CD1 ttc after loss carry on thread #3

[Ladyinpink1]

I went to reply and you were right, the thread was full so I couldnt post a link to a new thread, also, because it's a new thread it wont give me a prediction to tag when I type a name, so I have just copied and paste the names off of everyone who posted on the very last page of the thread, I hope anyone else can find it OK. Sorry, maybe there is an easier better way... if anyone else can remember extra names and spellings, please tag 🙂

@samilicious

@Wise0wl

@ThelastRolo20

@13lucy

@Bugdem123

@HerbaceousPerennial

Well my 'period' lasted a day and a half! I've been reading online that's not unusual after surgical management so I'm hoping it's all normal. Really hope my cycle is more normal this month. I have no idea when I'll ovulate as usually its day 15 but was day 13 last cycle. Had no cm last month either which I normally get leading up to ovulation. I'm CD3 now so just on my bike doing some exercise and trying to have lower sugar in my diet. Also started taking the coq10 but I know that doesn't take effect for a few months.

I'm such a home bird, even in paris I felt out my comfort zone! 😂i like to see different parts of the world, but hate not being able to understand what people are saying to me.

@samilicious oh my goodness 3rd redundancy that must be hard for you both. Job searching is horrrrible. I hope he finds something quickly. Have you got a holiday planned? I had 3.5 years of therapy and it was amazing I loved being able to understand myself better. Those introspective skills you learn in therapy stay with you so I don't see why journalling can't have the same sort of effect.

@UrsulaSings123 mine was about 2 and a half days and it was noticeably lighter too but at times a bright red/pink colour. Was yours similar? I think it is normal from what I've read.

@ThelastRolo20 mine are regular too, but then I start thinking, what if ovulation is later this cycle... Will do a couple of extra days just incase lol.
Oh lovely, funny how we spend more on our kids than ourselves. I'm sure you can't wait, it's lovely to be abroad, your eggs will be happy too x

That all sounds like a good plan, relaxation is good for you @samilicious I'm sorry about dh job, but getting him out from under your feet will definitely help in your being relaxed, in the meantime be sure to give him lots of chores for his free time 🙂. I used to get loads for a good week through my cycle but it's seemed to be a bit less lately. Oh yes dh is off work still this week so it's been quite convenient for dtd x

That was definitely good you having to check, @moosey89 I had to count on my fingers to work mine out (trying to avoid my app too lol) Asia would be lovely. I think Switzerland would be amazing, I always see pictures of it on Instagram with the scenery it looks like paradise. Yes the lottery is a must. Next week isnt far off now for you x

@jellyfish2 My normal period only usually lasts a few days with spotting for a day after, so I'd say this one was less than half the length it usually is. It was more like dark red/brown, there was no bright red blood like there usually is for me. My friend said her period was similar after and she assumed it was because they'd removed the lining there was nothing much to come out. Hopefully this cycle will let the lining build up again.

@moosey89 if you ever visit Asia, Japan is the best! The culture is fascinating (old and new) plus the people put all other nations' manners and hospitality to shame. Took a 6 week sabbatical in 2019 with a friend, highly recommend if possible at any point. A lot of people doing it now with kids but not sure I could.

@ThelastRolo20 haha! Yeah not ideal. What dog do you have?

@UrsulaSings123 I deffo need to cut down on sugar too, it's my biggest vice. Consume it in crazy quantities. Can we support each other weaning off it 😂 Thank you for the positivity about journaling and therapy too! Just need to make time to journal now. Yes going to Turkey to a nice 5* place we've been to a few times, pretty reasonably priced and well know where everything is 😂 are you going away again any time soon? I'm a home bird too! Taurus through n through. I fear my lining never recovered but had scans since to say it all looks normal. Bloody surgical management. Either they leave a load behind or practically scoop your brains out

@Ladyinpink1 maybe DH being off will do the trick this time and being more relaxed! Thank you ♥️ oh yes, painting the step today 😂

Ugh seriously f**k symptom spotting.

Checked my CD and AF isn't due for another week, but got EXTREME PMS, been having weird dreams and can't bear the thought of a drink at the gig I'm going to later 🫠

@samilicious fingers crossed those are all good signs! What gig are you going to?

I have a neurotic jack Russell cross 😂

Hi everyone - hope you're all doing ok? I took a bit of a break as was finding it all a bit overwhelming, particularly with lots of pregnancy news both online and in real life! I feel really bad for struggling with it but I'm hurting a lot inside and have been feeling delicate.

My temperature dropped overnight and I could really feel my hormones change which I find triggering from the miscarriage. As a result I had a terrible sleep and lots of sadness and racing thoughts. I'm starting to wonder if this will ever happen for us and regretting waiting longer before starting to try which I know isn't helpful!

I'm now onto my fifth cycle post miscarriage and I really thought I would be pregnant again by now - it baffles me how you can time everything, DTD so many times and still nothing!

The good news is that my ultrasound went ok, but I'm still paranoid that something is wrong and wondering how long I should wait before paying to see a specialist.

Going to get back into running much more this cycle, as if I'm not getting pregnant without running, I may as well run again! 🙃

@13lucy we have had a lot of positives come up recently which can be hard to handle, everyone understands and a break can be really helpful.

I know what you mean about why isn't it working! I've picked up running too - I had two MMCs when I didn't exercise as much, so may as well do it again 😂

@samilicious Ooh, from a few days after ovulation I had crazy dreams (one of them was a dream of a positive test) with my last pregnancy. So I hope it's a good sign for you.

Hi @13lucy i'm sorry you havent been having an easy time 💜. we were all chatting about this recently that the pictures of bfp tests and announcements are difficult, it's definitely normal to feel that way and you have to look after your own mental health.
And I can definitely relate to feeling so frustrated and not understanding why it's not happened, so again, you aren't alone, like others on here, my dh and i have tracked and done bbt and timed it perfectly since August's loss, and still nothing, so trying the "relaxed" thing this cycle. How are you finding running? x

I am a bit confused guys, I have had a positive opk at cd 12 the last few cycles, so we have dtd lots this week as i assumed i would ovulate yesterdayish, but today I am (counts on fingers lol) cd14 and I have got even more ewcm, like alot, so I'm wondering is ovulation delayed. I had steroids so wondering could that have delayed it so I'm tempted to take an opk in the morning because the thought of continuing dtd every day is exhausting just thinking about it lol. I dont sound vety relaxed now, do i 😂 I actually still am alot more chilled than a usual tracking cycle.

How is everyone else getting on?

@ThelastRolo20 thank you - I feel really bad as usual/balanced me would be totally different. I think it just amplifiers my feelings of loss and that someone is wrong with me. Had a bit of a breakdown last night as it's all getting too much!

@Ladyinpink1 it's so tough isn't it, no matter how much you want it, it doesn't happen! Starting to feel left behind and giving up hope on it all.

I haven't actually started running yet as was waiting out the 2WW and now don't fancy running on my period. I'll get back into it next week.

I read my ultrasound results yesterday and my uterine lining was 6.9mm which I think is quite thin for a few days before my period? The GP has marked it all as satisfactory but I feel anxious about it. I looked back to my ultrasounds when I had retained tissue after the miscarriage and the lining was 12mm.

Has anyone had a private consultation just for some reassurance? I'm not even sure where to start or whether to get another GP appointment to discuss. Is it worth getting AMH test or will it cause more anxiety if it's low?

@Ladyinpink1 good that you're feeling more relaxed this cycle. I felt a bit like that when I noticed I didn't know what CD I was on at my ultrasound! I think @moosey89 you said similar? Then cut to being in tears last night because I care so much 😂

Sometimes I get EWCM after ovulation which my FF app doesn't like! Sounds worth doing another OPK. Are you doing BBT this cycle? Hopefully you're there or there abouts so you can have a rest!

@samilicious I've managed to detox a bit from the sugar! I even turned down cake yesterday which is unheard of 😂i know what you mean about finding time, it's too easy to neglect the things that are ultimately probably more helpful than the other things I do with my time (like mindlessly scrolling on Instagram for one!). Its so annoying symptom spotting isn't it, you just can't help but notice if you feel something different. I hope it turns into something for you! Will you be testing at some point?

@13lucy sorry to hear you're feeling so rubbish. I've found positive pregnancy news very difficult as well. When I go on mumsnet at the moment I tend to only come here and look at the miscarriage forum as I can't even handle looking at the excited TTC threads at the moment. How long did it take you to conceive the first time? I've seen a lot of people say it took about the same time again as the first time which doesn't fit in with that whole "you're more fertile in the first few weeks" thing that you always hear that fills you with hope. Its so difficult thinking you've done everything possible and put in a tonne of effort to DTD even when you don't really feel like it, just for it to amount to nothing again. I've also been wondering about going to GP/getting tests for fertility, but am worried it wouldn't be good news and I'd totally lose hope. I'm so torn at the moment. Might leave it another few months and then go along. We wouldn't be able to afford IVF so au naturale is the only way for us.

I'm just going in to my fertile week this week and going to try SMEP. Finding it hard to time when to start DTD every other day because last month I ovulated so early but that's not normal for me. So don't want to start too early and get worn out, but also don't want to leave it too late 😂

@Ladyinpink1 it really is exhausting doing it every day isn't it! We used to DTD every day when we were first together and actually when I was pregnant the first time (was also during covid so not a lot to do 😂) but sooo can't be arsed with that now 😂 did you end up doing an OPK or not?

@ThelastRolo20 aww my first dog love was a jack Russell called Tilly! Sounds weird haha, she was my mum's friend's dog, and her cuteness finally pushed my mum over the line to get us one. What's your dog called? My husband plays in a band so went to see them 😊

@13lucy lovely to see your name pop up! Perfectly normal to feel crap about that stuff. Especially as there seemed a big glut of BFPs all at once, IRL & MN. Glad your test went ok and good idea about running. I've been doing HIIT which I used to hate but love lately with the same logic on not getting preg anyway! I know things are a bit different with you (are you a PCOSer or have I got that mixed up?) but coming away from temping and testing has been a game changer for me, highly recommend. It's so common in surgical management to have lighter flow/shorter cycles after, I don't think it's a "you" thing, I think it's just a recovery from that - the stats that say things are fine immediately after are 100% bullsh*t because everyone I know who's had it is struggling with the same stuff, me included. I think it's good to focus on doing things to thicken it yourself - luckily there's a lot online about it because people have to do it for IVF

@Ladyinpink1 I always think of you and the crazy dreams when I have them! I'm not holding out hope 😅 feel superstitious about it, like if I think I am or test early it will curse me that cycle because I've never tested early and had a BFP. That does sound confusing! I've been DTD when I feel like it, try and do it once or twice a few days after AF ended and when I feel like I get more CM / feel a bit more fertile. Doing it that much is v intense! I get you don't want to miss ovulation but I feel like DTD too much reduces sperm quality / volume so going every day can be counterproductive. I've only ever got a BFP when DTD a couple of times that month and felt really good in myself / healthy without being neurotic about dieting etc. Though less is more isn't working great for me either 😂

Mind you, still feel like I could be healthier in eating/lifestyle habits. Im trying to get my step count up, used to be around 12k a day before I had DD but now I'm lucky if I get 5k steps. And need to stop working so much OT and relax more, start journaling regularly and reading more

@UrsulaSings123 yaaaas on the sugar refusal! I have been scoffing everything the last 24 hours 😂 I've got these little packets of choc rice cakes from M&S which are a great choc replacement. And going to make some trail mix with extra dark choc hoping the nuts will help thicken my lining after my surgical management 😅 on the same wavelength as @13lucy - if I can exercise tomorrow as well that's 2 weeks of 4 workouts a week, a huge record for me! Feel like exercising increasing blood flow will help build it up too

@samilicious well done on all the work outs! Great effort 💪🏻

He's called Rolo - hence my username 😂

Just because this thread can (quite obviously) focus on when things aren't going quite right for us I thought I'd share some more positive vibes! I picked up my running again only 4 weeks ago and since then have taken 4 mins off my 5km time and did it today in 27.5 minutes 💪🏻

Anyone else want to share something nice from this weekend? X

@UrsulaSings123 it's really hard isn't it. My original due date is a week away and it's bringing up the emotions and grief again. I just feel so far behind where I want to be and every month that goes by my hope fades a little more.

It was hard to say how long it took first time round as we weren't really trying for a while. I wasn't feeling particularly ready (funny to reflect on now) and so wasn't tracking anything/mostly avoiding fertile window.

My periods then stopped for a few months (think due to both physical and mental stress) and I was under investigation with the GP. At this point I started tracking and fell pregnant before my follow up with the GP. I ovulated around CD100 😂but unfortunately ended MMC which completely broke me but I realised how much I wanted to become a parent. So quite an odd story and it's why I always feel there's something wrong with me!

How long have you been trying? Sounds like a good idea to give it a few more months and then speak to a GP. Luckily mine has done quite a few tests already and everything seems normal but she said if I don't conceive in another couple of months to book another appointment.

I know what you mean with DTD getting exhausting! My cycles are irregular but mostly on the longer side and I get a few bouts of EWCM before ovulating. We tend to do every 3 days and then move to every other until it gets close!

@samilicious irregular cycles but not PCOS, still no answer why though! So going to go back to running 3 or 4 times a week because it's been far too long and nothing changes. I really hope it is just my body getting back to normal but I do worry about my decision to get surgery. I had retained tissue but wonder what would have happened if I waited for my period. So many ifs and buts! Good that you're doing well with running!

@ThelastRolo20 well done to you too!

@13lucy I had surgery and also a full natural miscarriage and my recovery has been exactly the same, my first period after was also the same. There's pros and cons with every decision we make but we do the best with the information available ❤️ try not to make things harder for yourself by doubting the decision that was best for you at that time x

@13lucy I'm sorry your lining thickness isn't what you expected,ri'm afraid I don't really have any advice because I still haven't had investigative tests so don't know what is normal or not.
But I think if you have worries, checking in to see if the GP could refer or do anything to help might be good. couldnt help to ask? I'm with you on that, when on your period chocolate and movies are all you feel like. No, not doing bbt or anything else this cycle... I have been doing bbt for a long time now so it so it's been a big change but all OK x

Well done for turning down the cake @UrsulaSings123 I am very impressed 😊 Yes dtd everyday is just too much, did an opk and it was negative so I'm going to assume I already ovulated, so weird not knowing anything x

Aw the dreams! @samilicious I hope they are a sign of something but I understand not wanting to get your hopes up. When is af due? x

@ThelastRolo20 well done for improving on your running time so quickly. I don't have anything to report except I have been eating terribly still not started being good yet, so tomorrow I'm definitely going to start being good, loose some weight and get my summer body ready so feeling good about that (typing this as I finish some chocolate and dolly mixtures 🤣 ) x

I'm sure some of you will remember my sil had announced her pregnancy last year. Now my other sil has just announced hers to the family. And the feeling is tough isn't it. I am really fond of them both and get on with both of them well and so happy for them but at the same time it really hurts my heart.
And it frustrates me again how people who haven't had a loss just don't have a clue or an understanding of how others feel. Ok rant over, hope everyone else had a nice weekend x

@Ladyinpink1 sending you lots of love, pregnancy announcements are so, SO hard, especially when you can’t escape them (it’s possible to take a break from seeing friends, more difficult with family!) x

@Wise0wl I had all these feelings instantly and there is noone in my real life I would talk to about them because I dont think anyone would understand, so I just wanted to come straight on here and I actually feel better now just from typing it out and then you validating me, so thank you 💜 They do live far away actually so we wouldn't see eachother in person much, but yes that would be even tougher if they were close by xx