MC Avengers - Chocolate cake anyone?

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I've started a new thread as the old one was full - hope everyone finds their way here OK.

Hi ladies, just popping in to say hello - I don't post on here very often any more but I do lurk to see how you're all doing. Just wanted to say congratulations to Spink as I've just seen your news Wishing you a happy and uneventful pregnancy.
I know exactly what you mean about not feeling ready to join the AN threads - it took me a few weeks to pluck up the courage to join one. However, I discovered that there were lots of ladies on mine who had suffered mc so I didn't feel so alone, and they're a great bunch. In addition, the Knickercheckers anonymous thread (under pregnancy) has been great too for reassurance. Lots of familiar faces from this thread so pop over and say hello when you're ready.
Sending everybody else lots of babydust and hope to see some more BFPs soon.
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SPINK!!!!!!!! Wonderful news! Congratulations!!!!! Hand holding in effect!

I'm feeling so weird today and yesterday. I think I'm 2dpo, but then had some spotting this morning Have read that ovulation spotting can occur after OV by the time it makes its way donw, but this is totally confusing to say the least! My stomach feels like I did a million sit ups and I vaguely remember feeling this way last time, but I don't think it was so early so I don't think it has anything to do with it.

spink, congratulations!!!! easier said than done but try and relax and enjoy it as much as you can.

I haven't been on for a while as we went away after the ERPC and then I went back to work on nights. It was my first time back at work since the mc and felt a bit weird walking in (paranoia about who knows what - a lot of my colleagues think i had a virus!), but the shifts went fine. It helped that my first shift back was with my 3 closest work friends who know what happened.
I seem to be on a high at the moment, don't know whether it is hormone induced or I'm just nuts but for the last few days I haven't felt sad anymore, which is a bit of a strange feeling as I spent my holiday miserable and bitchy!

Sorry for the waffle, hope everyone is ok and having a nice bank holiday weekend

hi all - just popping in to say congrats! to spinks and sprinkle some stick baby dust to all
(and grab a slice of cake while I'm at it!)

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Oh just popped in to see with have some good news at last! Congratulations Spink

Hi all, sad to see so many new faces, but you will all get an enormous amount of support here - one of the few things that actually does help at a time when you think nothing can

MASSIVE congratulations to Spink!! FANTASTIC news!
How many DPO are you Spink? Praying for a healthy sticky one for you. I definitely second what cricri said about Knicker Checkers, they are an amazing bunch of ladies.

Feeling pretty rubbish here today. Knew that I would, so made the most of feeling ok yesterday, but it still sucks. Today is my god-daughter's christening... As we only had Thomas' funeral on Thursday I just didn't think I could face it - it just highlights the difference too much. Am scared that we will never have a christening for our babies, only funerals... So DH has gone along to be godmother instead and I am sat at home feeling like sh*t. I have so much to do at the moment, and I just don't feel like I am doing any of it properly... I have loads of work I'm really behind with that I ought to be doing now but I just can't face it - again - which is how I got so behind in the first place.
On top of that, we should be moving house next month. We've been renovating the new place (my grandma's old house) since last november and it's a HUGE job - everything needed doing, new windows, doors, internal walls, staircase, re-plumbed, new electrics, heating, kitchen, bathrooms etc etc. My DH has been amazing and works on it before and after work - basically he gets in, we have something to eat quickly, then he goes down to the house til about 1030 then he comes home to go to bed and it starts all over again. I should be there helping but I've done practically nothing. DH said last night he feels like he hasn't got any time for himself at the moment which I can totally understand cos really he hasn't, and I just feel like I'm making it worse. I should be there helping and supporting him, instead I am sat here like a lump in my dressing gown feeling sorry for myself. I have so much to do today but I just want to curl up and hide.

Kate it is still early days yet. Completely understand how you are feeling at the moment - it is normal you are grieving for Thomas. Can you get signed off work sick? TBH I had 6 weeks off after I lost Hope. I just couldn't face it and my GP was really understanding.

thanks everyone for the lovely congrats! cricri, I may well start lurking on knicker checkers. Goodness knows I am an avid every5minute pant-peerer at the moment..

napa, glad to hear your first shifts back went ok, and that (even if it is hormone induced) you are feeling less sad. are you feeling back to yourself physically?

PrePG- hello! sorry to hear about weirdness... I have to admit I am totally rubbish at knowing when I'd ov'd & where I was in my cycle. After the last mc, it was kind of a conscious decision anyway, I wanted to 'relax' (ha, ha) and not be counting down the days... it kind of worked!! Maybe it is just that after mcs, our bodies are totally out of the tree and being a bit random.. Just keep looking after yourself and hopefully you'll find that you're feeling odd for a great reason

Kate - thank you, sweetie. not sure what dpo I'm on, though AF would've been due today, so if I have a 'normal' cycle does that mean I should now be 14dpo??

I'm so sorry you are having such a tough time. Please don't be hard on yourself, you have had such a lot to deal with recently. Losing Thomas must be hard enough without life carrying on around you and expecting you to keep up with it. Do you think taking a break from work would be possible? and maybe help a little?
And I don't blame you from not feeling able to help with the new house, it is so natural that something like that, which is so about family and looking to the future would be horribly hard at this time.
Be gentle with yourself, please. thinking of you lots.

Hey Spink! I'm new on here but just wanted to add my congratulations too!! Here's hoping that you'll be the first of many....

Rip x

congratulations Spink!

Well cd 29 here 3 bfn
and May's due date tomorrow.
What's to bet the bitch turns up then!

Sorry so many new guys have had to join us, but hope you find as much support as I have these past few months

Kate DH sounds an absolute star and I am sure he doestn think you are being rubbish - you're not, you are being completly healthy imo, grief takes it out of you and makes it so hard to concentrate on what you 'should' be doing - I think you sound like a wonderful person who has had to deal with an awful lot and is doing OK. Big hugs to you tonight. Re Christening I was godmother by proxy at a friend's DD when I couldnt make it due to my Mother's death - seven years on and it makes not one jot of a difference, i am her godmother 100% and noone blinked an eye about me not turning up - people can be v understanding so I bet your family will be fine too.

Well done spink lovely to hear of 'graduates' from this thread - am hoping to make it myself one day

Spink Congratulations! So good to hear some happy news! Are you going to get some early scans?

TEW got me the other day so the waiting continues. On the plus side it was a 'normal' length cycle so hopefully my hormones are settling down. Will try again this month.

kate sorry that you are feeling . Please don't feel guilty about not feeling like doing anything - be kind to yourself - you've just been through a really traumatic experience.

Congrats Spink, great news
Sorry to read you're feeling down Kate, so understandable though, you've been through so much in the past couple of months I haven't lost a child but do remember how I felt after my mother passed away and it me years to deal with that. Being signed off for as long as possible sounds like a good idea, and doing as little as possible for a while, the house and everything else can wait for now.
Sorry tew got you Elibumbum but at least it sounds like things are going back to normal.
I am sure I had cm over the weekend, gynae told us not to try for the next few weeks, was tempting though
Mind you, not really possible as we have had a house full of visitors since Friday, but it has been such a great weekend has taken my mind off the past 6wks which have been so crap.

Spink congratulations !!!!!!

Congrats Spink!! Sprinkle some baby dust this way!!!

Hi ladies...

Quick question.
I had a MC that started on 3rd april and I was expecting to wait 4-6 weeks for my next AF.

My average cycle is 32-35 days.

Weirdly though I got my AF on Friday , 2 May and that makes my cycle was 29 days! Good amount ( sorry of TMI ) so a proper AF...still going day on 5!

Just looking for some reassurance really...is this is a good sign?

Congratulations Spink !!

Kate sorry you are feeling down.

So sorry Kate I can't even imagine what it's been like to you. But I hope you're taking some time for yourself and having lots of people taking care of you.

Dundungirl I'm not sure if your cycle has changed completely, or maybe just temporarily. But I think it's always a good sign when you get your period close to when you would've ordinarily. Seems like your body has 'bounced back' pretty well. Did you have a D&C or natural mc?

Dungungirl I would have thought that af returning fairly quickly after a m/c was a good sign. I had to wait longer than that last year, and this time who knows, with the m/c not being complete
I guess the test will be how long this next cycle is for you.
Sorry to hear your edd would have been on Mon Aqua, they suck don't they. I had one in Feb and my next one is in Nov.
Are you still on a high Napa? Hope so, enjoy it
We're all a bit sick with colds in our house this week, well everyone except dd2, so her 2yr old energy is tiring the rest of us out. Think I might go to work tomorrow for a bit of peace

Dungungirl I would have thought that af returning fairly quickly after a m/c was a good sign. I had to wait longer than that last year, and this time who knows, with the m/c not being complete
I guess the test will be how long this next cycle is for you.
Sorry to hear your edd would have been on Mon Aqua, they suck don't they. I had one in Feb and my next one is in Nov.
Are you still on a high Napa? Hope so, enjoy it
We're all a bit sick with colds in our house this week, well everyone except dd2, so her 2yr old energy is tiring the rest of us out. Think I might go to work tomorrow for a bit of peace

THanks PrePG and Scully!

prepg
I had a natural MC...so hopefully that means like you said that my body is bouncing back to normal quickly. Can't bare to wait anymore! Took us 14 months to conceive!!!

Yes, agree, returning to cycle should be a good thing - and about the wait, I know where you're coming from - had to wait 6yrs for ds...

well the bitch(AF) came on May's Due date.
we went to the enchanted forest near tunbridge wells, which turned out to be a really good idea. lots of scrambling and not particularly good for pushchairs so not many babies about. My dd had a bit of an incident, accidently doing falling a metre and a half off a wooden path onto the forest floor. doing a really flukey back flip and luckily clearing her head. she must have angels looking after her.

Duncansgirl sounds like a good sign to me too. I'm sure you already know that we are meant to be at our most fertile after a mc so fingers crossed you won't have to wait anything near 14 months

sorry to hear about yesterday aquababe but lucky miss for your dd!!

kate hope your doing better but don't apologise for feeling down, just take it day by day

have now had 4 shifts at work and feeling less great. mainly because I'm a midwife and it was my colleagues who diagnosed and treated me and today was the first time I had seen most of them since the ERPC (kind of like returning to where it all happened!) so they keep asking how I'm doing and how I'm recovering, fine the first few but by the end of the day I was ready to cry. Probably doesn't help that ERPC was 5 weeks ago and I'm waiting for AF. Sorry for the moan!

hope everyone else is good today.

Napa that must be really hard. I know that it was a really good friend of ours who happened to be the senior registra on the day that I was diagnosed with mp - after waiting about for absolutely ages not knowing why we'd been sent up to a ward 'to talk to the doctor' and having absolutely everyone seen before us (scan 8.30, on ward, waiting, 8.45, seen by doctor 1pm) as soon as she was involved everything started happening - admited, she rang round everywhere and got her consultant to come and do erpc, an anaesthetist (sp!!!) to come from a completly different theatre etc just to get the erpc done that afternoon (Friday). Its really great having supportive, helpful friends and colleagues at times isn't it.