41 and still trying! Any joiners

[ladybuggoldfinch]

Good morning! I've not posted on MN for a while as trying to take a more laid back approach but let's face it that doesn't work anymore than anxiously rabbit holeing your way through a cycle either.

I am coming to the end of cycle 2083626480 and I have had all the usual period symptoms! Everything seemed to come together nicely this time so it's another disappointing month. Not tested but know the inevitable. My partner and I have some fertility tests coming up so hopefully some light will be shed on our situation.

I have a 3 year old and have had 3 miscarriages last year.

Anybody in the same boat and would like a friendly thread to share their journey it would be great to hear from you!

@Krakenes would also be keen to know of any supplements people recommend...

Also if better success taking just certain seperate ones rather than the pre natal all in one packs

I just take Thorne B vitamin complex, 5mg of folic acid and vit D. I also take ubiqinolol recommended by fertility clinic when I had tests. It apparently can help egg quality. The pre natal vitamins messed up my cycle so much.

Hi all.
Hope everyone's okay?
I posted before Christmas to say I won't be trying anymore because I found out my partner cheated 😡

Anyway, I had a moment of weakness when he popped round after Christmas. I'm now back in the turmoil of TWW (day 20) - I realise I have no PMS symptoms at all like I usually do.

Has anyone found a lack of pms was a sign of bfp ? Could it be I just didn't ovulate due to the stress of everything that happened?

Does anyone have any experiences to share please? x

@EnnaMc hi lovely just lurking (sorry) but yep that's literally my only symptom. I'm 41 in May have 3 DC and am currently 9dpo. I have lower back pain so probably out this cycle but the mood swings of pms have stayed away🤷‍♀️

@ohblahdeeohblahdahlifegoeson Sorry to hear that .
Ive also just had a chemical. Seeing that second line not progressing and just getting fainter and fainter is heartbreaking.
We've waited 17 years for that miracle that happen 😢
Did you experience any bleeding?
I bled on the day we found out and it's now day 10 of very heavy bleeding 😴

Hi @MK85

Chemicals are horrible huh, I'm sorry you've also just had one.
In my case, my period arrived a few days late and was fairly average in flow and length. Im now back in the 2WW again (ground hog day!)

Your period sounds more extreme than mine, how many dpo did you get to before it started?

Hi all I’m almost 43 and 8 dpo. Am getting my usual pms symptoms so assume i am out! Good luck all

It's all so very confusing isn't it. This is my last attempt and then I think I'm done. Can't deal with it anymore. Good luck to you x

Hi guys! So it looks like I am just about to have another miscarriage 😭. Found out last week I was pregnant which was a complete surprise as it's been a year since I fell pregnant last time. My HCG levels were low and didn't double. Had some more today but have just started with the old brown spotting so I'm expecting them to be low. Can't believe this is happening again! I'm just so angry with the universe right now!

I'm so sorry to read this. Sending love x x

Hi.

I am late on my period (i usually have a 26/27 day cycle but Flo all predicted 28/29 days this month). Either way I'm late as it's now day 30.

I hadn't tracked temp or anything this month as I was no longer trying as such, but definitely did the deed multiple times during what was my ovulation window.

AF hasn't arrived, I have a lot of stretchy CM - almost like the ovulation EWCM but thicker. My breasts feel a little tingly and I feel a little off balance/hot ears and face (don't know if that makes sense).

I've done 2 tests and got a BFN - I know no one can give me an answer to what might be going on but has anyone experienced similar with the symptoms I've mentioned?

Thank you x

I'd love another but it's not realistic for me (am 46 and in peri) so have been lurking hoping to hear others success stories (not sure how to put it, but hearing others success cheers me up somehow?) and rooting for everyone. @EnnaMc I've had the stretchy cm just before a period before. It's unusual for me only happened the once so I did a ton of googling at the time, it can be something to do with a change in hormone levels but AF sadly still on its way (as was the case for me), or you could be ovulating again if I remember correctly. I didn't have your other symptoms though, so good luck 🍀

Can I please join?
39 and have a 2 Yr old. Took over 18m to conceive 1st time so expected the same again. Not had the chance to consistently try, but after 2yrs without a sniff of a BFP, I'm losing the will to keep trying. Nothing seems to be going in our favour - busy jobs, stressful times, a toddler who never sleeps....... The emotional roller-coaster is just so draining. Desperately want another, but don't know if i can keep going through this disappointment every month.

Back in the tww 😬

How is everyone? Anybody with good news?

I'm out again this month. It's horribly depressing isn't it?

Bit late to this post but hopefully can jump start it again!
How is everyone doing?
I've just turned 40, have 21,20 and 10 yr olds, just got married in November to my new lovely partner. He has a 24 yr old DD. We've decided to try for one more.
I've never TTC before, always happened so easily but I'm much older now with an older DH (he's 48).
I had one depo in sep 22 then decided we would try so didn't have another. Still waiting for AF so I can begin tracking ovulation. Have no experience of this so it's so useful to read your posts
Baby dust to everyone 🥰

Sorry to hear that @Wait2see2 I was also out! A week into new cycle and gearing up for the fertile window! 😆

Welcome to the group @MrsJonesey. It's gone pretty quiet so thanks for for reviving it. Good luck with the TTC journey

Hello I'm 44. TTC number 2.AF has arrived so I'm also out again!
Not holding up much hope!
But going to try with OPK sticks this month!

DD1 took 7 months to conceive but I was 39 then!!

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Hello @theleavesfall, I'm 43 and also trying for #2. It's hard to stay positive isn't it month after month.
Im on CD 30 so just waiting for AF, im pretty sure im out this month as DH was I'll during fertile week
Fingers crossed for both of us we get a positive soon xx

@Rainbows121 it is so hard each month ..and to think I spent so much time in my 30's trying not to get pregnant (I was on the pill and hubby and I have been married for many years , but still you know what I mean!!🤪)

We have been trying for 10 months now and won't be going down IVF road...

I'm going to use OPK this new cycle now.
My cycles are 25 days and have been since after having DD1.

@theleavesfall we won't be be going down the IVF route either but I'm not ready to except that I won't have another baby. I do see quite a few posts of ladies aged 45 that have conceived naturally that gives me hope!

This just isn't correct. It is harder and there is a significantly increased risk of miscarriage but it doesn't mean you're not fertile.

@Rainbows121 yes I have seen an increase in posts of 45 years having their second, even their first!
Maybe the past few years with lockdowns and life being turned upside down, that some women have delayed trying.
Who knows.

I'm going to try some OPKs sticks this month , currently CD4 My cycles are 25 days regular. I use the Flo app which predicts my ovulation at CD 13 , but I don't think that is right at all! I'm going TTC from CD7 to CD14 every other day if I can this month.

@theleavesfall I put off ttc because of Covid lockdowns. I had 2 missed miscarriages before having my DC and worried about what would happen if I had another one and also giving birth alone. Looking back now I really wish id not waited but at the time it was right for me.
My periods are irregular so that another reason for trying acupuncture to help regulate... who knows!
I'm pretty rubbish with remembering to use OPK's and temperature checks 🙈🤣

Hi all - I’m 42 and in the past nine months I’ve had a MMC and a TFMR. So I can conceive - just need one that will be healthy and progress!