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Preparing to TTC in 2023

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DanisEndo · 31/10/2022 09:36

Hi,

I'm part of a lovely thread which was started in 2021 for those planning to start TTC in 2022 and it was such a supportive group! we've now seen lots of positives and given each other a lot of support and tips through ups and downs.

I'm now 'pausing' TTC until after my wedding in 2023 and thought it'd be nice to start up a similar thread to see if there is anyone else now prepping and getting excited for next year!

On the last thread everyone introduced themself by saying their age, what they're trying for and when they plan on starting - I'll then keep a list up to date and post so everyone can easily see others who are at the same stage as them!

I'll go first:

Age: 27
TTC no: 1
Starting: Sep 23

Between now and then I'm going to be taking folic acid, try and loose some lbs to get closer to a healthy BMI, save some money in a baby pot and enjoy some 'baby free' activities (i.e., wine, gin, sushi and surfing!). I have endometriosis and PCOS so going to try and get my periods more regular and pain management via diet.

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PeopleAreToads · 12/01/2023 15:11

@becomingfall congratulations!! Lovely seeing the BFPs come in

happyfeet5 · 12/01/2023 15:54

Congratulations! @becomingfall

Thanks @CRbear and @Mushroo I still have it today, confusing. I know the app is just a guide but expected it to be somewhat right given my cycles are usually 28 days. Oh well. I guess EWCM is a good sign, whatever happens?

Is anyone planning holidays for this year? I know @Mushroo you were thinking about it. I’d love to do a couple of mini breaks somewhere in Europe, but don’t know if it’s very silly to be planning this when factoring in TTC. Could be in 1st or 2nd trimester or still waiting for a BFP. I know I will be such a worry-Wendy. Can you walk around cities when pregnant? I know you can but maybe it wouldn’t be enjoyable if you have a lot of symptoms, so perhaps it’s better to hold off planning.

TunnocksTCake · 12/01/2023 16:26

Ive been a bit rubbish at logging on so going to introduce myself again!!
Im TTC no.2, cycle 3 and CD 13 getting loads of EWCM so very much DTD whenever we can this week (harder than it sounds with a 2 year old!)

@happyfeet5 when you come off the pill it can take a while for your cycles to settle down and there is no guarantee they will be the same as they were before either so I would pay more attention to the EWCM than the app until you have a few months of data. Mine took 4 months to actually get into a pattern and they were longer after the pill than they were before. You will probably still ovulate while they settle down but it likely wont be the same day every month for a while.

We have booked a holiday in June which will be safe enough if I fall now onwards, I would say that if you are 6 or more months pregnant you wont want to be walking around a city but would welcome a beach break, and definitely get a holiday in with your OH before baby if its your first, you wont get to be alone like that again for a looong time!! Also you dont know how long TTC will take so having things to look forward to is always a good idea :)

Notyetamother · 12/01/2023 16:35

Congratulations @becomingfall !!!! Happy for you!
And hope it goes well @Mummymidwife33

I'm close to end of 2WW now. And really hoping for BFP, keep getting loads of Tik Toks coming up saying I'm pregnant with a baby girl, not that I believe it the videos I just hoping it could be strange coincidence!!

Hopingforno2in2023 · 12/01/2023 16:36

We have a holiday in Italy booked in July. I am slightly nervous about being in the first trimester as that wiped me out last time. I was fine otherwise right up to the end and could have done a walking city break up do my due date.

Hopingforno2in2023 · 12/01/2023 16:43

Many congrats fall!

CRbear · 12/01/2023 16:45

@happyfeet5 i don’t think it can be a bad thing at all!’

holiday wise we’re just coming home from one now - hence my temping being so erratic - and we have a trip booked in April. If I have been lucky enough to get pregnant this time I’ll be just before the cut off for going all being well!

i bought a souvenir for a baby today. I figured if I got pregnant here I’d like to have something for the baby and if I didn’t- I’ve got plenty of friends having babies who it can be a present for! I woke up with some cramping on 7DPO - I wondered if it could be implantation, but most likely it was my bowels 😂 tmi but they’re never quite right when I’m away. I’d be lying if I didn’t have a feeling like I was pregnant - no symptoms just a feeling- but I’ve no doubt everyone on their first cycle TTC feels that!

PeopleAreToads · 12/01/2023 16:52

@happyfeet5 holidays is a hard one when you have no idea where you'll be up to or how you feel. I've taken the 'you can't put your life on hold approach' and booked centre parcs with friends for April, which I may regret if I'm in the first trimester. But equally I might need the break and distraction if we haven't conceived by then

Hopingforno2in2023 · 12/01/2023 16:52

Just booked my AMH test to be done in person. Went for 6th February as I have my bloods for my tiredness this month so decided to space them out a bit. Just want to get the reversal booked but need to be patient and line everything up.

Summer022 · 12/01/2023 16:56

Congrats @becomingfall 😊 I am due AF any day now, have tested today and BFN again despite BD’ing on the right days etc. Feeling hopeful for cycle 2 now, just want AF to hurry up so I can start a fresh cycle. Love seeing all the positive stories, gives me some hope x

CRbear · 12/01/2023 17:56

Congrats @becomingfall - may you be the precursor to many more BFPs!

@PeopleAreToads - I’m with you- we still need a life!! It could take over otherwise and that’s no good.

@Hopingforno2in2023 sounds like things are going in the right direction! It feels good to be “doing something” towards the end goal I think.

@Summer022 you’re not out until AF shows!

Hopefulhoney6 · 12/01/2023 18:11

@happyfeet5 absolutely I am booking holidays - been TTC since last May so don’t want my life to be on hold.
and if I have terrible morning sickness etc I’ll hopefully just be happy I’m pregnant and then change the page of the holiday (from friends it mostly ebbs and flows). Obviously if I was crippling ill then we’d have to rethink, but the money would be spent either way.
We’re most likely going to the Caribbean for a wedding (I know some people may worry about Zika, but I’m not) and then Europe in June. Not booking anything more than 9 months away!!

Chooba · 12/01/2023 19:05

We're booking things too. We have a couple of short breaks in April and July, but don't want to put everything on hold but are trying to find a balance. We'd like to do New York in December but it's definitely too soon too book that...just in case!

Mummymidwife33 · 13/01/2023 08:19

Well we are all done! Both sides were reconnected and the surgeon was very positive of our chances.

Re booking things. I'd like to get a little holiday in this year. It would be nice to get some time before a baby hopefully comes along! We're looking at maybe going in September but we'll wait until the spring to book in case I'm pregnant, obviously can only fly up to certain dates etc. I've been away on holiday in both of my two previous pregnancies- I think around 30 odd weeks. All was fine but I would say that the heat exhausts you so I wouldn't be booking anywhere massively hot in the later stages of pregnancy. Also get flexi tickets just in case anything crops up that means you would be safer in the U.K. There are many countries I wouldn't want to give birth in, not to mention the expense!

Hopingforno2in2023 · 13/01/2023 08:31

So glad it went well mummy! You have made me impatient for ours. Going to call the two clinics today and get quotes.

123ROLO · 13/01/2023 10:55

Definitely don't hold back on booking things. Ttc can be stressful and dominate your time/headspace thats all fine if it only takes a couple of months but you dont know that. I spent time with my friend at the weekend who has been ttc for 2 years, she feels really miserable that she's put her life on hold for so long, she has now booked loads of events for the first half of this year.

I have a notes page with a list of baby names. It's now getting very long 😂. Anyone else do this?

Mushroo · 13/01/2023 11:20

@123ROLO haha yup! We have loads of
girls names but really struggling with boys!

I need to book some holidays in, has anyone looked at travel insurance? As in, do I take out normal travel insurance now and change it if I’m pregnant? Is it easy to do?

Chooba · 13/01/2023 12:00

@123ROLO we had a looooooong chat about it last night! We already have a boys decided if it was the case, but girl names are challenging us...

Hopingforno2in2023 · 13/01/2023 12:06

I have a girls name I really want but no idea with boys. Used the only name DH and I agreed on with DS!

Just spoke to the path lab and my blood test has been moved forward to the 23rd Jan as I don’t need to leave a gap so hopefully I have all my results by the end of Jan.

LovelyBitOfSquirrelll · 13/01/2023 13:18

@Mummymidwife33 that’s great news! How long is the recovery for your partner? And when can you start TTC? I’m sure he can’t even think about that right now 😂

We have 2 weeks A/L in August when DD is off school, so might go abroad depending on finances. If we are lucky enough to conceive in April, I could be 4 months. I wouldn’t really want to be 6+ months as I was big with my last 2 and don’t fancy waddling in the heat 😆 Then a UK break in October but less risky, so don’t mind if I am further on in PG.

DanisEndo · 13/01/2023 14:46

BFP!!
@marleyandme 27, No.1
@babybrainfart 33, No.3
@LisaJor22
@becomingfall
@Foreverhope82 40, No.1

TTC

@Weefreetiffany No.2
@WanOvaryKenobi 30, No.1
@louloulollipop 31, No.1
@Tophy124 30, No. 2
@Mushroo 31, No.1
@GlosGal 32. No. 1
@Firsttimetrying2022 No. 1
@PeopleAreToads 28, No. 1
@Summer022 25, No. 1
@JRabbitx
@Floralsandsmiles 35
@CRbear 32. No. 1
@Hopefulhoney6 34, No. 1
@AROSE9 25, No. 1
@Ella31
@CGallo95 27, No. 1
@Notyetamother 29, No. 1
@Babydustthisyear 32. No. 1
@madeofcodes No. 1
@SJ2 32, No. 1
@Almondbut 31, No.1
@bethhop85 37, No.1
@TrudyProud 36, No.2
@Mummymidwife33 38, No.3
@Ellbell1234
@Chooba 36, No.1
@twinklebutt 34, No.2
@Smiffette 39, No.2
@Bimbley 32, No.2
@supernova1234 35 No.3
@Lindsey02 37@JRabbitx

February
@winterbabyrose 27, No.2
@LovelyBitOfSquirrelll 33, No.3
@Lilothblos 30, No.1

March
@happyfeet5 No.1
@pmore23 28, No.2
@LongDistanceLife 33, No.3
@Hopingforno2in2023 34, No. 2
@Mumof1hopingfor2nd 32, No. 2

April
@Leopardlover 37, No. 2
@SweetLion 30, No. 1
@WolfMother326 38. No. 2
@kiwifruit1234 34, No. 1
@CatLadyH 31, No. 1
@BatildaB 38,

June
@ViewFromTheAfternoon 29, No.1
@Sallythesloth3 29, No.2
@Star2023 28, No.1
@LightHousePanda 37, No.2

July
@ShelleyPercy 34, No.1

August
@LibbyL92 30, No.1
@Imjustaherb No.1
@TheUndoing 30, N0. 1

September
@DanisEndo 27, No.1

October
@123ROLO 29, No.1
@JRabbitx@rachelrainbow
@JRabbitx

Unknown
@Newchapter23 32, No. 1
@TRFran 31, No. 2
@AlwaysWorriedAboutEverything
@O{mention:JRabbitx}@mrsed1987 35, No. 2
@BellsB1 33, No.2

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DanisEndo · 13/01/2023 14:54

Soooooo many of us now its getting hard to keep track!! 😂

How are all our BFP doing?? @marleyandme @babybrainfart @LisaJor22 @becomingfall @Foreverhope82 How're you feeling? Any due dates in the calendar yet?

I got my big job promotion at work !!!! 💖 so gradually ticking off all the ducks i want in a row pre-TTC. Elbow deep in wedding planning. Still in a good gym and swim routine, slowly loosing weight, and cut back significantly on alcohol. Will add folic acid in soon im just sooo crap at remembering every morn.

OMG ahaha i dont have a single boys name but i have 3 girls names. If we did end up having a boy i'd just need to let OH pick (with oversight of course)😂Speaking more and more about being parents and it makes my soul so happy to see that in OH!

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LeopardLover · 13/01/2023 15:06

@DanisEndo Ahhhh, congratulations! That's great news and well done for keeping up with the fitness and healthy eating.

We've always found girls names super easy, really struggled to find one for our son (spent over 10 years picking a name)... I suspect will have another boy but he'll probably end up nameless for months haha.

I've started reading "It starts with the egg". It's so interesting, I did most of the things it suggests when having my DS, but it's a nice reminder to eat well and give yourself 3 months of doing so for optimum egg health! Also the science encouraged my DV to commit to daily vitamins etc too haha.

DanisEndo · 13/01/2023 15:11

thank you @LeopardLover !!

Im defo going to put some of these books on order in the next few months. Me and OH are defo 'research' preparers :')
Trying to also get lots of the 'odd jobs' at the house sorted as well as wedding planning and now building a client bank ahahahahah insert manic laughter Anyone worry about trying to do too much at once and being stretched too thin?

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LeopardLover · 13/01/2023 15:16

@DanisEndo Ahhh, you'll love research during the pregnancy phase then! I read lots of good books haha. Knowledge is power and all that 😉

Honestly enjoy multitasking and getting everything done. I love it and respect it. I was once like you! Hopefully you'll get a sleeper and it'll continue. 😉

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