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Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂

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Ladyinpink1 · 19/09/2023 07:57

Hi 🙋‍♀️, just as the title says, I am now on cd1 of my first cycle after a loss at 11+4 (stopped growing just after a scan showing strong heartbeat at 8 -9w)

Feeling nervous but positive about a new cycle ...but finding it hard to think of anything else other than ttc 🙂

Happy for some company to obsess with over these next weeks x

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SnookyPook · 16/10/2023 08:54

Morning all... Pretty sure this is another early loss. I'd be delighted with these tests if I'd got them a week ago but I should be 5weeks on Tuesday so it's not looking great. And yes, I'm pretty sure I know when I ovulated as used opks and got a clear peak. My first positive was also almost a week ago. I just hope it doesn't all drag on too long. I'm really struggling at this point. This has been such a crapp year. MMC in April and then two early losses one after the other and right on my original due date month. I'm feeling really despondent right now. Sorry to be a complete downer on a Monday morning. Hope everyone else is ok. Looks like I'll be back to TTC again very soon. Although not sure I can take much more right now. 😞

Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂
graceinc22 · 16/10/2023 08:56

@SnookyPook sending hugs <3 really hoping all goes well for you and that you don't have a loss xx

Vic231 · 16/10/2023 09:42

@Ladyinpink1 thank you, you have made me feel much better! After my last MC the midwife said it was entirely up to us if we tried again before testing and if we fell pregnant I could be prescribed progesterone. I wasn't given an undated prescription which would have been amazing but they said I could either speak to my docs or speak to them and they would contact my doctors (I'd probably do the latter!). So would that be to take straight away from BFP? That would be so reassuring!

I am so with you on the waiting - it's very frustrating! I said to my DH that it feels like someone is telling us we can't do something that we really want to (I know it's not really like that!) but that might be why we had a rebellious moment last week 😂

Vic231 · 16/10/2023 09:43

Oh @SnookyPook I am so sorry to read this, it does sound like it could be a chemical? Although you never know! I really hope it isn't, I have everything crossed for you. This whole journey can be so cruel x

Oxalis00 · 16/10/2023 11:04

Oh @SnookyPook I’m so sorry you’re in this position. I really hope and believe it could still turn out ok for you - were these all same urine sample? Did you do a weeks indicator test previously? But of course you know your body and what’s normal for you. Of course you feel despondent :( Sending strength for today as you wait and see xx

SnookyPook · 16/10/2023 11:19

Thanks everyone. @Oxalis00 yep all same sample, and no, this was the first weeks indicator I've done but I should be 4+6 today. Ah well, time will tell.

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Ladyinpink1 · 16/10/2023 18:37

@Vic231 i'm glad you feel a little better, yes you take it from as soon as you get a bfp, until 16 weeks I think.
The midwife called it an undated script but it's a letter prescription, I need to write my gp's name and the date on if I get a bfp then I still have to give it to the GP first before getting a prescription for the chemist so not sure how much quicker it would really be lol. This is what it is ⬇️

Yes I know what you mean, and because it is so out of our control too it is even tougher, I think that's why I obsess a little with documenting and opks etc, to give me some feeling of being in control and doing something x

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Ladyinpink1 · 16/10/2023 18:43

@SnookyPook I'm so sorry to hear this, I feel really sad for you 😔 the unknown is so difficult, I really hope this is wrong and that you see the line change to become darker in the next day or two. Thinking of you. 🪻 xx

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ThelastRolo20 · 16/10/2023 19:21

Hi everyone, can I join? Today was meant to be my 12 week scan but baby stopped growing at just short of 10 weeks. Feeling heartbroken but want to move on, I have my surgery on Thursday so hoping that goes well and we can try in the next month or so. Has anyone else had the surgery, and if so how soon after did you ovulate?

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Ladyinpink1 · 16/10/2023 22:40

I'm really sorry for your loss @ThelastRolo20 it is all so raw for you still right now i'm sure. I don't know about the surgery, hopefully someone else can answer that, but I can relate to just wanting to try again asap.
I hope things go as smoothly as they can for you on Thursday.

(I love your username btw!) x

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Haylsttc · 16/10/2023 23:02

@wyto got my fingers crossed for you 🤞

@SnookyPook I am so sorry that’s so tough, I am hoping that the tests become darker for you ❤️

@Ladyinpink1 I really want to try progesterone when I next get a bfp, I think I’m going to go private for it as I didn’t have much luck when I spoke to my doctor 😓

@ThelastRolo20 so sorry for your loss that is heartbreaking 💔 What is the surgery called that you are booked in for? I had an MVA as my hospital didn’t do d&c’s. Happy to answer any questions on that for you! I can’t comment on ovulation afterwards as I didn’t try that cycle but I got my period 5 weeks after the procedure x

ThelastRolo20 · 17/10/2023 06:33

@Ladyinpink1 @Haylsttc thanks both, I don't really know the name of the surgery, just that it's under general and they just a little vacuum to remove everything! So not quite a d&c I don't think. If all goes well I should bleed for no more than two weeks then I guess I'll stay using opks! Mentally seems weird to be going back to TTC but there we are.

How are you both getting on? (Thank you re my username - my dog is called Rolo so inspired by him haha)

Oxalis00 · 17/10/2023 08:14

@ThelastRolo20 I’m sorry you find yourself here. Sadly there’s lots of us with a similar experience. I’d think of surgery as day 1, it should reset hormones, so you could ovulate as early as 2 weeks after, though it may take longer. They usually say to expect a period after 4-6 weeks. They’ll ask you to do another pregnancy test 3 weeks after surgery to be sure everything was cleared. Do go back to EPU/GP if you have any concerns at any point.

Oxalis00 · 17/10/2023 08:15

@Ladyinpink1 How are you getting on? CD11 for you too? I’m nervous! Not testing yet… Temping has become stressful though, my nearly 3yo is waking loads at night atm so my sleep is really disturbed and I’m not sure I trust the readings, but I’m dreading seeing that drop!

Oxalis00 · 17/10/2023 08:22

^ 11DPO I mean, obviously - CD28. Told you I was sleep deprived!

Oxalis00 · 17/10/2023 08:23

@SnookyPook How are you doing? Have you tested again? Such an emotional rollercoaster - and all the while we’re supposed to just get on with life and work like nothing is happening 😫 Thinking of you today x

ThelastRolo20 · 17/10/2023 08:39

@Oxalis00 thank you - that helps. I've actually started bleeding a bit so we'll see what happens between now and Thursday. I'm hoping they'll still proceed with the surgery if it hasn't fully cleared by then naturally, really want to avoid this dragging on for too long x

wyto · 17/10/2023 08:50

Really sorry to hear @SnookyPook 😥 Must be awful to get your hopes up and then be so disappointed

wyto · 17/10/2023 08:52

Thanks for all the well wishes, did a clear blue this morning and definitely positive for now! I feel completely completely different to last time, and oddly calm, which is not an emotion I feel very often!

Oxalis00 · 17/10/2023 09:00

That’s wonderful @wyto - congratulations! Your TTC DC1 aren’t you? I really hope this sticks for you. Very exciting. Feeling calm is incredible! Keep us posted :) I see above you tested 11DPO - don’t tempt me…! 😝

wyto · 17/10/2023 09:10

@Oxalis00 Thank you, yeah first baby, second trying cycle since MMC in July. I'm terrible for waiting to test, it was super faint and to be honest I waited aaages and kept looking and then I didn't trust it!

Photos attached if you're interested

Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂
Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂
Oxalis00 · 17/10/2023 09:38

Thanks for photos @wyto - that’s very definitely there at 11DPO, I wouldn’t say super faint. I can see why you’d not necessarily dare to believe it though! Really happy for you :)

wyto · 17/10/2023 09:58

@Oxalis00 I left it hours before I took the photo 🤣 Last time I got a faint line on the same test at 14dpo so maybe I ovulated sooner than I thought this cycle, my cycle was all over the place so I have no idea when it happened!

Liz2681 · 17/10/2023 10:03

@ThelastRolo20 so sorry you've found yourself, it's absolutely awful 😞 the lovely ladies in this group tho are a great source of information and comfort though so it's a good place to vocalise anything you're feeling and are comfortable sharing x

Liz2681 · 17/10/2023 10:03

@wyto congratulations! Those look like really decent lines at 11DPO 😊 keeping fingers crossed for you! xx