2023 TTC 35+ Part 6

[VixFromThe6ix]

New thread as the other one ran out of space

Ladies I couldn't wait and got an early clear blue test, is this positive??

I would say so! Congrats! Xx

@jellyfish2210 I definitely see a line, tentative congratulations ❤️

Still spotting on wiping though so trying hard not to get my hopes up

My bean didn't stick 😢. AF arrived. But trying to look for the good things, at least we know we can get pregnant. After a year of BFNs it was nice to have a BFP even if it was brief 😔

@jellyfish2210 I hope that settles down and doesn't mean anything.

I'm so confused by pregnancy tests. I've been using the One Step strips on and off the last few days, all have been negative. They have a sensitivity of 10mlU. The 2 First Response ones have also been negative, I last took one of those 2 days ago. Their sensitivity is 25mlU.

I always thought the First Response ones were the more sensitive but clearly not. So now I just feel confused. AF due today, still no sign of anything. The aches and twinges I had in the week have stopped. I've had the odd tiny bit of cramping on and off but it doesn't resemble my usual period cramps. Same with my boons, a bit achey on and off but that's it.

I was planning to do another First Response late afternoon but not sure there is a point if the strip one is coming up negative 😪

I'm definitely out this cycle.

I get so confused by tests too. It doesn't make any sense to me at all! I think there are a couple brands that people have found more reliable so I generally go with that rather than the "sensitivity".

I’m sorry @jellyfish2210 xxx

@jellyfish2210 so sorry my lovely. Here's to brighter days in 2024 xx

@RoseH36 I use the OneStep but from what I've seen online they're not as great at the early detection as they ought to be if the sensitivity is correct. I've only ever used them from 14dpo and have always had faint lines initially. It's all a bit baffling isn't it. Consensus does seem to be that once you're past AF due date most of them should detect something though. Good luck! X

@jellyfish2210 is so sorry. Seems so cruel that it got your hopes up like that.

They are too confusing. I guess there are so many variables though as it all depends when you actually ovulate and how long it takes conception/implantation to happen.

@SnookyPook thank you, that makes me feel a bit better. I'm probably around 12/13dpo.

Will test later then and see what happens.

Sung 2 the tune of a partridge in a pear tree...

Two colonoscopies
Two MRI'sssss
2 gas-tros-copiessssss
And a transvagina-allllllll

#2023 ^

#hospitalyear

Gynae are guna do more investigations - gynae secretary said t ' other day

( mri found some cysts and i havea ' slightly bulky right ovary..
My ca125 is 70 ish..
people with ovarian cancer often have a score in the 100s )

Then there's liver fibro scan
Oh and another colonoscopy - with a CAP

,ughhhh

Frustrating year .

Really hoping we can try again in March..

Have multiple hosp appts in Jan

Was offered a new patt time job recently..
They have 2 do loads of checks
But should be starting there in Feb

Have a lovely festive season all

So sorry 2 read this

Are you aware of the july 2023 pregnancy loss review ?

Def get the pregnancy on your record...

You can get progesterone fast next time then

@worldwidetravel2017 no I haven't heard of it. DH just asked me if we should let the fertility clinic know we had a couple of positive tests before AF and I wasn't sure. I maybe will now! Thanks for the info x

Definitely let them know

Progesterone could make all the difference next time

If you look on tommys baby charity website - so many positive after miscarriage stories with progesterone next time

Make sure your NHS gp knows and notes it too - you need 2 be able to take progesterone fast next

Numark 5 - 6 day early tests are good
.they picked up our first pregnancy v early
.( we didn't expect to get preg 2nd cycle trying)
Then we didnt expect it to go wrong so fast

Progesterone may make all the difference next time

Have you ever had 'day 21 tests 'done 3 / 4 days after ovulation??
Whilst you carry on trying to concieve - its good to also get that test done few times to see if the issue is low progesterone as if it is - that canbe fixed

Also - worthwhile getting your feretin and vit d checked

Some females dont get preg til good feretin

Equally - good vit d - over 70 for vit d number reduces miscarriage risk

The book it starts with an egg
Has lotsa good stuff re vit d

Pregnancy aside - brits need vit d esp in oct to March

Last marchmy vit d was just 33 ish
Thenwe got it to 77
Then 89

Actimel drink has 1 / 3 of daily vit d in
Take that with 1000 - 2000 iu vit d a day
Or @ least discuss with fertility clinic
Again - that can make a positive difference

Zinc daily is also good and recommended - discuss with NHS gp
Or fertility clinic.

Early miscarriage // any miscarriage is hard

Tommys midwives are ace 2 talk to

Back open in jan

@worldwidetravel2017 we are under the fertility clinic now as we have been trying to conceive longer than 6 months and I'm 35. We just got our appointment through for them and we were seen last week. I had a scan and everything looks mostly ok, but my C-section scar could be causing issue. I've had all the day 21 tests which showed no spike in progesterone. But my internal scan last week showed that I had ovulated. And obviously I had given that we had two positive pregnancy tests. I have just been diagnosed with Graves' disease so on meds for that which could also have been the cause. Been taking the meds for about 4 weeks now. Here's hoping that by being able to get pregnant this month, it will somehow make it easier next cycle! Trying to look for the positives and enjoy the next few days with my family and enjoy a drink or two. DD is 5 next month and very very excited for Christmas so I have that to focus on. Helps with the sadness

The thing is - with no spike in progesterone - sounds like progesterone meds will help next time

I had transvaginal scan in summer
It showed ' just 'a small fibroid
.
I had an abdomen mri NHS in dec - showed extra gynae stuff - extra cysts - bulky right ovary
( this was not seen on transvaginal six months ago)

If you can afford an abdominal ct scan
Or even better - pelvis/ abdomen mri ' could be helpful

MRI is gold standard

Transvaginal doesn't always pick everything up

Just an idea

Ace that you have a 5 yo

Enjoy xmas

Still negative on a first response test so really not sure what to think at the moment. Will continue with the progesterone and leave it a few days to test again if nothing happens in the meantime.

Hope you all have a wonderful Christmas 🎄

So sorry about your loss, sending love, have a lovely festive period and I am sure your 5 Yo will have the best time! Xx

Hope you all had a lovely Christmas. Thought I'd buy a Clearblue and see if that gave a different result, still negative.

Will stop the testing and pegesterone now and see when AF turns up. The last CP didn't affect my cycle and as the one last month happened even quicker I assumed the same, especially as OPK suggested I peaked when I normally would.

I've just never been late in my life expect when being pregnant so this has really thrown me.

@RoseH36 I find waiting for AF really hard. Just consumes my every thought right now.

Hope everyone had a lovely day yesterday. All things considered we had a great day. My 5 year old danced and sung the day away, bringing lots of smiles and laughter. Had awful cramping but it was definitely easier to bear with her antics making me laugh.

Yeah the waiting is so hard - I’m finding it really hard to stay present and not obsess over reading into every feeling! Really need to work on it as my little man is growing so fast as they all do and don’t want to miss it obsessing over getting pregnant!

Hello, hope that you all had a wonderful Christmas.

AF finally arrived yesterday on CD 49. I’m relieved it’s over. My mind was just flip flopping between ‘It will come eventually, this just isn’t the cycle’ and Actually, why are my boobs so sore and I’m without a period? Maybe I’m not out yet??’. I don’t feel like I have very much trust in my body at the moment. I was having really significant EWCM from days 44-48 and I can’t find anything that explains that other than ovulating but surely you can’t do that just before AF? Because of how the hormones work?

But then I’ve read that they think now that maybe bodies ovulate more frequently than once per cycle. Then I just wonder whether if I did ovulate then and it takes ten days to implant, could AF have finished in time for an embryo to find a nice spot to set up camp? Although then there wouldn’t be any lining…. 🤯 Which I probably wouldn’t want anyway because the placenta could go too deep.

I think the healthiest thing is to lay that all aside and hope for the best. Because that’s all I can do. We will go see the GP in March if no baby by then as we will have been trying for a year, but in reality five months when we’ve actually both lived in the same house since he’s been back.

@Lalaland13 you sound just like me. DS is 4 in Feb and there is a part of me that feels like I've been obsessing over another so much that I'm not always fully present when spending time with him.

@Bumblebee413 that must be such a relief! Your thoughts just go off on a tangent don't they? I've been wondering if there is a chance of not ovulating even though OPKs show you hit a peak so that's been on my mind. Didn't even know it may be possible to ovulate more than once a cycle.

Good idea seeing your GP. Although we've said we're putting a deadline on things when I looked back through the cycles since the June CP there was 1 I didn't test amd 2 where we only dtd once instead of twice so in theory only 2 of the 5 we actually properly tried. It's made us ensure we dtd twice last cycle and this one.

Did start a thread asking how long after AF others tested positive. Had one person respond saying progesterone can delay periods. I wouldn't have thought it would have happened in my case though as I only started it on the 22nd because I had no signs AF was coming so can't imagine it would have delayed things that fast. I'm off it now though so will see what happens.

I hope everyone has had a lovely Christmas.

Sending love and best wishes to those that didn’t get the BFP that they were wishing for. My AF was right before Christmas (but had happily cleared off before the big day) so I’m hopeful that 2024 will bring me my BFP.

@Cressie2 i hope you will share a few updates. I like to follow people’s journeys and when you see someone who has been in the same boat as you get the news that you’re wishing for it makes it feel like you’ll get there too. Wishing you a happy, healthy pregnancy.

I’m back to work tomorrow so going to spend today attempting to make my house resemble less of a bomb site after the Christmas festivities!