TTC #2

[Eatsleepbakerepeat]

I've noticed a lot of us TTC number 2 and struggling after getting pregnant fairly easily with number 1!
Thought I'd start a thread so we can all support each other 💕💕

I’m sorry, @Eatsleepbakerepeat. I’m expecting the same soon… took a test at 8dpo today but stark negative. I knew it would be. I think my toddler wakes up too much for BBT to be working for me but it’s still showing dropping temperatures, so I’m not confident at all.

Easy@Home strips are great. I got my positive with DS on them, it was so clear and vivid!

Oh @2BabyOrNot2Baby you sound like you've had such a tough week!
The apps I've found this time have just confused me even more
I did say to my husband today, I still want to enjoy it, I don't want it to become just Clinical and box ticking exercise if that makes sense
Hope you're OK!

It's so hard time 2 isn't it! But 8dpo is still wayyyy early so there's a chance!!

I'm feeling really low tonight, like I'm mentally positive ot will happen at some point but I'm sat wondering what I've done wrong for this to be so difficult, complicated, and sad with all the loses. I must be doing something wrong

@Eatsleepbakerepeat and @2BabyOrNot2Baby I’m so sorry you’ve both had really tough weekends. This process is so mentally and emotionally draining, it’s just impossible for it not to be when you care so much. This weekend I had two friends announce their pregnancies and I’m really feeling the weight of our Feb MMC loss. I feel lucky in so many ways but it’s hard to give up on what you imagined could be when you first saw that positive test. I had a big cry to my husband yesterday and that helped a bit, I forget how grief can catch you at weird times. I’m somehow on CD6 today! I’m a bit concerned about my super short cycles and periods but I’ve been on birth control or pregnant since I was 17 so who knows what’s normal for me!?

@Eatsleepbakerepeat it sounds like you have a good plan of action and I hope you get some useful advice from the recurrent miscarriage clinic. It always feels good to be proactive and doing something within your control to get things moving forward!

@2BabyOrNot2Baby I’m sorry you and your husband are at loggerheads about TTC. Maybe you could have a month off a reset and agree a date to discuss what you’d both like to do next?

Sending everyone lots of love this evening and hope this week is a better one!

Going to join this board too as TTC #2. It took us a year for #1 and now we're in cycle #7 which is heartbreaking, it seems unfair that we don't get to be one of the lucky ones but I keep reminding myself that it's truly roll of the dice.

Am 8dpo (going off OPKs) after a letrozole cycle and bfn this morning.

@YouveGotAFastCar I know how you feel! 8dpo is early but hard not to feel disappointed!

Welcome @dancingfairy1 - We're on cycle 7 too. 9DPO today. We're similar!

I didn't test this morning. We had a better night with my toddler, and my temp shot back up, so god knows what's happening with my BBT chart.

@Eatsleepbakerepeat How are you doing today? I hope you're feeling a bit lighter. It's really hard, and I wish I had some advice on how to feel happier about it... I think it's just a case of accepting how you feel and being kind to yourself 💐

One of my friends had #2 in September, when #1 was about to turn two. It was a bit painful at the time... She kept making loud comments about how she was SO surprised to have "beaten" me to having another one, she was so sure I'd be first, etc. I'm last now 😅 but she's told me this morning they are TTC #3 now. I'm happy for her - she really wants 3 and her husband wasn't so sure - but also dreading her being pregnant again before me. I know that's horrible!

@YouveGotAFastCar It is terrible how it can feel competitive when TTC! I feel the same and I feel like the widening age gap means I'm losing and the other moms in our mom group from #1 are all either pregnant or have had #2 already which sucks.

Totally makes sense! It almost starts to feel like a chore really and then it just puts me off for the rest of the month 🙃

Feeling much better now, thank you! I think I just hit the lowest low I have in a while yesterday and everything was all too much 😫 feel a bit stupid now but I suppose it's one of the feelings you have to endure during all of this!

I think we're just going to go again this month despite not being 100% on fertile week and see how we feel afterwards. You never know really do you 🙈

Thank you & @cheeseycrumpets! 💞

I'm not gonna sit here and tell you not to think that way, because it's much easier said than done, but just know you're not doing anything wrong! Beautiful things take time 💖

It's so hard isn't it
One of my best friends and I love her dearly has started trying this month and 99% sure she's fallen on, I knew she would and I'm so happy but it hurts. Why not me too eh? What have I done wrong etc
The narrative is strong and painful.
But it will happen for all of us

It's such pot luck it's mad!
Saw the gp today who has referred us for recurrent miscarriages but also said she felt it was just bad luck and it will happen (she looked at previous bloods) she said it doesn't stop it from hurting but so many things when it comes to babies is just luck! Which sucks

Glad you're feeling brighter 💕

I'm so sorry, it's hard I know. I've recently been seeing a few pregnancy announcements on social media, and whilst I'm trying to convince myself I'm fine, I'm not. I mean, I'm happy for them but just so sad for ourselves. Definitely been noticing more pregnant people/tiny babies but I think that's because my mind is so focused on it!
Soon enough we'll allllll be announcing our babies!
Be kind to yourself, your time is coming x

It is so SO easy to get wrapped up in it all, isn't it? I think a lot of the ladies I've met through these threads have just been unfortunate enough to experience bad luck. It's nice in the fact that there's always someone about in the same boat, so you're not totally alone, but really shitty too for the obvious reasons. Sometimes it's when you're least expecting it too. I know it was for ourselves - just under a year of trying when we finally got our positive and it was just the week prior when I'd gotten a negative test that I insisted we take a break!
I don't think you can ever predict babies, right from the time of conception up until they're 18 😆 hope you're feeling a bit better today sweet x

So so easy and the Internet is lethal!
I'm going to fall into a eurovision pit until the weekend and just live my best life haha until the trying starts again!

A Eurovision pit sounds lovely ❤️

I tested again this morning. There’s a second line on Easy@Home which I’ve only seen once when I was pregnant, but it’s REALLY faint and doesn’t have much colour. I’m pretty sure I checked it on time - was also showering the toddler.

Don’t suppose anyone wants to pee on an E@H for me and see if you can always see where the second line should be?! But I’m sure I’ve never noticed it before.

AI’m worried that it’s given me false hope… I’m 10dpo today. By this point with my son, I had a really strong positive 🥴

This sounds really positive! 🤞🤞 if it helps with my DS I didn't get a positive until 16dpo! So you never know!
You going to test tomorrow?!

Hi ladies, please can I join you? Also a while TTC no 2 after not even really trying for no 1... Feeling incredibly lucky to have my daughter, but this is my first time going through the rollercoaster of emotions each month, from positive hopeful days to pessimistic down days thinking 'this is never going to happen' - so nice to find a thread for those in the same boat.

Anyhoo I am 5DPO this cycle and the TWW is killllllllling me...

Welcome!
Sorry to hear you're struggling ttc #2 🤞 for this month for you!

@Eatsleepbakerepeat thank you so much! crossing fingers for everyone...

Just wish the days would hurry up in the TWW!

So you should. Curl up on the sofa with a bunch of snacks and treat👏🏻your👏🏻self👏🏻 hopefully you'll be nice and relaxed ready for the next cycle!

It sounds crazy (that's because I am), but when I was unsure, I went onto the Amazon photo reviews for the easy@home to see if I was imagining it 😶

Like @Eatsleepbakerepeat, I didn't get a positive until late either. For me it was week after my period was due - I tested the day it was due and got absolutely nothing!

@2BabyOrNot2Baby Thats genius!

Finally home from a crazily long day at work. Line is still super, super faint; but it’s there if you look at the test from the right angle. No real colour to it. I can’t remember if it had more this morning…. I took another one when I got home but that’s properly negative, no sign of the other line at all. I’m not sure if that’s good or bad at this stage!

I’ve got a huge collection of tests from all the ovulation packs I’ve bought, so the urge to use them is strong all the time 😆

Hope you’re all doing okay tonight x

Hi all,
Hope you don’t mind me jumping into this thread . I know how much of an emotional rollercoaster this all can be, and hope you’re all holding up ok ❤️
TTC baby number two. I am 13dpo today and stupidly I know, decided to test at 1800 this evening. I feel I can def see a line but worried it is an indent /evap ? Will test again in the morning I think. Any thoughts welcomed xx

@YouveGotAFastCar ah sometimes it's so hard to tell as the line isn't in the same place across all brands, I had to figure out a way to tell when I started using easy@home 🤣 10dpo is still relatively early so that could explain tonight's test. I'd try with fmu again in the morning. I know how you feel, I bought the big box of them (secretly hoping I was jinxing myself and wouldn't need that many - ha!) and it's sooo tempting not doing them when in the TWW!

@newmum202 Hello, everyone is welcome over here! Forgive me, my line eyes are absolutely awful but I feel like I am seeing something really faint! Try again in the morning and keep us updated!

Welcome to everyone joining this week 👋 I’m sorry we’re all struggling with TTC #2 but hope this thread bring some positives for everyone soon! Everyone is very supportive here and definitely gets it.
I’m waiting for ovulation and finding this week is flying by, funny when the TWW lasts approximately 7,000 years!