Trying to conceive over 40 part 4

[October1979]

Hi girls here is a new thread as we have nearly reached the 1000 limit x

Hi there

we are together ! I am 44 and we are about to dig deep and put everything into having our baby. Our ivf failed and we just found out that religiously we can not do donor. Gutted and flabbergasted as we had that as our safety net. Now with guns blazing I will be using ovulation sticks like toothpicks !!!
I have read that book and on co q 10 600 mg per day . Are you also going to take dhea?

@Marvellouslymadmum
have they put you through menopause yet for your adenomyosis ? I had three mo this downtime before our ivf which was not successful 🥹

I can relate re amount of pills I take every morning and then night 😆 no space for food even ..

@Marvellouslymadmum hey I’m good you been missing for a while did I see that your 18 wks pregnant ? Or am I reading someone eles post I had to catch up a lot don’t really come on here often hope your okay x

@Cate78xx personally I would just jump straight in, yes the prenatals will help but if you wait you may sit there thinking, why did I wait? That could've been the good egg!!

@praying4babba i hadn't realised some religions were against donor egg! Make sure when you get your coq10 that you get the good quality ubiquinol as it's the better stuff. And no I had no idea that's something they even did! How do they put you through menopause then have ivf?

@TraceyTarotReader ha no, definitely not me unfortunately. I have low iron levels so no af for a couple of months but started new tablets this week

@Marvellouslymadmum No news yet, unfortunately, although I will be calling them in an hour or so if I haven't heard anything. I hate being in limbo. I took another test this morning at 5am, which was negative again (as I expected), so I think it's pretty definite that I'm not pregnant. I just hate all the waiting!

Haven't had a chance to read all the posts yet, but hope everyone is doing ok today!

@Marvellouslymadmum oh i must have read wrong sorry for the negative test I was low in iron and Vitamin D I had to take folic acid for 6 months and stop but I’m still taking my vitamin D had to have blood test 2 wks ago to see if they have returned to normal I haven’t heard from my doctors so it must be okay .

@BertLiv bfn suck bit so does waiting! Did you hear anything?

@TraceyTarotReader my iron levels are a nightmare, they give me strong tablets to get it up then leave me and it goes back down again and we go around in circles!!

Ladies my heart goes out to you all. I can’t imagine what you are all going through. My story is less of a struggle to conceive than some thought more of an impossible situation to sustain the pregnancies. My body rejects them 😢

@Autumngirl7 I’m so sorry hear that - I can’t imagine how heartbreaking that is. My friend had the same issue but has now successfully had a little boy, so try to stay positive.

@Marvellouslymadmum Dr called this afternoon - he said that, given all the BFNs, I’m clearly not pregnant and I don’t need to wait for AF to start the donor egg process. So, I’ve emailed them and am now waiting for access to the egg bank. I’m part excited, part anxious and part sad that it won’t be my egg - but it’ll still be our baby. Now hoping I’ll be able to get some better sleep tonight! How’re you doing?

@BertLiv how you’re feeling right now is so totally natural! I questioned our decision to do DE IVF until the moment I saw our embryos. Since then I’ve never looked back, love at first sight!! Im 20 weeks now and this baby has never felt like anything other than completely my own. I think about the donor element but only with absolute gratitude and never doubt ❤️❤️❤️

@Kelb79 Thank you 😊. I have worried slightly as we only tried IVF once with my eggs, and it was cancelled, so I do wonder whether we should’ve given it another chance. But, I asked the doctor again yesterday and he said it was very unlikely to work with my eggs and our best chance was with DE. Exciting to hear your 20 weeks - congratulations!

I’m trying to imagine it as a health kick rather than just to conceive as that feels less daunting. Lord knows I need more early nights (new bedtime 9.20) and vitamins.

im taking
uniqui
nac
alpha lipoic acid
vitamin c
whole food vitamins for women
need to get some extra methanfolate as the vita only have 400
ordeeed omega 3

am looking into blood test to see if I need dhea, vit d and something else. Has anyone got any tips for getting bloods done? I’m not under a doctor for anything particular /ivf etc atm so unlikely they will just do them just cos I ask

this list also suggests melatonin but not explored that yet

i will hopefully be glowing and not rattling as I continue to take them!

also trying low gi- again as health rather than just as focus for conception as can’t bear the pressure of the latter.

Just got my ovu sense in the post (decided it’s cheaper in mid term than the sticks) hopefully I’m actually still ovulating 🤞has anyone else used one?

Hope you’re all having a good day.

@Cate78xx I can relate! Taking all but feeling great actually! Thinking maybe I should continue some regardless ttc ☺️

I added recently melatonin 1mg, had two days of headaches but it was due to cold, so no problem now. I read 1mg is safe and ok

So, we managed to get access to the egg bank today and there are no matching donors. When we were told there was a shortage, we thought it meant there were only 20 or so donors, not none. I’ve asked them to call me tomorrow as, if it’s going to be a hugely long wait, I think we may come up with a new plan…feeling quite down about it now, but trying to stay positive. We just don’t want to be waiting again for months and months.

@BertLiv oh no I am so sorry . Is there another agency you can go to ?

Gosh I had not heard of the ovu sense but would have got one but I have just spent so much on the ovulation digital and all these supplements . Let me see how they go for a couple of months . I also will track temperature. I had a glimmer of a LH show on my ovulation test tonight . I literally danced around the bathroom and then wanted to cry. Gosh this journey is not for the faint hearted

Yes they gave me Lupron injection and that lasted 3
months . I had to take letrazole every night for three months .
this helped with adeno

Yes unfortunately there are . Thank you . Just not sure if I should take Dhea as apparently your hair falls out or can do and my hair is falling out daily from the ivf meds and everything . Scared I will have nothing left

Oh and ladies apparently maca powder so have got that and started with one today and build up to three . Anyone else heard of that ?

@BertLiv have you considered going abroad for DE IVF? There are different anonymity laws so that’s a bit consideration but in many countries there’s no waiting list at all, the treatment is top level and prices are often cheaper but at worst no more expensive (plus you get a little holiday for treatment!)
I had OE and then DE IVF in Spain and it was so much easier and better than I’d ever imagined ❤️

@Autumngirl7 sorry to hear that, do you have a plan going forward?

@BertLiv oh well that's good news at least! I'm good here just thinking about starting to sort out all my supplements and start a new to help everything be where it should be! It will definitely still be your baby!
Which egg bank is it you're using? Could it be worth trying somewhere else? As @Kelb79 says there are lots of clinics abroad, I've narrowed it down to Spain, Greece or Prague the latter probably being the best option for me as I am very fair skinned, golden blonde hair and green eyes and I think they'll more likely have better matches than the other two.

@Kelb79 that's exactly how I feel about it and I haven't even got that far yet! So pleased it's all going well for you

@praying4babba ahh I see! No one's mentioned anything like that for me yet. I have heard about the maca powder, my oh takes maca root supplements as it's good for sperm, I don't but I can't remember why now! 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

@praying4babba @Kelb79 @Marvellouslymadmum Thanks for the suggestions, but the issue is that this is our NHS round, so we can’t swap or go elsewhere or we’ll lose it. I’m hoping we can get a realistic wait time for the eggs today and I’ve also asked whether we could try another IVF with my eggs, if it’s really long. If that then failed, we could try another egg bank.

@Cate78xx i came across hertility on another forum...best i have seen so far for the price and you are collecting your blood in a test tube and sending it off just like you would at the drs. Its£150 for around 10 different tests. You fill out the questions and they select the tests for you..orrrrr,you can fudge the answers to get the exact tests you want. Youl see what i mean. I wanted a dhea one so i added the questions like i had high testerone etc.

Ahhh thank you good tip. Will check it out ❤️

@BertLiv ahh I see! Well hopefully they'll get it sorted for you!