Preparing to TTC in 2023

[DanisEndo]

Hi,

I'm part of a lovely thread which was started in 2021 for those planning to start TTC in 2022 and it was such a supportive group! we've now seen lots of positives and given each other a lot of support and tips through ups and downs.

I'm now 'pausing' TTC until after my wedding in 2023 and thought it'd be nice to start up a similar thread to see if there is anyone else now prepping and getting excited for next year!

On the last thread everyone introduced themself by saying their age, what they're trying for and when they plan on starting - I'll then keep a list up to date and post so everyone can easily see others who are at the same stage as them!

I'll go first:

Age: 27
TTC no: 1
Starting: Sep 23

Between now and then I'm going to be taking folic acid, try and loose some lbs to get closer to a healthy BMI, save some money in a baby pot and enjoy some 'baby free' activities (i.e., wine, gin, sushi and surfing!). I have endometriosis and PCOS so going to try and get my periods more regular and pain management via diet.

@Babydustthisyear just wanted to respond to you - Sadly, as you (very sensibly) didnt test early there is no way to know for certain. Symptoms before periods really cant be relied on, as much as I drive myself crazy every month convinced that I have felt something different and I must be pregnant, realistically its because youre suddenly way more aware of everything your body is doing and we start looking for symptoms when we wouldnt usually.
I had a couple of chemicals before I had my daughter and honestly I have had heavier periods than the bleeds I had with those, so the heavy bleeding doesnt necessarily mean chemical either. I only knew because I was testing from 10dpo.
Sorry I cant give you a straight answer, but sadly there isnt one. My hunch is you would have had some HCG in your system when you tested if it was a chemical, if you were using a sensitive test.
As it was your first cycle ttc - was it your first off birth control too? That can have a huge effect on your cycle for a while after you stop.
Best of luck!

@TunnocksTCake thank you for your reply, I know it's so easy to probably trick yourself into thinking especially when we symptom spot, I didn't use a sensitive test just a normal one and I have been off birth control for 3yrs because I just didn't like the pill so we have been just using condoms so my period has been consistent since I can remember and this was a really different period which is why I thought it could have been a chemical, in hindsight I wish I had of tested early and used a sensitive test so I could no for sure 🙈 it just shows u, pros and cons of everything lol! I'm totally cool now and ready for cycle 2 making sure I have plans most of February to keep my mind off it lol it's working so far 💕💕

@Babydustthisyear glad you're all good and ready for the next cycle!
I know its such a double edged sword, I had a cycle recently where I was SURE I was pregnant, localised cramps, felt sick, headaches, back aches, all of it and I had promised myself I wouldnt test due to chemicals in the past and the heartache then when AF arrived I was so shocked I wish I had tested early so I would know if I was going crazy or not!! 😂 Fingers crossed our 'journeys' arent too much longer!!!

Well we weren't planning to try this month but we dtd on day 6 and 13 of my cycle. I usually ovulate between day 10-12. I did the ovulation strips from day 9-14 and did not get a peak. I don't know if I missed it or maybe I drank too much water or something? Anyway I have no idea what's going on this month but I'm curious to see if anything happens. We won't be trying again til April or May if this month doesn't work out due to a trip we'll be taking/don't want to be away during what would be the end of the first trimester when I'd need scans etc. Anyone else waiting?

@WolfMother326 I'm in a really similar position to you. We tried this month (still need to wait to see if successful or not) and if not we'll put it off for a few months.

@LightHousePanda good luck! I just noticed we might be using the old thread, I think this one is full.

@WolfMother326 I am also waiting. We contemplated trying this month but don’t feel 100% ready to go for it.

It’s CD15 for me today and Flo says I’m ovulating but haven’t had a positive OPK on the strips. I find them a bit temperamental tbh!

Hi, hope I’m ok jumping on this thread!

I’m TTC No. 3 (first two are 4 and 5 and were conceived quite easily despite PCOS and irregular periods). I removed my coil on 29th Jan and happened to ovulate on 30th. Don’t think there’s any chance of me conceiving this month however, as I’ve had a withdrawal bleed for the last 5 days so don’t think there’s chance of anything sticking!

Waiting for a normal cycle 🤞

Hi ladies, there is a new thread now that the OP very kindly set up as this one is almost full now -www.mumsnet.com/talk/conception/4732428-preparing-and-ttc-in-2023-thread-2?reply=123529263

Hi everyone, congratulations to all the positives and good luck on those trying.

i was in A&E last night 7+4 with a big bright red bleed. No clots or tissue and bleeding has completely stopped now. they referred me to EPAS who can’t see me until Wednesday! We have booked an early scan today at 3.30 but we are fearing the worst :( xx

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@LisaJor22 sorry to hear this 😔

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@LisaJor22 sorry to hear this.

@DollyGx thanks for the heads up on the new thread will head over to that one now!

@Babydustthisyear I think I’m having a chemical now. I tested positive and am now testing negative.

your cycle can fluctuate and remember if your cycle was 2 days late you probably ovulated 2 days late, so it is ovulation that moves rather than your period (hope that makes sense). Are you using ovulation tests? I find clear blue the most helpful to start as less interpretation is needed!

@Tophy124 aww sorry to hear this 💐💐 I never realised how common this was. Im hoping it happens for us all very soon 💐 x

Yes I'm using the clear blue ovulation tests and it seems I will ovulate same time this month on CD15 as I'm on 13 now and haven't had a positive ovulation test but I have had EWCM a lot in my fertile window this month and when I look back I didn't have any last month or at least I didn't notice. I'm so much calmer this month. Do you think clear blue ones are the best?

@Babydustthisyear I do, as for me I get two days of a clear smile face and I’m like oh ok!! But with the LH strips I was doing before it could never seem to exactly pinpoint the surge and I felt like it only told me after the surge happened! I have many friends who have got pregnant using the clear blue kits and so I plan on sticking with them. I do fine their pregnancy tests with blue dye awful tho!! I’ve had a false positive on them before xx

@Tophy124 thanks for your advice, really helps to have people to talk to, no1 officially knows we are ttc x

I’ve been using the cheap OPKs just to try and track my cycle, last week I had an almost positive line every morning and evening for five days straight! Loads of EWCM too but no definite positive OPK. I’ve used the Clearblue OPKs before and have got a smiley face on the CB and an almost positive line on the cheapie using the same pee sample so I don’t think those cheapies work well for detecting my surge. Not even officially TTC until either April or May

Morning ladies,

period was due sat/Sunday and I’ve just had 2 incidences of spotting when I wipe each day and nothing else. No cramps etc but also no pregnancy symptoms. Also no sign of period yet today.

I last tested Saturday morning with a cheap boots hcg strip which was negative. Not really sure what’s happening