TTC May 2023 💖 Previous MC March 2023 (thread 2)

[Sez281]

Hi ladies, just thought I'd create a new thread for anybody that wants to continue.
@Jadeypie
@Westy22
@Freddie15VES
@fleur89
@Strawb28
@DmcinT
@HopeAndStrength
@xxcxdonxx
And @SnookyPook for if/when you feel like you might want to come back xx

Sorry if I've forgotten anybody, I realise most of you guys have had your BFPs and there's only a few off us left waiting, but at least you know the thread is here so come back and keep us updated with all your lovely pregnancy stories 😊 For those of us still here, hopefully it won't be too much longer 🙏💖 xx

@Westy22 i dont think that sounds weird at all with the pain. And i can imagine you tortured yourself thinking what yiu did the previous days to cause it 🙁. .. which, easy to say. But yiu most likley wouldnt have done anything. I was the same with the mmc. I worked back to when the heart stopped and could recall it being really cold that week and it felt like there was an ice pack under my skin, lower stomach. How it got me reading about 'cold uterus' my circulation is shocking, always cold hands and feet so for me i think its a blood flow problem, bodys priorising it to vital organs and not the uterus etc. Its all mind consuming. What we need is lots of money and our own personal gp to scan every day 🤯🤣. Id love to find out at 6mths, or maybe even labour, that would be good lol

Hi all, ttc after mmc and have been silently following your thread for a while. If you make a new one could i be added in? You're all very knowledgeable and would like to continue following please :)

Hi @Paws4thought So sorry for your loss. Have you been ttc for long? Of course you're more than welcome to join us. As you can see there's a few of us on this group that are still trying but also lots of ladies who have gotten their BFPs so it gives us all hope 🙏 🌈

@Supertrooper101 how are you getting on? You should get bloods back today? X

@SnookyPook not long to go for scan now 🙏

@xxcxdonxx how's the progesterone going?

@Westy22 that's great that your OH can just drop the "specimen" in. Mine was raging that he couldn't do that 🙈😂 I totally agree with you and @Jadeypie I long for this time last year when I didn't know what ttc or tww was. I just had one blazing opk which prompted me to do a test and it turned out I was pregnant!

Coincidentally this date was around my fertile window last year that we conceived without really trying. I finally have a day off work today and can de-stress. I also think I'll have peak today or tomorrow and we have dtd once so might as well give it another shot or 2 even though I said I wouldn't 🤪

@Paws4thought heyyy 👋 so sorry to hear about your loss xx I love this thread!! it's crazy to think we have all been keeping each other sane for 8 months. I hope this year will be your year xx

@Sez281 I think mines the same timing too. I must admit if it happened again the same time as last year I would freak out ha. But yeh never no!! Xx

@Paws4thought sorry for your loss, when did it happen? You're right, we must be almost ready for a new thread!
Wishing @Supertrooper101 and @SnookyPook all the strength and luck for your tests and scans this week, and to everyone else too on your different journeys.
I was just thinking as well @Sez281 that it's a year since the period arrived which turned out to be the start of that pregnancy. I know the exact date as I was travelling for work and very inconveniently got period whilst on the sleeper train! I had packed a pregnancy test for that trip and was so disappointed to see af. It's crazy to think what a rollercoaster it's been and how much pregnancy, loss and ttc have been so dominant in my life since that moment. I know it's the same for all of us whatever our story has been this past year x

@Jadeypie Yeah I think I'd die if it happened. The majority of us here conceived around this time or in the coming weeks so for many it will be bitter sweet time 🥺 but stories like yours @Hankthehonk give us all hope, and I truly believe that it will happen for us all 🙏🌈💓

@Sez281 yep jan last year was my period before the mmc. Remember the date and bloods, everything. Its flown by but with such negativity 🤦‍♀️ lol should get the bloods back today then hopefully some more took today too. Will see ! I knew you would give this cycle a shot haha..... so many ppl have gotten pregnant the cycle before ivf or intervention because they didnt care if it happened or not as they had a back up plan ready to go. So 🤞 for you!
Hi @Paws4thought , were not a bad bunch and have all got similar storys yet different in little ways, so one of us should be able to help you if you have any questions, or if you need to vent, it oftens helps, i moan all the time and say things and my feelings on here that i cant say out loud to other people, or basically dont wont too, but on here i feel like i can, cos all off the above ppl are genuine and know exactly how you feel......like shit most the time inside your own head 🤣

@Supertrooper101 I will be keeping my eye out for your update today. I'm keeping positive for you and everything will be fine xx

I've already took I'm out this cycle I've not been very active in bding haha I'm in that mode it's OK because I have these appointments coming up.

@SnookyPook how you feeling with your scan getting closer? I hope your coping xx

Where's everyone in their cycles? @Westy22 @xxcxdonxx

Thanks for all the welcoming messages. I caught for first, first try end of July, went for a reassurance scan at 8 weeks which showed it was measuring 5-6 weeks, 3 scans and a few weeks later they confirmed mmc and I had mva in October so this is now my 3rd month trying, early days compared to everyone else but naively thought it would happen first time again. My best friend also got pregnant same time as me and although I'm happy for her it's a constant reminder of where I would have been.
It's reassuring reading all the success stories and hopefully we'll all have bfp in the next few months :)

Hey @Paws4thought so sorry about your loss, like everyone else has said on here, it's a place to vent and speak your mind when you can't with people around you. I've found it very supportive and it's great to compare notes about GPs etc lol! I've been there with a close friend being pregnant when I was, she was further ahead and it was a massive test of our friendship as she wasn't the best support at the time, but we've come out the other side ❤️

So I'm cycle day 10 @Jadeypie and have no opks so I'm not tracking 🤣 we're going away for a few days so I'm just going to chill out as I've definitely had some wobbles the last few days with more baby announcements around me from close friends. I'm so looking forward to the break even If its like minus 4 🤣🤣

Good luck with the blood results today @Supertrooper101 xx

At least the sun is out 🤣 despite the 0 degree out there where i am. Got the bloods, its 206 and the reference is 5 to 476 i think so on the lower end. Got some more tomorrow so hopefully be ok then

@Supertrooper101 is that HCG level? That's not lower end! My first one from my last MC was only 63 at 4+2. Hopefully all good for you 💕

Thanks everyone for your support. @Jadeypie I'm a bit up and down. Scared because I keep feeling a bit more hopeful and that is making me anxious!! Got a chat with the MH support midwife this afternoon so hopefully that will be helpful.

@Paws4thought welcome and so sorry for your loss. This is a great supportive thread so hopefully you will find some comfort here. 💕

@Westy22 Enjoy the break away, I'm very jealous! X

@Paws4thought Oh it's so hard when you know somebody who conceived at the same time and you have to see the stages that you would have been at 🥺 It's really positive that you caught first time though so no doubt it will happen for you soon xx

@Supertrooper101 I think 206 is really good for so early?! I know mine was only 121 and I would have been further along, then a week later was 527 before jumping the next week to 1600. Hopefully you have a nice jump too for bit of reassurance 🙏 xx

It's freezing here too but lovely and sunny so I'm going to get my ass out walking with a podcast as part of my destressing mission 🧘

@Sez281 and @SnookyPook i can remember having them done 4+6 last time and they were nearly 5000....that ended in mmc soooooo 🤷‍♀️🙆‍♀️ honestly. Tis hard work all this lol you doing opks or just dtd @Sez281 lol i liked your trail of thought last time @SnookyPook when you was waiting for your scan, that what ever is has happened happening inside, has already happened etc....and it turned out to be a good scan 🙂 try that approach again to try and calm your nerves xx

@Supertrooper101 you can't throw my own wisdom back at me! 😂 You're right though. And it is true. Che Sera, Sera! 🙏🏼🌈💕

@SnookyPook oh I can imagine the feelings to be very mixed and up and down hopefully speaking to the midwife will help abit of anxiety xx

@Supertrooper101 I agree with the others seems like good numbers. This next blood test should help calm some feelings tho xx

@Sez281 it's freezing here but grateful for some sunshine so I'm going to jet wash the car haha already been to home and bargain and bought a load of shite! I'm aiming for a productive day xx

@Westy22 I could do with a few days away hope you have the best time and a deserving switch off xx

@Supertrooper101 you know me so well, I've no will power 😂 I honestly had great intentions to skip this window but I just can't do it 🙈 I'm using opks and bbt, reckon I'll peak tomorrow. I have smear today so can't dtd 24 hours beforehand as it can mess with results but might try tonight if I'm not sore after it 😣 I really feel hopeful with your bloods 🙏 but yeah your reusing of @SnookyPook words of wisdom are true and what will be will be xx

@Jadeypie you can't beat a productive day to blow off the cobwebs 💪 I'm just back from walk. I debated starting the "don't tell me to relax" fertility podcast as I've heard it's good but decided to switch off completely and listened to my therapist ghosted me 😂

I just had a call from the hospital to get the ivf ball rolling. Aswell as going in for monitoring with my consultant next cycle for my ovulation induction I also have to go get scanned separately around cd5 with the ivf team and get bloods done etc. I knew it was coming but feel a bit sick about it. Hoping after a cycle or 2 of Leterazol that it won't come to it but if it does then I may just accept it.. and start going down ivf rabbit holes 🙈

@Westy22 I'm glad you and your friend made it out of the other side, my friend is understanding which helps but think we both tred carefully. Hope you have a lovely time away 😀
@SnookyPook thank you, look forward to your scan update this week!
@Supertrooper101 your bloods sound good, hopefully after tomorrow you can start to feel positive about it. You're right about being able to share thoughts/ feelings on here, think its easier to understand it more when in same position.
@Sez281 I hope so, I thought I was quite a patient person but not now it's come to this 😆

@Sez281 at least if ivf checks are happening soon you shouldn't have to wait too long to get started if you choose to, hopefully you wont need it tho. What cycle day are you on now?

@Paws4thought I'm cd 11 so should ovulate tomorrow or the next day. I suppose I should be happy that things are moving it's just pretty overwhelming as I'm so sure we can do it naturally 😕. I have to get the ivf scans and bloods early in next cycle (around day 5) so between that and the consultant scans on cd10-12 when I start the Leterazol for ovulation induction I’ll be in the hospital a lot next month 🤯 I shouldn't complain though as I know some people wait ages so I should be grateful 🙏

@Sez281 wow 🙂.... how about....no googleing or forums for ivf, listen to the hospital and go with the flow,and stress it out with us lot ofc lol dont want you getting scared and anxious before you even start that journey.... one step at a time...natrual this cycle and then whatever your consultant tells you what to do next. Am excited for you. Youve tried for so long and deserve this help now....just leace google alone for yiur own sanity 🤣
@SnookyPook i was throwing your own wisdom back at you for your scan haha to calm your nerves lol

@Supertrooper101 I literally had this conversation with my OH this evening. It's out of my hands now, just going to keep doing what we're doing naturally and go with the flow then 🤷‍♀️

I'm going to create a new thread as this is almost full. I'll attach link then for anyone that wants to jump on xx

I think I've managed to create a new thread. It's harder than I thought! 😂 So sorry if I've forgotten anybody make sure absolutely tag them xx

TTC May 2023 💖 Previous MC March 2023 (thread 3) www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4986157-ttc-may-2023-previous-mc-march-2023-thread-3