1DPO... any cycle buddies out there?

[Kewchoc]

I'm currently TTC following a miscarriage at 12 weeks on 5th August. I haven't had a period yet but we decided not to wait, as I'm desperate to be pregnant again and I think that is the only thing that will make me feel better about the loss. I have been tracking ovulation and did catch my peak so now just hoping I've got the timing of DTD right.

Just wondering if anyone out there TTC is around the same time in their cycle so that we can chat to each other really. I think I'm already driving my husband mad, it would be nice to speak to other people who really understand how I'm feeling! 😊

Thanks both. I just feel very very sad and tearful. My period is incredibly heavy compared to my usual and to be completely honest I’m feeling very low. Definitely feeling like it’s all very unfair, and finding it very hard to put my sadness in one box and my happiness for my sister in law in another.

Its my brother in laws thirtieth birthday get together next weekend and I don’t quite know how to face i and the inevitable baby talk 😞

@Agathapoirot I know what you mean. One of my NCT friends just had her second baby (and we started trying the same month) and another has just found out she’s pregnant without even properly trying (they were on honeymoon and ‘not preventing’). I’m really happy for her, especially because it took her two years to conceive #1 but damn it still stings. Rampaging hormones do NOT help. Sending solidarity to you for the weekend 💪

Right, I’ve had two days of flashing smileys now (CD12 and 13, so early for me) so something is clearly happening despite the bleeding. Whether it’s enough to trigger ovulation and then allow implantation and then sustain a pregnancy etc etc etc we will have to see… what a flipping minefield.

@Kewchoc what CD are you now? Are you OPKing? I am optimistic that this could be your month!

@Agathapoirot That's understandable for you to feel like that and I'm sorry you're going through it. It really is so shit 😞

@Amberellalina Oh so you are ovulating! Maybe your cycle is still a bit off. Was there a lot of spotting or just tiny amounts? Good news about the ovulating though 😊 I'm CD10 today and started on the OPK's this morning. Decided I'm just going to bonk the days away until after ovulation. I don't feel like it at all cause I'm full of cold and therefore look super sexy at the mo, what a lucky guy my husband is 🤣 but needs must!

Ha! Thanks for the light relief @Kewchoc, haven’t heard the word bonk is ages!

I’m using the Clearview advanced opk where flashing smiley means high estrogen, which is supposed to trigger LH, which triggers ovulation… so not ovulating yet, but might in next few days.

@Amberellalina Hahaha you're very welcome! Ahh I see what you mean. I get very confused with all these tests and hormones to be honest. It was only a couple of months ago that I learned the LH surge is actually prior to ovulation and not the day of. I never wanted to dive so deeply into the world of TTC but it becomes impossible not to doesn't it

Feeling much more rational today, hope you’re all doing well.

Where is everyone in their cycle right now?

Oh good @Agathapoirot. Glad you’re feeling better - hopefully you can have a nice time this weekend and your trip will be a distraction rather than a chore.

I’m feeling better as well. My AMH blood test and antral follicle count came back high for my age, so if we do decide to do IVF then we’ve got a good chance. I’m finding this reassuring, though the potential cost is eye watering.

I’m CD16 and no ovulation yet, but that’s normal for me and I’ve been on the b6 which I’ve read can delay things. Bloated and uncomfortable (again, normal symptoms for me) so it’s definitely coming!

How’s the bonking going @Kewchoc? 😂

@Agathapoirot Glad to hear you're feeling a little better 😊 try not to be hard on yourself, it's a very stressful time for you and I think most of us would be feeling exactly the same as you currently, sending a big hug

@Amberellalina oh I'm bloody sick of it 🤣 I really am, it turns out I've got covid too so I really am feeling crap but I just can't bare the thought of missing any opportunity til after ovulation. That's so great about your test results, that must have made you feel a little relieved? 😊 good news about the ovulation symptoms too, hopefully the next couple of days you'll see something. I'm CD 13 at the min and nowhere near a positive OPK yet so we shall see. I'll be fuming if I'm doing all this bonking for nothing!!

Argh I'm due to ovulate tomorrow but still haven't had a positive OPK... infact they're getting lighter and I'm finding it very stressful 😞

It’s all very stressful isn’t it @Kewchoc? The same is happening to me - would ‘normally’ ovulate CD18 (tomorrow) and no hint of a surge on the OPKs yet. DH reminded me that this has happened before, and I just ovulated late that cycle - so hopefully that’s what’s going on and I’ll surge tomorrow or Saturday!

Its annoying because you start to second guess yourself and worry you missed it…

@Amberellalina yes that's exactly what I've been doing, with the tests getting lighter I keep thinking perhaps I ovulated before I started testing and have missed it. But that would mean ovulation happening on like CD9 haha so I know it's unlikely. Hopefully I'm just going to be a few days later too!

Do you have much planned this weekend to take your mind off it?

No surge here yet - hope you’re faring better @Kewchoc!

Quiet weekend so far - a bit too quiet if you know what I mean!

@Amberellalina Nope, still no surge here either 😞 OPK's were slightly darker today, but not sure that's even relevant really! We're having a quiet weekend too, which I could really do without, but thankfully I do have a busy work week both next week and the week after which I'm hoping will make the TWW pass a bit faster (if I do even ovulate)

I absolutely hate how much TTC takes over our lives, but then I don't want to do the whole "just relax and see what happens" incase we miss our chance. I'll be glad when we've finished having children and don't need to think about any of this ever again

I feel like I could have written your last post myself @Kewchoc ! I hate how much mental energy this all takes. I feel like my husband thinks I’ve gone loopy but it’s impossible not to be consumed by it, for me at least. I’m also late ovulating this month, usually happens CD12 and I’m CD15 now with no sign. Presume it’s because of the chemical last month. The TWW is a mare but I just want to get into it now, this limbo is even worse!

@Kewchoc and @Crazydogladie it is nuts and I’m also looking forward to work tomorrow to take my mind off of things! My husband also thinks I’ve gone loopy, so it’s nice to have an outlet like this where everyone properly understands.

Weird that we’re all ovulating late, but maybe reassuring that it’s normal if it’s happening to all of us? I think my OPKs might have been darker that ‘usual’ yesterday and today. Poss just wishful thinking…

@Amberellalina @Crazydogladie Haha yes, my husband also thinks I've gone loopy... it seems to be a common theme doesn't it??

But I agree it's nice to have this outlet where we all actually understand. Yeah I agree, very weird that we're all ovulating late! But perhaps you're right and the fact it's happening to all of us is reassuring that it's quite normal. I'm pretty certain that the last time I was pregnant I ovulated late, as we were actively avoiding ovulation seeing as I'm not on birth control. So maybe I do just ovulate late every month and have never noticed.

Are you both doing OPK's twice a day?? It feels a bit obsessive but it's what my app tells me to do so I have been

I’ve been doing them twice a day but my timings aren’t always consistent because, you know, life, so that’s why I’m worried I might have missed it. We shall see…

Yeah I’ve been doing them twice a day although I’m not sure why I’m bothering as I always get bad cramps before ovulation so I usually know when it’s happening! This late ovulation is driving me nuts, my husband is away a lot with work so catching my window can be tricky even when I know when it is!

Fingers crossed you all get your peak soon! This is the first month I’m going to try and do the OPK testing properly, so be interesting to see what happens!

What time of day do you usually test? And do you not drink anything in the hours before hand?

Well I'm very confused as today I've had cramping and EWCM but still no positive OPK! If I wasn't testing I would be certain I was ovulating now, but who knows!

@Agathapoirot I usually test with my first wee of the day and then again anytime after around 3. I did however recently read that apparently second wee of the day is more reliable than first with OPK tests

So I have got what I would definitely say is a strong positive OPK this morning, but my Premom app is not picking it up?! I did drop and smash my phone recently and the it hasn't been working properly since so I'm wondering if it's my camera not picking it up, because I cannot see how this test isn't positive...

Ladies, I have a confession. I did 5 OPKs yesterday, including one at 1:40 when I woke in the night to pee 😂! Still no surge either… it’s officially the latest I’ve ever ovulated now - if I ovulate that is. Up to 0.5 now on the strips though, maybe I’m just getting a slow rise? Work today though - hopefully it will stop me from obsessively testing!!!

This looks positive to me @Kewchoc but the control line looks weird so maybe that’s why it isn’t coming up in Premom? You could try another strip, maybe that ones a bit dodgy x