MC Avengers - Chocolate cake anyone?

[mistlethrush]

I've started a new thread as the old one was full - hope everyone finds their way here OK.

That's it quarkee channel that anger into some serious baby-making!

HI titchy so sorry you've come to join us. I've only had one mc and dying for answers, so I can imagine how difficult it is when you've had more than and the doctors won't listen to you. {{{{}}}}

I am very at my gp. It breaks my heart every time I m/c and just want answers. Its hard to as I've just found out my sil is pregnant and one of my friends althought i'm happy for them it still gets me down. Thank you for your kind words and I look forward to joining in with the TTC bit when we eventually get round to it!

Sorry you had to join us titchy. I am in a similar boat to you I have also had 3 mc's. 2 before DS and 1 after and terrified of having anymore. I just keep being told by my doctor to go and try again and that it's just bad luck! Now looking at others ways that may help me stay pregnant such as alternative therapies and nutrition- I just feel I have got to be doing something.

There's a mn campaign running at the moment for this sort of issue - might be worth adding your 2pwth

I know what you mean DUSTIN we are looking into going private for some tests, I know it may turn out to be no cause but at least I know then. I have had 2 m/c this year alreadly and not sure if I could take another, how old is your ds? I still have not gone back to work after this one , the gp has signed me off for another 2 weeks but think that was more due to the fact I couldn't stop crying after he said he wouldn't refer me i think i made him feel a tad uncomfortable and he wanted to get me out of there !! I am glad there are lovley mums netters on here to give each other support.

titchy sorry you had to join us and I can understand your need for answers - I hope that going private will help? It is enfuriating how the doctor's brush you off with comments about bad luck & mc being very common. Maybe some more time off work will allow you to look into some private options?

daisyj thanks for that good advice. I can't afford not to have any maternity leave and am not sure how long I can wait to ttc again. On the other hand this 'toxic' work environment cannot be helping my health or ttc. I think I have some tough decisions to make, I am hoping to keep my head down until our holiday in 16 days (not that I am counting down or anything...) and will use that time away to clear my head and re-assess.

Hope everyone is having a good day...there is sunshine here!

NSNA I can beat that counting down - dh hates where he is working at the moment. He has a count down on his computer for how long it is to going on holiday. He told me the other day that it was less than 3,000,000 seconds to when we go Most evenings I find out how many people he has talked to about alternative employment opportunities, rather than what's happened at work!

titchy my DS is 2 1/2 and the problem is I am the wrong side of 35 so my age won't be helping either. Hope the private tests help.

Dustin - add a bit to both (ds 3, me...!) and I'm in the same boat but a bit further down the river...

mistlethrush I think there is added pressure when you get to our age.

Hi all. I have had 6 mcs.
But I do have three beautiful dd's.

The problems started( or beame apparent) when i met my current dp and we tried for a baby...4 mcs then we were blessed with dd3. Had 2 more mcs since. We have had all the tests offered and have been told there is no detectable problem. All the mcs happened at 7-8 weeks although one was a missed mc that was only detected at 12 wk scan

Just wanted to offer some hope...if we had given up hope after 3 or 4 we would never have had our beloved dd3.

And please keep your fingers crossed as I am now almost 6 weeks pg again....after trying for over a year.

Hello Dropdeadfred so sorry that you have had to go through 6 mc's. I have had 3 and that was bad enough. You are an amzing lady to be so positive and try again. I wish you all the luck for this pregnancy. Take care.

sorry mean't to say amazing. I am just finishing my lunch break so trying to type fast without much success!

anks for your kind words Dustin. I have certainly had my dark moments and felt under pressure to give up. I felt guilty about putting the rest of the family through the rollercoaster of emotions each time too so stopped telling them we were still trying after having dd3.

She will be 3 on saturday! We have been trying for another snce she was about 9 months old. I am 37 so feel that time is not necessarily on our side - but I can but hope.
Good Luck everybody!!

DDF I can't even imagine what you've been through Hugs to you and best wishes for a sticky bean!

Has anyone else had little or no CM post micarriage? The first two months I came off BCP I had no EWCM to speak of and the third month (the month I got pregnant) tons! I'm in my second cycle since mc now, on CD18 and CM is creamy and slightly watery at best, but definitely not EWCM. I wonder if it's just my body getting back on track? anyone else?

HEllo ladies

So inspiring to read your story dropdeadfred

I have a DS aged 3....recently had a MC at about 7 weeks.
It is my first MC but now I am so worried that it will happen again as I have PCOS and the risk of MC is much higher.

I only developed PCOS after my first child...so now TTC is taking forever....had been TTC for 14 months before managed to get PG only for it to MC. I couldn't face it if it took another 14 months and then for it to end in MC again..

'Polycystic ovary syndrome is a risk factor for miscarriage, with 30-50% of pregnancies in women with PCOS being miscarried in the first trimester.'

I know I shouldn't get discouraged but it all seems for hopeless.....

Oh, crap! One of my officemates (basically my peer according to seniority) just announced that his wife is pregnant WHY WHY WHY is EVERYONE pregnant!?!?!?

Hi ladies

Can I join in with you?

We're tentatively trying again for DC2 after an early MC back in March.

PrePG - same for me too. Family, colleagues, acquaintances everywhere I go there's happy announcements. Am v pleased for them all but for us. So selfish....

ANyway hello all - now going to catch up on the rest of this thread.

Rip x

Hi Rip welcome! So sorry for your loss But there's lots of support on here.

I'm sure everyone is sick of me saying, but I've also got very close family expecting, which has been quite hard to get my head around. My DH and I each have one brother and they're both expecting within weeks of our due date. We just found out that his brother's wife is having a little girl two days ago, which was kind of just the icing on the cake. My brother has a girl and a boy and his brother will now have a girl and a boy. I hate feeling like this, but I just keep thinking that when we finally do manage to have one, there will be no excitement as everything's been done already ~sigh~ We've got boys, we've got girls, etc, etc.

I feel like there's going to be a flood of October/November babies and we've missed the boat Nevermind me, I'm just having a bad day!

I totally get where you're coming from. My DB recently announced - they're due 10 days before we would have been. I'm so pleased for them but gutted for me. I'd assumed we'd have a wee baby before Christmas.

Only good thing is that I hadn't told my DB about our MC (hadn't seen him etc) and now I'm glad. I don't want him to feel awkward around me and it's their first so I don't want anything to dampen it for them.

There WILL be excitement! Honestly. How can a new baby, boy or girl, not be exciting? I feel for you. The bad days are the worst. Today is a good day for me! I'll pick you up...

Aw, thanks! You're right, I know you're right. My mother keeps telling me I'm being silly. And to be honest, I SHOULD be happy today - I'm pretty sure I O'd yesterday and we had lots of well-timed BD! So fingers crossed! And it's Friday. And it's a bank holiday weekend!!!!

I'm always right LOL or at least that's what I tell DH.

Fingers crossed indeed. We did the deed last weekend. Hold my hand on the 2WW?? And I'll hold yours?

Roll on the weekend.... yipee!

Holding on! Baby dust for you! How many DPO are you?

Welcome Dropdeadfred and RipMacWinkle - best of luck and good thoughts to you for a sticky bean and lots of baby dust, too, and for PrePG. I know what you mean about everyone being pg. Passed a colleague on the stairs today twice, and she's due around the same time as I would have been. Just starting to show a cute little bump and I just felt like I'd been punched each time I saw her. She's lovely, so I'm really pleased for her, but stil...

Went into town with DH last night to have a look at furniture and things for new flat, and ended up crying at the station on the way home, for the thought of nesting without a chick. I'll be 36 next month, and that doesn't help... Although my cousin mc'd her first baby at 40, but got pg again straight away and is now 18 weeks, so I try to take it as some comfort.

Sorry to sound . Am really looking forward to the weekend - friends coming to stay with their new baby, who is nearly 6 months. Can't wait to meet him . Hope you all have lovely weekends, with much successful bd'ing! xx

hello everyone, I haven't been on here for a while, just lurking quietly. a special hello to the new girls - hope this thread is as great a source of comfort & support to you as it has been and is to me.

I am typing slightly shaky-handedly, with a first response next to me WITH TWO PINK LINES ON IT! Tested a day early because I've been feeling so odd over the last week, and whaddya know. .. eek.
can I keep lurking over here for some hand holding? No way ready to graduate onto one of those "due in" threads. In fact I don't think I even want to work out my due date until after the 12 week (I hope there is a 12 week) scan.
xxxx
baby dust to you.xx