Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂

[Ladyinpink1]

Hi 🙋‍♀️, just as the title says, I am now on cd1 of my first cycle after a loss at 11+4 (stopped growing just after a scan showing strong heartbeat at 8 -9w)

Feeling nervous but positive about a new cycle ...but finding it hard to think of anything else other than ttc 🙂

Happy for some company to obsess with over these next weeks x

Sorry all just catching up with messages after a busy few days!

@Aaliyahrae @Bali200 that's fantastic news! Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🎉

@Wise0wl I think we're probably at the similar points in our cycle - I'm 8DPO today so will try testing on Sunday! My BBT has been quite high and is remaining well above the cover line so I'm feeling optimistic this cycle. Now just have to try not to test before Sunday 😅

@Oxalis00 if you did it fairly consistently in the lead up that's arguably more important, so I wouldn't get down over it. I know what you mean about trying to do things perfectly - I think that's the difficult thing about this whole process: you can do everything right but so much of it is out of our hands. Keeping everything crossed for you that you get positive news this cycle🤞🏼 x

@Aaliyahrae thank you, my cycle last month was only 24 days but it varies between 26 and 28 usually, I’m on CD27, but no spotting yet which I usually get before AF. Feeling very nervous!

Your words really strike a chord @Oxalis00 - it’s definitely not simple and I completely get your inner chatter. If it’s helpful, I couldn’t dtd when I got a static smiley because DH was away, we just did before my static smiley and then the day DH got back (two days after static smiley). Obviously I haven’t got a positive test so I don’t think this is helpful, but sharing that I get the timing thing! Fingers crossed for you x

@Oxalis00 Aww girl. As long as you DTD around ovulation, you’re still in for a chance. Can you try and do it again today? Are you tracking ovulation? It is so difficult when you really want it to happen and it’s so frustrating but you really aren’t out yet, not even nearly out x

@Liz2681 thank you! Keeping everything crossed for you when you test on Sunday! Keep us posted.

@Wise0wl i think I actually remember your cycle last month (that sounds strange lol! Promise I’m not a weirdo) because I’m pretty sure you posted that you had started quite soon after ovulation! Sounds promising! When are you going to test?

@Liz2681 fingers crossed for a positive test for you!

@Aaliyahrae lol yes that’s right! I’m too nervous to test but will either tomorrow or Saturday…

@Oxalis00 try not to lose hope, the first time I fell pregnant we only dtd once that whole month, the day before ov. It only takes one time x

Thanks so much everyone, really appreciate hearing that others have similar thoughts. It can be so consuming. I worry a lot about what’s going on inside, inc. what the MC means for future fertility and whether the surgery left any scarring or anything. Not knowing what the future will hold is hard! But I’m glad to share some of that journey with all of you. Very hopeful for more good news on here over the coming days/weeks 🤞🏼

@Aaliyahrae ah amazing what a dark line, congratulations ❤️

@Oxalis00 I totally second this feeling as I ovulated late this cycle we didn’t manage ovulation day or even peak day! But you never know it only takes once and we only dtd twice in fertile week when I first fell pregnant 😊 Not sure how close to ovulation it was cos I wasn’t tracking I just tried to work it out on Flo when I got my bfp at the time!

@Wise0wl that sounds positive that you haven’t seen any spotting, I would definitely do a test in the next day or two 🤞@Liz2681 same goes for you too! Would be amazing to see even more positive tests in this thread this month!

I’m cycle day 26 and only 5dpo which is mad cos I got AF cycle day 26 last month 😂 But since I ovulated cycle day 21 this month my AF isn’t due until Tuesday next week! Not holding out much hope though as I’ve been so unwell in the luteal phase so far I’d be shocked if I get a bfp.

You are definitely pregnant @Aaliyahrae congratulations 💝🎊🎉 what a lovely surprise when you were so sure this wasn't your month. I am really pleased for you and hope you and @Bali200 will keep in touch every so often with how you both are getting on. Hoping you guys have started a roll of bfp on the thread 🙂 xxx

@Oxalis00 You are in the exact same boat as me!
We dtd lots leading up to ovulation... skipped the ovulation day as we were too tired (oldest dc not well and so sleep not been great) then I felt anxious about that so we dtd the next night and i made sure to keep my legs up 🤣. I then googled "average life span of sperm in fertile cm" and the odds were very good so I feel good about it now. Lol. So if you can manage to dtd tonight then I think you will be well covered. 🙂 x

Saturday isn't far away now for testing @Wise0wl exciting! x

No good news for me, spotting here the day before my period starts which is the usual way things go.

Congrats to those with BFPs. I think I might need to step away from all social media and forums this month, I'm struggling with seeing other people getting good news when I don't seem to be able to (I'm happy for others but so so sad for myself). On to month 4 post the most recent loss.

So sorry @moosey89 - I’ve been there and totally know how you feel. Please look after yourself and we are all here if you need us x

@moosey89 I’m the same as you, waiting for cycle 4 to start. Im also struggling with negative thoughts and how all consuming TTC is. Look after yourself x

@moosey89 completely understand how you feel I was feeling the same way previous months, please take the time you need offline to protect yourself ❤️ I’m currently on cycle 4 trying again since my MMC so a month ahead of you and @Gem0302 as my AF due next week so nearing to cycle 5 if this isn’t successful! It is painful knowing it hasn’t happened again straight away for us as I had wished x

I'm sorry @moosey89 💜
It is hard to see a bfp that isn't your own when you want it so much and have waited so long. After my first loss at the end of last year, I was certain that I would get pregnant right away, but it didn't happen until the 5th cycle and although that doesnt sound long, it was so hard and felt like the longest wait, I understand, you aren't alone.
Sending a big hug and we are all here whenever you are ready xx

You guys are all the best thank you 🙏🥹 hope you all get the good news we're all praying for. See you in a month or so x

@moosey89 sending lots of love and understanding... Reading through the thread currently losing my third pregnancy this year 😌 should have been 7 weeks on Tuesday. I'm also planning a bit of a break over Christmas and hopefully come at things fresh in the New Year - hoping my fertility referral will come through quickly as think I'd like to see the consultant before potentially falling pregnant again...

Big congratulations to the recent BFPs - such wonderful news to see on the thread, and a reminder that there is hope for us all 💕

@moosey89 & @SnookyPook I felt the exact same at the beginning of the month when AF arrived after seeing loads of other posts of other peoples BFPs. It’s so hard when you’re so happy for others but you really really just want yours too. It’s never wrong for you to need a break from socials to just realign yourself. Praying for your BFPs xxx

Thanks ladies for all the congratulations. I’m planning on staying on the thread for a little bit if that’s ok. I won’t comment about the pregnancy etc but just to check in and see how you all are getting on! x

I’m so sorry to hear this @SnookyPook I truly am sending lots of love your way 💗 I really hope your referral comes through quickly and that 2024 is a better year for you xx

Oh @SnookyPook I am so so sorry to read this, I feel so sad to think about you dealing with this a third time, what a really terrible time you have had. You definitely deserve a bfp and a baby in your arms in 2024 and I really hope and believe that will happen for you. I also really hope with this being your third that you are seen quickly. Sending lots of love and a hug xxxx

It will be lovely to still have you on the thread and see how you are getting on x @Aaliyahrae

How is everyone else doing today?

I had a dream last night that I was heavily pregnant, it was so real and had such detail in it and (this sounds silly) but I actually had to touch my stomach when I first woke to make sure there wasn't a bump ... i have this feeling of being so certain how much I want this now.
I had pregnant dreams before my bfp last pregnancy but I'm not looking into it too much because yesterday was a very obsessive day for me, I thought about babies now stop so it was most likely my mind sifting through my craziness from the day 🤣 it's funny, you can really turn anything into a symptom in the tww if you look for it... am I the only crazy that does that? x

@SnookyPook I am so, so sorry to hear your news. Life is so unfair. I have everything crossed that 2024 is your year x

@Ladyinpink1 I think the tww when you want something so badly and have had your hopes risen (and heart broken) before, is so hard. Considered testing this morn, but can’t quite bring myself to so am going to get on with my Friday for now! When are you testing? X

Congrats to everyone getting BFPs. It gives me hope that one is coming for us all soon.

to those needing to step away, a giant hug. I totally get it. Do what you need to do to protect your mental health.

and to @SnookyPook , I’m so so sorry. It’s totally shit that it’s happening to you. Thinking of you.

@SnookyPook I am so sorry to hear you’re going through another loss that is heartbreaking 💔 I hope you’re referral from the fertility clinic is speedy and everything goes to plan in the new year, thinking of you ❤️