1DPO... any cycle buddies out there?

[Kewchoc]

I'm currently TTC following a miscarriage at 12 weeks on 5th August. I haven't had a period yet but we decided not to wait, as I'm desperate to be pregnant again and I think that is the only thing that will make me feel better about the loss. I have been tracking ovulation and did catch my peak so now just hoping I've got the timing of DTD right.

Just wondering if anyone out there TTC is around the same time in their cycle so that we can chat to each other really. I think I'm already driving my husband mad, it would be nice to speak to other people who really understand how I'm feeling! 😊

@Kewchoc my first period has 2 really heavy days, way heavier than usual, but apart from that it wasn't too awful.

@Amberellalina I'm doing ok thanks. Tough day yesterday, lots of tears and feeling down. I think now I know what's going on with my cycle I'm going to not do most of what I have for the upcoming months (until my appointment) and just use the clearblue sticks. Only need to use them because we have to do home artificial insemination so still need to know what days to target! Other than that I'm going to just take it easy and take one day at a time x

Awwww, @moosey89 that sounds rough. But at least you do know what the issue is now and hopefully it will be easy to fix! How did you get on with the blood test-Mira comparison?

What’s everyone doing re:supplements this cycle? As well as pregnacare and 100mg b6 I’m taking prenatal probiotics (heard they are good if you have had a surgical erpc like I have) and just bought a box of spatone because I’m feeling a bit low on iron… I started having pomegranate juice and Brazil nuts last cycle and still having those, more because I like them though rather than because I seriously think it would help 😂

I’m also exploring IVF. Not sure if it will increase our chances of getting a take home baby but definitely worth asking and I find it helpful to feel like I’m doing something!

I’m just taking folic acid with vitamin D and spatone at the moment. Always had low iron on and off so I take that anyway, and it doesn’t upset my stomach like iron tablets!

Period is due on Friday, if my cycles aren’t still messed up from the miscarriage, so if it arrives will continue with the same combo next cycle.

I’ve held out testing as I have no symptoms and just trying to tell myself that it’s not going to happen to help ease the disappointment. For the baby I miscarried we got pregnant first month of trying, and I just don’t think we’ll be that lucky for that to happen again!

I’ve got friends staying over the weekend that I’ve not seen in a while so I’ll either be secretly celebrating with mock tails or have a relaxed night out with cocktails knowing I have a couple of weeks until the anxiety of the Tww starts again 🤣

Hope you’re all doing okay this weekend

Hi guys, I’m 10dpo today and in a similar situation to a few of you. I had a mmc in late June and had surgery July. I’ve had one period since my surgery and this is my first cycle back on the wild TTC horse.

It took 7months for us to conceive the pregnancy that I lost, it felt forever but I’m clinging onto the hope that this one will be faster.

I feel weird about testing, like I will jinx it or something. AF is due this Friday. I have zero symptoms save for tender boobs, but this is normal PMS for me. My last pregnancy I had insomnia, bloating and a migraine on the day I think implanted.

Good luck to those holding out and congrats to any BFPs! X

Fingers crossed for us both this week x

@Amberellalina it was pretty accurate actually! I'd definitely trust all 3 of the test types haha

This coming month is definitely one for my mental health (actually until that appointment). Just going to exercise and enjoy myself best I can xx

Sorry for your loss @LexIvy88, and fingers crossed for this month for you and @Agathapoirot.

Good to hear that about Mira @moosey89!! It must be helpful to know that you can be confident it’s giving you useful information.

How is everyone?

CD6 for me today - and I’m already counting down the days to my fertile window! Could be a long month… I normally start testing for ovulation from CD10 and it usually happens CD17/18.

@Agathapoirot I’m generally a bit low on iron as well. Any top tips for natural (vegetarian) sources? I like dried apricots which are supposed to be high in iron, so I might chuck a few of them in with my Brazil nut snack pot for an extra boost ☺️

@Amberellalina isnt spinach a really good source of iron?

@HashB yeah, but I don’t like it!

@Amberellalina I’m vegan so feel your struggle on finding natural sources! I just try and eat as much green stuff as I can, vitamin C helps absorption and sadly tea blocks absorption so I try and limit that too!

Hope you’re all doing well x

I’ve tested the last couple of days because I made the mistake of buying tests for ‘when AF was late’ and all were definitely stark white negatives, but this morning I think I see a vvvvvvvfl. I always do two just to make sure it’s not a dodgy test. Came up in the time frame, so shall just have to wait and see, AF due Friday if mc hasn’t messed up my cycles 🤞🏼

That looks promising @Agathapoirot, I can see something there too… Got my fingers crossed for you!

How’s everyone else doing? I’m having a major wobble at the minute, thinking a lot about the baby I lost, and just generally feeling not Ok 🙁

Sorry to hear you are finding things tough right now@Amberellalina, its just such a rollercoaster isn’t it. Ive been struggling this week too, i was a bit knocked by the chemical pregnancy despite trying to not get my hopes up. We are only trying 6 months but I’ve been anxious since the start because of some underlying health stuff and i think getting my first BFP and then losing it has just really sent my anxiety into overdrive! Going for some tests next week so trying to let myself feel my feelings and then focus on having a plan. It’s a new month, hoping it’s a good one for us all!!

Yep @Crazydogladie we definitely need to try and stay positive, but it is easier said than done some days isn’t it!! I have some tests next week too (AMH blood test and follicle-counting scan) and it’s good to feel like you’re actively doing something. My tests are in Manchester so I’m going to take the day off work, and leave dd in nursery to just take a bit of time to myself to mooch about the shops and generally potter about. Hopefully some time to process will help.

Good luck with your tests - what are you having?

Hey ladies, sorry I've been MIA the past few days. I needed to try and get my mind off TTC cause I was getting a bit obsessed and getting my period was a really difficult experience for me. Hope you're all okay 😊 there's a few of you who will be approaching your fertile windows soon isn't there!

Sorry to hear you're struggling @Amberellalina do you think something has triggered it? (Not that it needs a trigger!)

Just out of curiosity, did MC have much impact on any of your relationships with partners? My husband and I usually have a really good relationship but since the loss we've had quite a few arguments and things just don't feel the same 😞

Thanks @Kewchoc, I think it’s because I’m coming up to a year ttc now and because of my age I keep thinking that the baby I lost was my chance for #2 and I missed it. Stupid, I know!

I think taking a break is a good idea. Do you feel a bit better now?

Sorry to hear that things are weird between you and your husband. The pressure that baby loss (and ttc in general…) puts on relationships is intense. I’m sure it will pass as things get easier.

I’m on CD10 but ov around CD18 so still got a way to go. Started OPKs this morning, fingers crossed for both of us (and everyone else on the thread) this month…

@Agathapoirot how are you getting on? Any line progression to report?

All a bit strange really, had a line on a boots early on Wednesday evening, yesterday morning easy at home was super duper faint again and I had a bit of spotting first thing with nothing else since.

This morning I did easy at home, boots early, boots normal and a clear blue early. All came up with a line, and the boots normal (25 rather than 10) was strangely the strongest!

My period is due today, and I don’t usually get any spotting beforehand, just straight into it. I’ve got friends staying this weekend so am going to forget about it, not test and see if AF shows up, if not I’ll test again Monday.

Feel like by now I should be getting much stronger tests, but the mc might have messed with my cycles I guess. Similarly wouldn’t be surprised if AF shows up and this is a chemical given how faint they are.

Just have to do our favourite thing and wait and see!

Sorry to hear that some of you are struggling, it definitely comes in waves doesn’t it? Feel okay one week, and the sadness hits the next.

I found the mc was very different for me and my partner, he was very sad, but didn’t have to go through the physical element. Best thing to do is just to keep talking and like amberellalina said, it will get easier with time.

@Kewchoc with my first miscarriage it was the trigger for breaking up with my husband - not the cause, we weren't compatible, but it brought out a lot of issues that we'd be suppressing and we really weren't good at supporting each other.

This time I've made a huge effort to talk through all the uncomfortable things with my partner and whilst those conversations haven't been fun it's really helped. Every time I feel down or wierd I tell him and we talk about it. I'm sure things will be ok with your other half - just keep being open and honest and encourage him to be the same. Also respect both your needs for time alone if you need it. Hugs x

Got my fingers crossed for you @Agathapoirot… waiting to test again til Monday seems very sensible and hopefully your visitors will keep your mind off of things!

Think I might be counting myself out this month already - more spotting today and a bit crampy. I haven’t ovulated yet and I can’t see any scenario where bleeding at this point it is good for my chances! In a way it takes the pressure off a bit, clearly my hormones are still out of whack and there’s not much I can do about that…

How was your first period back @Kewchoc? Everything feeling normal?

Thinking about the Mira again @moosey89 - can you test at any time or do you have to not drink anything and hold it in for a bit like you do with evening OPKs? I really struggle with that as I drink water (and so pee…) pretty much constantly all day 😂

Sadly a chemical as AF came with full force this morning 😞 Do you think I should count the start of the spotting on Thursday as cycle day 1, or today when the full bleeding started?

Glad to have my friends staying as I’m having to put on a brave face and pretend nothings happening. Stopping me from having a little cry to be honest.

Hope you’re all having good weekends x

Oh no! Sorry to hear that @Agathapoirot. Sending a hug x

Thanks for everyone's replies re relationships after MC. To be fair, in the space of two months we've had the MC, I've started a more senior/stressful role at work, we've had a falling out with my husbands family and gone no contact with his mum (been a long time coming) and we're renovating the house. So a lot of stress is on us at the moment I guess it makes sense we're arguing more. Will be so glad for life to start feeling normal again!

@Amberellalina my first period was definitely heavier than usual but still lasted the normal five days. Sorry to hear you're counting yourself out, maybe you're just going to ovulate a little late? Will keep my fingers crossed for you.

@Agathapoirot so sorry to hear about the chemical 😞 the whole TTC journey is so incredibly unfair 😞