hard to keep away from the internet (except for MN) and not scare myself or look for reasons why this pregnancy won't succeed. Can I still hang out here for a bit? No way will I be joining any ante-natal threads till I've had a scan.

Good to see you back ontheup. I have to say, I think ignoring the fact that your cycle seems weird is the best thing to do. Mine was weird this month - god knows when I ov'd and I'm sure that what felt like implantation cramping was too early... I SO was not expecting this...

COngratulations daisyj, fantastic news!

You could also try the knicker checkers thread on here (if you haven't already - they know exactly what you will be going through!)

Like you, when I got my last two BFPs I didn't join up with the ante natal threads "Just in case" so totally get your reluctance. Here's hoping you get to join them soon.

Will you have an early scan?

Hello to minster and onthe up too. So sorry for your losses. I hope you get some answers re Toby. WIll you be referred to see a specialist?