TTC after early miscarriage

[RaisingCornishWildlings]

Morning!
So I sadly suffered an early miscarriage at 5w just over a fortnight ago.

We have 3 children already (6,4 and 19m) and I'm 40, hubby 47.

Lovely staff at EPU said crack on again as soon as I'm ready- and not to worry about having a period first.

I've always had pretty irregular cycles anyway and have never tracked ovulation (we have been very lucky and fallen pregnant super easily- and this was my first MC).

I think I have just ovulated (Sunday) which was 14 days since spotting (main bleed from miscarriage was Tues 11, Weds 12 Oct).

My symptoms were bloating on Fri and Saturday, and real drop in mood over the weekend (I've noticed this has happened a few times a couple of weeks before period since cycles started after DD was born), by yesterday my mood was much more stable again. On Sunday I had mild nausea and very mild cramping (more like little twinges).
We DTD Sunday night.

So have fingers crossed that something might have happened!

I noticed yesterday evening and today I'm peeing more than usual but apparently that can be a sign of ovulation too.

I'm going to be a crazy lady symptom
spotting for a fortnight now! Have a cervical screening booked for a week today (wondering if I should cancel it?!)

What's the earliest anyone has had symptoms after DTD that turned out to be early pregnancy? And how many DPO have you got a positive?

@bluebunny2 that sounds tough- sending love and hugs.

My weekend wasn't exactly what we had planned!
Firstly; the little one has had a bad week sleep wise and it turns out she was harbouring Hand Foot and Mouth- luckily she's over that now abs back more or less to her happy self.
Then, oldest comes home very grumpy, tired and out of sorts Friday after school, bit hot, coughing and goes to bed early.
Wakes up just after 6 Saturday morning; then had a coughing fit and came into my room- gasping - and said "Mummy. I. can't. Breathe.
So ended up with an ambulance and a day in hospital.
It was so scary, bless him- and after 3 nebulisers and a dose of steroids he's basically fine now (still a bit under the weather but back to school!).
I'm now watching middle one like a hawk and have said to school to call me any issues at all- as he has a cough and he's normally the one who has these viral wheeze episodes!

@RaisingCornishWildlings sorry to hear your little ones aren’t well that must’ve been scary with the breathing issues.

Hope you are all doing okay here. I’m still riddled with anxiety and crampy so just taking each day as it comes.

Such a shame everyone's having a bit if a rubbish time just now. January is a tough month at the best of times without TTC struggles and other factors. Sounds scary @RaisingCornishWildlings my toddler was sick in the early hours of Saturday and had a fever with fast breathing but thankfully was ok with some paracetamol can't imagine the worry with breathing struggles and a trip to hospital. Hope they are fully recovered soon!

I'm in the 2 week wait but not feeling positive about this cycle as always. Likely testing next weekend. I've got my aunts funeral later this week so definitely a bit of a downer of a month.

We're half way through January now at least and hopefully some more of us will get a BFP in the next month or so 🤞

Sorry to hear everyone’s having a bit of a tough time. @RaisingCornishWildlings hope your DC is doing ok, that sounds scary for you all.

I think I’m on CD1 of my first proper cycle following MMC before Christmas - I say ‘think’ because it’s really light so far, but apparently that’s to be expected for the first period after surgical management? Hopefully it’ll properly get going tomorrow or Wednesday.

It feels like it’s been such a long wait to proper join you on the TTC thread, even though it’s 4 weeks to the day since surgical management, so really it’s the quickest it could’ve been, so I should feel grateful for that, really. But with the waiting between scans before Christmas as well, it’s all felt like a big limbo nothingness. Thankfully with CD1 at least we can focus on getting back to TTC.

💐 to everyone x

@RaisingCornishWildlings that sounds so scary! Hope everyone feels better soon.

January is really being a bit tough all round isn't it. I'm now on countdown until the scan next Monday - this whole process has been so anxiety inducing. Can't wait to finally know an answer one way or the other.

@Cat2022 I hope you're okay, I understand the worry

@RaisingCornishWildlings oh bless you and the poor kids must have been so scary. Glad they are all on the mend and fingers crossed middle one has managed to escape it this time.

@ThelastRolo20 ohh bless you I can't even imagine what a wait you are going through.

I've has just about everything that can go wrong go wrong house wise. Boiler/radiator/car. Just found out yesterday my friend is pregnant obviously delighted for her but the gut wrench you get when you find out even though i feel sooo terrible for feeling that. Never thought I would be that person. But my worse worse pain at the moment had to have my dog put to sleep last night. He was and still is my absolute world. I am broken beyond belief. Recently lost both my nans and then the misscarriafe and it hurts just as much as that. He was my best friend for soo many years. The guilt of doing it, seeing his face is killing me. I know I had too though he has been suffering for a long time. He's been through the mill and was days away from drowning in his own fluid. Cancer, heart failure, liver failure. We done all we could, operations, medications. Kept him longer then the vets advised (that is with 3 second opnions too). I miss him beyond belief and I know this grief is goin to take alot of time. I loved him so much.

It does seem January is not being very kind to any of us. Hope everything starts to brighten up for everyone xx

@miamiamia869 I am so sorry for the loss of your dog, it is utterly heartbreaking and although so difficult you being there in his final moments would have made him at peace - I promise you. I find the phrase "what is grief, if not love persevering" so powerful in these moments. It'll take time for your heart to heal. I'd love to hear more about him if and when you feel up to it ❤️.

We're all human and hearing pregnancy announcements is so tough. I struggle with anyone due in April as that was meant to be my due date also. I still struggle with pregnancy announcements now due to my uncertainty. It feels unfair that people just get to enjoy being pregnant - it's so normal, don't feel bad or guilty.

January can bugger off now I think x

Just catching up as I sit in the doctor waiting room waiting for my smear appointment- what a joy!

@miamiamia869 oh my love, I'm so very sorry to hear about your poor dog. What was is name?

Sending you so much love, it sounds like you've really been through the wringer emotionally.
Take time for yourself and your grief.

@ThelastRolo20 you must be feeling like this is torture- the slowest 2 weeks on record!

Half way through the worst month in the year, things can only get better, right? Xxx

@miamiamia869 aw I'm so sorry about your dog. We had to have ours put to sleep in 2022 and it was awful. Hugs to you.

@ThelastRolo20 I have a lady in my daughter's class due just after me in April. It's so hard having to see her all the time and her bump! I hope when I fall pregnant again it helps with this stuff!

I don't watch it but saw Georgia from TOWIE post something about how she feels after her loss, she had the same as us no heartbeat at 12 w scan. It all resonated with me! Makes me feel better I'm not just a total cow 😂

Hope you're getting through okay, one week down! X

@RaisingCornishWildlings it’s scary when children are that poorly especially when they’re so young, hope they’re all on the mend now and you can get some peace of mind.

@mumsince2021 really sorry to hear about your Aunt, hope the funeral goes as well as can be.

@miamiamia869 Im so sorry about your little dog, I can’t imagine how hard that’s been.. they’re such an important part of the family. Sounds like you’re having a really rough time, sending hugs and hope you’re getting the support you need x

I think I’m about 10 days post ovulation but the progesterone has messed my cycle up a fair bit this time so tbh I have no idea what’s going on… don’t think I’m pregnant though!

@Claudiasaz @RaisingCornishWildlings thanks both. It's going both fast and slow and I still can't decide if there's any hope or not? Surely not considering I'm measuring 1.5-2 weeks behind but then stranger things have happened!

If it's bad news I have positive things lined up to help - meals out/ spa day (to be booked as necessary!)/ Holiday in April/ the largest glass of red wine.

If it's positive, we'll be going out for lunch after the scan so I can decompress (with a glass of water 😂)

Oh @miamiamia869 that sounds rough. This month can totally do one. @RaisingCornishWildlings I really hope your little ones are all feeling better now.

Ive been better the last couple of days as at least the weather cheered up here so I’ve been outside loads which always helps with my mood. I’m somewhere around 10dpo although I feel like I may not even have ovulated this cycle (I often get quite distinctive pain and had very little). No symptoms other than the usual pre period stuff and I know we likely missed the window if it happened anyway so I’m gearing up to give it a good shot next month. Roll on February!

Ohhh thank you all so much for such lovely words. Its crazy how an online support group for something differant can help heal and support in differant issues too. Its actually really nice.

@mumsince2021 sorry to hear of the loss of your aunt.

Hope everyone is doing okay and getting through each day and yes certainly January can do one. Xx

Hi all, I thought I'd join as we'll be TTC#1 soon which I am really really excited for.

I had a CP a few months ago, which brought out a lot of insecurities in that I'm terrified that it'll happen again. It's funny growing up you only hear that once you're pregnant that's it and you will definitely be bringing that baby into the world, I think this is why I found it such a shock when it didn't turn out that way.

Feeling much better about it all now time has passed and I've processed it all, done some private tests and chatted it out. I feel the desire for a baby in every fibre of my being (weird isn't it how it suddenly creeps up on you?!) and no other thoughts could sway me otherwise! I'm sure others can relate
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Welcome @J3llycat . Sorry you are going through this. Yes it certainly is. Before I fell pregnant I was very chilled. We tried for 2 years and I was very much if I can't its not meant to be ect. Until I was carrying my baby, planning life and dreams for my baby. I felt that and it was taken from me and now I look at it in a complete differant way and completely obsessed with it.

@J3llycat welcome totally get that!! X

Do any premom user's have any tips for what the rise is typically like? I have heaps of egg white but still a low reading. So guessing I just have loads of the stuff for days 😂🤦🏼‍♀️ any insights would be great x

@Claudiasaz I get a rapid peak and decline on peak day - nothing before really! Pictures attached. First is off the days leading up to peak with nothing showing and then it starts early morning of peak. Second pics are from later that day. I get the EWCM in the days leading up to it 😊

@ThelastRolo20 thank you!! 😘

@Claudiasaz im sorry I can’t help, I’ve been doing OPKs twice a day for the last 2 weeks, I got my peak 2 evenings ago after days of 0.3-0.5

ive had no other symptoms though and ive not yet seen a consistent rise in BBT so im not sure its right.

ive heard it can be misleading for PCOS so maybe its that

Hi everyone!
I’ve been quiet - haven’t felt the best since my chemical last month ☹️
I had my peak yesterday though so I’m glad my body has gone straight back to normal (CD13!).

How is everyone doing?

I’m being brave and organising my twin sisters baby shower for 2 months time 🥺. She’s due in April, I was due in May 💔.
She’s fully aware and understands I may find it too much and have to hand it over to someone else - it’s so hard 😭.

Praying I’ll have some good luck soon 🥺 x

@Holly0609 hi lovely, nice to hear from you. Taking time out is sometimes the best medicine.

That's so hard with your twin sister, you have to put yourself first so do not feel bad for a moment if you step back. Sounds like she understands ❤️

@Holly0609 also really good your cycles have gone back to normal!

After feeling good all week and being positive at work I've been going down a Google rabbit hole again. I'm definitely preparing myself for bad news on Monday but I suppose I've at least had time to get my head around it if that's the case. I just don't think there's much hope as I'm measuring so far behind

@Holly0609 Aw you're doing amazing. I'm sure she really appreciates it. Hope you're doing okay. Xx

@ThelastRolo20 I think letting yourself have a bit of time to Google or have your worrying time is okay but now leave it and keep busy. Easier said than done I know. Hoping for a really positive appointment on Monday for you. I'm never sure of those scans accuracy on size as both of my girls measured massively and they were big yes but not as huge as they'd said. They're never 100% accurate on those measurements. The heartbeat has to trump anything else especially given the fact there wasn't one the week before . xx

BFN for me this month ladies… I rather suspected it would be seen as I ovulated CD7, but oddly feeling ok about it in comparison to usual xx