TTC after early miscarriage

[RaisingCornishWildlings]

Morning!
So I sadly suffered an early miscarriage at 5w just over a fortnight ago.

We have 3 children already (6,4 and 19m) and I'm 40, hubby 47.

Lovely staff at EPU said crack on again as soon as I'm ready- and not to worry about having a period first.

I've always had pretty irregular cycles anyway and have never tracked ovulation (we have been very lucky and fallen pregnant super easily- and this was my first MC).

I think I have just ovulated (Sunday) which was 14 days since spotting (main bleed from miscarriage was Tues 11, Weds 12 Oct).

My symptoms were bloating on Fri and Saturday, and real drop in mood over the weekend (I've noticed this has happened a few times a couple of weeks before period since cycles started after DD was born), by yesterday my mood was much more stable again. On Sunday I had mild nausea and very mild cramping (more like little twinges).
We DTD Sunday night.

So have fingers crossed that something might have happened!

I noticed yesterday evening and today I'm peeing more than usual but apparently that can be a sign of ovulation too.

I'm going to be a crazy lady symptom
spotting for a fortnight now! Have a cervical screening booked for a week today (wondering if I should cancel it?!)

What's the earliest anyone has had symptoms after DTD that turned out to be early pregnancy? And how many DPO have you got a positive?

@midnights0 whatever you two decide is all that matters ❤️

My current gripe is people staying "maybe you need a longer break this time" after I miscarried back to back....as if getting pregnant again with only one period in-between is the reason it didn't work out (thanks MIL!). Really irritates me as the evidence suggests the opposite! Ah well, we can't control other people's thoughts, only our own

@miamiamia869 thank you! I love hearing of other people similar to us!

@ThelastRolo20 omg! That grips my shit 🥴
Tbh I'm really open with my MC journey after the last one (posted a video sharing our losses) so I know people will make comments. But some comments are so not helpful 😫 'maybe you're just not ready' 'the time wasn't right' 'what's meant to be will be' 'just relax and it'll happen' 'don't even think about it' like stop .... it really winds me up 😂

Hey @midnights0 sorry for your losses and welcome. Definitely not too old. I have friends who had them late 30s and early 40s too. All fine. Life is different these days! In a good way!

@ThelastRolo20 Aw ouch that is hurtful. I actually regret not trying straight away so what can you do 😂

As you say, people say dumb stuff. I have had some corkers but my fave is "it wasn't meant to be" to which I said well we weren't trying- so if it wasn't meant to be then what was it exactly 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Claudiasaz my husband was right I think. He said people are so desperate to give you a reason that they say stuff without thinking about what they're actually saying. The reality is, it can happen on any cycle, to anyone, for any reason. I could have waited a year, I could have not tried, I could have danced naked on a full moon....and the outcome may have been exactly the same.😂

I prefer it when people just say "that's really shit" and move on!

😂😂😂 I am going to dance naked on a full moon my next cycle!

@midnights0 it can't hurt 😂😂 I'll try anything at this point! I'm taking some vitamins whilst having my time out until April (which seems forever away but keep saying to myself it's 3 months tops!) And will take aspirin in my next pregnancy.

What tests are you having done? You said you were being referred? X

@ThelastRolo20 I'm also willing to try anything. Might get DH involved too 😂 if we don't catch this month I think I am going to take some time out till summer, I want to enjoy (last summer I had 2 MC) and not stress if I haven't caught or fear of another mc, I've got a Taylor Swift concert and my bday the same week (the week I mc my 12 week pregnancy last year)

Ive had basic bloods at the gp which came back clear, and he referred me to gynae specialist after the 3rd, which was back in October. after the 4th, the nurse at epu also sent a referral then the gp sent another urgent referral just last week as I hadn't heard anything back (I know wait lists are huge, but they are trying to push it for me, I didn't ask)

The nurse at epu told me to ask gp about progesterone and aspirin, so I made an appt and went down. He has no idea what I was on about. He said he doesn't know why the nurses would tell me to ask him. 🥴 he said he would ring gynae and ask them if there is anything (he) should be doing for me whilst I wait, so I am currently waiting to hear back. Hoping they will give me progesterone.

@midnights0 sounds like you have some lovely plans coming up if you do decide to have a break 😊 it's so hard to decide what to sometimes re breaks isn't it. I think my holiday is helping me make the decision, I wouldn't want to be away, pregnant, and anxious. And if it didn't work out I'd kick myself thinking I should have just waited that extra month

@ThelastRolo20 this is exactly why I don't share pregnancy news early (before 7-8 weeks) with anyone - no one except my husband knows about our losses. They would either just hit us with those wasn't meant to be comments or worse every month they would likely ask if I was pregnant again as they'd know we were trying! It is tough keeping it quiet though.

@mumsince2021 same here. I only told people afterwards when I was seeing them and didn't feel like explaining why I wasn't myself. Surprised me when a couple of people said are you going to try again. It just wouldn't enter my mind to say that to someone who's just MC. But it takes all kinds of people right😂

@midnights0 that would be great if he could help you with something in-between! I have bloods this week to check why I'm having mid cycle bleeding and not been able to convince as have always conceived easily.

I have read up on low progesterone but don't think it's that and can't see why I'd suddenly have that now. So who knows! It's such fun isn't it

@Claudiasaz I'm hoping he will call next week with news! Are you having these tests privately or with the NHS? I've read up on low progesterone too and I seem to have all the symptoms to that!

Fingers crossed for you @midnights0

I went to the GP as they said shouldn't be spotting randomly still. They've been very good to be honest so doing the bloods to check my hormones after o! X

@Claudiasaz I'm really glad they're looking into it rather than just saying "this can be normal". Hoping you get some answers soon ❤️

So DH has been an absolute stress head this evening and I'm feeling really upset by his behaviour. He's already taken himself off to bed in the spare room and I'm still trying to get the youngest to sleep. I very much doubt there will be time or inclination right now! In the morning then that him gone til Friday.next month he's away: feeling desperately sad tonight

@RaisingCornishWildlings oh I'm sorry - TTC really puts pressure on still having sex when you really don't feel like it. Tomorrow morning could well be enough, it's so difficult but you can't really force these things ❤️

@RaisingCornishWildlings ah babe. Why do they do this at the worst times😭🤷🏼‍♀️

As Rolo said, see how you feel tomorrow. Hope you get your evening soon!

@RaisingCornishWildlings my husband often seems to wind me up right around our crucial DTD window a lot of time and I have to hold in my anger until I've got what I need 😅 men sometimes eh? Hopefully things will have improved tomorrow and you can do it then. It's tough having to DTD when your cycle tells you rather than when you're actually in the mood!

Is so frustrating isn't it, when you put in all the hard work with working out timings and POAS etc then they ruin it!
If only we didn't need men!

Hope you've made up today!

I thought I might have a flashing smiley on CBOPK but still a circle (CD 14 after MC) but partly glad as DH is being a grump this week anyway 😝

I keep hearing about low progesterone, I have obviously googled this lol and I seem to have loads of the symptoms. Has anyone had low progesterone tests? I wander if my doctor would even consider it with just one miscarriage as I know they seem to have this magic number of 3 miscarriages before they care. Or has anyone used any at home progesterone tests. I did see one brand of these on the internet, but trying not to become a Dr google over testing obsessive. At the same time seems silly to ignore it and maybe risk more misscarriages if that was the case.

also mine was a missed miscarriage so im not sure if low progesterone would even be the case as i read with low progsterone the wall doesnt build up for egg to attach. I was 12 weeks so it was all attached fine even 6 weeks after it stopped growing it was still attached just no heartbeat.

@miamiamia869 I haven't done tests but what symptoms do you have? I imagine low progesterone would cause spotting mid cycle or short cycles?

@miamiamia869 It is mid cycle spotting and short cycles as Rolo said and also a short luteal phase (9 days or less). So basically your lining wouldn't build up enough to support an egg implanting. I don't think it's my issue as I've had 2 and the 3rd got to the 12 week scan, but equally I don't know what mine could be either and guess everything has changed now😂 will soon find out I hope! X

Forgot to say that is what my test is for bloods to check the right hormones are rising after o. I have had 1 MC but at the time I had mid cycle spotting which for the first month isn't happening now I've been to the Dr 😂🤷🏼‍♀️. And I've always fallen pregnant right away and am on month 4 here, so that's why she wanted to test me. So I don't think you should have to suffer for not having 3 MC. Just be confident in advocating for yourself, you know your body.