2023 TTC 35+ Part 6

[VixFromThe6ix]

New thread as the other one ran out of space

@SnookyPook I'm sorry how today went :( I know you wanted answers. I hope your blood test results give you more answers. Also sounds like there is a plan if this doesn't pan out which is great. I hope you're staying strong. I can imagine how stressed you've been about this. We are the unfortunate ones that just because there is a line on that test, it doesn't give us cause for celebration quite yet. We are all here for you 💕

Thanks everyone for the congratulations. I just had a chat with my doctor and apparently we had a twin pregnancy and one stopped developing at 5 weeks. So, like I'm happy one is at least where it should be but kind of sad a bit that we lost another pregnancy. So she said they will send me for another ultrasound in two weeks to see how things are progressing. Being 40 and having this twin pregnancy puts me into an even higher bracket for miscarrying the one that survived. She also said that we might have skewed blood test results for important checks (like the one that you do for downs), so we will have to look at other alternatives. Just when I thought yay good news lol now I'm stressed again. And I got this weird cramping after the ultrasound. Gah. Whatever. Sorry. I gotta learn to take the wins. Today is still a win.

@SnookyPook so sorry to hear your news. Hopefully you hear something today.

I'm not new to the thread, this is like my third 35+ thread now!

Thanks everyone. Well the plot thickens . So just spoke with nurse a few mins ago... My bloods have perfectly doubled since last Thurs.. if it wasn't for that weird first week, they would be textbook. But I definitely ovulated when I thought and the BFP date confirms that. So I don't really know what to think. She said if they've doubled again by Thurs that will put me above threshold for a scan after all... Basically in complete and utter limbo still. I don't know whether to be glad that there still seems to be hope, or annoyed, which might sound really odd but I just can't help feeling it surely can't be great that the HCG dithered about so much in the first week?! I guess just keep taking it one day at a time as I have been doing and trust that I will cope with whatever is thrown my way...

@VixFromThe6ix ah sorry to hear your mixed bag of news. That must be really poignant finding out about the twin. And definitely understand your concerns re possible affecting the other tests etc. Sending you hugs and good vibes. Xx

@SnookyPook what a twist indeed!! But a good twist, no? Is it putting your hcg levels into the right week that you might be? Gosh, I hope everything turns out for you 🤞🏻🙏💕 I can't wait for an update from your scan.

@VixFromThe6ix yes - very much at the lower end, but supposedly within the norm for this gestation.

4+1 - HCG 69
5+2 - HCG 137
6 - HCG 598

So the 5+2 was really poor basically took 8 days to double instead of 2-3. But the one today has doubled twice since last Thurs.

So if on Thurs it has got above 1000, they will book the scan. I was really really expecting that it would have gone down or plateaued today. Was not expecting textbook doublage. So... More patience now needed.

Wishing you the very best @SnookyPook please keep us updated

@Angelsrose will do ❤️

There is so much going on in this thread right now!! Ups and downs and mixed emotions…
@VixFromThe6ix how bittersweet to hear that news… I’m sorry to hear that one of the twins stopped developing… i wonder how common that is, probably more than we realise? I hope you will get some additional scans/ reviews based on the higher risk bracket that has been identified? It sounds like you are getting good support from the medical team, would you say?

@SnookyPook I was soooo hoping you would get some good news!! Because I have a similar story from my first (and only) pregnancy with my daughter. We were in limbo for weeks, then had the early ultrasound and saw the heartbeat… all was well. I was also spotting which may have been unrelated. Basically my pregnancy tests were incredibly faint even at 18-20dpo and my hcg was slow to rise. But that can be normal too. It sounds as if you are now meeting the expected thresholds so 🤞 it stays that way and you have an easy 9 months ahead !!

news from me… not as much drama but still exciting, as it looks like I’ve (finally) ovulated about day 25. I’ve had such long/intermittent cycles over the past few months it has been getting me down. Had a good temp rise this morning and increase in RHR so really hoping ovulation is confirmed and I can go for the day 21 (equivalent) blood test on 31st Oct.

@VixFromThe6ix what a mixed bag of emotions for you, you must feel all over the place!! Fingers crossed for some good developments for you, but of course absolutely understand your anxieties 🤍

@CurlyWurly1991 this all sounds promising for you 🤞🏻 fingers crossed this is your month xx

stark Negative for me this morning, I think I must have just had a nasty indent / evap line on the Wondfo tests yesterday x

@H0pefull gosh, I’m so sorry. I thought the wondfo were pretty good? Did you use a different test this morning? Ugh what a rollercoaster this is. I’m sorry if this hasn’t worked out, how cruel TTC can be xx

@CurlyWurly1991 i used another test from the same Wondfo box as yesterday, must just be some dodgy ones in there as 2 yesterday gave me the same result with a line with colour xx

@H0pefull oh gosh that's crushing 😞 Hope you're ok. Sorry to ask again but what dpo are you now? Is there still a possibility?

@CurlyWurly1991 oh really? I just don't know what to think any more. More patience is needed 😩 Tbh I've got a bit worried about things like ectopics now so trying not to go down a bad rabbit hole!! Your story gives me a little hope - thank you! A lady has just replied to me on a thread I started to say that with her DS she measured 5+2 when she should be 7 weeks (and her ovulation dates were confirmed) - they were convinced it would be a loss but he then developed normally and is now excelling as a very bright teen. So they 'lost' two weeks of pregnancy somehow but all was ok... 🤷🏼‍♀️🙏

@SnookyPook yep, there are amazing stories out there! Normal ranges are just norms, there is always space for some surprises… nature is clever after all and there is a lot that is not yet understood about fertility. After all I said above my daughter was then born at 38 weeks naturally and perfect. Good size! So I must just cook them well haha

@SnookyPook I was thinking about you yesterday really hoping you would get some positive news. I hope on Thursday you get some good news too!!

@H0pefull oh I'm sorry to see your update. Is it worth trying another brand? How many do are you?

@VixFromThe6ix I'm sorry to see your update with both good and bad news, and to see your worries. I hope you are okay.

I'm 7/8 days dpo (I got my clearblue ovulation static smily last tuesday), and despite me not expecting success this cycle at all, I just feel like time is dragging so much! I've had on-off sickness all week so far and just no energy at all so i think I've caught a bug from somewhere as well, so just generally feeling a bit sorry for myself.

@SnookyPook I’m 11 DPO today so feel quite sure something would be showing by now. I have one FRER but I don’t want to waste it until if / when AF doesn’t arrive tomorrow x

@SnookyPook @VixFromThe6ix fingers crossed for you both!!

@H0pefull I am sorry you got a BFN this morning after yesterday's excitement. Could your urine just be more diluted today?

@SnookyPook Oh what a rollercoaster. Well I really hope tge numbers keep increasing nicely from here and you get to see your bean on an ultrasound.
I do think some women just gave a slower build-up of HCG at the start. I certainly did with my son. Never got my blood drawn. But eventhough through temping and opks I knew when I ovulated, I did not get a BFP until 4 days after my missed AF. So 17dpo. And then it was faint and took a while to get darker.

@VixFromThe6ix I am so sorry you got tge sad news you lost your beans twin. How gutting. And you really don't need the extra stress of the tests being unclear.

@H0pefull I'm sorry about your BFN this morning. I got a negative test at 12 DPO and then a really strong positive at 15 DPO so there could still be a chance? I know it's tough to get your hopes up over and over again though. Wishing you all the best things xx

What brand did you test with today @H0pefull

@Catson wondfo again, from the same box as yesterday

Lots to catch up on
Was @ hospital 4 ct scan 4 other reasons

Not guna lie - didnt like it - shut my eyes etc

Results in a bit
Heres hoping they dont find anything too bad
My body is a rule to itself though..

Congrats to all those who have become pregnant

Sending all the luck to @SnookyPook

And sorry to hear re the twin loss @VixFromThe6ix - twins are so common in older pregnancies / mums over 35 & unfortunately losing one has happened to a few that i know too. Mixed emotions etc. Tough times. Sending you luck for the next stages etc

I believe we missed ovulation window this month - couldnt be preg 4 ct scan - cheap sticks ovulation said likely ovulated day 15 16

Its weird cuz the month we concieved in - august - that turned into early miscarriage - ovulation was day 21- thats quite a difference..

Im unfortunately supposed to be having another colonoscopy this year due to the number of bowel polyps they found and removed earlier this year...
Obv cant be preg 4 that but in july dr told me not to delay trying..

Had a normal qfit test since polyp removal
So hoping we can baby dance our way thorough November....

Starting counselling next week as been through a lot the past 6 months ..

When i was pregnant - it didnt show until about 15 dpo

@worldwidetravel2017 counselling sounds like a great idea - hope you find it helpful. Hope they don't keep you waiting too long for today's scan results too. Good luck with the November BD-ing!

Thanks for all the well-wishes. Will certainly keep you posted.

@H0pefull I've never had a positive before 14dpo.... 🤞🏻