2023 TTC 35+ Part 3

[VixFromThe6ix]

New thread!!!

The other one filled in so quickly. I'm happy that many of you are finding this space supportive and helpful.

@Stephy1024 ah yes I would agree with extra info that repeating test in 48 hours then giving them a ring may be the best idea. They did say to me when prepping for what to do if medical miscarriage appeared successful that I should test at 3 weeks (which I presume is the test you did 4 days ago?) and if positive faintly then they generally advise test again in a week(if you are well and no fever /bleeding etc) and then if remains positive to see them again and rescan.

@RoseH36 it really is, I was in somewhat a state of shock. Because i had been happy going about my business not knowing anything was wrong. But as you say unfortunately it happens to many women.

@Eirlys1986 yes 4 days ago was my 3 week test after taking the tablets to remove the last remaining tissue. I'm fit and well so I'll test again in upto a week.

Thank you all for your advice and support. It's been nice to speak to people that know where I'm coming from xx

@Muriel84 glad to see you back. So sorry to hear about the tough time you're having, the bleed must have been so scary. 🤞It's smoother sailing from now on.

@Eirlys1986 I can see I have a message off you, keeps coming up with a server error message so won't let me see it, will keep trying to see it 🙂

Morning @RoseH36 ! It’s doing the same to me this morning too when I tried to go and copy and resend it. Perhaps private messaging has broken for a bit! X

@Eirlys1986 how are you doing today? X

@Muriel84 have been feeling pretty emotionally shocking for the past 48 hours tbh- lots of sadness/anger/irritability/anxiety. Im not someone who tends to be overtly “emotional” so the affect of the situation and I presume hormones dropping through the floor has made for a pretty pants few days all round. Unfortunately I’m pretty certain that despite Friday being physically not pleasant it essentially was nowhere near unpleasant enough to give me any confidence the medical management of the MC has been “a success” so have discussed with EPAU that I’ll ring them again tomorrow to get a rescan as I don’t want to use another dose of the misoprostol unless I have to but pretty certain as I can be that I need to.
Hows everything with your bleeding going? I hope you have been able to find some respite from the anxiety and stress of it all xxxx

@Muriel84 gosh you've had a really rough time of it at the moment, really sorry. I have Covid too but currently feeling okayish. Hopefully the bleeding eases right off, must have been very scary to see.

@Eirlys1986 I think it's a combination of everything, quickly dropping hormones, the disappointment and sadness, combined with anxiety about the next bit and if it's working properly. Plus all of the invasive testing and trips to the hospital etc. Exhausting. Sending you love. I'm hoping everything has passed, but checking in sounds good.

Thanks @A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 , I am trying my best to accept the comfort family and friends are trying to give but am finding at present the main people who don’t aggravate me in anyway with it are OH(and even he peed me off yesterday), a friend who has also had a missed MC and all you guys! I am so glad you are all here xxx

@Eirlys1986 im so sorry it’s dragging out, it’s the last thing you need when you just want it to be over and move on. Are you off work this week? I hope you have some time to yourself to just get lost in some box sets or whatever might give you a bit of a break from the mental strain of it all.

I’m ok thanks. The bleeding has settled to spotting for now but the haematoma measured 3cm diameter so I imagine I could bleed heavily again. Xxx

@Muriel84 I’m glad it’s settled down to spotting for you now. I have been signed off by the hospital next week which is good. I was naively telling them I had surgeries booked Monday so would I be ok to go back then, they just looked at my like I was an absolute muppet and shook their heads. Turns out they were correct! 😂
I will keep my fingers crossed for no more scary bleeding for you but I suppose at least now if it occurs again hopefully it will be somewhat less distressing when you know what’s going on xxxx

@Eirlys1986 oh gosh. We do not make good patients! I tried to self discharge 2 days post partum with a post transfusion hb of 60 😬 post nates was quite grim tho… I’m glad you have time off and are able to put yourself first. It’s not easy, but it’s very important. Helps when the hospital make the clear decision for you. Xxx

@Eirlys1986 looks like it, still isn't working. Glad you're off this week too, you need the time to rest. Hope you can get some answers tomorrow from EPAU.

Had a look on a thread on here about progesterone and seems it's a battle to get GPs to prescribe it as many won't before 7 weeks. That would be too late in my case if it is an issue with my levels. Just hope they'll see my first pregnancy as a mc as to me if there were 2 sacs and then one was causing a bleed and no longer there in my eyes that was a mc. So we shall see.

Briefly just seen a relative who is several months pregnant so that wasn't easy. Not seen her since she announced their news but thankfully it was a flying visit before any baby talk could start.

Hi @RoseH36 re: the progesterone prescribing by GP. Our local area prescribing committee classes progesterone pessaries for recurrent MC as “specialist initiation” - so basically specialist has to prescribe 1st dose and GP can prescribe after a letter is sent to them outlining the prescribing decision etc. I know it absolutely sucks when you are in such a horrible situation and wanting to prevent it again but if your local guidance is the same your GP is sadly not medicolegally covered to prescribe it unless they follow this guidance even if they morally want to and know it is needed. It is really disappointing.
I would definitely look into your local miscarriage clinic guidance as ours accepts referrals after 2 first trimester losses and any loss from 2nd trimester onwards.
I hope this helps a little xxx

@Eirlys1986 thank you. Will hopefully get some answers from them tomorrow. I know they won't refer me until I've had 3 mc, EPAU mentioned that so it just depends whether my first will be classed as one or not. Such a crap situation to be in xx

@RoseH36 that is proper shite I’m sorry. Our local miscarriage specialist consultant is pretty much the best in the UK and worked with Tommy’s on the calculation tool on their website to let you know chances of next pregnancy being successful etc so I really rate her. I think the fact she wants people referring after 2 should therefore be something that’s equal in all areas as there really shouldn’t be health inequalities within the NHS dependent on where you live. I’m sorry xxx

@Muriel84 I’m sorry you’ve had such a rubbish time of it. Flipping bodies. It’s really nice to hear from you- you’re very much thought of here!

@Eirlys1986 what a shitty few days! I’ve learnt that snapping at people and unnatural frustration are quite often such a huge sign of exhaustion and low reserves. If there was ever a time to get caught by that then it’s now. You’ve had such a tough, long week and you need it to be over. You’re doing an amazing job and don’t feel bad for feeling anything other than what you are xxx

Thanks so much @Bumblebee413 ❤️. Will be ringing EPAU first thing tomorrow as I really need a rescan as highly suspicious things haven’t worked out. Son is off to nursery tomorrow and Tuesday and OH will go to work, he will be able to get home quickly if I need him so I am slightly looking forward to some alone time to just go with all the feels x

Hey @RoseH36 thanks for your message, the private messaging has now thrown two of my replies to you in the trash! 😂. So I really hope you have a nice evening and I shall hopefully message you tomorrow when it’s fixed and with an update once I pounce on EPAU in the morning 😂 x

@Bumblebee413 thats really kind of you to say, thank you xxx

@Eirlys1986 lol how rude! I'm sure they weren't worthy of the trash. Hope you get some rest and have more luck with EPAU tomorrow x

Wow I missed a lot since I posted last ... I'm sorry if I am repeating what many have said but I didn't want to ignore.

@Eirlys1986 I hope you're doing better. I had to take the pills twice for both miscarriages that didn't wanna happen naturally and the pain I was in made me wanna stop trying. I usually had terrible cramps but that was something else. And it lasted 24hrs following by over a week of heavy bleeding. It's truly a terrible experience to go through so I hope you're ok. I'm literally scared for a Mc more because of having to take the pills again. And I can't even begin to imagine to go through this with a toddler around. I'm so glad you had help from grandparents. I remember just laying there in fetal position and crying ... What a terrible fkn experience. I think we were all quite invested in your journey. Will you be taking a break from trying?

@RoseH36 I'm very sorry about your experience. I feel like I feel what you're saying through your words. After having two MCs I literally was scared the entire pregnancy I had with my son. Every appointment. Every milestone. It's traumatizing. I hope you're coping alright, love. It's hard and unfair and shitty. I hope you're looking into getting some help because the good news is you're getting pregnant!! Now to figure out how to make it stick. If it is progesterone, I hope you're able to get it. I took it and I swear it's what helped me carry to term. I'm in Canada though so maybe it's different here. I read quite a bit that it's harder to get in Europe.

@Muriel84 my heart was beating fast when I was reading your update. Going no no no no no in my head. I'm glad that pregnancy looks fine, that is such a relief!!! And I'm glad bleeding had come down to spotting. What a journey this has been for you. I am hoping and praying everything will be good from now on. Seeing blood when pregnant is probably the scariest thing in the world. I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you.

@Un7breakable congratulations!!!! Beautiful line!!! I hope you're doing well !!!

The last few pages literally made me almost cry and also smile. Whoa.... You girls are strong women. This TTC life is tough but you're handling it so well. I am grateful for being part of your journeys.

As for my little update.... We decided to not try this cycle. And maybe even the next. My partner stopped taking his shots and he took a hormone blood test which showed some not so great results as I expected. So no point in trying, just practicing. And it will give me a little break from tracking ovulation and peeing on sticks. We want to wait a bit and do the hormone test again and then see if his levels go back to normal and then start trying again. I hate that we are wasting precious time but it's our of our control right now.

Sorry I tagged you by accident lol and it won't let me delete the tag.
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@VixFromThe6ix Thank you. I'm doing well apart from being very anxious, I'm an anxious person normally so unsurprisingly pregnancy is making it worse.

Sorry to hear you're having a cycle or two off. Hopefully his results improve and you can get back on it. Just think of all the fin dtd you can do without waving a pee stick at him 😂

Thanks @VixFromThe6ix , it has been really horrid the last few days and I now feel like my hormones are absolutely all over the place. One moment almost manically upbeat then the next I’m in a pit of despair crying or thinking I’ve annoyed OH etc. I can only presume this is what horrible PMS feels like (which I’ve luckily never really suffered from ) with an extra dose of crapola on top due to the miscarriage. I am not a fan of my body right now for not just letting go of this pregnancy for me but am trying my hardest to afford myself some grace and patience but it’s very hard right now. I will keep everyone updated xx

@VixFromThe6ix ps- I am sorry to hear you’ve had to pause things for a few cycles, I get how frustrating it is to feel you are wasting time which is precious as I also feel that now. A big dollop of universe trust that the right little rainbow will come along at the right time and stay 🌈 x