Anyone else TTC after TFMR?

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Anyone else on here in the same situation? Would be nice to chat to others who understand.

I’m so sorry @oneweecraw. It’s such a heart breaking situation. I have found this group to be a great comfort and I hope you do too. I’ll be thinking of you on Saturday.

Thank you for your messages. So pleased I've found this group xxx

@oneweecraw I'm so so sorry to hear this. Please don't ever feel alone, we are here for you x

@oneweecraw I'm sorry to hear what you're going through, I'm 7 months post TFMR now, and it all feels so long ago.

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. Make sure you take some of your favourite snacks x

@oneweecraw you have been in my thoughts today x

Hi all, I'm still in hospital...it's been 24 hours since the first pessary and I've had three oral doses: I've had some bleeding and regular cramping but nothing.... has anyone else been in this situation? So sorry to ask. I just don't know who else to ask xx

I think my experience might be different to yours as I was 25weeks but I had the internal pessary to induce me at 1pm and my daughter was born at 6am the following day. I think it's common to be a long process. Are you at home or in the hospital? Sending lots of love X

I had the other type of procedure so I can’t help from experience but I think the time it takes can vary, I’m sorry it’s being drawn out for you. However you are 100% in the right place. Make sure the hospital staff are talking you through everything and giving you reassurance, don’t be quiet, talk to staff so you know where you’re at xx

Sorry I need to read properly 🤦🏻‍♀️ you are in the hospital which like warriors said, is the right place to be ♥️ x

Thank you ladies, i'm still here...they can't give me mired meds until 8 am tomorrow. Trying to just watch the entirety of Netflix xxx

@oneweecraw I’m sorry it’s taking longer than anticipated, do whatever you need to do to get through it and know that this board is very supportive whether you have questions, worries or just need to vent. Sending you my very best xx

@oneweecraw I've been thinking about you, I hope you are ok 🤍

Hi all, after four days in hospital, 7 bouts of misoprostol and a Labour so strong I was taking the drugs like sweets, my little
Girl was born at 7.15 last night. It was so sad but everything I wanted, I got to bring her into the world and hold her. Home now. Very emotional and still in pain as I have some retained tissue but they're hoping it will come away. Thank you all so much for your support. Time for recovery xx

Oh gosh @oneweecraw you have brought me to happy sad tears as you have summed up exactly how I felt when my little girl was born last year. Sending you so much love ❤️

@whippeywhippet I felt like it was the only thing I could for her and I'm so
Glad I got to do it. Sending love xxxx

@oneweecraw sorry also meant to add, I also had retained product so happy to chat to you about any aspect of my experience x

That's good to know, I was actually all set for surgery and then I had a scan and the consultant said that as it was a small amount, he felt it was more risky to operate. Will pm you x

Hi everyone, may I slightly prematurely join this group? I am booked for tfmr next week when I’ll be 17 weeks with a very much wanted, but very poorly, little girl. The only thing I can imagine at the moment that will make me feel normal again afterwards is to be pregnant again. I find it really hard to comprehend how I’ll go to the hospital and come out not pregnant and with no baby. I’m terrified it’s going to take ages to get pregnant again and plan to ttc immediately (physical recovery permitting).

I’ve been catching up with some of the thread and I’m so sorry for everyone. I hope you are in less pain now @oneweecraw.

Hi @Dinosaurus86
If there is one thing I learned from joining a his thread it's that we are not alone. Society tells us this never happens but actually it does. Please look after yourself this week. The waiting is awful and you need to keep yourself busy. When are you going in? You're doing the right thing, I'm in so much emotional distress at the minute but I've never wavered from that thought.
My pain is a lot less but I haemorrhaged on Wednesday evening so went back into hospital and had the placenta removed (consultant had told me 2cm, there was 6 inches) and I feel much better now.
Honestly my thoughts are with you. You will
Be okay. Please message me anytime xxxx

I’m sorry you’re still in the midst of it @oneweecraw. It’s cruel enough already without all of these complications.

I have the first part on Wednesday and then have to wait for a call for a bed on Thursday, so still some time to wait. At the moment, I feel oddly calm after a nightmarish month of tests and waiting for results. I know that will change as next week approaches.

Thanks so much for responding - it does mean a lot to know I’m not alone, much as I wish none of us were in this situation.

Sorry to post here but I just need to talk to people who have been through the same in the past. I was on this thread a few months ago. Had a TFMR in Feb 22, followed by an early miscarriage and then a MMC. Currently 30wks pregnant and had a growth scan yesterday which has panicked me as little man's head is showing as 6th percentile. I'm not sure if it's the fave it's showing as small and google suggests all sorts of things including brain development problems or the fact it's just brought all the feelings of the TFMR back. I lay in bed last night and just couldn't sleep, all I can think of is I've already had a funeral for one baby I can't do it again. I know I'm overreacting but I just can't stop my brain 😭😭😭

Not overreacting at all! I'm currently 13 weeks and trying my best to be positive, but knowing the 20 week scan is looming, where everything went wrong last time, I'm constantly terrified. Did they say much about it at the scan? I'd like to think if they were worried they'd be doing more scans etc. Do you still have access to a bereavement midwife? Mine is brilliant for a chat and to ease worries.

@HoneyPea I second what @Lunamoon2022 said to get in touch with your bereavement midwife. I have no idea what is normal or not at your stage of pregnancy so can’t offer any insight myself but getting an expert who understands your understandable stress levels can only be a good thing.

@Dinosaurus86 I am sorry you have had to join this group, my heart goes out to you. I had to do the same for my daughter around 6 months ago. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do but I have not questioned if I did the right thing, it was the absolutely the kindest thing I could do for my daughter and that got me through it- thinking of it as an act of love. I shall be thinking of you this week. This board is very good for a vent or support when you need it.

@oneweecraw Im sorry to hear your experience and I hope you are doing better though I appreciate it’s early days.

Hi everyone, how are you all doing? I thought I would check in. I unfortunately had a chemical pregnancy earlier this month.

After the TFMR I was so worried about another loss, and was concerned for my mental health if it were to happen. When it did I was weirdly calm about it as i think my brain turned to the science of it and nothing seemed as bad as the TFMR - maybe part of me was thankful that my body had made the decision for me.

I don't yet have any living children and id also read that MC is common after a TFMR? but I don't know if there is any evidence to that. x

Sorry to hear that @whippeywhippet - I had one in February and they’re rubbish, especially after TFMR.

Like you though, I didn’t find it as bad as I thought I would. More of an irritation…