Trying to conceive over 40 part 4

[October1979]

Hi girls here is a new thread as we have nearly reached the 1000 limit x

Thank you all for your messages! 🥰 @pcmod I’m feeling a lot better, but I do need to relax more in general. I’m definitely stressing about everything and it’s not good for me. I waited so long to get here and don’t want to spend the rest of my time worrying!!

@Iusedtobedontcall Sending love to you I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but am wishing all the support to you I can ❤️

@Kelb79 Woo hoo! Officially Proven Pregnant! I’m thrilled for you 🎉🎉 Progesterone looks good too, my clinic said they want the level to be 30+ so you’re smashing that level for luteal support! Amazing news ❤️x

Thanks @YellowLoafers . My period hasn’t come yet but I really really don’t want to test. I don’t feel pregnant and I don’t want to know. So I’m just not testing and I’ll just try to forget all about it. I’ve just been attacking a bramble in my garden and cut my hands - so that’s been a distraction!

Period came today so I’m out for this month.

I am having a chemical 😔 Friday-Saturday had full pregnancy symptoms, heavy boobs, frequent need to go to toilet, a few positive digital tests.. Started even having some hope.. But today lost sensitivity in my breasts first, then got really irritated like fast PMS and now 2 tests digital - negative
Now just to wait for periods to come. I am in pieces, looks I don't have good eggs even if they say reserve is very good for age 🥺
I lost hope that even IVF will help

@Iusedtobedontcall sorry to hear ❤️ my full support to you, this all is very difficult 😞

I’m really sorry @TT82 . This process can be soul- destroying. Sending love. Sometimes you just need to grieve and recoup.

There was a MN thread that got deleted and really upset me. Someone was saying my Dd had a right to life even if she had a disability. I tried to explain that I made that choice because I was scared of what would happen when I was gone and how severe it would be. All the unknowns. It didn’t mean I didn’t love her. But then the thread got deleted and I was left unable to say that. I should probably avoid threads like that!

@Iusedtobedontcall Thank you for your support ❤️ It was too good to be true 😔

I have this cycle left before scheduled first IVF procedure starting with pills. Do you think I should stop trying naturally? Or it won't impact IVF?
Just if there is 1/100 chance this cycle egg might be a good one...cannot miss it
Please share your experience on this 🙏

hi gang! sorry was away on holiday...but yes it was a positive! i'm feeling good, no symptoms other than a bit of tiredness mid afternoon and around 9pm. Boobs feel fine, maybe a fraction tender? V different to my first pregnancy, which is throwing me off a little. Definitely more bloated though. EDD is Feb 11!

Waiting for my letter with booking-in appt and first scan dates. Planning to get the Harmony test done privately just for peace of mind.

There's hope for all of us - I am 42, 43 in November.

Definitely keep trying, why wouldn't you?

@Iusedtobedontcall I’m so sorry AF turned up. Re the thread, try not to be too hurt by people’s opinions. You may not have had the chance to say it, but that’s how you feel in your heart. Nothing changes that. There can be some real assholes out there. I started a thread last week about the random bleeds I’d been having. Most ladies were lovely and supportive, sharing their experiences. Two however went on the attack saying some really spiteful and ignorant things about early pregnancy loss (pre14 weeks) not being a “real” loss. It was very upsetting to see and hurt some of the other posters badly. People can be very narrow and ignorant. You loved your daughter, always will and that weighs more than any opinion not based in love or fact. You’ve been through hell, pay no mind to opinions that cause you pain, especially while you try and heal.

@TT82 Absolutely keep trying! It only takes one good egg and sperm to meet ❤️ I carried on too during the wait, helped me to feel like I wasn’t wasting time and had a bit of control.

@ladybranstonpickle Congratulations! Wonderful news! How are you feeling?

Update on me, had another bleed yesterday. Midwife says not to worry and try EPU. EPU say not to worry and call them if it’s heavy. Seeing it stresses me out every time so I’ve booked in with a private obstetrician who can hopefully see me on Saturday. Sonographer couldn’t see anything on the scan causing the bleeds, so hoping the consultant will look at cervix/anything else that may explain it. I know I’m being over the top, but I can’t help it! 🙈

Hi all. Does anyone understand and can explain the testing. My oestrogen (E3G) came back but is measured ng/ml.

Everywhere you look measured it in Pg/ml so no idea if mine is too high or not. The converters online come back with a measurement that doesn’t exist.

Why is it all so confusing? Husband’s sperm test was all good though.

Hey everyone ❤️

so much going on!!

@TT82 im so sorry lovely! Sending you so much love right now. This journey can be so incredibly cruel ❤️❤️❤️

@Iusedtobedontcall im so sorry that people can be so cruel. You did exactly what was right in your heart and that is all that matters. nobody can know what they would do until they actually get faced with the situation, and I guarantee that the keyboard warriors that float around these forums most definitely have not been! 😡 it makes me so angry!! You had a truly impossible and awful decision to make and nobody should pass judgement on that ever ❤️❤️ big love xX

@ladybranstonpickle yeeeessss!!!! Huge congratulations!! Epic news!! ❤️❤️❤️🥳🥳🥳 how are you feeling? xX

im in a big deep black hole right now! Everyone around me is really excited but I feel numb! I think I just don’t believe it 😵‍💫 I’m scared to let myself trust that it’s real!!
im not particularly anxious or worried… im
just literally feeling nothing 🤷🏼‍♀️
im hoping a scan might change things, booked for 7th July 👌🏼

Thank you @Kelb79 . I’ve been feeling a bit low lately but I’m hoping I’ll start to feel better as I’ve a new counsellor on Monday. I’m going to pop on here from time to time but I’m going to try not to think about TTC too much and just see what happens. I’m 43 in two weeks so I’m hoping it’s not too late.

It must feel surreal @Kelb79 as it’s been a long time coming!

Due on gojng by my app tomorrow. No symptoms of that at all. And i can't test till i'm back from my holidays on Saturday evening now. Argh. The tension.

I think i might be out the game for good sadly. No proper period last month and no pregnancy. Due on yesterday and no period again. But also no ph symptoms. On my hols so i can't test till saturday night but if its negative i think i need to let the idea go sadly. I'm only 44 but my mum said she just went straight into menopause with no symptoms so maybe its just my time and i need to accept it.

@mommabear64 See what Saturday brings you 🤞If it is negative, I’s worth seeing if your GP will test your hormone levels. That’ll give you a clearer picture of where you are x

@YellowLoafers i will. But we won't be going down the line of meds etc. we have two kids already and i'm grateful for that. I might get my hormones tested though just to confirm if i have gone through meno or not. Then i'll know for definite

@mommabear64 I'm also 44, I've also thought that I'm entering peri-menopause...
Periods have been regular until recently. Last was 28, previous was 22 now 23...😒
TTC number 2 but if I don't think it's going to happen.
Happy with our beautiful family of 3 😊

@Kelb79 how are you doing? I think it's natural not to feel anything. I too felt like that. I'm sure it was self preservation. Subconsciously protecting yourself in case it goes wrong. Especially as you have had a bumpy road to get here. Hang in there as soon as you see the scan and get the thumbs up that everything is developing well you will start to feel different. Just stay positive.
I went through exactly the same xxx

Hi, hope it's OK to join in?

I'm 40, we have an almost 3 year old DD and now TTC again with DH.

4/5 months off contraception but not tracking or putting too much pressure on ourselves. Currently AF is 6 days late but 2 x negative tests so no idea what is going on.

@sel2223 welcome! Wishing baby dust ❤️

I am 41, ttc baby 3, have adult daughter and 9 yr old son. Last year had 4 chemical pregnancies (last cycle was 4th), all tests good on both sides, so I think it is egg quality.. This cycle last before we start ivf in august. On Tuesday I have dr appointment if we can do back to back egg collection for embyro testing... so lets hope they will be cooperative..so far they were against, but I cannot deal with more chemical 😔

@October1979 thanks lovely 🙏🏼❤️ I’m doing ok…. Just trying to take each day as it comes! Near constant nausea and extreme tiredness are definitely letting me know something is going on but I’m on such a lot of meds that I’d probably be like it just from those!! 🤣 Scan on Friday, I’m really nervous!! 😬😕🫣
how are your gang getting on?? ❤️❤️

@TT82 good luck for the doctors appointment! Push for what you want 👌🏼😘

big love to the new group members! ❤️❤️
I hope everyone’s having a lovely weekend 🙏🏼💕😘

Hi, hope it’s ok if I join?
I’m 44 and ttc number 3
i have 2 ds 9 and 13
i lost a surprise baby in April and am now trying to conceive again…I know time is not on my side, but will try until the end of the year and see what happens…😊
using 4 day clearblue cb opk…on cd7 today…

Hi everyone, just a quick update from my side- had a dr appointment today re genetic testing abd planning. She agreed that after last cp quality is an issue, so she supports back-to-back collection till at least 4 embryos and then while we wait for the results (6-8 weeks! 😱) she suggests we continue another cycle of eggs collection.. but all will be tailored personally depending how I react. My hormones are very good she said (AMH 17 - ?? 🤷🏻‍♀️) so it is a waiting game to get a good one. She was very positive but said 1-2 good FET is a good outcome
Looks like I had ovulation this night...so maybe I will have my surprise this cycle 🤞🏻

Hi all. Another negative test today, even though all my hormones did everything they should this month (using Mira tracker) and we had sex at right times.

Been 6 months now so really don’t think it will happen. Next step is an internal scan of ovaries. If that’s not good news I will be out as husband doesn’t want to do donor eggs so I will need to learn to accept it and be grateful for what I do have.

Hope everyone else is doing better xx