Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂

[Ladyinpink1]

Hi 🙋‍♀️, just as the title says, I am now on cd1 of my first cycle after a loss at 11+4 (stopped growing just after a scan showing strong heartbeat at 8 -9w)

Feeling nervous but positive about a new cycle ...but finding it hard to think of anything else other than ttc 🙂

Happy for some company to obsess with over these next weeks x

@Haylsttc ooh 7 or 8 dpo is so close! Will you test or wait?
Lol its impossible not to symptom spot I think. Yes they are meant to help egg quality so can't do any harm 🙂 x

@SnookyPook you don't have long to wait either 🙂 Oh that would be good if the GP could do that. I can't see why they wouldn't if they are doing bloods anyway surely it's just ticking another box of things for the lab to check x

@Oxalis00 oh yes that's right, we are at really similar times in our cycle, hopefully tonight then or tomorrow morning you have the peak. Ha ha at "told to inseminate me". How rude if him to take a work trip at this time!
About being unsure, am I remembering right that this your dc3 you are trying for? x

Hi @Liz2681 I'm sorry for your loss. I agree you are definitely more aware of everything and also because it all becomes more important after a loss too I think. I also know which side and when I have ovulated. Both times that I concieved these last 2 times, it was from the same side so i wonder do I have a side that produces good eggs 🥚 🤣 x

@SnookyPook It’s good you’ve had some response from the GP and have blood tests booked. I always find it feels better to be doing something. Will you be actually seeing GP next week or just having blood test with nurse/HCA? In my surgery they wouldn’t be able to change what the tests are for or add any on the day unless GP orders them, so you’d have to speak to GP first. If you are seeing GP it might be worth a long ‘hold’ before your appointment in case they ask for a urine PT!

@Ladyinpink1 Ha no, this would be DC2 for me - definitely won’t go beyond that! It’s just that things are so nice now with DD nearly 3yo it feels a huge gamble to start again, and I was very anxious postpartum first time around.

@Liz2681 Welcome, though I’m sorry you find yourself in this particular part of the conception forum. I feel way more conscious of symptoms/body changes since MC too, but I don’t know if that’s because of hormonal sensitivity or psychologically being more aware. Possibly both!

Hi all, thanks everyone for the kind words. I find it’s been easier to talk about it and we’re staying optimistic!

@Ladyinpink1 @Oxalis00 - this definitely makes a lot of sense. Trying to get stuck into work to take my mind of things, which helps. Just telling myself obsessing / testing early won’t change the outcome either way. Finding CB OPKs are working on picking up my LH peaks (struggled with the cheap easy home ones off Amazon) so staying optimistic that I’ve at least finally got the hang of that 😅

@Oxalis00 I’ve just had a lot of plans this month so it’s kept me busy and took my mind off it! I’ve also been going to some gym classes after work too to keep me busy, although I’m sure these last few days will drag for me 😅

@Liz2681 so sorry to hear about your loss, I find this thread really helpful with us all having been through a similar experience. I definitely feel more in tune with my cycle after my MC too! I’m also around 7 or 8dpo so we’re at similar points in our cycle, this is my third cycle trying again after a MMC, I’m trying to remain really positive and hopeful this cycle 🤞

@Ladyinpink1 I know so tempting to test! I often get spotting for a couple of days before AF starts so if I haven’t spotted before Friday then I will take a test Friday morning 😊

Hi ladies, could I join?
First cycle ttc baby number 2 after a miscarriage at 6+6 at the beginning of August. We didn’t try last month so this is the first cycle and i’m nervous about it happening again!
Already have a 2 year old little boy who took 15 months to conceive but our second (the miscarriage) only took 2 months!
I think I’ll be ovulating tomorrow or Thursday judging by opks.
Good luck to everyone! X

@Haylsttc sorry to hear you've had something similar. You're right though these threads are really helping. This is my first cycle TTC after the MC so not sure how successful we'll be this time around. When do you think you'll test?? I'm trying to hold out until Monday when I think I'll be 13 DPO but not sure I'll make it that long 😬

@GemRose welcome! So sorry to hear about your pregnancy loss 😔 completely understand about being nervous again as feel the same but trying to stay positive🤞🏼

Hey all, can I join?

I am hopefully a few days away from starting a new cycle. My previous cycle ended in an early loss so I am a bit unsure on my dates, but hopefully af will show in the next few days (who'd have thought I'd be wishing for that!).

Just ready for a fresh cycle and start a fresh.

So sorry to read about all of your losses. Sending everyone baby dust xxx

@Liz2681 you have better self restraint than me if you wait until Monday haha! I’m going to test Friday because I don’t have it in me to wait any longer 😂 although in saying that my luteal phase is on the shorter side so I don’t usually make it past 11dpo!

@GemRose of course, welcome! Sorry to hear about your loss, I too waited a month before trying again when I had my missed miscarriage in June! I think being scared for it to happen again is completely normal, I think when I do fall pregnant again I will be nervous but at the moment I’m just looking forward to seeing a positive test again!

@rosecbrm really sorry to hear about your early loss! Completely understand about the wait for AF to start after a loss, it feels like you’re waiting forever, hopefully it won’t be too much longer for you 🤞

@Oxalis00 ah sorry, it must of been someone else on the thread said they were ttc dc3. I was very anxious after my dc1 too, but I think alot of it is the fact that it's all the first time, I mean like the birth, no-one can prepare you for that 😱 and everything else that comes in the months after, whereas the second time around you will know what to expect and what to avoid/do etc so I think you will be a dab hand this time more confident etc and it will all come easier than the first time. x

@Liz2681 That sounds like a plan but I have to tell you I'm not saying don't obsess, I am the worst for it. I obsess at every stage, I even keep notes 😆 I do it because as others said I like to feel like I'm doing something. These chats are good to channel some obsessions and not seem like a crazy person as we're all doing the same x

Not long to wait then until test day, yay! @Haylsttc Very exciting x

@GemRose I am sorry for your loss, you are similar in cycle timing to myself and @Oxalis00 x

I felt the same waiting for my AF @rosecbrm I'm sorry for your loss and hope it comes soon x

@Haylsttc on second thought Monday may be wildly optimistic 😅 I'm in the office on Friday though (I mainly work from home) and don't want to let it ruin my day if it's negative, so will unfortunately have to hold out until at least Saturday if I want to use FMU.

@Ladyinpink1 completely understand about obsessing. I have two apps to track everything, symptom checking like crazy, counting down the day when I can test etc. Idk I think it helps feeling like there's some sort of control in all this even if so much of it is out of our hands. It's nice to feel not so alone on the obsessing though!

Welcome to those joining - I hope you find it as helpful as I do to pour out thoughts and compare notes, though I’m sorry TTC hasn’t been easy so far.

I was expecting a high OPK this eve but it’s just gone low again (0.2 on PreMom) after a higher one (0.54) this morning, so I don’t know if I’ve missed testing the peak or my body is doing something mad. Both possible…!

Wow I feel like I’ve missed a lot, I don’t know where to start with my replies 😅 haha

Firstly welcome @Liz2681 @GemRose @rosecbrm I’m so sorry you’ve found yourselves here.

@Haylsttc ooh I think we’re cycle buddies, I’m 7dpo over here too 🙋🏻‍♀️ no clue when I’m due for AF to arrive however, Natural cycles tells me this Thursday, I really hope not as that’s such a short LP, and Pre-mom is telling me a week on Thursday so I think my app’s are as confused as I am 😂 when is AF due for you?

@Ladyinpink1 thank you for the coq10 pic, may as well order them as I’m already rattling, what’s one more hey 😂 yes I know what you mean about feeling hopeful, I’m trying not to get overly hopeful but at the same time I think we need to have some optimism that things will work out 🤞🏼✨ I’m not going to be testing unless AF is seriously late as I feel it’ll be too upsetting for me to see a BFN.

Yes my temp has carried on rising, today was my highest ever temp recorded funnily enough. So I have been doing some investigative work and apparently temp drops on implantation day and then rises again the next day. I’ve looked back on my cycle from when I conceived and I had a dip on 6dpo and 10dpo so I’m guessing either one of those was implantation.

Although I know symptoms are not meant to be possible at 7dpo, I’m reporting vivid dreams last night and a couple of lightening crotches this afternoon hahaha x

@Liz2681 good idea about not doing one Friday if you’re in the office! Holding out until Saturday is probably a good idea 😊 I only have easy at home tests in the house, tempted to go to boots and buy a box of their early tests.

@Oxalis00 I would test again in the morning just to be sure!

@Bali200 ah cycle twins! That’s very confusing, I would go by the later one if this Thursday sounds like too short of a luteal phase or go in between haha! Mine is due Monday or Tuesday although I usually have a short luteal phase so I’m not sure if it will come earlier or not 😅 Hoping it doesn’t come at all though of course 🤞

Definitely, you are not alone 😊 @Liz2681

@Oxalis00 thats so frustrating, could it be that tonight's test was a little diluted and in the morning you will get your positive? I normally only get my positives first thing in the morning. It will come soon for you. x

Ooh @Bali200 maybe you should hold off on ordering the coq10 for next cycle as that sounds good! And.. in my opinion it's not too early... I had symptoms last time really early on and I also dreamt that I had a positive test before my positive test which was very faint but at 8dpo so if you are 7dpo now then definitely possible 🙂 x

How is everyone doing today?

Although the rest of my cycle has gone quick I have a feeling these next few days are going to drag! Not allowing myself to test any earlier than Friday though 😂

Hi @Haylsttc

Only symptoms here (8DPO) are sore boobs (nothing extreme) and some mild cramping; I've also had a bit of lower back pain, but to be honest none of those are unusual for me around this time of my cycle so it might just be a sign of AF's impending arrival. BBT still has not dropped though so that's at least one positive sign!

Kicking myself as last time I got pregnant I was on holiday during TWW and wasn't paying any attention to my symptoms or tracking BBT so don't even have that to compare to 🤦🏻‍♀️

How's everyone else getting on?

@Haylsttc yep I’m hoping it’s not tomorrow as that will only be 9dpo, I’m hoping to get away with it till at least Monday, let’s see if all this b6 and omega helps to lengthen it 🤞🏼 how are you getting on today, anything to report? X

@Ladyinpink1 I’ve totally convinced myself that I’m out today, I’m absolutely freezing haha and no other symptoms apart from the dreams but B6 can cause vivid dreams so I think it’s the copious amount of b6 I’m having 😂. My temp dropped today so could be implantation today if it increases tomorrow but it feels unlikely at the mo. As I wasn’t symptom spotting last time I can’t remember how early I had symptoms which is annoying. I remember I didn’t have sore boobs until 4+6 as that’s what made me do a test the next day. What early symptoms did you have last time? X

@Liz2681 your BBT staying high is a good sign though, fingers crossed it keeps that way!

I’m similar to you in terms of symptoms I have backache, had mild cramping the past few days and my chin is breaking out. All of which I had as symptoms before my last positive test but also symptoms I get before AF so it’s very confusing!

I think I would actually rather not know my symptoms before my positive test last time as when I don’t get them now I count myself as out straight away 🙈 need to remind myself that every pregnancy is different though!

@Bali200 we’re in a similar boat, I’ve started AF spotting at 9dpo previously but that was cycles I didn’t take b6 so hoping it doesn’t happen this time 🤞 Only slight symptoms I mentioned to Liz2681 above but nothing major as of yet.

Really hoping this is the month for us 🤞

Evening all. Apologies I seem to have got out the loop a bit with this chat. Welcome to the new joiners. Seems a few of us are in 'middle of tww' fun times! 7dpo here and desperately trying not to symptom spot and read too much into anything! @Haylsttc I also have to have the 'every pregnancy is different' chat with myself most months. Might really be a blessing those of you who don't know what your early symptoms have been previously!

Hope everyone is well x

How does temping work girls? My idea of TTC is just DTD a couple of times a week but I’m guessing this isn’t correct as can miss the day.

I hope everyone is ok! I’ve finally come off my period today but have zero sex drive! I really cannot be bothered to have sex but know I need to if I want another baby! Send help lol

Ooh I hope your temp increases tomorrow then @Bali200 Yes no probs, my pre af sore breasts didn't start until alot later.... Which is probably unhelpful as I think that's the opposite of most people.. 😄 everything had a stronger smell, weird vivid dreams and then light cramps and a feeling of sort of fullness in the sort of womb area. I recorded itritability too but thats prob the same any cycle at that time lol x

@Aaliyahrae i really recommend the temping it's great, you can see the exact day you ovulate without any doubt. You get a special thermometer that records decimals and take your temp every morning before getting up. x

I think AF is starting to rear her ugly head for me at 8dpo, I think she’ll be here fully by morning 😭 I feel stupid for how upset I am by this even though I knew it was sooo unlikely to happen this first cycle 😔

Also upset by the 8 day luteal and 24 day cycle, it’s so short right 😔, hoping the b6 will kick in next month for me 🤞🏼 but also going to use this opportunity to get my body and mind in a healthier place.

I’m still going to hang around here if that’s ok, with my short cycles I’ll catch up in no time 😂 but really hoping to see some BFP’s on here soon 💗💗💗 xx

Just realised I said sort of twice. Bedtime brain last night.
Are you sure it's AF @Bali200 ? I'm so sorry if it is.
I'm not sure if I actually ovulated, my temp isn't really rising this morning, which as dissapointing as it is, I have to realistically think it was only the first cycle. x