1DPO... any cycle buddies out there?

[Kewchoc]

I'm currently TTC following a miscarriage at 12 weeks on 5th August. I haven't had a period yet but we decided not to wait, as I'm desperate to be pregnant again and I think that is the only thing that will make me feel better about the loss. I have been tracking ovulation and did catch my peak so now just hoping I've got the timing of DTD right.

Just wondering if anyone out there TTC is around the same time in their cycle so that we can chat to each other really. I think I'm already driving my husband mad, it would be nice to speak to other people who really understand how I'm feeling! 😊

Yep, I’m 3dpo today and also ttc straight after an mc with no period. Had a mmc caught at 9 weeks with medical management at 10 weeks and a fun EPRC at what would have been 14 weeks… quite pleased things seem to be finally getting back to normal and can get back to ttc! It’s #2 for me and I’m 41, dd is 2 and we conceived her in the first month of trying.

How about you? Any other dc?

Sorry to hear about your loss, it's an absolutely horrendous thing to go through isn't it. I also had medical management and I honestly think the physical trauma of it all is equally as bad as losing the baby.

Have you been tracking ovulation? Or taking supplements? I've recently started the Pregnacare trying to conceive and also maca root which I've read is good for conception.

We have a 19 month old son already and it took six months to conceive with him (interestingly I started taking maca root on month 5 of TTC with him and did conceive the next month, could be a coincidence or maybe it really does help). My previous pregnancy which resulted in the loss was actually unplanned and quite a shock, which I think is helping me deal with it and also gives me hope that it won't take too long to get pregnant again now that im putting the effort in... but who knows!

I’m sure it will happen soon - you obviously don’t have any issues getting pregnant! And they do say you’re more fertile immediately after a loss. It also sounds like it’s made you realise you’re now ready for another one - and mentally prepared for the extreme sleep deprivation!

For me the psychological trauma has been worse than the physical - it was so confusing to feel so pregnant (I had hg) but to not be, and then just when I thought I’d gotten to the end of the mc and starting to feel normal, having the retained products and having to have the surgery…

It took us eight months to get pregnant second time, but I was bfing a bit for the first six of those and I guess I’m one of those people who needs to stop completely to fall… on pregnacare ttc and tracking ovulation using opks. Used ICs before but this cycle switched to the ClearBlue advanced one to try and catch the days before the LH surge. Managed to dtd on Thurs, Sat and Mon, and my apps think I ov’d either Sat or Sun so I’m optimistic re: timing!

Yeah, I have heard the same thing re being more fertile which is promising isn't it! Absolutely, our original plan was start trying again once ds turned two but now that this has happened we're wanting to bring it forward. I think that because it was such a shock we spent so much time talking about the practicalities of having the small age gap and realised it would actually work better for us, then once we had actually started planning how everything would work it was stolen from us so now we want that back.

That makes sense, it sounds like that situation would really mess with your head 😞 I'd never really thought about miscarriages much prior to it happening, I don't suppose anyone does, but I think when you've been through it and get talking to other women with similar experiences you realise the gravity of it all.

Oh yes your timings sound very good! Fingers crossed then! I had my ovulation test peak on Monday and we DTD Sunday, Monday and Tuesday. I'm pretty confident that actual ovulation pain happened today though cause I've had a dull ache/cramp/heavy feeling all day. Hoping it's not a bad sign as I never had any ovulation pain pre MC

I would say it’s more likely to be a good sign - no ovulation = no symptoms! I noticed I had much stronger discomfort in the pre-surge phase, which I put down to the estrogen. Maybe our hormone levels are higher because we’ve been pregnant recently? Hopefully a sign that the increased fertility rumours are true.

I know what you mean about your pregnancy being stolen - I feel like by rights I should be pregnant right now and the Universe needs to get its act together and make it right 😂

I think I’ll do a test at 10dpo, which should be this time next week…

How are you feeling today @Kewchoc? Has the discomfort passed?

I hope so! I did wonder a similar thing about the discomfort being because there's more hormones and it's actually a good sign but I don't want to get my hopes up haha. Did you ever have the discomfort before the miscarriage?

Yes that's exactly how I feel too! It's almost like my brain just doesn't want to accept what happened and is trying to carry on planning for having another baby... so it needs to happen soon haha.

10dpo is a good time to test. I'd like to say I'll do the same but I'm terrible for early testing even though I know what the outcome will be 🙄

Yes my discomfort seems to have stopped now so I'm really hoping that it was actually ovulation causing it. At least that will mean that I'm using my opk's right 🤣

How do you feel about the idea of being heavily pregnant with a toddler?

I always feel a bit twingey around ovulation but it was stronger this time - maybe from raised hormones? I also felt completely exhausted on Tuesday which I put down to rising progesterone and successful ovulation ☺️

Glad you’re feeling better, just got to get through the waiting now - always the hardest part!

Because I get so sick, the first trimester with a toddler was horrible - especially because I didn’t have much help with her. DH was extremely busy with work and MIL who comes up to help sometimes couldn’t come because FIL had been in hospital and she needed to look after him. Hopefully they’ll both be in a better place to support next time… How about you?

…and when are you going to start going properly mad testing? 😂

Hi ladies I'm 4dpo today, first cycle of trying since mmc (my second) in July, me and my partner tried for about 6 months for that cycle. I did try before af came back post miscarriage but didn't ovulate. Tracking this month looks like things are back to normal which is good 😊 I don't expect to be one of the lucky ones who get pregnant right away but you never know! Took 2.5 years to get pregnant with my ex and 6 months with my current partner so maybe it's getting quicker 😂

@Amberellalina That would make sense wouldn't it! Funnily enough I have also been absolutely exhausted whilst approaching ovulation/ovulating so you may be on to something there!

I know, I really do despise the two week wait but I'm hoping this thread will help keep me a bit more sane this time around 🤣

I was the same - the nausea and exhaustion was just something else and I did find it super difficult looking after ds but my mum only lives 5 mins away and works part time so she was a great help which I was very thankful for.

Haha, is 2DPO too soon to test?! 🤣 I'm going to really try and hold out til 10DPO but I'll probably end up testing after about a week. Which is ridiculous cause implantation probably wouldn't have even happened by then but I just lose all sense of logic!!

@moosey89 welcome! Sorry to hear about your loss, it seems to be a common theme with all of us 😞 glad to hear your cycle is getting back to normal though, hopefully you're right and this time round will be even quicker!

@moosey89 welcome to the club! And sorry for your losses. Fingers crossed for third time lucky and things happening even quicker this time!

Someone needs to invent a Time Machine that only needs to go forward two weeks. Then you’ll be able to see if it’s your month and either (a) get excited and start planning or (b) have a massive wine and get ready to go again next month ☺️

@Amberellalina thank you. And yes if someone could create that time machine that would be brilliant 😂 2ww problem automatically solved!

Good luck to you too. Sending all the baby dust!x

Haha yes a Time Machine would be great! What do you both think is the earliest to possibly start showing symptoms? I know I was showing symptoms quite a few days before a positive pregnancy test with ds but I can't remember how many dpo it was!

@Kewchoc my sore boobs only started a couple of days before af was due both times so I guess I'd expect around 12dpo for me.... definitely not testing early though! Even though I have many, many cheapies at home 😂🙈

Same here - sore boobs was the first symptom, starting around 10 dpo. Last time I had implantation cramps and spotting at about 6/7 dpo but didn’t have that the first time.

Hey girls! We all seem to be at a similiar stage. I’m 4DPO today. I had an MMC in July, we got pregnant on my third cycle then (the first cycle I started OPKs) but I didn’t quite make 12 weeks. I wanted to try again immediately, I also felt like the universe owed me a baby! But last cycle wasn’t successful and I’m not feeling too hopeful this time I’ve noticed my discharge has gone has gone very similar to how it was last month prior to my period starting.

The two week wait is literally the worst. I really appreciate these posts though from people in the same boat as I actually find this whole process really lonely.

wishing you all good luck xx

Welcome @HashB! And sorry for your loss as well. I wouldn’t count yourself out too soon - your symptoms might just be mc related hormonal weirdness.

Weekend starts today for me - luckily quite a busy one which should keep my mind off of things…

Thanks @Amberellalina.

I’m also playing the distraction game, I actually joined a gym to give myself something to do. It has a spa too that I thought I might as well make the most of since it’s not recommended in pregnancy.

What does everyone have planned?

Welcome @HashB and sorry for your loss ❤️ I agree the two week wait is a very lonely time. Even with the most supportive partner, they just don't understand quite like other women in the same situation do! Try not to count yourself out yet... I've seen so many women get BFP's when they were sure they were out!

I'm already trying not to symptom spot at 3DPO! Ridiculous!

What are you up to this weekend @Amberellalina? I'm working today which should make the day pass more quickly and then we also have quite a busy weekend planned. We also have some work men coming on Monday to start on changing some things around in our house so I'm hoping that will also be a welcome distraction!

Happy Friday everyone! Got a good weekend of distraction coming up, we've got house renovations starting on Monday so we're packing up the entire downstairs, taking the dog and cats to various fosterers and then moving to my in laws for 2 weeks (as for that time we won't have a floor, just a giant hole haha). How's everyone else doing?x

Oh good luck @Kewchoc and @moosey89!

we’re just at the end of renovating our house and it’s unbelievable how disruptive it is to your day to day life (and so so bloody dusty! Always!)

We also had our floorboards up Moosey and it’s crazy how quickly they turn it from your home in to an absolute building site! Good job that you’ve got somewhere else to move to!

Well that all sounds very distracting! We’re doing an extension next year I guess we have all this to come…

DD and I have our usual day together today where we tend to do a play date in the morning, and a long walk and the big shop in the afternoon. Saturday we’ve got a day at the seaside with NCT friends and Sunday we’re off to Cardiff because I have a work meeting there Monday and Tuesday and dd and dh are coming along for a jolly ☺️ That should keep me sufficiently busy to avoid testing until Wednesday!!

Yes renovations are incredibly disruptive aren't they! We were originally planning on moving house this year but what with the mortgage rates we decided to stay put and renovate instead. We're only having a partition wall and door put in next week so I'm hoping it's not too messy but the next job after that is knocking the kitchen through into the conservatory so that's going to be a big (and messy) job I think!

That sounds like a lovely few days @Amberellalina I wish I got to go to nice places like Cardiff with my job!

How's everyone feeling today? Those of you that are a few days ahead of me could be implanting a little bean over the next few days which is exciting!

I’ve started doing the if-I-do-this-will-it-hinder-implantation thing 😂 I’m a scientist, so logically I know that everything is happening at the microscopic scale right now and e.g. mowing the lawn won’t hurt, but it still doesn’t stop doubts creeping in! How about you guys? Do you do anything differently in the implantation window or just carry on as normal?

@Amberellalina Hahaha yep I'm exactly the same. Do you think being a scientist helps you view the TWW with a bit more logic? I do TRY to carry on as normal but I just think it completely takes over your brain when you're trying to conceive and is constantly the first thing on your mind in any situation for those two weeks!

I'm symptom spotting already, which I was going to try not to but it's so hard isn't it? I've woken up absolutely starving this morning, which was the first symptom I had with ds quite a while before a positive test. However I'm only 4DPO today so I do know that it's literally impossible for me to be having any symptoms yet but I'm still sat here this morning like "ooooh but what if.." 🙄