TTC May 2023 💖 Previous MC March 2023 (thread 2)

[Sez281]

Hi ladies, just thought I'd create a new thread for anybody that wants to continue.
@Jadeypie
@Westy22
@Freddie15VES
@fleur89
@Strawb28
@DmcinT
@HopeAndStrength
@xxcxdonxx
And @SnookyPook for if/when you feel like you might want to come back xx

Sorry if I've forgotten anybody, I realise most of you guys have had your BFPs and there's only a few off us left waiting, but at least you know the thread is here so come back and keep us updated with all your lovely pregnancy stories 😊 For those of us still here, hopefully it won't be too much longer 🙏💖 xx

Ah sorry @Sez281 that is disappointing, as @Jadeypie says, open the wine and sounds like you are armed with info to take to your appointment next week.

So strange @Westy22, with my chemicals it was a faint positive from about 10dpo that just got lighter and spotting that turned into my period so you could have missed it if you didn’t test earlier? Sorry to hear that, it’s cruel when you kind of get your hopes up like that.

Sounds like you are clued up @Supertrooper101 !! I know a lot of people do it just to balance out hormones but I don’t know if there is much evidence to back it up.

@Jadeypie it’s not so bad, I prepared it all in advance and just added them to my breakfast. An acquired taste I would say!

I’ve just done another ovulation test and I’m pretty sure it’s positive, no clue why it’s so early! We haven’t dtd yet, I feel I’m out this month before it’s even started 😩

Evening ladies. Hope you're all ok?

Currently still on a bit of a high after my last scan and I've also had my booking appointment today so another milestone ticked off. For various reasons I'll be under Consultant Led Care so some extra monitoring etc which I'm quite pleased about! Also had a really lovely midwife who completely got the anxiety etc. She had her one and only child at the age of 42 - an IVF pregnancy that had 5% likelihood of success after years of fertility issues!! Can't imagine going through all that whilst simultaneously looking after other pregnant women! But she was lovely and really affirming - said her experience made her better at her job now.

@Sez281 sending you a hug. Enjoy some vino and naughty cheese etc. One thing my Sister said to me when I got down about AF appearing was "you never know when AF will be Day 1 of your next pregnancy". I found it a comfort - not sure it would work for everyone though!

@SnookyPook that’s great to hear, absolutely savour all of those lovely high moments!
Really reassuring that you will be under consultant care too, you will be in the best hands.
Sounds like you have a great midwife. That experience would definitely shape you and so amazing that she was able to use it positively to support those in her care.

Another milestone ticked off, you are doing great 🥰

@Sez281 i quite like temping too. I get side cramps the day of a positive opk so it was good to back that up as same day ovulating as opk. Does say u can anywhere from 8hrs to 36hrs after a positive opk...the temp rise at least confirms it happened. I have absolutley threw the times out this cycle though, would nornally be 7.30am but been 8 9 10 and so on lol i havent got any tests in lol i always beleved if i tested earlyer before af it would jinx it 🤷‍♀️ i was going to f that supersition off tho and buy some but forgot, so ill wait lol got my usual signs of coming on tho....extra discharge, randy and increased appitite lol @Westy22 one of my cycles was longer than usual and i had accupuncture but that was a cuple of days before i came on. They say stress can delay it, but also see it as a good sign that your progestrone levels must be high which is good for when you do conceive.
@xxcxdonxx i like my nuts and seeds anyway so had them all in. Am always weary of flaxseed tho, bit of conflicting info on it re estrogen... the theory is 2 support estrogen and 2 support progestrone. I eat mixed nuts inbetween too so not sure if am counteracting the bloody process or not lol do you do 1 tbps of each twice a day?
@Jadeypie im normally good with tablets but bort some magnesium glycinate and the tablets are chalky and massive. They get stuck every time. So crunch on them but the taste is minging. So bit stuck as to what to do with them buggers lol which multivutamin did you get? Was you taking a prenatal one before? Be interesting to see if your periods lengthen now. Whens your next appointment 🙂..@SnookyPook hats of to that midwife. I couldnt do it. I would be too angry. I was under consultant. First appointment was at 14wks....didnt make it that far and said after whats the points of putting me under them to just leaving it to fate for 14wks 🤷‍♀️ plsd its going well for you x

I don't feel stressed @Supertrooper101 although it's making me stress now 🤣 woke up feeling like I'm getting a cold again and headache. Feel like my hormones are going mental. Took me hours to get to sleep too when usually I drop straight off 😩 hopefully it arrives today x

@SnookyPook Oh that midwife sounds amazing! I love hearing stories like that as it gives me hope still trying for 1st at my age 🙏 Also what your sister said is a great way to look at it. Hopefully this is one of my last periods (I certainly won't miss them!) it's so great that you're going to have more monitoring for that extra bit of reassurance xx

@Westy22 Is there any chance you ovulated later than expected? If not hopefully it arrives soon and you can just chalk it down to a weird cycle 😕 xx

@xxcxdonxx how early are you in cycle? It could just be that your body is gearing up for it? Just remember it only takes one's time. The 3 times I conceived last year we barely dtd 🤷‍♀️ xx

@Supertrooper101 you have some willpower! Strangely your pre AF signs are the exact opposite of mine (apart from increased appetite 🙈) you still never know though! 🤞 xx

@Sez281 I don't think so, I'm glad I did opk's most days this cycle so I can look back ha I've attached and my peak looks clear unless I missed a higher one just after? I've had some more slightly brown tinged CM again this morning 😑 very bizarre, fell down a rabbit hole of the chance I may have ovulated later but my chart doesn't give me that vibe 🤣 maybe it's just a crazy cycle, I just don't like the fact it's getting longer as my gp didn't like the idea of my cycle lengths going weird x

@Westy22 Yeah that definitely looks like a proper peak. Did you do any opks for those 4-5 days after? If not there's a chance you might have had another peak in those days, probably clutching at straws I know but there is a chance you could have ovulated later and not known 🤷‍♀️

@Supertrooper101 i would just grind up and mix in together so I could have two tablespoons of flax/pumpkin or sesame/sunflower with my breakfast.

@Sez281 I’m only Cd11 today, I tested again this morning and just now and it’s still positive so looks like I caught the beginning of the peak. It’s normally CD15-18 for me so strangely early but hopefully nothing concerning.

A strange one @Westy22 keeping everything crossed it’s a good sign for you xx

@Westy22 id love to fall straight aslp lol i probably have 3 or 4 nights in the month where i do, the rest of the time it takes me ages or am up every hour. Drives me mad. Tempted to import some melatonin! Lol ....good for the eggs too aparentley lol no wonder myne are shot if i dont get much sleep 🤣... why does your say he would be concerned if your cycles went crazy? Your temp dip i would say confirms ovulation started, not sure what the crazy jump beforehand was tho 🤔.. lady lucy the acupuncturist keeps telling me temps should be around 36.4 or 5 pre ovulation then a sharpe rise by 2 degrees to confirm ovulation then 36.6 to 37 until the drop before your period.
@xxcxdonxx i just spoon them in my gob. I like them lol i do one of each twice a day.
Well xmas things all down today. Always me myself and i that has to do it! And d head here bort a snowy one this year 😭..Not putting one up nxt xmas, just gona throw tinsel and lights everywhere 🤣

Ah sorry I didn't say @Supertrooper101 that's my LH chart I didn't temp...I've only just bought the thermometer 🤣 Think my gp said it won't help when trying to work out what's going on and why I'm not conceiving if my cycles start to change.

I didn't test for those days no 🙈, which I'm regretting I think that's when I was full of a cold and give up 🤣🤣 @Sez281

Thanks @xxcxdonxx good luck this cycle xx

@Supertrooper101 could you grind the magnesium glycinate into a powder and mix with yoghurt or something?! Yeah it will likely be 14wks before I see consultant too. I think they do it that way because the consultant is there for the pregnancy so if it's not viable, they just aren't interested beforehand. Bit cold and 'by the book' though isn't it.

@Westy22 it does look as though you caught your peak, although I guess it could have gone a bit higher in the few days after. Is it similar to your usual pattern? I usually have a quick rise so even if I missed the peak reading I would know which 12hrs it was in from the readings either side. Mine was always low low low then slight rise in the morning, massive peak in evening and then straight back down the next morning! Even with tracking and being certain of peak I had a couple of cycles where AF was 2-3 days late for no obvious reason. Think she sometimes just likes to mess with us!! I hope you get some clarity soon!!

Morning ladies,

AF finally arrived, had some spotting last night and had to run the loo this morning which I've not had to do for a while so she's in full force 🤣🤣 feel surprisingly okay about it, it's better she's here than leaving me in limbo with negative tests lol x

@Westy22 ooooo,didnt know a lh chart was a thing,and am definatley not looking into doing one haha use @SnookyPook saying, this could be your period of your next pregnancy!
@SnookyPook yeah re the consultant wanting to help only if the pregnancy has progressed... but it is cold. There should be one beforehand when most things go wrong 🤷‍♀️

Well 11dpo here... i joined the testing gang 🤣 and got a very postive negative! Haha. Didnt expect anything else tbf lol

Sorry to hear that @Westy22 but as you say at least you know where you're at now! X

@Supertrooper101 the Premom app is great for charting opks along with bbt.

AF has finished for me, only lasted 2 days (2.5 if I include a tiny bit of spotting before it started) it feels like this is way too short. I've done some googling and my high prolactin levels could be to blame. I'll add it to the growing list of things to discuss with the consultant on Tuesday!

Ah sorry @Westy22 but fresh start for this cycle and as you say, better to know.

Still time @Supertrooper101 you never know 🤞🏻

@Sez281 mine seemed quite short too, 2 days of heavy bleeding and then spotting for maybe 2 at the very most. Everything seems to be a source of worry for me at the moment!

Has anyone been tested for ‘sticky blood’? I got my appointment through for a few weeks but it’s at a hospital rather than my local clinic where I assumed I’d go. Don’t expect to get anything from it, I assume I would know by now but always good to get it checked off.

@Sez281 av tried uploading my opks on femometer but its annoying as hell so stopped bothering. Got the usual pre af cramps so ill expect a temp drop tomorrow... you looking forward to ur ap tuesday 🤔 lol
@xxcxdonxx know ones ever mentioned that blood test to me but seen ppl on about it on here. Is that because you have had more than one mc?

@Supertrooper101 yeah it can cause recurrent miscarriage and complications in pregnancy. Another thing to check off the list I suppose!

Hi ladies just caught up feel like we step away for a few days and there's so much updates haha

Is it just me or do we all sound the same I'm sure we have all synced up with each other haha. @Sez281 my cycles have been three days last few months apart from this last one it was five. @Westy22 sorry to see af turned up but am glad your being positive. @Supertrooper101 my aps 31st crnt wait for it now I've waited long enough for it!!
Looks like everyone's on this seed train aswell I don't no how I havnt come across it considering I stalk google over everything to do with ttc and hormones ect haha. @SnookyPook glad you've been on a high and so you should be it's great.
Nothing new for me glad the pms has gone and I don't want to murder dp anymore haha bk on my health kick for some strange reason I didn't put weight on over xmas (i should of 🤣)so am please with that. also I didn't no vitimins can give u neon pee or is that just me? Anyway am in positive mode ha xx

@Jadeypie i have nuts and seeds anyway. I dont really do meals, just snack .. never cycled them tho. 12dpo today. App saying one day late, not sure why when its got 9mths of random cycles on there saying my longest has been 31days 🤷‍♀️.. did a test yesterday and negative but the 12dpo is good for me so maybe the seeds who knows. Yeah its one of the b vitamins in the tablet lol i dont take them anymore, just stuff seperate now.
@xxcxdonxx might ask for it to be added to my nxt set of bloods just for fun lol

@Jadeypie certain vitamins make my fmu proper neon it's crazy! 😂 Well done on not putting on any weight over Christmas. I weighed myself this morning and nearly died. It's giving me the kick up the ass I need though! 💪 Your appointment should fly in now xx

@Supertrooper101 id be delighted with 12dpo (I never get passed 11) will you test again? I'm really looking forward to appointment, my oh is coming too so hopefully she gives us a plan (apart from losing weight)

I think I'm going to have a dodgy month like I did in October. I'm only cd4 and my opk is quite dark, not positive yet but I think ovulation could be in a couple of days and it's way too early 😣 I'm hoping she scans me tomorrow to confirm I'm not crazy!

@xxcxdonxx I've never heard of that but currently down another rabbit hole so thanks for that! 😂 Did you confirm peak? X

@xxcxdonxx is that antiphospholipid syndrome? They mentioned that after my last loss and think it was one of the things the fertility consultant was going to look into. Think it can be quite easy to address (the aspirin mostly?!). Obviously never got that far in the end and I've not been on aspirin yet this pregnancy so maybe means it wasn't an issue for me. Suspect my losses were most likely chromosomal and not to do with hormones etc, though possibly needed a progesterone boost. Since starting my pessaries I've watched some YouTube around that and it does seem compelling for the progesterone. For you guys it would deffo be worth exploring progesterone from about 3dpo rather than from positive test (from the one insightful video I saw which has obviously now made me an expert 😂😂)

Hope you're all doing ok. X

This was the video I saw if anyone is interested. I really like this doctor's channel. Quite a few interesting videos about fertility etc and she presents it in a very clear way.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FjesPZJlmSA&pp=ygUncHJvZ2VzdGVyb25lIHBlc3NhcmllcyBOYXRhbGllIGNyYXdmb3Jk

@SnookyPook interesting video. I've been researching it for months now (was on them before MMC last year and have new prescription to start from BFP) I wasn't sure if I should start taking it from 2/3dpo as my day 21 levels are good but it appears that my short LP isn't giving anything time to stick so I'm going to ask the consultant tomorrow. The downside as @xxcxdonxx knows is that they're messy, they mimic pregnancy symptoms and they will delay AF in coming for a few days until you stop them. I think the pros outweigh the cons though so I'm definitely going to ask her if I can give it a try. I'm feeling really pissed off with it all this evening. If I hadn't just finished AF I'd swear I have pms!

@SnookyPook yes that’s the one! The consultant said the test can result in false positives so if I do test positive I’d need to go back in 12 weeks for another and if that’s still positive then it’s aspirin.
I’ve watched a few of this ladies videos so I’ll check this one out too.

@Sez281🤣🤣 you are welcome, another thing to add to Google, mine list gets longer when I come on these threads!

I’m wondering what to do with these pessaries and if I should start them earlier. I had a peak Friday - Sunday am so assuming I maybe ovulated today so 3dpo would be Thurs. I was advised to take them CD18 which would be Saturday so only a few days earlier. I’ve actually had a bit of spotting last night/ today so assuming ovulation has happened now and it might be ok?