TTC after early miscarriage

[RaisingCornishWildlings]

Morning!
So I sadly suffered an early miscarriage at 5w just over a fortnight ago.

We have 3 children already (6,4 and 19m) and I'm 40, hubby 47.

Lovely staff at EPU said crack on again as soon as I'm ready- and not to worry about having a period first.

I've always had pretty irregular cycles anyway and have never tracked ovulation (we have been very lucky and fallen pregnant super easily- and this was my first MC).

I think I have just ovulated (Sunday) which was 14 days since spotting (main bleed from miscarriage was Tues 11, Weds 12 Oct).

My symptoms were bloating on Fri and Saturday, and real drop in mood over the weekend (I've noticed this has happened a few times a couple of weeks before period since cycles started after DD was born), by yesterday my mood was much more stable again. On Sunday I had mild nausea and very mild cramping (more like little twinges).
We DTD Sunday night.

So have fingers crossed that something might have happened!

I noticed yesterday evening and today I'm peeing more than usual but apparently that can be a sign of ovulation too.

I'm going to be a crazy lady symptom
spotting for a fortnight now! Have a cervical screening booked for a week today (wondering if I should cancel it?!)

What's the earliest anyone has had symptoms after DTD that turned out to be early pregnancy? And how many DPO have you got a positive?

@ThelastRolo20 what a whirlwind of emotions for you. That is good news though. Praying for everything to be okay!

My tests are getting stronger and I’ve been ravenously hungry so i’m trying to stay positive that there’s no reason to worry for now.

Oh that’s so good to hear @ThelastRolo20 A strong heartbeat is amazing!

Thank you everyone! I keep swinging between "this probably won't work out" and "this is going to be totally fine"!

It's going to take some time to process as it was a complete 180 today. Will try and keep myself busy for two weeks....easier said than done. Oh god, it's like the TWW all over again 😂

Omg @ThelastRolo20 🥺 SO happy for you!! ❤️

@ThelastRolo20 thats amazing news.
i hope you manage to keep busy and everything continues to progress well for you

This journey really is so hard isn't it. I am 11dpo. Was due on tomorow but app changed it to Saturday when I ovulated late. Had period cramps and heaviness all yesterday evening and through the night so it may well come when it's supposed too tomorow. Just done a test, almost just to confirm the negative so I'm not as upset when af does come and I can start to get over another unlucky cycle quicker. I'm starting to think so negative about it all, like it will never happen. These dark grey cold winter mornings are not helping either lol

@miamiamia869 I'm feeling so over it this cycle too! And I feel like hubby and I are running out of time. I'm so desperate for this last baby but we had said that if if it didn't happen fairly soon, then we would accept it wasn't meant to be. I wanted the same age gap with 3 and 4 as with 1 and 2 (the MC) would have been that). This cycle of have exactly 2.5 years.

I've felt like I'm about to come on for DAYS. Very bloaty, refluxy feeling, mood swings, very mild dull period ache and so so damp down there.

I'm now either 12 or 13DPO, and I've done another pee test today. Stark white negative and then I realised as well that it was a ultra sensitive one. So pretty convinced I'm out this cycle!

I just want my bloody period to hurry up and come now because this last week has been torturous 💔

On the plus side, when I do finally start bleeding I can book my overdue smear test!

Oh same. I am under the hospital for mine because of cell changes. Was due during my last pregnancy with misscarriage and had it booked for Monday but I cancelled just incase I was pregnant, so that's one good thing to get ticked of our lists. Yeah it's the end of the 2ww that's the worst for me. Have all the symptoms its coming but somehow try to convince yourself your pregnant. Even with my stark white negative I cling onto hope even though deep down I know full well af is coming very soon either today or tomoro I would say. I hate it sooooo much now, it just makes me think about where I should have been now had I not misscarried. You really don't realise with a life consuming depressing road this is until your on it do you x

And here she bloody is. AF. Just before the school run at least! For F sake, at least it's here.

It's so good to have this group to talk to people who are going through this at the same time.

I miss my lost love so much, and keep thinking how we would be approaching the half way mark fairly soon. I should be feeling them moving by now and it makes me so so sad

@miamiamia869 @RaisingCornishWildlings I'm right here with you. Finding it hard to be honest, especially as always been lucky to conceive quickly. I guess it's still early days really in terms of hormones recovering etc, so let's try and stay positive. I've just finished my period so finally not feeling so depressive 😭😂

@Claudiasaz exactly that about having had no issues before

I am not at all religious but I feel somehow this is my penance for being so lucky before- easy and quick conceptions, no losses - how dare I be so greedy to ask for more! And now a loss and trying so hard and not getting anywhere.

Glad you're over AF and feeling more like you again.

Somehow will try to stay positive and put it to the back of my mind!

I do keep reminding myself I'm so much luckier than I have right to be- absolutely blessed with my beautiful family and I need to make peace that if it doesn't happen in the next couple of months, it's just meant to be these 3

@RaisingCornishWildlings it's so nice to just talk and make us feel not so alone n understand so many are going through the same. Same I would be around 22 weeks now and every af just brings it back. (Althought this will only be my second since) Sorry yours has come but atleast there's a line under the cycle and you go again. I've just stomped my way around tesco food shop moody as sin so I know I'm not far behind you. Sending hugs ladies @RaisingCornishWildlings @Claudiasaz xx

@RaisingCornishWildlings Aww you know because you have three children it doesn't make you any less deserving of having a baby. The next baby may just have a different timeline to you unfortunately.

Mine does for sure as I was keen on having a "summer baby" as I have winter babes....Now I see how silly that is and really couldn't care less and would just like a healthy bundle asap! I also have two girls and all I get asked is when am I having a boy.... Again- couldn't care less just healthy baby and in my arms please. SOON. Haha.
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Ah ladies I feel you so much and those of you that are due on/have your AF it’s even harder isn’t it because of the hormones - bad enough on a usual cycle without throwing the rollercoaster of trying to conceive in.

Im not feeling it this cycle either and I’m nowhere near my period.. I feel a bit flat about it in general since New Year tbh… I go to Accupuncture and said to the acupuncturist how I was feeling and she explained that in Chinese medicine new year (Jan/Feb) is a time to take stock and recharge and do what your body needs (not try to improve things/put pressure on yourself etc)… so I’m taking that as my invite to sit in bed having biscuits and brews and be kind to myself! Thought I’d share because it made me think about what I need at the moment and I definitely think in the first few days of a new cycle this 100% applies too!

@Blueskies4 ❤️❤️

That sounds a good approach! Hubby and I are going to lick our wounds tonight- curl up on sofa, watch something funny, curry takeaway and lots of cuddles! X

@RaisingCornishWildlings sounds like a great antidote, hope you enjoy x

I’m totally in the not feeling it at the moment group as well. It’s been so cold where I am the last few days so it’s been a slog with the 2y old. January sucks! I like the idea of tea and biscuits 🥰

I'd be surprised if anyone here isn't just totally fed up with TTC 😅 my mum told me my brother and his partner are planning to have kids very soon so it sounds bad but I know I'm going to feel jealous if they get their positive first 🤦‍♀️ awful way to think but I remember crying when others around me were announcing pregnancies when I was having no luck. I have a feeling that if it happens it's going to happen in March/April so that we end up with another December baby too. I'd happily take that right now though 😂 birthdays really don't matter would just love a sibling for my son and to expand our little family. I am very lucky to have my son though

@mumsince2021 aw I get that is hard. There's been a few pregnancy announcements around me recently and it's been so hard. Like a real kick in the gut. I feel terrible for feeling like that about their happy news. 🤦🏼‍♀️😭

Does anyone use premom app? Going to try it this month with my ovulation tests. Wondered how accurate it reads them!

I used them the last couple of cycles and it basically just looks at the colour of the lines- it seems to be fairly accurate!

I've just ordered more cheapo strip tests and a thermometer this time- ready for the next cycle. Although part of me is wondering if I'd be better ditching it all and just having lots of sex and try my hardest to stop stressing so much

@Claudiasaz here's a screenshot of my Ov tests recorded on Premom

@RaisingCornishWildlings that's amazing thanks!

I'm only using them so I can accurately get this blood test done on the right day as it checks to make sure my progesterone is as it should be! Not an issue I've had before but it's a whole new ball game now!

After that considering ditching too. I'm not enjoying it 😂 xx

@Claudiasaz yes I use premom too. I started using it and fell pregnant on my second cycle, after 2 years of trying. Obviously it ended in loss and here I am again about to go into 3rd cycle since mc. Seems good app and tests though tbf. @RaisingCornishWildlings wow your peak number is insane. I've never been higher then 1.68 and thay was the month I fell pregnant. Other than that mine bearly get passed 1.00. I wander if that's why I struggle to fall pregnant (oh here goes another theory to spend hours googling lol)

That peak was a couple of weeks after my MC and we had plenty of sex at the right time but it amounted to nothing! Will see what occurs at the end of this month.

Then we will have a month off because hunt. away for 5 weeks - he should be back in time for March- just after no2 and 3 kids' bdays. So I do wander if we don't fall that cycle- littlest will be just 2, we will probably say one last go and then call it 💔