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[mistlethrush]

I've started a new thread as the old one was full - hope everyone finds their way here OK.

dustin I am worried of the same thing but at 41 my clock definitely is ticking!!!! But everyone on here seems to be having a wierd cycle so maybe it is the weather or something!

My colleague advised me to get a coil fitted after I moaned at her about my horrible periods

That would be helpful cece, a coil
Saw my acupuncturist today and she had no idea why I had a bleed yesterday, on cd10. It has stopped now and I had no other symptons. She said everything is looked fine so hopefully doesn't mean anything.
Might start using opks from tomorrow, even though we can't try this month I want to at least know I am ovulating and when.
Hope you're all having a great weekend

Thanks cece I think you are right everyone is having a weird time. It's strange if I had been BD at the right time this month I would be excited that I could be pregnant- unless it was an immaculate conception I don't think that is possible.

Hello!

ontheup and scotlass thanks for the info re ov pains - have got PIL's staying at the mo and haven't had much chance to come onto MN before now.

Emmsy that is a lovely story - there is hope! Hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well

Funny to read about other people having weird cycles - mine's all over the place at the mo! Not at all sure where I am in it. Is this a normal thing to happen soon after a mc? Have had one AF, 4 weeks(ish) after mc, but then everything seems to have gone haywire

BTW scully how long have you been having acupuncture for? Do you think it's helped you?

Hope you're all having a lovely weekend. Great to see the sun

Hi everyone

Hope you're all having good weekends!

monkey/scully, hope you don't mind me butting in, but I've just come back from the acupuncturist. I've been having it since my m/c and I think its def helped (if not just to lie down for 45 mins in a dark room and sleep!!!).

Pre-m/c used to spot before AF, used to ov on day 16/17 or 18 and had a 26 day cycle. Now no spotting and this month ov'd on day 14.

No sun here - trying not to rain...

Monkey I think it has helped as well. I had a m/c last August and didn't have acupuncture, had cyles of 40ish and 60ish days following it and it took until Dec to get back to normal 31ish days. This time I started acupuncture as the m/c was finishing and my cycle was 28 days. I'm waiting to see how long my 2nd cycle is and when I actually ovulate but I think it has helped. Figured my body needed some tlc after 2 m/c in 8mths And I agree with heebee, I will gladly pay for an hour of 'me' time once a week, that in itself is theraputic
We also had sun here today, gorgeous blue sky and no clouds, for dd1's fete/carnival. Think we got to about 22deg today, not bad for a winter's day

Thanks HBJB and scully. Is interesting to hear what you think. I had acupuncture during pregnancy with ds and it really, really helped. Have had it twice since mc this year and it made me feel stronger emotionally and gave me a bit more energy. Am hoping it will help my body get back to normal so I can conceive again.

Hope you're all okay, and will be back later in the week - am off on a school trip to a farm tomorrow (I work in the nursery section) and am up at silly o'clock in the morning to get there on time so am off to bed early... Night

Hi all. My parents have been staying for the w/e which explains silence. Now my mother knows why I don't manage to do very much - she was struggling with trying to do some things with ds and gave up and went in and did pictures and obstacle races instead. At least it meant that I had a good session of gardening time without worrying about what ds was doing all of the time. Bit windy though!

hi everyone - I have the next two weeks off work whoppeee!!!! This week is 'me' time as I have been feeling very run down and blue recently - so DS is at nursery and I am completing a wallhanging that is due to go to exhibition in a few weeks time (just started it actually, nothing like a deadline to get you going) and a quilt for my MIL. Then off to Cornwall on Friday with DH, DS and MIL - cant wait, just hope the weather will hold. Have a good day

Hi all - after months of posting on other threads I feel this is probably the most appropriate one for me at the moment. Can I join you?

Been ttc for over a year now and during this time I've had three miscarriages - one 'significant' (as doctor called it) and two very early (but still significant for me). Had another month of trying this month, felt convinced I was PG but my period turned up again over the weekend. It's hit me really hard. I kind of feel that I'm coming to the end of my tether with this. Feeling so low and very teary.

Had long chat with DH and we are both aware that my current state of mind cannot be helping matters and that we should perhaps give ourselves a break. At the same time I really want to be PG and don't want to wait. I feel very trapped and all consumed by this.

I guess many of you have felt like this, and so just wanted to join you and say help particularly as, right now, I feel so sad and alone in all this.

Hi Q1. I didn't want to let your post go unanswered. I had 2nd m/c in March and came on here to get much needed support and understanding. The ladies were so great that I 'graduated' myself a couple of months ago! Just wanted to let you know that m/c is a very very lonely thing to go through, but on this thread you can pour your heart out, cry, scream, shout as much as you like. Everyone is in the same boat. I know that a lot of us have given ourselves a break from ttc. DH and I agreed that we'd give ourselves 4 months off so we're going to start again next month. Whilst it's been difficult to wait I can honestly say that I'm glad we did. It's been tough. But it's allowed me to come to terms with what's happened (I got cracking delayed shock with this m/c and only really cried about it a couple of weeks ago). And I've also taken the time to heal my body properly with gentle exercise, good food, moderate alcohol and a great counsellor. Obviously everyone chooses a different path to take. But be kind to yourself. if you want to cry, then cry. if you want to eat a tub of Haagen Daaz then do that . Talk things through with everyone on here. These ladies have got amazing healing powers .

Hello to everyone else. Hope things going well for you all. xxx

Hi Q1 - sorry that you're joining us, but you're not alone in your feelings - and its very difficult to get out of that mind set isn't it. We've been ttc #2 for almost 2 yrs with 2mc on the way. Length of time not helped by dh who was put off after last mc due to concerns about my health and hasn't really been 'actively' trying iyswim which isn't particularly helpful - combined with body clock that is ticking rather loudly for me. Mind you, took 6yrs to get ds, so shouldn't really have been surprised. Still in limbo, not knowing whether dh will cooperate, or whether we would cope with a 2nd dc, with ds being rather a handful at the moment, togehter with the financial commitments...

Queenie I'm so sorry about your miscarriages I don't really think there's anything we can say to make you feel better other than we understand and we're here to listen.

Yesterday my mother said that my nan has been asking what's going on with me - if there's any 'news'. I don't want the added pressure but I'm beginning to realize it's starting to seem like a long time to other people - it's not just me anymore that's feeling the time slipping away Really, it hasn't been that long since the mc - my mom said she tried to explain that to my nan, but the whole thing left me feeling a bit depressed.

I also went to the GP because my last period was so wacky - but as I could've predicted, she said that it's early days since the mc and it might take quite a while for my cycle to settle down. She said the best predictor of anyone's fertility is their past experiences, and since I've gotten pregnant before, and rather quickly at that, there seems to be nothing wrong I know it makes sense, but I really hate the feeling of panicking as every month goes by and then finally getting up the nerve to see the doctor only to be made to feel like you're hugely overreacting!

we know you are not overreacting lbot I think we can all understand what you are feeling like

Queenie hi - sometimes it does all fell a bit much doesn't it? Maybe Georgie has the right approach - taking it slow etc.

I'm certainly going to try to stop obsessing about it and see what happens. This 2 weeks off is part of that - time to step off the treadmill a bit...went to see a friend who has a relatively ne baby and also bumped into another who's 2nd dc is 4weeks old - lovely to see them but a bit making - hard to deal with conflicting emotions really.

This place is great for letting off steam and venting when needed - i only started using mn when I started to mc (Easter) and now i cant imagine how I would have got through this time without it and the ladies here.

Thanks for all your messages of support. LBOT - it's so hard when people ask how things are going (all with one thing in mind - i.e. are you pg yet?) and OntheUp - so hard when all else around you appears to be pg.

Good to know there is somewhere to let off steam.

I think I need to go steady on myself this next month and try to relax. Agree Georgie that time out from ttc might be just what I need, but we'll see...may feel differently in a week or so coming up to ovulation dates. It's so hard to let it go...!

xx

OK, where is everybody again! Not going to be here next week (another holiday - fingers crossed that ds won't be as horrendous as last time ) so I hope that there is something on here sometime this week - and poor Queenie will be getting a dim view of the thread if everyone abandons it as soon as she turns up!

Had thought that we might possibly have some 2ww this month as the summer has been a good time of year for the past 2 years - just been the autumn that has been the problem. Perhaps better luck next month. Edd for last coming up soon too... So far got March, June and July to be abit about with a in April (so glad that ds didn't arrive 7 days earlier), wonder if I can add to that record - looks as though I need a May in there somewhere.

Oh, Mistle I'm sorry - it must be hard to watch those months go by. Fingers crossed 08 is a good summer for you!

I am stupidly optimistic this month! I just got a positive OPK - my first time using them, thank you very much! - after wondering if I'm actually ov'ing earlier than I thought and have a slow temp rise. But nope, got negatives on CD16 & 17 and a positive on CD18, so pretty much confirms that it all happens when my temps say it does. Unfortunately, also confirms that I have a crap LP - but hoping the B complex I'm taking this month is helping to sort that out. Also, last night had decent amount of EWCM, so hoping our timing is right! and that the other 5 billion things that could go wrong all align!

Hi all!

Don't worry there is people here!!!

I haven't been posting cos I've been really down this week - mc no 3 really beginning to hit now and DD (9yrs) has been a complete PITA. Thank god the school hols are round the corner (they finish on Fri in Scotland )hopefully she'll settle down a bit then.

I can't seem to get out my head I should have either
a 4mth old baby
or a 8mth bump
or an eight wk secret pg .

I keep trying to shake those thoughts but it must be the residual hormones I seem to be all over the place just now.

I've been having really bad ovulation type pains so have no idea where I am on my cycle. We go on holiday next week so knowing my luck I'll have AF but I'm seeing DH for 2 and a half weeks then another weekend after that so you never know. Never mind we'll just bd and hope for the best though I am seriously considering giving up at this point. DH wants to try again and I want to try again but don't want mc no 4! I want a break but I'm 36 this year so the clock is ticking loudly in my ear. queenie I think we may be having the same conversations in our head. We can support each other.

LBOT and mistle and every one else I'm sending positive vibes your way!!!

Scotlass - with you there. I should have a 5+yo, I have a 3+yo, should also have a 1yo and a nearly... All conceived over summer months with March31 - July edds... (Ds April)

Morning all!

Mistle/Scotlass - I really feel for you both. I'm not looking forward to Sept, but hope at least to have a bfp before then (though time is slipping by too fast), but having multiple months in the year must be so hard... Scotlass I am also 36 and trying to quell the rising panic, but my dr told me that I am average age in Surrey for women getting pregnant..

LBOT - pre m/c I was like you - I ov'd on day 16/17 or 18 (one month even day 19 to b different!) and had a 26 day cycle. I've been having acupuncture and taking vit b for a couple of months now and last month I ov'd on day 15 and this month on day 14, so either one or the other (or a combination of both!) seems to be working...

hello all,

mistlethrush - sorry you are feeling down. Thinking what if is always sad. I do have a 7 and 4 year old but I often think I should have a 20 month and a 5 week old. IN fact DD asked me yesterday whether Hope would have been born yet and old she would have been.

hbjb - LOL at 36 average for Surrey. I was told 40 isn't old for a Surrey mum!

Nothing to report here. Very busy Thin I am due to OV this weekend.

Sorry, should have been a 6+ yo, not 5+ yo...

Worked out that it took best part of a year for treatment after 1st mc, then 1yr not allowed to do anything, then 6 months to get pregnant again...

Never mind, if ds is an only one, he is certainly a character. He did the most wonderful picture of us as a family at nursery - daddy had glasses, mummy had lots of hair, there was ds and even the dog! However, it was retained for 'his profile' at nursery. We tried to recreate it at home and failed miserably! He got caught up drawing tummies on people and filling them with food or other things!

Will be quiet from me - on hol next week. See you soon!

Hello everyone,

Been to a remembrance service for babies and children at the local hospital this afternoon. It was very moving, sad and wonderful. and

Hi ladies, long time no post! I have been lurking, but just taking things quietly for a whihle, but now I am back - I hope that's ok! We have been on holiday and moved house since I last posted so things have been pretty busy.
Sorry to see some new faces, but you have come to the right place for support, wine and chocolate, which are officially among the things that help the most after a mc (I should know )
I'm just back from a hen do in Cambridge. I had no idea what a truly lovely place it is - should have worked much harder at school...

Finding things pretty tough atm. There was a girl on the hen do due in oct, about 3-4 weeks after Thomas' due date which was really hard. But she was really lovely which helped, and in fact she had a mc at 10 weeks in jan - and then conceived again only a week later - just goes to show it can be done! I was SOOOOOOOO stressed about meeting her, in fact before we went on holiday I'd decided not to go on the hen as I just couldn't face spending a whole weekend with someone looking as I should have been looking. But I went. And I'm glad I did. (Though staying up drinking til 4.30 this morning may not have been the cleverest thing I have ever done, prob not very sensible in terms of trying to get into the best shape to ttc again either... )
The really hard thing though is to do with our friends who are due in nov. Some of you may remember me ranting posting about them just before I went on holiday, the ones who sent the "hope you're both well" text the week our first baby would have been due and then didn't respond when I explained what we were going through etc etc etc... blah blah blah (I'm even boring myself now). But DH saw them for lunch today and told them I'm finding it hard to come to terms with the fact that they are pg (he didn't go into all the other stuff - typical man, leaving a job half done) and now it sounds like the ball's firmly back in my court regarding where we go from here. I can't bear the 'pretend he never existed' attitude, but I'm not sure I feel strong enough to initiate a confrontation re why I'm so upset...
OH GOD. WHY DOES IT HAVE TO BE SO F*ING COMPLICATED.
So now I don't know what to do.
Sorry. I realise this probably doesn't make any sense but I am a bit of a mess right now and I just don't know which way is up iyswim ...
Sorry for such a miserable post.

Hi Kate,

well done for going on the hen night. It was very brave. I'm not sure I would have managed it in your situation.

I think you need to give it some time with your other friend. If it hasn't happened to you then it is very difficult to know what it is like. I expect your friend is feeling a bit awkward too and is finding it hard to express.

The service yesterday was lovely as I got to talk about Hope with some people. It is incredible how most people don't ask about her or talk about her at all now...