2023 TTC 35+ Part 3

[VixFromThe6ix]

New thread!!!

The other one filled in so quickly. I'm happy that many of you are finding this space supportive and helpful.

@Eirlys1986 oh that's awful - I admire you remaining civil but I hope you still managed to politely give them what for. It's not rocket science is it that a woman who has just been devastated by a loss might not want it rubbing her face again - not impressive customer service at all when they are the ones who discovered the loss in the first place. Sending you a massive hug.

@Pineappleapple that doesn't sound too horrendous and as others have said, it seems to be relatively easy for men to improve these statistics a lot of the time 🤞🏻

Thanks @SnookyPook and @Un7breakable , it was a bit sucky. Nevermind, onwards and upwards xxx

@SnookyPook that's the bit I struggled to get my head around, that I'd been walking around for weeks with no clue as to what had happened. Hope you're feeling ok, I've had many times over the last 5 months where I'll just get upset and it hits me. I know the biggest hurdle to overcome will be the due date.

@Pineappleapple thank you and sorry to hear about your OH sperm results. Hope that stopping caffeine will help.

@Eirlys1986 so sorry to hear about your letter, yet another issue from the universe. I had a phone call several weeks after my mmc saying I was late for a midwife appointment, clearly I hadn't been taken off the system. They were so apologetic but that really upset me. My trust has been in the spotlight enough over the last few years over their midwifery care so you'd have thought they'd be on top of things like that.

@RoseH36 oh that’s awful I’m sorry 😢, I had been in a relatively good mood today and now less so. I really hope the NHS midwife appointment etc for myself has been removed off the system, they assured me at the unit they would automatically do that so we shall see. I do rate the private clinic I went to and thought to myself when I get pregnant again I would still use them but would communicate in advance I would be anxious about the scan etc but I kind of feel now like I wouldn’t trust them to communicate that properly after this. I’m probably just very over sensitive at present.

@Eirlys1986 Ugh, that must've been so upsetting. 😔 Of course mistakes happen but this is just sloppy and causes so much unnecessary upset at an already difficult time. Sending you virtual hugs!

Thanks @LeopardLover , hope you have a fab time at glasto, when you setting off?

@Eirlys1986 Thank you!! 💜 DH is just putting the toddler to sleep, then we'll finish packing 😁 we leave about 6.30am tomorrow! It's pretty close so shouldn't take long. Can't wait 🎉 I hope to get a good night's sleep so I can keep partying!! 😂X

Not oversensitive I don't think, it's a really upsetting situation to be in and then for that reminder to happen is just insensitive of them.

Thanks for the reassurance about the sperm. OH is pretty healthy so caffeine was the only thing to work on! Feel my results making me think more, if there is one egg per month and I don't ovulate all the DTD is a bit pointless. At least OH has lots of chances! If that makes sense.

@Pineappleapple you are right that it is a bit more crucial that we ovulate as there is generally only one eggy but sometimes there is more than one, especially as we age we are more likely to hyper ovulate apparently and release more than one. Getting sperm and egg to meet is half the battle too sometimes…..enter the knackering smep plan 😂

Hey, I’ve been reading all your messages but not had chance to post for a while, but my toddler had his surgery on Tuesday and all is well, so can think about something else now haha.
We did manage to try a couple of times in the midst of it all, and it looks like I may have ovulated finally (on day 27 of my cycle!) so very relieved about that, if I have!
So glad you’re feeling hopeful @Eirlys1986 and everything went as you had hoped for the scan. Hope you and @RoseH36 are both doing ok.
Sorry to hear about the scary time you’ve had too @Muriel84! Hope things go more smoothly from here on in and you can relax a bit!

@Eirlys1986 I’m glad your scan went as well as these things can and you got some closure, and you don’t have to go through any more treatment. ❤️ You’re doing super well. 💪 so hard to know when to get an early scan. Because of complications I’ve been scanned at 3.5, 4, 6 and 8 weeks so far 😬. And will be scanned again at 10. Can’t say I have felt particularly reassured by any scan cos as you said things can change so quickly.

@Mrsspoon3 thank you

@Un7breakable my insomnia is unreal. Im off work this week so can nap in the day the heat isn’t helping either.

@LeopardLover have so much fun! I’ve been 7 times and my brother is there I have such bad fomo. Think I’d like to take my son in a few years when he’s old enough to enjoy the kids field 🥰

Thanks @Mrsspoon3 I hope your toddler recuperates well and you are able to relax a bit more now….well as much as you can “relax” with a toddler in the house 😂
@Muriel84 thanks, I am relieved. Good luck for your 10 week scan 😊, I hope your insomnia resolves soon, I remember it really sucking in my first pregnancy with my toddler.

@Eirlys1986 I hope it has been removed for you, it really shouldn't be that hard to follow correct admin procedures in our situations. Definitely not over sensitive at all and you'd be right to voice your concerns before going to them again.

@LeopardLover Have a fabulous time!

@Pineappleapple I'd never thought of it like that before but like @Eirlys1986 says sometimes we can release more than one. I'm more and more convinced that because I released two and had extra hormones being released its the reason I have a son. So releasing 2 in future would be fine by me if it helps one to survive (May not have had any bearing at all but I'm finding myself really over thinking everything at the moment).

@Mrsspoon3 great news you appear to have ovulated, that's half the battle. I'm doing ok thank you, one day at a time 🙂

@Muriel84 Thank you! This is our lucky #7 - On route now 😁 I had fomo two festivals ago as I didn't get tickets so I know what it's like!

@RoseH36 Thank you!

Have a lovely weekend all 🥰

@Eirlys1986 you’re not being over sensitive at all. Updating their records would have taken seconds. Trusting places when they have previously been careless with your heart is incredibly hard. I’m so sorry this happened. You absolutely didn’t need that.

@VixFromThe6ix I‘be been having enforced breaks every other cycle at present and whereas it has been a little frustrating, having any shadow of pressure removed for a cycle and ‘just’ being me is actually quite refreshing!!

@RoseH36 I’m glad you’re feeling optimistic. You’re stronger than you think xxx

@LeopardLover Enjoy! And may all your efforts be in a tent rather than a portaloo! 😜

@Muriel84 glad it’s all settled for now x

I’m CD 30, so not due for another few days at least based on me, but based on when the EWCM and OPKs said, I’m due on Thursday. The ovulation date was 5 days after we last DTD and I had fully accepted it was a fail this cycle. This evening my boobs have gone tender. I know that they do this some cycles and I know that had they not I would have quite happily carried on contentedly looking forwards. Why does the hope creep in even when you know, really know it shouldn’t?

It’s our 6th wedding anniversary tomorrow. He has sent a cream tea picnic for my toddler and I to enjoy and we’re going to have a FaceTime date together tomorrow evening.

I tested again like a fool. No anniversary baby. It’s so strange how last cycle I didn’t test once when it was a possibility, but this time I’ve gone absolutely bananas. 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Bumblebee413 please don’t feel silly for testing, I have tested in some ridiculous scenarios before. It’s understandable when you just want it so much. We’ve gotta keep the hope alive or else we would go crackers! I hope you enjoy your cream tea today and the virtual date tonight xxxxx

@Bumblebee413 thank you, I think deep down we're all a lot stronger than we realise. We continue to put ourselves through all this which shows an inner strength.

It's totally normal to want to test, even though you know deep down its pointless. I started with cramps 5 days earlier than I was expecting AF last cycle and even though I'd had a bit of light spotting and knew it was AF I'd managed to convince myself that maybe it was implantation bleeding (which I've never once had) and so tested. Of course it was negative, AF arrived properly the next day and I was annoyed at wasting a test. What are we like??

Enjoy your cream tea and happy anniversary x

@Eirlys1986 Thanks! Yes toddlers aren’t the most relaxing people are they? 😂

@RoseH36 Thanks! Yeah so glad I’ve actually ovulated, was getting really frustrated and concerned when I didn’t seem to have! Glad you’re doing ok x

@LeopardLover Hope you have a great time!

@Bumblebee413 Ah it’s understandable to hope when you really want something! I start getting hopeful and testing at all sorts of crazy times when there’s no chance of a positive. Happy anniversary! The cream tea picnic sounds lovely. Hope you have a great FaceTime date! My husband and I were long distance during covid (we got married in the midst of the restrictions) so did a lot of FaceTime dates! We used to do online escape rooms and play games over Zoom like Guess Who and Battleship haha 😂

@Mrsspoon3 we did some online escape rooms too, was great as we timed it so my brother could join in, he lives in America was nice to do something with him to make us all seem closer.

Ooh, online escape rooms sounds really fun and battleship and guess who are great ideas. Thank you all so much!

x

Guys it looks like my ttc journey is over for good as me and my husband are splitting up. We’ve been arguing a lot and this morning after a huge argument he threw his ring across the room and said he didn’t want to be married to be anymore! So guess that’s it for me, one and done not through choice! Hope you all have lots of luck and there’s lots of bfps soon 💗

@Mrsspoon3 I’m so sorry, that is super stressful and crappy. Here if you need us always xx

Much love to you @Mrsspoon3. He sounds like a rotter.

Long time since I’ve posted here because we’ve started ivf! We’re 6 days into injections & all going very well so far. I’m feeling cautiously optimistic and generally glad we’ve taken the leap rather than crushing defeat each month on our own.

Good luck to you all!

@Mrsspoon3 I’m really sorry to hear that. I hope you’ve got support around you and are able to talk things through once the argument has calmed down. Xxx