Keeping fingers crossed for you @Lalaland13 .
So lovely to hear from you @VixFromThe6ix, I’m really glad it’s all going well- 21 weeks!! It’s so funny the way time goes. When you’re desperately waiting or hoping for something it feels like you’re stuck in mud whilst everything else races in around you- especially if you don’t feel like you know for certain that you’re ever going to get the thing that you want. Then fast forward to now and your little boy is getting so close so quickly! ♥️
@worldwidetravel2017 I hear what you’re saying. Everything you and your friends have experienced will naturally make you super keen to test, explore and advocate for yourselves. I think sometimes I may have too much faith in the NHS system because I love it so much.
I am also very suspicious of pretty much every company that you pay to receive medical services or tests. I acknowledge that that is inherently unfair, but they are essentially working on a model where you as the customer have a concern or worry, otherwise you wouldn’t be approaching them. Immediately that puts you in a more vulnerable position as a customer. They also have the disclaimer that they aren’t giving medical advice. Quite frankly they don’t have much of a duty of care to you if they find anything wrong and essentially their business model is to make money. You buy more tests, they make more money.
I’ve seen firsthand through and read about private scan companies (as an example) who have treated women who experience loss or receive an unexpected poor diagnosis with very little care and cause a lot of pain, or have no training or plans in place for referral when it’s needed. I’ve seen cord blood collection companies insist that couples pay thousands of pounds when they’ve collected a very small, poor sample of cord blood, aren’t meeting Human Tissue Authority standards when it comes to testing and storage and have no back up plan for those cryogenically frozen samples if they go into administration in the future.
You only have to do a quick Google to find damning reports on IVF clinics pushing more expensive treatments with little to no proven clinical benefit. Yet there are good, sound, ethical examples of all of the above. It’s just so hard when you are the person trying to do everything you possibly can to minimise any pain of future loss, especially when you’ve experienced it before and especially when it’s your health at stake. It’s all just so hard and I just hate that companies can take advantage of us when we are so vulnerable in this way when we’re just trying so hard to crack this fertility/ baby brewing puzzle.
I’m sorry, that was such a random rant. It’s been an emotional day.
Went for my appt today and my colleague thought I was there for infertility. She had a look at my cervix and said it was healthy and just had some ectropian areas. I think I spent about 45 minutes sobbing afterwards. The GP had had such a worried face when she examined me and then the appt came through so quickly when I know how busy our gynae service is I assumed I had been put on the two week cancer wait. Then when they gave me an appt on the 10th when the Tuesday one was cancelled then called back and said to come in today I thought it must be really bad. The treatment may have meant that the baby wouldn’t have been likely to survive so I’ve been trying not to think about that and I think I was more worried than I realised. I can’t tell you what a relief it is to ‘just’ go back to normal ‘can we make it past the 12 week scan?’ worrying 😂