TTC After Miscarriage Thread 14 🌈✨💕💙

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@MrsC2018 thank you lovely, you are so full of wisdom, your Dh and dc are very lucky to have you, hope you are doing ok too xx

@Mannymoomin and @MrsC2018
thank you for the words of wisdom and positivity. I have used that tool before actually, but had forgotten about it. It's hard not to think the worst but hopefully you're right and next time will be the one 💕

@Mannymoomin
Really sorry about your losses. It is particularly hard when a would-be due date is around the corner so I'm so sorry AF arrived for you... it's just so frustrating isn't it. Time off from stressing and worrying about TTC, even if it's just a month off might work wonders for you mentally- I hope so. Be kind to yourself, eat all the foods we're supposed to avoid and enjoy a tipple if that's your thing.

@Mannymoomin @Ttcpph thanks, it's always easier to be wise and positive with what others should do rather than yourself! I also have teens that absolutely think I'm a nobhead so I won't get too big headed for sure!

No change for me, the update from the MDT today was for me to go in for an ultrasound again on Monday with the plan that if there's no heartbeat it will be treated as a miscarriage and I'll be offered surgery. If there is a heartbeat then they'll arrange an MRI to determine where it is in relation to the C-section scar, if it's attached then I'll need to terminate due to the risks to both baby and I, if it's not attached then they may offer me monitoring to see how the sac grows because if it goes up into the uterine cavity where it should have been all along then it could be viable. I think the odds are against us, but it's more of a chance than I was given on Sunday night where I was prepped for termination so just got to wait this out and see what happens.

@MrsC2018. Crossing everything for you 🤞 sending all the luck in the world your way 🌈

Ladies can I ask your opinion please? This chart doesnt look promising does it for ovulation?

@Chellooo Hmm... I think it depends on what happens over the course of the next few days. It might shoot up tomorrow.

Hi everyone 👋

I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks at the end of January. It's my first time. I've managed to book a telephone consultation with the GP today because I want bloods doing (I'm definitely b12 deficient). In your wisdom please, is there anything I should ask for/mention?

Thank you 💕

@HollyGolightly4 Maybe do vitamin d too? Welcome and sorry for your loss :( At this stage I don't think you'd need any more intensive tests however. Most people only miscarry once before having a successful pregnancy. Fingers crossed your next bean is sticky :)

Thank you 😊

It's been such a whirlwind, my emotions are all over the place.

Hi, everyone. I had a Missed Miscarriage in October, actually found out at my 12 week scan in September that there was no heartbeat. I decided to go for the 'natural' method, as I started bleeding 2 days after the scan and EPU agreed. I passed some clots about a week or 2 later and that's what I thought was the baby...I carried on bleeding but with virtually no clots...fast forward to middle of October and about 3am I woke up with horrible contraction pain which lasted nearly 2 hours and then stopped. I called EPU the next morning who suggested taking a pregnancy test, it was extremely faint so they classed it as a negative pregnancy test and decided the cramps weren't connected to my miscarriage and told me to call my GP, called my GP who wasn't happy with EPU at all, and called them herself and she got me a scan for the wednesday. However, that night I woke again about 4am with the horrible contractions but they just got worse and worse and the bleeding was getting heavier. My partner called 111 and a doctor called back within 10 mins and he sent out an ambulance by this time, I was having contractions every few minutes and the blood was just soaking through pads within 30 mins. Ambulance arrived and I got gas and air which helped a little bit, after being in A&E for about 2 hours, I passed the baby on the bed on my own, and the pain stopped immediately.
Anyway, I am now on month 3 of TTC and just seem to be failing, this current cycle was the first time of using Ovulation test sticks, which I took on day 12 of my cycle and it was positive, so we had sex, and again a couple of days after I think it was. I am on Ferrous Feritine for iron as my iron levels were low at my last blood test in January. I am now on Day 32 of my current cycle, and I did a pregnancy test this morning (probably too early) but it was negative anyway. My cycles are usually between 30-32 days long, so I will probably come on my period later, but I am just feeling so defeated/deflated, as in the past I seem to have fallen pregnant rather quickly. I have a 6 year old daughter and fell within the first month of trying for her, but in regards to the last pregnancy we wasn't actively trying so I guess I cannot really say.
Sorry for rambling on xxx

@Brokenpancreas94 I'm so sorry for your loss and youe experience. I too found out about my MC at my 12 week scan and it completely messes with your head and then ther are the physical post MC issues to deal with again. I hope you are feeling better and good luck for this cycle, it's probably too early for a BFP so all hope is not lost.

@HollyGolightly4 I'm sorry about you MC las month, I hope you are feeling a bit better. Can I ask if you jus tasked your GP for bloods to be done?
I also had a MC in Jan, my 1st one and didn't think to ask the GP for bloods as assumed it would just be a no, but would love to know if I have any deficiencies. I paid for a private thyroid test as I wanted to rule that one out straight away due to family thyroid issues - so might be worth asking them to check that too.

@Chellooo how long have you been charting for?

do you temp at the same time every morning first thing? I.E you need to be laid down, and not have got up, had a drink, done anything at all.

mare you using a fertility thermometer, 2 decimal places?

do you do mouth or vaginally?

all these things will impact so just trying to get a better picture before I reply properly.

@Brokenpancreas94 im so sorry for your loss and the trauma you went through afterwards. I had a MMC too and didn't find out till the first scan. It is heartbreaking.

give yourself some time. Your body has just been through something traumatic so try to be patient (easier said than done, I know)

@HollyGolightly4 so sorry for your loss. My first pregnancy ended in a mmc too at the first scan. It is so difficult to come to terms with. I totally understand you wanting bloods done - I was the same. I would suggest a TSH thyroid test, as I understand that thyroid problems can sometimes lead to mc. I had that tested after mine and came back normal. Didn't help in providing me with a "why" for what had happened but it has given me an element of comfort going forwards to at least know "it's not X".

good luck with gp, hope they are understanding and helpful

@SMG1992 I have asked for a phone call from the gp (can't book bloods without their say so) so I'm waiting for them to ring me and I'm going to ask for the full set of bloods. That's a really good idea about thyroid too, I have never had that checked but looking at the symptoms I seem to fit quite a few, thank you xx hope you are ok, it's horrible isn't it.

@Ttcpph thank you so much, that is so helpful. I'm definitely going to do that- it might not give a 'reason' but it would help me to know one way or the other. Hope you are ok x

Hi can anyone advice on clear blue ovulation tests.

@Bubblemachiene I've used them before what's your question?

Thanks @bringmearainbow
Mine were just delivered and I took one straight away, got a static smiley face. Does this mean I am or have ovulate now? And if I dtd yesterday & this morning will that cover me as oh says its enough 😬but I'd rather try tomorrow to make sure lol. He says he's not 21 anymore haha

@Brokenpancreas94 was thinking of you and the other girls on the mc thread the other day! Sorry to hear you’re still struggling😢 I felt the same it’s really hard when it doesn’t happen quickly like the first time!

Hope you’re doing okay too @bringmearainbow ❤️

@Bubblemachiene oooh I've never had a static straight away as I've always started them early in my cycle. when I've had a static I've backed it up with a cheap strip opk which was also positive so I do think they are good at detecting peak. Haha men 🤦🏼‍♀️ It will cover you if he's not game but he might feel different tomorrow 🤞🏼if you can squeeze one more in to be sure! Do you have any cheap strips you can do?

@Bubblemachiene As far as I know, these tests require you to build up a history of usage before they can detect a peak as they compare the results to your previous data to see what your regular non-ovulation levels of LH are. I don't know how much I'd trust them when used in the middle of a cycle.

@ChloeN hey lovely how are you? I'm struggling atm CD6 and I'm in the it's never going to happen funk 🙈 and wondering if I should chuck out the new OPKs I bought and not bother. It prob doesn't help that if I have a late O this month I know we will be out as DH goes away so I'm willing my body to O CD16/17 🤞🏼 I'm just fed up and being a Debbie downer 🫣

Sorry to be a Debbie downer but think it's the end of the road for me. They've ended up calling me in for the scan today and confirmed the C-section ectopic. Baby has a heartbeat too which is just so sad. So depending on my hcg levels which were 20,000 on Monday I'll either have methotrexate to stop it growing or surgery. But surgery carries a real risk of hysterectomy because of where baby is attached to and the risk of haemorrhage. So I pick surgery and risk hysterectomy or pick methotrexate and have to wait 4 months post last injection to start to try, but it may take months to get my levels down anyway. Having a healthy baby just feels too far out of reach right now so trying to get my head around saying goodbye to this chapter of my life - for my sanity as well as everything else I guess.
Wishing you all the absolute best of luck xx

Bless you - this all seems so unfair.
Take care of yourself ❤️

Sorry @MrsC2018 😞