TTC after miscarriage Thread 14 🌈✨💕💙

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@Babydustmamma I know what you mean - although I'm more worried about dealing with the milestones, if that makes sense. I thought I was going to be almost 6 months pregnant at Christmas, had imagined having a bump when I saw my family for the first time in months, and DP and I were planning to buy a few baby bits in the Jan sales. So I'm feel anxious and sad about it not being the happy time that I'd envisaged 😔

@Rabbitjungle1 ughh so with you there! We were due in January, so it’s going to be very different to how I had planned things ♥️

hard when you pass milestones like this isn’t it!

@Maxime34 welcome lovely ♥️

@Babydustmamma It really is ❤️ And hard when everything that happens/doesn't happen seems to have this additional meaning that only you are aware of!

@Cheetocat oh I would be very hopeful with those symptoms. My main symptoms from very early with my last MC 2 weeks ago was sore boobs and peeing alot. I wish you best of luck and I hope you get a BFP x

@Babydustmamma @Rabbitjungle1 I feel exactly the same. I am really nervous about TTC this month as will be due to test around Christmas (next AF due on 27th). So hard dealing with the thought that I should have had a newborn this Christmas and potentially I will just have yet another BFN 😔

@Babydustmamma @Rabbitjungle1 @emhope I’m also feeling up and down about this month. Two of my miscarriages have been in December 😔 seems an unlucky month for me.

I have had loads of ewcm today (tmi but I have literally felt like I have wet myself a few times today) so today is def peak day and had cramping this evening, so may even have ovulated too. Off into the tww I go

@Rabbitjungle1 @Bubblesandballoons @em thank you ladies, I’m sad to have company in this feeling but reassured that I’m not alone because I do find this whole thing so lonely ♥️

going to be a bit grim but good to know that I can write how I’m feeling on here during the month and know that people will understand instead of grimacing and wishing I was over the mc ♥️

@Bubblesandballoons haha i get like that! It’s mad how obvious your body can make it isn’t it! Sending you those signals 🎉 fingers crossed for your tww and sending love because it’s such a bloody hard stint

@Babydustmamma thanks, it is amazing and also pretty gross 😂. It is really hard when people haven’t been through it for them to understand, it’s great to be able to support each other here ❤️. I talked to dp last night and said I’m not sure if we should of tried this month because I keep losing them between 4-5 weeks, so if I do get pregnant and lose it I’ll be miscarrying over Xmas for the second year in a row, not that i can change it now if we do. I’ll be happy to get this month out the way, it was so much harder miscarrying over Christmas last year as I felt I had to be happy for everyone, which meant I struggled after as I didn’t really grieve. Having a major what have I done moment

Hi all. I'm so sorry that we all find ourselves here and for your losses ❤️
Hoping I can join in this thread. I found out last week at 17+1 that my baby's heart had stopped beating and delivered him last Thursday. I feel so guilty but I just long to be pregnant again and am hoping to start TTC again soon. I have a 19 month old already but before we conceived her my cycles went haywire and they've not exactly been regular in the interim either. I was having sporadic long cycles when we conceived our angel baby as well so I'm just really nervous that it might not happen for us again.
I had gestational diabetes from 31 weeks with my DD and I started treatment almost immediately with my angel. I am so nervous that the diabetes played a part but since I found out we'd lost him I've been binge eating chocolate. I think TTC will hopefully give me the will power to cut the carbs again soon but for now I'm just comfort eating.
Sorry to have gone on. I was incredibly anxious in pregnancy anyway so I know this is going to be incredibly difficult and I know I'm going to need a good support network, as I'm sure you are all too.

@Bubblesandballoons god that sounds like such a polarising, complex thing to go through. Not the same but we had my brother in laws wedding the day after we found out there was no heartbeat. The wedding had been put off because of covid, and we felt like there was no way we could tell anyone, or not go without ruining their day. So we just went and pretending it was all fine - such a surreal and grim thing to go through and you feel like you need to be happy for everyone else. I’ve heard quite a few people end up doing quite normal things after because you’re just in shock?

fingers crossed that you don’t Have to go through that same thing at Christmas ♥️ we’ll be here if you do.

@Rosegold3112 so sorry to hear your experience lovely ♥️ to lose a baby that late is something no one should have to go through! Welcome xxx

@Rosegold3112 sorry to hear of your loss lovely, must be so tough 😭 don’t feel guilty for wanting to be pregnant, it’s not that you want to replace your angel but I think being pregnant again is the only thing that can help you get through xxx

@Rosegold3112 I’m so sorry for what you went through, your situation is pretty much identical to what mine was back in January, I also had to deliver at 17 weeks. Like you I also wanted to be pregnant again straight away but sadly it hasn’t happened yet :( i hope you’ve got lots of support around you, and we are here to help too! Over time it does get better, slowly, but it does. Sending you loads of love and strength as you navigate through this difficult time xxx

@Rosegold3112 so sorry to hear about your loss and that you find yourself here ❤️Everyone deals with things in different ways but I think it’s perfectly normal to have the desire to be pregnant straightaway. I know that’s how I felt after my loss and we started TTC as soon as we could after the D&C.

So I am on CD4 and my period has been so light this month. Usually I have a couple of heavy days and then couple of normal and then goes to light but Ive hardly had anything since day 1 😕 Do you think this will impact chances of conceiving this month? Or would it have been last month?

@emhope about two or three months after my mc, my periods turned really light (not even worth putting a pad in for about 5 days, then one heavy day, then a few more light days again) and it’s been that way ever since! The doctors have said it’s more important that you’re showing signs of ovulating, rather than worrying about changes in 🩸

this hasn’t helped me not worry and wonder why - but just sharing to let you know you’re not alone x

@Rosegold3112 so sorry for your loss. I think your feelings are a normal way of dealing with the loss. Hope you have lots of love and support ❤️
@Babydustmamma ahh bet that was so hard, you are a strong woman to get through that. Luckily my family knew, but I still felt I had to be happy as the children were all so excited and I didn’t want to bring the mood down for them. It’s my ds’s 2nd bday tomorrow, so I’ve had plenty to keep me occupied thankfully.
@emhope I had light periods after my miscarriages for 6 months, even my bleeding after my chemical in sept was light, not like my other ones. Don't know if the last chemical reset my body, as after the last chemical I finally am back to normal again. I don’t know if if affected anything, I did get pregnant in sept, but lost it at 4 and half weeks. Wether that contributed I have no idea. I’ve read lots of stories of women with light period that have got pregnant and been fine (yep I googled the hell out of it after the 3rd month of a barely there period 🙈😂) so who knows 🤷🏼‍♀️, but as @Babydustmamma said you aren’t alone xx

@Rosegold3112 so sorry for your loss. You aren't alone, I've lost 2 at 16 weeks this year and have started to TTC straight after both. I was the same, so very anxious in pregnancy I felt like I knew it was going to go wrong but I also felt that in my son and daughters pregnancies and they were fine. I half dread getting pregnant again as I literally don't know how I will get through another pregnancy, the terror of a scan is just unbearable. But, a baby will be worth it so I will definitely continue to try.

My period started yesterday, so it was def a chemical. Bit sad but nothing like I would have thought I guess - more hopeful that I got pregnant. My mood is so changeable, but I'm definitely coping better after this second loss.

@Babydustmamma same here, it was my daughters 2nd birthday last week I've very much been faking it till I make it just cracking on

@MrsC2018 it’s mad what we end up being able to endure isn’t it ♥️

@Babydustmamma honestly! It's seen as strength to be able to carry on, and I guess it is. - but what choice do you have? Is it even an option to just sit down and stop living 🤷‍♀️

Bought some ovulation sticks ready for this cycle, even put them on subscribe and save so clearly not intending on going au natural anytime soon 🙈🤣

@MrsC2018 i must admit I’ve broken and used the ov sticks. Flashing smiley yesterday and today, hopefully static smiley tomorrow for peak. Feel like I’m just going through the motions this month, have lost hope a little bit truth be told x

@mummatara hey lovely, just thought of you, has your tests gone negative yet🤞🏻xx

@ChloeN hey hun I'm still here just haven't managed to catch up much 🙈 nope they are still positive 🙄 I'm CD34 and still no sign of AF either after last surgery she turned up at CD33 so I was hopeful 😂 I've got one more week until I call back the EPU if the test is still positive it feels like it's never going to go at this point even though it's only been 5 weeks since surgery. How are you feeling? Any symptoms? Xxx

@mummatara oh god I was really hoping it’d disappeared by now 🫣 do you feel like your periods coming? I’m good! I’ve felt a lot more pregnant this time compared to last so I’m hoping that’s good news🤞🏻 my nipples are probably the most noticeable symptom, they’re so sore and they go hard and purple randomly thoughout the day🤣xx

@ChloeN so when I read your message earlier I ran out of time to reply and my answer would have been nope got no indication she's on her way but having just back home from toy shopping I've got the worst cramps I've ever had 🙈 so I'm praying that this is something happening 🤞🏼oooh that's excellent news I'm hoping that it means something good for you too ❤️ haha crazy nipples love it not the sore bit that's just another level of sore and is no fun 😭