1dpo - Anyone want to join during the two week wait?

[Ella31]

Hi all, currently 1dpo. Hoping for a lucky month. I lost my twin boys a few months ago at 29 weeks due to TTTS. Two days before this I had a beautiful scan and two perfect babies - only 6 weeks away from c-section. And two days after my scan - our world fell apart. I had no movement and all of a sudden, I was told one of my babies had no heartbeat and then four days later, we had to remove life support from his twin brother as he was so ill. My sons were beautiful, visually perfect babies who were so unlucky. I miss them terribly.

So Here I am 1dpo and hoping for the best. Would love the support from any other hopeful ladies and in turn I'll support ye too. Much luck to us all 😀

@2BabyOrNot2Baby thank you, yes a room to myself in a Hilton with dinner and room service breakfast (all funded by work) was a nice little luxury but the only downsides were that it was only 1 night and I had to get up early to attend a conference 🤣 but beats being in the office or working from home!

My first miscarriage and second mc , it took 8 weekd for ovulation to come. I never had a period with the second because I got pregnant with the boys.

Don't worry about your period. What you want to watch is ovulation....so keep doing your testing. Your period will come either way and it might be different to your cycles before so don't be worried.

I'm doing good. I had accupuncture again today and I can see a real difference I'm my mood and cycle. I think I'm going to ovulate earlier going by ny opks and cm so fingers crossed

Just to add you will ovulate before your period. You have to. The only thing is, you may skip an ovulation and period but you will definitely ovulate brfore your period so don't worry.

Certainly different to the usual isn't it! How wonderful, hope you got a lovely meal and a nice night's rest (despite the early morning!)

Here's something I thought I'd share with you...whilst I was away with work my partner was on phone to her mum and they were talking about jobs (my partner is a teacher and contract finishes in the summer so she's currently applying for other jobs) when her mum goes "have you thought about fostering? It's good money"

When she told me this I raised an eyebrow....firstly you shouldn't go into fostering for the money and secondly we literally had a miscarriage last week and she's well aware we are trying to have a baby 🤔🤨 what a strange thing to suggest I thought!

Unfortunately @CadoAvoI know somebody who actually did adopt her own grandchild as they received money for doing so 🤨 I can't imagine a world where I'd be happy or even comfortable enough to do that! Sadly it's just seen as us 'being soft' though!
If you'd foster then that is also great but I completely understand wanting 'your own' baby. I had the questions of 'well wouldn't you want to foster/adopt instead?' which did nothing but make me feel so guilty.

Doing it for money is absurd, it's like the people who purposely have more kids than they can handle, in order to get financial aid, and stay out of work. You can't use children for profit 😟

Also I hope the question didn't upset you or your wife too much. Pay no mind to silliness x

@2BabyOrNot2Baby totally agree. And in our situation right now it just wouldn't work. It wouldn't be fair to a foster child if we were then to have a baby. And selfishly, if we did have our first baby then I'm not sure how I'd feel about a foster child being around, especially if they had additional medical or behavioural needs, it wouldn't be fair to them. My partner has lots of experience of working with kids (mostly teens) in care so is something we would -maybe- consider in the future however just thought the comment from her mum was a bit tasteless given our recent loss. My best friend actually does fostering, he doesn't rate it and claims the money is poor when you compare it to what you actually have to do and how much it impacts their life and family. Although they currently have a 17 year old who struggles with respect amongst other things. I can't imagine that's easy at all!

@2BabyOrNot2Baby no didn't upset me but is quite on brand for her speaking before she thinks 🤪 I just thought it was so odd since it's not even been 2 weeks since we were informed we had lost our pregnancy 🥸

Ah she's probably sitting here now quizzing herself on why she even said it 😅 yeah I imagine it would be quite difficult, especially with teens. I don't even know if I'd be able to do it. After son was born I was so convinced that I'd never love anyone else as much as I love him and was adamant I wasn't having another baby 😶 I still feel guilty about that even now (just to clarify, I've now realised I would love his sibling equally, I'm just an emotional wreck), so as awful as it sounds, I really don't think I could do it. Completely fair what you've said, I think that's sensible. Like you say, could possibly be an option in future. Now definitely isn't the time to consider.

I did wonder about the money part though. Surely it wouldn't be that much when you've got a whole other person's expenses to pay. Kids aren't cheap, and then there's always an unexpected expense waiting to pop up too.

Hope you're doing alright and have a nice weekend planned!

Should I be concerned/excited? This is the same test, same urine but taken an hour apart. First pic was taken after 5 minutes as per the instructions. But I left it in the bathroom as felt like it hadn't finished developing, forgot about it and came back an hour later and looks much darker. Should I disregard it as it was read after the 10 minute window or do you think this is the start of something? I'll test again after my next wee.

They do get darker the longer you leave unfortunately. I could be wrong but I definitely think if your preg tests are still positive, the opks are too. When I was pregnant that was the case. Hope I'm wrong though. Your ovulation will come back. Your hcg just has to drop significantly

@Ella31 how are you? Nearly your fertile week?
im CD7 and my OPKs have started to get a little darker already this cycle. It didn’t start until cd10 last 2 cycles.

@Ella31 yeah I did think there's nothing to them when looked at outside the timeframe.
The good news is my pregnancy test this morning was a stark negative and I've had 2 positive opks today, both taken within the time frame so looks like this weekend might be it. So just getting ready to go meet our donor 🥳

Amazing 🥰🥰🥰 fingers crossed for you

Good luck @CadoAvo!! 🍀

How's everyone doing?

Thank you. I'm doing good. I actually feel quite positive now about getting the ball rolling again since the mc. As much as it's a bit sad to start again and feels like time is wasted, there's nothing I can do about that now. I know it's unlikely I will get a BFP in 2 weeks, but I'm feeling optimistic about things in general so that's good 😊 how are you?

@CadoAvo
Hopefully it'll be a fresh start for you and things happen soon and smoothly. Really nice that you're feeling good about things 😊

A bit here and there. Took a test this morning (10dpo) and I'm convinced what I seen was just an evap or indent. I did take a picture of it because I wasn't able to sit staring at it for too long and didn't want to come back to it past the time frame 😆
Trying to not get too hung up on it though. I have been so, so hungry today so I do think AF will be appearing soon.

I don't see any colour to it so not hopeful this time 🙃

@2BabyOrNot2Baby ahhh it's so difficult isn't it. I think I could maybe see something on the inverted photo. Have everything crossed for you! When I was testing out my miscarriage I thought I had a negative a couple days ago but when you wiggle it around in the light I thought I could see a line and then couldn't find it again. Luckily my BFP last time wasn't as tricky but I still didn't believe it. Line eyes are a real thing, you can go square looking at them all day 🤣

Right! I do feel like I see it in that one, but still more convinced I'm not pregnant than anything else. Next month is a new opportunity! It truly does feel like another wasted month though. Just have to keep reminding myself that it takes time! I don't even have good line eyes so I think I try extra hard to see something 🤣 I am glad I had to leave it earlier, as I couldn't be tempted to look in different lights and such lol

@CadoAvo good luck!

Well, as of tomorrow I'll be back in the TTW.

Really want to not symptom spot & obsess as it's not mentally been doing me any good at all

Wishing you lots of luck! X

@Ncl31 thank you ☺️

@narwhalsarereal me too, will be 1DPO tomorrow 🤞🏼