TTC a Rainbow...

[Halpmer]

Hello everyone. I thought I'd start a thread to see if anyone else is out there TTC their rainbow baby 🌈 and wants to join me?

Any loss is a valid loss here, early miscarriage, late miscarriage, chemicals, TFMRs etc. I know we can sometimes face judgement from others or have others not understand!

@Jessie30 I'm away at the moment so have a good distraction and will make me hold out testing! I've been dizzy (something I had in my last successful TWW) and also a pulling sensation... but trying not to get my hopes up!

@Vic231 i have everything crossed for you! Enjoy your time away and hopefully you get some lovely news later.

I have been feeling a bit weird so did another early test and got an extremely faint line 😅 could be an evaporation line though so hasn't helped me much either way. I've started taking low dose aspirin just in case as I haven't tried that before and some people have said it can help, has anyone tried this?

@Jessie30 thank you! Oo that's exciting! I was recommended to take low dose aspirin in both my pregnancies before I went to bed. Unfortunately neither were successful but nothing to do with the aspirin!

@Jessie30 I was the same way in the first three months! I probably stressed my poor ovaries out too much for them to actually do their thing!

Hopefully you'll get your positive soon! I had two nights of vivid dreams before getting a 10 dpo positive this month.

Congratulations @inthewest!

wow there have been so many bfps in this chat this month!

sadly my period arrived this weekend so I'm out for now 😞 I think it's gonna take me a few months like it did last time.

Hi everyone! So I woke up really early this morning bursting for the toilet so I decided to kill some time by taking (a few 😂) tests and I was greeted by this - eek!

I'm roughly 14DPO (don't know for sure as don't use OPKs) and I'm not worrying the lines aren't as dark as they could be? I'm not due my period until tomorrow so thinking I'll retest in a few days?!

*now worrying

@Vic231 congratulations! I wouldn't stress it's still early 😊 when I was pregnant I didn't get darker ones until around 5/6 weeks 😊

Thank you @Daniki, I seem to be able to say that to other people but not to myself!

Oh god yea that's just natural! Hope all will be well ❤️

Hi ladies! I took a bit of a break from anything that made me think about TTC in the first two weeks of my cycle to try and heal a bit mentally. It's actually really helped. Bit of a setback the other day when a friend announced a pregnancy due same week as I would have been but I've decided to book some therapy for myself as I think my anxiety is a bit out of control at the moment around all this.

So exciting to see some bfps in the thread! Congratulations @Halpmer @Tryingfornumbertwo2 @Vic231 . Fingers crossed for you all ❤️

I'm ovulating today so back to the tww soon. Hoping I'm a little less crazy this month now I'm past the time it took to conceive number 1 and past the "first cycle post miscarriage". Trying to have a what will be will be attitude. Anyone else around that point in their cycle?

Hi Everyone,

I miscarried on Wednesday & was hoping that I could ask for some advice. I went to A&E and they were more concerned about blood loss than anything else. I haven’t had a scan and I’ve just been told to POAS in about 3 weeks time to see if everything has passed. I just wondered if this was normal practice to not have a scan. Whilst I’m devastated, I’d like to try again once I’ve had my first visit from AF (although I’m also terrified of going through this again) but I’m concerned about any complications that could arise because my body didn’t completely clear everything. It’s such a hard place to be - this is the worst thing I’ve ever gone through and would of course never want to have to experience this again - but I’d love to get pregnant again. But also I’m fearful of becoming pregnant again having gone through this. I know you will all have the same fear and anxiety as me. I’m almost 35 and fearful that time isn’t on my side so I need to be brave. Sending love to everyone on this thread.

Wow @Vic231 congratulations! Im delighted for you 💐🌈

@oop I'm glad you found a break helpful, I've taken a break over my AF too, feeling a bit better now. I definitely think the therapy is a good idea. I've never really struggled with anxiety before but felt like I went to maximum s after the loss.

Woops sorry posted too soon. I'm just out of AF and have about a week will ovulation (bank holiday yay!)
im feeling the same about taking a more chilled approach. I think I'm going to avoid the strips this month, have a mental break and just relax and have fun.

@Roxystar23 welcome and sorry for your loss xx
All the feelings youre describing are totally normal, I could have written your post myself. It's very fresh right now, it will slowly get easier as time goes on.

I was also been worried about time running out as well. It's so easy to say it, but just try and relax. Many many people have kids well into their 40s or even 50s nowadays!

With the scans - I only had a scan before the full miscarriage bleed. Afterwards, they didn't offer me one, unless I had got a positive on the pregnancy test. I think that if there's anything left, that's supposed to pick it up xx

Hi everyone hoping on this thread .. I recently had a MC three weeks ago. I have PCOS and attended the fertility clinic where I was told I didn't ovulate. However I started tracking my ovulation on my own and did in fact ovulate twice before conceiving.
Myself and my husband decided to start trying as soon as we could after my MC. I started ovulation testing the following week with CB and strip tests. I had 13 days off flashing smiley faces which then went straight to the circles. I was pretty gutted as I thought I had missed my peak day but I did continue to test.
Yesterday I got a static smile and two very strong lines on the strip test (I put these into the Premom app)
We hadn't had sex since Sunday though and I know it's important to have it leading up to peak day (we have been doing it, just not those three days leading up) but we did do it yesterday morning and this morning.

I guess my anxiety is just all over the place as I am worried in case it hasn't been successfully this time 😓 overthinking loads.

Can anyone give me some hope? Xx

Hi @Roxystar23 hope you're doing OK.
After my miscarriage they did the same -told me to POAS,they also gave me a blood test to check HCG levels had gone back to normal. They said if I had any random bleeds after that or pain to contact GP. All was OK though and I got pregnant with DD 3 months later xx

Sorry all, I've been so busy with a trip away and stuff! I'm going to attempt to catch up!

Firstly, thanks for your congratulations ❤️ hoping it sticks, tests have progressed and gotten darker and darker so I'm happy for now. Bereavement midwives have been so lovely and have booked me an 8 week scan at the EPU purely for reassurance which is great as I would've been paying for one otherwise. I think I already mentioned, but my care plan is all in place for this pregnancy too as long as all is well of course. A little nerve wracking as I'm in critical territory for neural tube development now, but I am managing to enjoy being pregnant for now. No symptoms as yet aside from insane mood swings, bloating and fatigue!

@Kellyaust it's such a tough situation for you with your ovulation pains/tubes. It must be so stressful to go through that. I'm glad your DH is on board with continuing to try though, that's positive! Agree with @Jessie30 that the 'extra fertile' comments add pressure when you're already feeling desperate, I'm quite sure it's not even backed up with evidence!

@Daniki it's so hard when you come across reminders of our angels, it happened to me recently with a scan photo. Sending love ❤️.

@moosey89 I would also be super intrigued about LH levels! I love a good chart!

@naggy095 I hope you've settled more into being back at work since your post on the 8th ❤️ it's definitely got to be difficult changing pace like that after loss. Also, it's great that your GP has been so fab for you, it must make it easier!

@Jessie30 ah I'm sorry your out this time especially after the faint line on the test. Evaps are cruel.

@Vic231 those look like promising lines, let's hope they get darker and you've got a sticky rainbow bean!

@oop well done for taking care of yourself, and good luck in your TWW. My fingers will be crossed for you!

@Roxystar23 all of your feelings are totally valid and I'm so sorry for your loss. You're welcome here for whatever support you need. It's a conflicting time after loss because you weren't planning on giving up the pregnancy and you wanted a baby so much so there's a fear of being pregnant again and losing it and there's also a desperation to be pregnant. These feelings will likely settle with time and self-care. Do what you think is right. It's quite good to take the time between now and first AF to sit with all of your feelings and then you're more likely to be ready to TTC having processed it all!

@HollyBrwn sorry for your loss too 💔 I think you're still in with a chance, sperm can live for up to 5 days. Keep hoping, you never know when it could be your time for a rainbow!

That was an epic catch up. Sorry if I missed anyone!!

Hey everyone, I have had loads of evaps... Do we think this is an evap too?

@Kellyaust is that the same test? It's very thin in first photo but doesn't look as thin in the second, the second one If it was me I'd take that as a faint positive!

It's the same yes just zoomed in xx

@Kellyaust how many days dpo are you? Hopefully it's a positive 😍

I'm only 9dpo....think I just got my rainbow bfp 🤞🥺🥺

@Kellyaust I think so!! 😍🙌

@Daniki I can't believe it, I'm 38 with one blocked tube and severe endo, my mmc was in may n I thought that was it forever 🥺🤞❤️

@Kellyaust Aw I hope it sticks 🤞🏻 😍 I know the anxiety after miscarriage 😣 have you been given meds or anything to take when you get pregnant? X