Trying to conceive over 40 part 4

[October1979]

Hi girls here is a new thread as we have nearly reached the 1000 limit x

@Onelasttry79 hi- I’m similar to you. 43 and have 10 and 12 year old. Was pregnant last April 22 which was a surprise. Been sort of trying since Jan but now upping the effort. Used cheap ovulation tests the last 3 months. This month switched to 4 day advanced. On day 11.

Good luck!

Hi everyone nice to see some new people joining us good luck on your ttc journey.

so for me I woke up and did a test and at first th test line popped up within a min I’m like oh okay so here’s me waiting the full 5 mins and 2 other lines pop up this has to be dodgy I’m 16 dpo today and 2 days late for af I’ve been getting vvfl on the same brand I have emailed the supplier see what they say now here’s the test and you will laugh I said to my husband I’m having quads 😂😂😂

And to throw insult to my feelings there are all pink as well uggghhhh

@Isitthathardtobekind nice to know we are on a similar journey...i am CD11 today and have 2nd day of flashing smiley which is much earlier than last month as didn't get the flashing one until CD14...have you had any flashing ones yet? Are your cycles usually fairly regular? Fingers crossed for this month....

@Kelb79 how was the scan? It took for the scan for me to believe it might actually work out try and enjoy and stay positive. Sending you a big virtual 🤗 hug . Me and the gang are doing great. I can't imagine life without them now

@October1979 OMG 😍 They are soooooooo adorable!!!
You had triplets?? Sorry I missed this..

I wish I could have twins, but I cannot carry full term due to uterus heart shape and both my kids prematurely born. They refused to transfer two and even stopped IUI as was risk of multiples

@Onelasttry79 I got a 3rd day of flashing smileys yesterday at day 12. Only used cheap tests before so not sure where the smiles would have been then. I’m interested to see if I get a static smiley as my cheap tests have always gone darker, but not as dark as the control line. Others on here have said they get that too though so perhaps all fine and just v cheap tests.
My cycles now vary between 24-32 the last 6 months. Feb I got to day 34 and was convinced I must be pregnant, bought a test and went to take it only to realise AF was here. Prior to that they were usually max of 29. How about you?

Hi everyone, 42 years old, we are doing IVF, have adenomyosis so on medical menopause for 10 weeks then will do a transfer with our one and only normal embryo x

Yes @TT82 after 2 missed miscarriages and 7 chemical pregnancies between 40 and 42 trying naturally, I opted for DE IVF and transferred 2 eggs hoping one would take. Two did and one split giving me my triplets. It was the silver lining to a rough journey to motherhood for me xxx

@October1979 omg they absolutely kill me!! They are so so gorgeous!! ❤️❤️❤️ how is life with triplets? Such a beautiful blessing but my god it must be hard work at times! 🫣

@praying4babba good luck!!! That’s a long time in medical menopause, I hope it goes ok for you. I struggled with that a bit! ❤️🙏🏼

@TraceyTarotReader omg how confusing 🤦🏼‍♀️ I’ve never seen that happen before! Have you tested with different tests?

good luck to everyone trying this month! ❤️❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼

I had my 7 week scan yesterday and all is perfect!!! 🥰😳🥳 bub is measuring 9.2mm 😍😍 and has a strong heartbeat! I can’t believe it! It all still feels very surreal and I’m very guarded still, we all know too well how many things can go wrong! But I definitely feel more hopeful 🙏🏼❤️🥹

@Kelb79 Amazing 🎉🥳. I'm so pleased. As you progress you will relax and enjoy more. Life with triplets is fab. We have a routine believe it or not. They are very good most of the time. But it is hard work when they all want their mum at once. Now I wouldn't want my own eggs as they wouldn't produce them! It's so strange how something that seemed so important at first has completely changed to not matter. How life has changed so much in a year from despair at thinking I may never be a mother to a mum of 3! Life is good. Wishing everyone luck in their journeys 🍀 xxx

@October1979 its insane!! You deserve this so so much!! ❤️❤️❤️ that horrible dark hole of infertility feels so deep that you just can’t imagine a way out, I’m so happy every day to be a step up the ladder, it’s so special being pregnant 🥰 (even though I’m suffering horrendously with nausea!! I’ll take it!) xX

@October1979 your story made my day!! 🥰
I need more of such news.

@Kelb79 I think having a tough journey makes the difficult times when they are here easy! You cherish every moment even the tough ones because you know what it took to get them. It makes them all the more special.
@TT82 thank you, don't give up. There is always a way even if it doesn't look like what you expected xxx

@Kelb79 i know I’ve never seen anything like it in my whole of times testing lol I emailed the supplier and they sent a different batch number to me but unfortunately af arrived yesterday so on to another month .

im so happy everything is going well for you x

@Isitthathardtobekind I had a static this morning after 2 flashing, which is cd12 so much earlier than last month which was cd16. My cycles are usually 28/29 so I wonder if this one will be shorter if I have ovulated earlier? No signs of ovulation this month, so surprised it was static this am…

Hi, tested today 11dpo, BFN as expected. I have strong PMS symptoms this cycle. I never was positive after cp before, so was low chance anyway.
My hormones are dropping now before AF, so I am sad but also like exhausted, it is what it is
I will start taking pills for ivf preparation as soon as AF arrives and then in august will have a real test how good those eggs are 😱 Genetic testing etc will take very long but also I need to get something to test which is not given....so might be another cycle straight away..

Baby dust to everyone ❤️

@Onelasttry79 I’ve still got flashing smileys. 13 days now so not going to work for me. I put them in Premom app - Started to rise day 14 but only to 55 which is still low (think I’ve seen pics on here and it counts 70 ish as high?🤷🏻‍♀️). By the next day it dropped to 32 so assume it just didn’t go high enough unless I missed the peak, but I thought the tests would still read this and turn static? Not sure if it’s possible to miss it on them and so it never turns static because of that.

Hi ladies, hope it's okay if I join you all in this rollercoaster TTC journey?

I'm 40, TTC (again).
No living children but a baby girl who sadly got her wings in January. We had a termination at 23-weeks after learning that she had severe heart abnormalities.

Reading through some of your posts gives me renewed hope, thank you for creating such a tight-knit and empathetic group.

@Serendipity2023 i am so so sorry to hear your story, that’s utterly heartbreaking 💔 sending you so much love ❤️❤️❤️
Welcome to the best group that nobody wants to be in 🙏🏼💕
xxxxx

@Serendipity2023 you went through a lot! Lots of hugs ❤️

@Serendipity2023 sending hugs. I lost my baby girl in February as she had Trisomy 21. Been TTC since but nothing yet.

@Kelb79, @TT82 & @Iusedtobedontcall thank you all for the warm welcomes 🥰

@Kelb79 - huge congratulations on your wonderful news (I read back through the group a little), I'm thrilled for you and it gives me such hope x

@Serendipity2023 I’m so sorry, completely devastating. Sending lots of love to you ❤️

Welcome to all the newbies, this is a great group and hope it helps you as much as it has me x

hi ladies, sorry for being MIA. I have been reading the thread just not felt I had the heart to join in, so sorry about that.

I don't have good news - went for a early scan and NIPT test on Saturday (scan was just a bonus, actually cared more about the test!) - no heartbeat and embryo measuring at about 6 weeks gestation despite my dates putting me at 10 weeks. Essentially, it's a missed miscarriage. I still don't have any bleeding or cramps, so just taking each day at a time, but finding it very hard. Keep bursting into tears at random moments and can't even talk about it without crying.

EPU midwife says I need to wait for a second confirmatory scan on Monday 24th, and then if the miscarriage hasn't started by then medical management is the next step. Surgical management unlikely to be available due to the doctors' strike.

I'm feeling really very low. I have this sense of doom that I am literally running out of time - I turn 43 in November. My husband also doesn't want to risk having a June/July/August baby, so if we don't conceive in the next month or two we'll have to pause until December at the earliest. Plus there is the pressure that we'll have 4+ year gap between my eldest and a second baby.

I had absolutely no idea that the embryo had stopped growing. Feel terrible I had already bought a maternity evening gown for a wedding in September, and also had started thinking about when to tell my work and friends. Also in this thinking loop that it's because I accidentally ate a bit of blue cheese at 6 weeks, had too much caffeine on holiday, or it was the half-glass of champagne I had at 7 weeks.