Anyone ttc in 2024 after loss?

[janey125N]

Lost my perfect little baby at the end of October. I was 15 weeks, baby was gone since 13 weeks. Planning to start ttc again in January. I am devastated and finding it hard to cope. Also extremely nervous about being pregnant again. Yet the need to have a living baby in my arms, outweighs the crippling fear. This little baby was my first too.

@Ella31 that's so good that the appointment has helped your anxiety. I'm trying to lose a bit of weight as both my previous pregnancies came 3-4 months after starting to be more healthy! If I can repeat that pattern I could be pregnant around May time again which would be amazing 🤞

@Ella31 I know, they're not exactly hard done by are they!? 😂 poor men

@Hopingrae that's so interesting... altho my opk was positive last night, I haven't had a temp spike on my BBT this morning so it seems I haven't ovulated yet. Did another cheapy opk this afternoon and it wasn't as strong. BF is too tired to DTD so not happening tonight. Hoping we aren't going to miss the boat! I guess we can try again tomorrow...

im Feeling so anxious and irritable I just know I'm going to get my period in a couple of weeks and I am DREADING it I know I'll feel majorly disappointed and upset. I know I'm being quite ridiculous but I just want to be pregnant again as soon as possible. I feel like I can't cope with the disappointment of my period arriving and having to try and time things right to try again next month. Thank you for letting me vent

@Bey it's all so hard going isn't it. This forum is for exactly that, so vent away!! The unknown really sucks, I've said to DH a few times i just want to know what's coming! Sorry if you've said already, is this your first cycle after your loss? I'm waiting for first ovulation after first period and already anticipating a very long two week wait and potential disappointment if next AF arriving. Even though I know what's happened it's hard to believe we're back here again.

@Hopingrae aw thank you for replying. I had a loss 2 weeks ago and we tried just after my scan to confirm all had gone from the miscarriage. I just think we probably missed the time window or o maybe haven't even ovulated at all yet. I just really really do f want AF to arrive 😢 as then that's it this month and it feels such a long time waiting in between. I know I'm being crazy I just want to still be pregnant but obviously I'm not so I just want to be pregnant again. I'm 40 in a few months so really feel time is not on my side.

good luck to you too, it's so frustrating

@Bey I'm 40 in June and feeling very much the same way!
I was hoping to ttc again straight away but ended up bleeding for over 3 weeks and think I must have ovulated in the middle of that as AF arrived a few days after it stopped. I think the very first cycle trying after MC is extra hard as its so full of expectation/desperation to be pregnant again (based on my previous losses). Hopefully we'll all get there in time 🙏

Pregnancy after loss is v hard

I hope so @Hopingrae

@worldwidetravel2017 it is 😞

@Bey , I know there's nothing I can do to ease the anxiety but just hold in there. It will happen. The twi losses I had before my twins had me feeling exactly like that, and then all of a sudden I was pregnant with twins. Don't worry.

Thank you @Ella31 i feel like I'm being ridiculous but I can't help feeling this way

@Bey vent away i'm in a similar boat, driving myself crazy way too early .doing the tww even though I don't even though if I ovulated and we only dtd once but had ewcm so went for it. So part of me is really hopeful as we got bfp with dtd once the last time..and part of me thinks it's unlikely given all that's happens the last few weeks.... Time is going so slow for me

Almost the same as me @Gracie1825 when are you going to test? I'm thinking if period doesn't arrive by 15th I'm going to test, I think it will arrive before then though already feeling pms type symptoms

@Bey I felt like that a couple of months ago. Last month was a lot easier to deal with I found. Hang on in there xx

Thank you @moosey89 hope you get your BFP soon

My plan is too hold off until 16th but we'll see. Since I've not had period if it's faint i won't believe it's a new bfp unless very obvious.
Hopefully the times goes by faster for us and we get the news we hope for x

Let's hope so, they tested me at the hospital on the 2nd and it was negative so am I right in thinking if I do a test on the 15th and it's positive it can't be from my pregnancy loss?
I'm so grateful to be able to talk about this on here.

Yes definitely. I did tests myself and I had a faint positive and then what I thought was negative...I found it the other day and it had a faint line which I'm hoping was evap line but has me second guessing now that's why I need a strong positive

@Gracie1825 keeping my fingers crossed for strong positives on the 16th although I just have a feeling AF will arrive for me before then

I’m really struggling with waiting finished ovulation on Friday been dtd on and off since Monday. I had my miscarriage just before Christmas I don’t no how I’m going to handle waiting to test. My boobs hurt very early on last time and I think they hurt now but I’m worried it’s my mind playing tricks on me.

You aren't being ridiculous at all. I just want you to know it will work out.

It's so hard @christmasmistletoe when will you be ready to test? It's the worst wait ever! I wish there was a way you could just know instantly if it's worked or not! Sending you lots of luck and babydust

Thank you @Ella31 so lovely of you

My af finished up today. First af after my EMCS, total murder scene on day two but gone today. I was always a 3 day AF so that hadn't changed it appears. Kind of excited now as I'll be back tracking with my OPK's tomorrow. Roll on 2 weeks.

@Ella31 you seem more positive today, your an inspiration. glad your cycle is back on track..I really good this is your month

I'm spotting so I think I'm going to get my AF in the next few days feel so gutted still hoping but I think it's VERY unlikely.