TTC for those taking longer than average ✨

[YaWeeFurryBastard]

I just wanted to start a thread for those who’ve been trying for a little while (or a long while) and it doesn’t seem to be happening. It’s great seeing all the positives on the TTC threads but I’m starting to find it a little disheartening as it seems to be happening quickly for almost everyone but me! Statistics seem to vary but suggest between 60-70% of couples get pregnant within three months. We’ll be heading into cycle 5 shortly TTC our first, both in our early 30s.

Is anyone else in a similar situation?

Thanks all, nice to be able to share with others who understand what it’s like to be in this rubbish club.

@emmatcc1 my lovely friend had her beautiful girls at 40 and 42. My gran also had my dad at 42, so that all gives me a little hope.

@YaWeeFurryBastard my GP did try to refer me gynae but they rejected it straight away and said come back when your bmi is under 35. Which is frustrating as the NICE guidelines only have a bmi limit for IVF and not investigations. It makes you feel like a 2nd class citizen who isn’t worthy of any help.

I did also ask my GP to refer me to recurrent miscarriage unit but they said it was only the EPU that can make the referral. The EPU won’t see me because I never make it to 6 weeks.

@Confusedddddddd no haven’t had progesterone tested. I may do one of the at home tests just to rule it out. The doctor who did my private scan said I sounded like a good candidate to try progesterone pessaries and gave me the Tommys research details on it which I had already read however it’s how to get it that’s the problem. My GP won’t prescribe, I asked, and EPU won’t until you’ve had a scan at 6 weeks.

@RRAEE the weight loss is really difficult. I have a diagnosed eating disorder (have done for 25 years). Being told I couldn’t get help until I lost weight spiralled my eating disorder. I’m trying really hard to focusing on health and ED recovery.

Has anyone ever reached out to Tommys for advice or support?

@Lifegivesyoulimes im sorry you’ve had such a tough time. What you said about putting life on hold really resonated. Not wanting to commit to nights out or holidays in case I am pregnant. It truly sucks the joy!

I have always struggled with my weight but over 2 years have lost 2.5 stone with intermittent fasting. I accidentally fell pregnant last summer when I was doing some regular 24-48 hour fasts. Since the miscarriage I’ve been more focussed on eating healthily and regularly and nothing is happening. My BMI is now 26 but it was higher when I fell pregnant with my first child, you just can’t win.

@Lifegivesyoulimes I’m really sorry, that’s crap. I sometimes feel a bit judged for being overweight and perhaps I’m being naive but I don’t think losing ten pounds would magically solve my fertility issues!

I read that excess weight can inhibit ovulation and I (and you) clearly don’t have that problem so I don’t see the issue!

I’m still going to try some gentle weight loss though.

This. You see people pregnant all shapes and sizes and BMI is so out dated these days.

Thank you ❤️

I’ve stocked up on the following vitamins now:

• pregnancare
• magnesium 375mg
• vitamin c 500mg
• vitamin d 25ug
• Omega 3 2000mg
• coq10 200mg
• extra folic acid 400mg

Seems like a lot! 😂 thanks to everyone who shared their vitamin intake.

I think i'm going to get some coq10 as every one keeps mentioning it 🙂

I'm just about to order some as well. AF due this Sunday but another bfn this morning . I'm also wondering about booking a HSG , it's hard enough as it is but with one tube left I can't help but feel it's even harder 😭

Sorry to hear that 💐. I’m on period day 2 and it sucks! Feels like such a long way away to my next “opportunity” and I frankly can’t be bothered getting my hopes up again, however I’m going to have to test at what I think will be 9po as I’m going for drinks with my friends after not drinking for about two months.

One tube must be hard ☹️ I’m fairly convinced mine are fucked tbh! I’m not expecting anything to come back from my hormone tests so hopefully I can book a scan and HSG relatively quickly.

@Favofit sorry to hear about your BFN hopefully you get some reassurance or you get some answers at least by booking it. Cant imagine the added stress of that.

Im CD 20 now but think I've only just ovulated (not testing this month but going off usual body signs) we are still DTD every other day just incase to cover as much as possible. But hate these TWWs 😪

@YaWeeFurryBastard I feel so numb right now. I have just enquired about private hsg and waiting for them get back to me.

Hopefully you can book a scan and hsg soon as well.
❤️

Thank you . TWW is awful, Premom has me on 13dpo but I think I might be 11dpo. If we don't catch it this month I'll start ovulation testing again. I am just so tired of trying. You've dtd all lot that's brilliant , fingers crossed for you ❤️

@Favofit wont do it again next month its too much 😅. Ill probably test again next month too if we dont just take a break to decompress from it all. We are just seeing how this try goes. But we have decided if it hasnt happened next few months we will take a trip away.

Here’s my chart for this month, for the first time my bbt measured 37.1 and over all my temps have been higher than usual, the last time that happened I was pregnant.
I’m 10dpo today and wishing I had some pregnancy tests right now.

Fingers crossed for you ❤️

Sounds promising, how soon can you get hold of a test ? I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you ❤️

@Favofit Well I could go get one tomorrow but I’m just gonna wait and see if my af will be late.

I'm hoping for a BFP for you ❤️

@emmatcc1 looks very promising! I’m not really clued up on the whole bbt charts but hopefully this is a good sign! Can you go get some cheapies to scratch the itch of testing.? Fingers crossed for you 😊

@Marie1990x I could but they’re all 25miu I think that’s not sensitive enough that early.

Regarding vitamins, I take the Concieve plus ovulation and fertility ones. With my first DC, we tried for over 4 years to concieve and after taking them for 3 months I fell pregnant. Obviously, it may have just been a coincidence but I am taking them again this time and keeping my fingers crossed. I am not as good at remembering to take them this time round though (probably all the running round after my nearly 2yr old and chronic sleep deprivation). I think I am 8dpo currently, so if no luck this cycle I am going to knuckle down and set alarms for the vitamins and give myself the best chance.

@emmatcc1 this all sounds super positive! I have everything crossed for you and I really hope it’s your month. 💕
I am the same I have stopped testing early! When is your period due?
@Favofit im sorry about your negative, there is always the chance that it’s too early x
@YaWeeFurryBastard im sorry your period came its so annoying. It doesn’t help but I feel the exact same when my period comes. Like I have aaaages to wait to try again, and just want to get on with it!

Im CD13. No positive OPK yet but DTD every second day and going for every day this week in the lead up to my fertile period. Normally get a positive around day 15/16 but had a super weird short cycle and no positive OPK last month. It’s just so boring being disappointed all the time!!

@Shortcake06 thats what weve done every other day from CD10 and are gunna carry on till near the end to make sure we deffo cover it this month. Hopefully it works as cant keep this up 😅

@RRAEE omg I know it’s exhausting isn’t it! My husband thinks he’s won the lottery! Fingers crossed for us!!

@Shortcake06 My period is due on Monday