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Ella31 · 2024-01-28T00:39:55+00:00

Hi all, currently 1dpo. Hoping for a lucky month. I lost my twin boys a few months ago at 29 weeks due to TTTS. Two days before this I had a beautiful scan and two perfect babies - only 6 weeks away from c-section. And two days after my scan - our world fell apart. I had no movement and all of a sudden, I was told one of my babies had no heartbeat and then four days later, we had to remove life support from his twin brother as he was so ill. My sons were beautiful, visually perfect babies who were so unlucky. I miss them terribly. So Here I am 1dpo and hoping for the best. Would love the support from any other hopeful ladies and in turn I'll support ye too. Much luck to us all 😀

BabyBorn · 07/04/2024 11:16

Hi ladies,

I'm out as started spotting yesterday afternoon and full on heavy period today. This cycle my LP has improved significantly and was 14 days this cycle which I am very pleased about. Must definitely be down to cutting down on my breastfeeding. Hopefully in the next 6 months it will happen for us.

So sorry @CadoAvo what you are having to go through. I hope you get the support you need 🫂 xx

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Ella31 · 07/04/2024 15:12

CadoAvo · 07/04/2024 02:47

@Ella31 thank you for the link, I've put the thread on watch and I've had a look at the Tommys website but still feel a bit in limbo until we have had it confirmed.
As in I feel like my partner isn't quite there in giving me the support I need. I'm actually finding her quite selfish at the moment and that's not something I ever really consider her to be. She's been complaining of a sore neck recently and on Thursday night she asked me for a neck massage. Hours after I'd passed the pregnancy, which she seen. I gave it to her as otherwise I wouldn't hear the end of her sore neck. Then last night she asked me for another and I said no and she called me mean. Then today she was going to the supermarket, firstly she tried to get me to come with her, I said no, then she attempted to bribe me with "I'll buy you chocolate" like I'm a child. I refused. Then when she was making a list she asked what yoghurts I wanted and before I could even answer she said "and not the milkybar ones" (my fave haha) because "we should try to be healthy" which we are trying to eat better in general but dammit just buy me some nice treats to eat.
I really do love her but I've recently struggled with emotional support she provides, or lack thereof. And we spoke about this before the miscarriage. I do think maybe she is struggling in her own way with the loss, she is more of a "get up and go" person but also she's not the one physically going through it - which I don't blame her for not having the experience but I guess I thought being married to a woman meant they were a bit more emotionally in tune 😅

@2BabyOrNot2Baby yeah I know I need to talk to her. I've got so many thoughts in my head all the time but can never seem to say things out loud. This is always something I've struggled with, I've been a lone wolf/independent woman my whole life which stems from my lack of emotional support received in childhood (wow this is getting deep).

My partner is off on annual leave this week coming up, I was supposed to be back at work on Monday but will be taking the week off sick but I'm not sure I can cope with being holed up in the house but I don't really want to particularly go anywhere or have anywhere else to go. I'd love to check into a hotel for a couple of nights 😂

@CadoAvo I've had the worst arguments with my husband due to loss. I love hom more than anything but when it's your body going through all this, I think the other partner doesn't realise how out of control you feel when your body is going through he'll.

Would you write down what you feel and see could you speak to her that way. She's still the person you love just not giving you the emotional support you need right now.

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Ella31 · 07/04/2024 15:13

BabyBorn · 07/04/2024 11:16

Hi ladies,

I'm out as started spotting yesterday afternoon and full on heavy period today. This cycle my LP has improved significantly and was 14 days this cycle which I am very pleased about. Must definitely be down to cutting down on my breastfeeding. Hopefully in the next 6 months it will happen for us.

So sorry @CadoAvo what you are having to go through. I hope you get the support you need 🫂 xx

@BabyBorn I think I'm right behind you. I expect af to rock up today. 10dpo bfn sadly.

Did you do anything to increase your lp

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Ella31 · 07/04/2024 15:15

IBegYourBiggestPardon · 05/04/2024 18:05

I don't know if it's just a fluke, but since going gluten free. My periods have become regular. I too have PCOS I did go on metformin for about a year which regulated them and I did fall Pregnant but miscarried 5 times. I stopped taking the metformin and my periods were all over the place again, right up until jul last year when I completely eliminated wheat and gluten out of my diet and they've been bang on ever since.

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I find that really interesting. My cycle seems to have regulated but it's much later after my loss like I'm ovulating on day 20 now.

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Beanie14 · 07/04/2024 16:41

Super behind on the chat.
Sorry about the BFN and AF, girls our time will come. I’m CD6 again now on cycle 4.
@CadoAvo im so sorry for your loss! It’s so hard to know what to say as a partner but going through a loss is so difficult and deffo need emotional support, can you express this to her? Thinking of you! You deffo need some time off and maybe a little trip away to distract yourself.

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Ella31 · 07/04/2024 19:32

Beanie14 · 07/04/2024 16:41

Super behind on the chat.
Sorry about the BFN and AF, girls our time will come. I’m CD6 again now on cycle 4.
@CadoAvo im so sorry for your loss! It’s so hard to know what to say as a partner but going through a loss is so difficult and deffo need emotional support, can you express this to her? Thinking of you! You deffo need some time off and maybe a little trip away to distract yourself.

Girls, so I've found myself in an absolute mess today. 10dpo and bfn. Period usually comes at 10dpo no sign of it. I've cried all day.

Do I need to give myself a shake. It's only cycle 4 technically but obviously it's 5 months since my boys died and I've been worrying constantly it won't happen for me. I've no doubt women who have struggled a lot longer would want to slap me right now. My face is stinging from crying at this point.

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Ella31 · 08/04/2024 09:18

Beanie14 · 07/04/2024 16:41

Super behind on the chat.
Sorry about the BFN and AF, girls our time will come. I’m CD6 again now on cycle 4.
@CadoAvo im so sorry for your loss! It’s so hard to know what to say as a partner but going through a loss is so difficult and deffo need emotional support, can you express this to her? Thinking of you! You deffo need some time off and maybe a little trip away to distract yourself.

@CadoAvo how are you today? Wishing you strength for your appointment.

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CadoAvo · 08/04/2024 14:22

@Ella31 hi, thank you for checking and sorry you're still getting a BFN.
Appointment at EPU confirmed what I suspected, I've had a miscarriage. The good news is it's complete so don't need any medical management so I'm really glad about that. The midwife was so lovely and overall can't complain about the care at EPU. My wife and I had a cry about it in the car but generally we are okay. We also had a big chat yesterday about things we have been feeling so was good to get that all out in the open. I'm sure I'll have up and down moments but I've taken the rest of the week off work and right now I feel okay. I'm just glad we have the answer and can now work towards moving on. In terms on TTC we will probably get back to it asap as don't want to lose anymore time. 🩷

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Ella31 · 08/04/2024 15:08

CadoAvo · 08/04/2024 14:22

@Ella31 hi, thank you for checking and sorry you're still getting a BFN.
Appointment at EPU confirmed what I suspected, I've had a miscarriage. The good news is it's complete so don't need any medical management so I'm really glad about that. The midwife was so lovely and overall can't complain about the care at EPU. My wife and I had a cry about it in the car but generally we are okay. We also had a big chat yesterday about things we have been feeling so was good to get that all out in the open. I'm sure I'll have up and down moments but I've taken the rest of the week off work and right now I feel okay. I'm just glad we have the answer and can now work towards moving on. In terms on TTC we will probably get back to it asap as don't want to lose anymore time. 🩷

I'm so sorry but I'm relieved it was a complete miscarriage and not further prolonged for you. Cry cry cry. It helps. And i tried straight away and I did conceive my late twins. So there is always hope.

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Ncl31 · 08/04/2024 18:26

CadoAvo · 08/04/2024 14:22

@Ella31 hi, thank you for checking and sorry you're still getting a BFN.
Appointment at EPU confirmed what I suspected, I've had a miscarriage. The good news is it's complete so don't need any medical management so I'm really glad about that. The midwife was so lovely and overall can't complain about the care at EPU. My wife and I had a cry about it in the car but generally we are okay. We also had a big chat yesterday about things we have been feeling so was good to get that all out in the open. I'm sure I'll have up and down moments but I've taken the rest of the week off work and right now I feel okay. I'm just glad we have the answer and can now work towards moving on. In terms on TTC we will probably get back to it asap as don't want to lose anymore time. 🩷

I’m so sorry to hear this news. Im
pleased you and your wife have each other to support. Good news that it’s complete and you need no further intervention though.
sending hugs

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Ella31 · 09/04/2024 08:48

Af arrived this morning at 12dpo. Cycle 5 here we come.

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Beanie14 · 09/04/2024 12:39

@Ella31 im so sorry :(
sending you some much needed hugs 🤗

2BabyOrNot2Baby · 09/04/2024 13:15

I'm sorry @CadoAvo. I'm glad you and your wife managed to talk about things, hopefully that makes the healing process a little easier for you both. Sending love 💖

Oh I'm sorry @Ella31 it's so rough isn't it :( delay is not denial, you'll get your BFP!

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Ella31 · 09/04/2024 13:18

Beanie14 · 09/04/2024 12:39

@Ella31 im so sorry :(
sending you some much needed hugs 🤗

Thanks @Beanie14 I'm weirdly ok today. Lp was 11 days , period on 12 which is a 2 day increase for me. I've also started vitamin b complex today and will do smep.

How are you?

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Ella31 · 09/04/2024 13:18

2BabyOrNot2Baby · 09/04/2024 13:15

I'm sorry @CadoAvo. I'm glad you and your wife managed to talk about things, hopefully that makes the healing process a little easier for you both. Sending love 💖

Oh I'm sorry @Ella31 it's so rough isn't it :( delay is not denial, you'll get your BFP!

Thanks so much. I got vit b complex for this month. How are you?

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CadoAvo · 09/04/2024 13:19

@Ella31 @Ncl31 thank you for your kind words. I felt pretty okay yesterday, I let my family and friends know what happened as I decided I felt like I needed it to be out there and not suffer in silence. Today I've woken up a bit more fragile and have yet to get out of bed but I'm in good company with my wife and the dog ☺️

Sorry to hear AF has arrived Ella, it's so cruel 😔

CadoAvo · 09/04/2024 13:20

2BabyOrNot2Baby · 09/04/2024 13:15

I'm sorry @CadoAvo. I'm glad you and your wife managed to talk about things, hopefully that makes the healing process a little easier for you both. Sending love 💖

Oh I'm sorry @Ella31 it's so rough isn't it :( delay is not denial, you'll get your BFP!

Thank you lovely 💞

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Ella31 · 09/04/2024 13:30

CadoAvo · 09/04/2024 13:19

@Ella31 @Ncl31 thank you for your kind words. I felt pretty okay yesterday, I let my family and friends know what happened as I decided I felt like I needed it to be out there and not suffer in silence. Today I've woken up a bit more fragile and have yet to get out of bed but I'm in good company with my wife and the dog ☺️

Sorry to hear AF has arrived Ella, it's so cruel 😔

@CadoAvo I told everyone who asked after my first loss so I'm really glad you have shared.

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Ella31 · 09/04/2024 13:34

Ladies I just noticed we're close enough to the 40 page limit on this. Said I'd just put up a post. Anyone who'd like to continue this journey could you thank this post and at page 38 I'll link people in a new thread. Lol I'm a teacher by profession so of course I'm getting organised in advance 😅🤣

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2BabyOrNot2Baby · 09/04/2024 13:38

Ella31 · 09/04/2024 13:18

Thanks so much. I got vit b complex for this month. How are you?

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I'm doing okay, thank you.

It's still a bit of a weird one, currently CD25, premoms predicted ovulation date was the 5th but I think I'm coming up to my peak now so last months cycle really did throw everything off..

I did have a little bit of a mental setback with people suggesting I may not be able to have another baby due to my ongoing back problems. Not sure on the relevance there, maybe suggesting it'll be difficult for me to carry? I don't know, but it does sting a little more when actively trying and not getting anywhere 🙃 of course I'd never say this to them, instead I'll just grumble quietly and carry on POAS until it gets me somewhere.

That's great news in regards to your LP and good call with the vit. B complex! Did you find accupuncture beneficial?

CadoAvo · 09/04/2024 13:38

Count me in for the new thread 😁

2BabyOrNot2Baby · 09/04/2024 13:41

And me! This is my little safe corner of Mumsnet, I don't wanna lose it 🤣

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Ella31 · 09/04/2024 13:48

2BabyOrNot2Baby · 09/04/2024 13:38

I'm doing okay, thank you.

It's still a bit of a weird one, currently CD25, premoms predicted ovulation date was the 5th but I think I'm coming up to my peak now so last months cycle really did throw everything off..

I did have a little bit of a mental setback with people suggesting I may not be able to have another baby due to my ongoing back problems. Not sure on the relevance there, maybe suggesting it'll be difficult for me to carry? I don't know, but it does sting a little more when actively trying and not getting anywhere 🙃 of course I'd never say this to them, instead I'll just grumble quietly and carry on POAS until it gets me somewhere.

That's great news in regards to your LP and good call with the vit. B complex! Did you find accupuncture beneficial?

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Who on earth is saying that to you. Sorry you have to listen to that. God, I'm honestly horrified at people's nonsense sometimes. I had someone on another thread arguing that I had pcos even though I don't have any symtoms, pregnant 3 times, with my last one a twin pregnancy that I took to almost full term. And as you know it was nothing to do with my body, it was twin condition that took them. I kept saying I don't have pcos and they kept arguing I could have.

Don't listen to the nonsense. I convinced you probably missed your peak. Are you bd every other day this month. I've done two sessions of the accupuncture so I'm waiting to see if it's helping. I think it takes a few sessions apparently.

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2BabyOrNot2Baby · 09/04/2024 14:16

Ella31 · 09/04/2024 13:48

Who on earth is saying that to you. Sorry you have to listen to that. God, I'm honestly horrified at people's nonsense sometimes. I had someone on another thread arguing that I had pcos even though I don't have any symtoms, pregnant 3 times, with my last one a twin pregnancy that I took to almost full term. And as you know it was nothing to do with my body, it was twin condition that took them. I kept saying I don't have pcos and they kept arguing I could have.

Don't listen to the nonsense. I convinced you probably missed your peak. Are you bd every other day this month. I've done two sessions of the accupuncture so I'm waiting to see if it's helping. I think it takes a few sessions apparently.

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Not even anyone remotely close to me! Which I guess on one hand is a good thing because I really wouldn't want that kind of negativity around me, but also, who are you to even comment on it?? It's absolutely bonkers the things some people say (and also don't see an issue in what they're saying)! That's so frustrating, I'm sorry that happened to you! Some people are just plain ignorant and refuse to see things any other way than what is 'right' to them. You know your body better than anybody else!

You mean missed it this cycle or last? I thought I'd missed it this time around again, but my lines have been getting progressively darker over the past 2 days or so which completely threw me off. I'll just keep testing anyways and whatever happens, happens. If I have missed it though I'd rather AF just hurried up so I can 'reset' so to speak. It hasn't been every other day since AF as little one was poorly, so lack of sleep and therefore energy all around 😅 but have been every other day since then.
Do keep me updated! Very interested in it!

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Ella31 · 09/04/2024 14:22

2BabyOrNot2Baby · 09/04/2024 14:16

Not even anyone remotely close to me! Which I guess on one hand is a good thing because I really wouldn't want that kind of negativity around me, but also, who are you to even comment on it?? It's absolutely bonkers the things some people say (and also don't see an issue in what they're saying)! That's so frustrating, I'm sorry that happened to you! Some people are just plain ignorant and refuse to see things any other way than what is 'right' to them. You know your body better than anybody else!

You mean missed it this cycle or last? I thought I'd missed it this time around again, but my lines have been getting progressively darker over the past 2 days or so which completely threw me off. I'll just keep testing anyways and whatever happens, happens. If I have missed it though I'd rather AF just hurried up so I can 'reset' so to speak. It hasn't been every other day since AF as little one was poorly, so lack of sleep and therefore energy all around 😅 but have been every other day since then.
Do keep me updated! Very interested in it!

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I think they were projecting on you with those comments. Back pain is definitely not a barrier so I hope you brushed that comment away.

Getting darker is good to hear. I wonder is your cycle just finding a new rhythm so to speak. Mine has changed after the boys for sure. Yeah ill be very interested to see how the b complex works with the accupuncture. I'm oddly good today, such a relief that af did arrive and a 31 day cycle is regular for me. So we'll see

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