Immune/NK cells pred thread #32

[VenusStarr]

Hi everyone. The last thread is filling up. Have tried to tag everyone who posted on the last few pages, but feel free to join / tag anyone I missed.

@Gizmo1983
@fleur89
@Sunflower360
@MotherOfShihTzus
@lozzmax
@HopefulH
@kea1990
@Sprinkleofbabydust
@Newbeginnings22023
@star2022
@RumandSpinach
@Ems123456789
@MamaW05

Love to all ❤️

@Gizmo1983 yes they definitely are for sure! That sounds good finding some new things to do, why not hey! Cornwall is lovely, that's where we went for part of our honeymoon, we went to the Eden project. Is quite a long journey lol!

I've done a test this morning and pretty certain it's negative. Got to repeat in two days time.

I'm sorry @Rainbowsunshine81. Was it a FRER? x

@lozzmax yes it was a frer and a clearblue. X

Hey @Rainbowsunshine81 been thinking about you. It’s just like a kick in the gut isn’t it. Got everything crossed for you in 2 days that it’s turned positive. I’m not going to ask if you’re ok but just want to know I’m thinking of you and you’re certainly not alone xxx

@Gizmo1983 the biggest kick in the guts. Can't see that there being much change in two days. I was so hoping it would be positive, I've tried everything I possibly can.
I really appreciate you saying that. Xxx

Really sorry to hear that @Rainbowsunshine81. Will keep fingers crossed for two days time, but also know the feeling of expecting it’s likely to be the same story. Sending lots of love xx

@elarcoiris It's horrible to wait, I so wish I was wrong 😔 thank you ❤️

I'm really sorry @Rainbowsunshine81 ❤️❤️ sending you lots of love

@Newbeginnings22023 sorry I didn't reply sooner, I've done the endometrio tests at crp, if you wanted to ask anything. It was ok though and the results were very quick. You just need to mimic the protocol you'll be doing for ivf.

Sorry I've not been around. Dh and I are having some issues, I think he's struggled with me being unwell but he seems to have shut down a bit. I'm just really sad. A side effect of my meds is I can't cry 😢 I'm really hoping we can work through it but I don't know 💔

@VenusStarr Thank you ❤️ ❤️ sending you lots of love too.

@VenusStarr sending love. This journey has been so brutal for you, I'm not surprised it's taking its toll. I was in the intralipids room with a lady yesterday who was on the verge of tears and just full of anxiety and trepidation and I felt so sad for her. Living with infertility is incredibly challenging and you're doing so well just to hold it together on a daily basis. I hope you guys make it through - men sometimes find it hard to know what to say, they want to support us but they're going through it themselves too. I hope he can find a way to open up ❤️

@Gizmo1983 spending a night in a castle sounds lovely ❤️ I took some time off this week as well, it was much needed xx

@Rainbowsunshine81 so sorry to hear this. I hope things turn around for you, and if not, that you’re feeling as ok as can be xx

@VenusStarr thanks so much for your reply. I guess I have two questions if that’s ok: did you do the tests on a modified natural protocol or a medicated one? And did you find the tests useful at all?

I’m so sorry about the situation with your dh. My dh was also feeling very low as a result of my reaction to our last BFN. IVF is so hard for us and them, for us it’s the physical and emotional side, and for them it’s all emotional due to the failed rounds and watching us go through it all. Sometimes they just need time xxx

@Newbeginnings22023 Thank you ❤️ feeling quite deflated, I was really hoping it would be it this time. Have a follow-up in a couple of weeks and might take up the counselling my clinic offer. Hope you're OK. Xx

@Rainbowsunshine81 counselling has really helped me process it all, I would recommend that. I'm so sorry you've had a rotten test day. It's not fair x

Thank you @Newbeginnings22023 I hope so. Had a good chat with my therapist this afternoon. I just feel quite flat and scared about our future.
I did the endometrio on a medicated cycle but I'm sure you can do a natural modified too. Mine showed no issues but I am glad I checked and my next FET was successful as followed everything to the letter.

Thank you @lozzmax it is tough. Its just blindsided me a bit and I'm not really sure what to think. Hope your intralipids went OK.

❤️ @Rainbowsunshine81 xx

@lozzmax I think it might be good to process everything. Just after everything you do and you want it to work so much. X

@VenusStarr ❤️ xx

@Newbeginnings22023 aw thank you it was just one night but soooo good to get away am definitely going to try and do it more often.
@Rainbowsunshine81 not going to ask how you are just hope that you have done something nice today to keep your mind off things xxx
@lozzmax how are you doing xxx
@VenusStarr hey sweet my marriage almost went the journey just after covid. My husband changed into a selfish arse. I then caught him lying and of course the obvious question was how many other lies and it came out that he’d cheated on me twice just after we got together so I found this out 20 years later so everything just blew up. We were so far apart and I looked at him and felt literally nothing. We decided to get divorced but when we got to the mediation stage we just couldn’t do it so they told us to go and reconsider as there may be a chance things weren’t over since neither of us could face it. We started marriage counselling which was fantastic and slowly but surely I started to fall back in love. I got sepsis years ago and hubby was so nasty to me it’s like he can’t cope when there’s something wrong although it’s awful your hubby is probably struggling with what he has seen you go through and now you’re a little better maybe he needs to process things, you probably both do you have been through so much. Try and get yourselves away on a little break somewhere if you can just get away from home and work and everything familiar some time to just talk and take in each others company. Relationships/marrriage is not easy. What I will say is although I am still very hurt by what hubby did our relationship is better than ever almost loosing what we had made us realise how much we had to loose. Honestly If you’re both up for marriage counselling give it a go it just gives you both an open forum with someone to guide you both xxx
wow this is a long one yikes the period after the norethisterone I’m pretty sure I haven’t got much blood left 🤦‍♀️. I have my baseline call tomorrow so guess I’m starting drugs soon and had our pgta counselling today and that’s about it really xxx

@Gizmo1983 went out with hubby for a hour or so whilst our little boy went to the park with his grandparents. Hope you're OK. Xxx

@Rainbowsunshine81 I know how you feel, I think we all do. It’s horrible. I haven’t spoken to my doctor since the BFN, I really need time away from it all. I haven’t done the counseling myself but it seems to help many couples. I have a follow up with Dr S the week after next so I can start planning the next steps after. Don’t want to do anything before October though. I hope you’re ok too xx

@VenusStarr I’m really glad the therapy and meds are doing you good. I believe in taking things a day at a time. Worrying about the future can be overwhelming.
That’s really helpful to know about the endometrio tests, thank you. I’ll bring this up with Dr S at my follow up xx

@Gizmo1983 I think mini breaks are the best! All the best for your coming cycle xx

@Newbeginnings22023 Think I might take a bit of time. See if I want to do the counselling or not. Going to write some questions I'd like to ask at my follow-up.
I know that it might be a bit soon to be comptenplating about going through another transfer or not, we have 3 embryos left. I think in the meantime take some time for myself and not rush into any decisions, but I know I wouldn't want to leave it for too long.
I know there are no guarantees with any of this. Had a good cry again today and I think that helped. I hope you're OK. Xxx

@Rainbowsunshine81 I understand not wanting to rush your next steps. The beauty of frozen embryos is that there’s no need to rush, you go when you’re ready.
Crying certainly helps, I’m really sorry. It absolutely sucks. Once can only hope for a better outcome next time. I’m ok thank you, enjoying not thinking about my next steps either xxx

@Newbeginnings22023 Think I'll take a couple of months and have a break from all the medication. That's it with them being frozen, ours are until August and my clinic have said at our follow up we can ask my consultant if he will ask the clinic in Cyprus to extend that by a couple of months.
Feeling quite numb at the moment and not quite myself.
Definitely going to ask some questions at the follow up about anything that could be done any differently. Good to take some time for yourself. Xxx

@Rainbowsunshine81 that sounds like a good plan. I felt quite numb as well a few weeks ago with my BFN, took me a while to snap out of it. Deciding to take a break has helped a lot mentally, I hope this approach works for you too. Having some questions ready for the follow up is a great idea. I’ll ask questions about the endometrio tests primarily. Other than that it’s down to embryo quality and normality in my case because my remaining two (and previous embryos) weren’t tested, so there’s not a whole lot more to do in my case but keep trying and hoping for the best. But as you say a much needed break comes first xxx

@Newbeginnings22023 I think a break will be good and to also give my body a rest from the medication. I was thinking about some of those tests you mention, but that would mean more money and there's only so much left in the pot, probably just about enough for another transfer and the UK monitoring fees.
My clinic did say that a payment plan could be put in place, so that would take some pressure off. That's what we can do is hope for the best and hope that we are given a break. Xxx