🌈 TTC after miscarriage thread 9 🌈💕🤞⭐️

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@LuckyMoonstone @MrsCristiano @Astar21 @curliegirlie @emhope @HoneyPea @FfayeN @Mabelledox @Indianna2006 @mummatara @Skylark1990 @theblueflowers

New thread ladies - please add anyone I've missed 💕

@Margo34 I always thought that giving DH a gift bag with the test in would be a lovely way to do it. But now I know how a positive test doesn’t guarantee a happy ending, it doesn’t even feel like a nice gift anymore, so it’s ruined that idea. Sorry that was very depressing 😂 there isn’t really a good way to do it except to just say it! DH wouldn’t care if I rang him at work to tell him, he’d just be happy either way

@Margo34 did they explain to your where your levels were at? Saying there out of normal range but nothing to worry about isn’t really helpful is it. Damn Docters.

Having a high red blood count is called erthrocytosis and essentially it can make your blood thicker and more likely to clot. Which would explain the slightly abnormal thrombophilia/clotting factor. Which can cause problems with miscarriage. Not to say it IS your cause. They could of just been genetic fluke.
but I deff think you need to ask some more questions from them. Did the dr not suggest taking daily aspirin etc or anything to thin your blood?

my mother had this issue and a clotting issue. And I had to take aspirin and blood thinners in my first pregnancy to be sure I was safe and baby was safe so know quite a bit about it.

im unsure if I have blood clotting disorder never been directly tested . It was a preventative measure as my mum has it. But I do wonder. And the cycle 11 I got my BFP I was actually taking aspirin.

it’s the only factor I worry about in my more recent mc. But I know my original one was only due to a genetic issue. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Indianna2006 no the GP didn't explain where my levels were other than to say they're above the normal range but not enough to be a concern them at this point 🤷 GP mentioned aspirin but said they don't recommend starting that until 8w up until 12w gestation so we can consider that later if I make it that far.

Have you asked your GP for blood tests to check yourself?

@LuckyMoonstone for now I've shoved a positive test in our glassware cabinet in a gin glass because it's Friday we'd usually have a G&T so I'll ask him to make the drinks later and he'll find it there, that is the best I can come up with after stewing on it all week 🤣 He bought me some non-alcoholic tanqueray when I was pregnant earlier this year so we can still both have a G&T to celebrate.

Oh I see. I know lots of ppl under fertility specalist take aspirin from BFP. I took it from 13 weeks until 37 weeks with my DD. And had to inject dalteparin fragmin from 28 weeks until 6 weeks post birth. But like I say. It was a family increased risk.

No I haven’t asked. I had no reason to tbh. My first mc 6 years ago was genetic issue. Deff wasn’t caused by anything else. Then I had DD successfully. No issues at all in pregnancy. I had a brilliant pregnancy.

then this mmc in May when I measured 2 weeks wrong. There was a heart beat. Then there wasn’t.
so it’s only more now I’ve thought is this a thing. But it would only be this time and I am presuming it was more just genetic bad luck again. But I’ve had a successful pregnancy. And not recurrent losses if that makes sense.

if I have another chemical though I may ask. But hopefully next time I fall pregnant it will be it like it was with DD.

it’s so hard to know isn’t it.

@FfayeN 8dpo today…going VERY slow ffs. How are you finding it?

doing my best to distract myself. I also haven’t ordered any FRERs this cycle. As if I got them in cupboard I’m sure I’ll be early testing at 10dpo. So none in cupboard means I won’t think oh fuck it I’ll just do it.
6 more days to wait to see if AF shows 😫🙈🙈

@Margo34 great that you have some answers, I got my results so I could ANALYSE them 🤣. I went Google crazy but whatever keeps you going I guess. It sounds like it's manageable and I really hope it's a sticky one for you this time round 😊. Your reveal is similar to what I've done before, just left them for him to find it strange places...nothing as nice as a G&T cupboard 🤣🤣.

@Indianna2006 yep it's dragging big time! I had a busy week and it still went slow, WFH today and time has actually gone backwards! Hopefully the weekend will whizz by! Well done for not getting any...I have about 50 IC that I must....leave....alone 🤣🤣🤣

Hi all,
Hope everyone is okay

Was hoping I didn’t have to join this thread again but here I am. Spontaneous miscarriage on Christmas day, I was 7 weeks, Spontaneous miscarriage in March, I was 8 weeks (saw heartbeat on previous scan but the embryo was alot smaller for the gestation) and then last Thursday I went for what should have been my 12 week scan, there was no heartbeat and baby was measuring 10 weeks so a MMC. So thats 3 miscarriages in the space of 10 months, I am officially broken. I had medical management on Monday which seemed to go as well as it could do but I literally just want to try again straight away 😞 They have agreed to refer me and GP is going to do some blood tests in 3 weeks time, fetus has also been sent off for testing. I have a DD who is 20 months she is absolutely perfect and I had a textbook pregancy so I just don’t understand where we are going wrong. I want to try again straight away but also feel like I should be waiting to see if I get answers, plus I feel like my body needs to heal otherwise I’ll just keep miscarrying again.

Its also interesting how @Margo34 you have mentioned breastfeeding, I am starting to feel like my losses are due to this. With each miscarriage I’ve fed DD less and less but gotten further along in each pregnancy, surely that cant be a coincidence can it? Everytime I mentioned it they kept dismissing me saying theres no evidence to say breastfeeding increases risk of MC but I’m not convinced its the only difference now than with my DD. I just don’t know. Ive completely stopped breastfeeding now since my medical management on Monday as we were only down to ten minutes a day at bedtime so I just went cold turkey.

I just need advice really, do I wait to TTC until i have tests back and let my body heal or what I just cant help the yearning I feel to be pregnant again Im exhausted from it all, plus my sister is pregnant and I was due a month before her so I just makes things that little bit more painful. But I’m worried my body hasnt healed thats why I keep miscarrying, is that even a thing? I don’t know.

Sending love and baby dust to you all 💕

@Cindy974 I’m so sorry. What a tough journey you’ve had.

It’s such a personal thing and usually I would say go for it. But after three losses in a row and for the last to get to 10 weeks and lose. That must of been a blow. Very sorry. It depends how much you can bare falling pregnant again but having a repeat happen again if there are issues. You have to weigh that up again I guess. If that is more than you’re mental health can bare. Than take some time out. Wait 2/3 months to heal get some tests done. And take it from there in hopefully a better head and body space. But only you can make that decision. Do what feels right for you.
we will all totally understand that yearning to be pregnant again. But 4 losses in a row is a massive impact on your mental health.

no idea on the breastfeeding front. Although I know it has been mentioned in here. Now you’ve stopped. I guess maybe time will tell.

but deff get all the testing out to rule out if there is potentially other cause. Like you said DD who is 20 months. An no issue. You wonder why sometimes and where it goes wrong. it can just be all genetics. And perhaps you uterus use accepting embryos maybe it should reject. But it’s such an unknown baby loss still I feel really

@Indianna2006 Thank you so much for your kind words and advice. The midwife said to me I’m either extremely unlucky or there is a
problem. I think it would probably be wise to get some tests see if there is anything fixable and then at least I’ll feel like I’m doing something practical I just worry how long it could take I guess. It has taken a huge toll mentally and has on my husband too, he’s only just come round to the idea of trying again in the future so I think it’s probably best to see if we can get some answers first x

@Cindy974 yes that is the thing. You could just be extremely unlucky. Although that’s totally crap. Means it’s no more or less likely to happen next time. As hard as that may be to believe.
Human conception isn’t actually very great. And genetic miscarriages just can’t be controlled.

hopefully with some tests it may give you some answers. Take a little time. Have a month off. See how you feel then and where to go from there.

It does takes its toll and it affects the men more than we know. And pushing on and ttc and ignoring it almost makes it detrimental sometimes.

This is such a safe space for a little rant or chat or a cry and moan.

It’s bloody hard. We’re all here hoping and praying for our 🌈 and each other’s too!

@Cindy974 I'm so sorry to hear of the rough journey you've had. I have similar circs but no DC yet. After our most recent me and DH took the 8-12 weeks for the cytogenic testing to be done to take a break from TTC. It also gave me a chance to have some other tests done and do a bit of research to see if anything was causing it. It was a struggle to take the break, but finding out my most recent MC was genetically abnormal gave us peace of mind to try again. We've also sought treatment and advice from RMCs on the way (depending on where you are the NHS can vary in wait time) and hopefully all this will pull together in the future.
Be kind to yourself and give both you DH some time to deal with this last one to start with, then you may have an idea where your headspace is at moving forward 🥰

@Indianna2006 well said lovely 😘, plenty of shoulders to cry on here xx

@Indianna2006 thank you 💕 it definitely helps to talk about things and share experiences definitely helps the grieving process. Im torn between hoping its just bad luck or wanting something to be wrong that we can fix if you know what I mean x

@FfayeN thank you so much for your kind words and advice I’m so sorry to hear you have suffered the same. I think that’s definitely a good idea will also give me chance to get our heads around it all. Im glad you are getting somewhere and hope you get all the answers you need 💕

Hi ladies, ah so much to catch up on!
CD1 over here. AF showed up in full force today. Had a couple of pimms in the garden this evening 🍹 and ordered a new box of CB OPKs ready 👊🏼

@TheBirdintheCave looks like we'll be cycle buddies! My cycle this last time was also silly long at 34 days. Praying it's shorter this time or else it feels like an age waiting until ovulation.

@Luna57 sorry for your loss but this is a lovely supportive group. I think everyone's hormones settle at a different rate. Mine seem to take a while as cycles have been different every month. Though I've also had covid and the flu in the past few months so don't think that's helped!

@Cindy974 so sorry for your losses, utterly heartbreaking. I've had 2 this year. We can't give up. I just keep telling myself it'll be worth it in the end. I've had a family member say to me have a break from TTC to give your body time to heal. But I'm not convinced it makes a difference and can't let the months slip by without trying. It's the hardest thing having no answers as to why.

@Astar21 ahh no, I'm so sorry! I guess looking at the positives, you can have a glass of wine over the weekend?! Big hugs 💕

Oh @Cindy974 I'm so sorry to see you back here in this group 😢 I remember chatting with you previously. I would agree with the midwife in getting some tests done to see before ttc again. The break might actually be what you need, it's so draining going back into the process after a loss and at least you'll know either way having had the tests done. And if they do find something, it's usually easily fixed. Big hugs from me 💕

Big temp drop this morning so looks like late AF will be here tomorrow.

Morning ladies, god that was a roller coaster to catch up on, I hope you're all OK!
Just looking for a bit of advice... been trying to do this bbt charting thing but dunno if I'm doing it right. It's showing a massive jump this morning but It's too early I think for ovulation?

Any thoughts?

@pangolin84 fingers crossed. I'm really sorry you're going through this 💕

@Chellooo first thing that springs to mind is that it's been taken at different times to your other temps. The triangle vs the dot shows this. They recommend you take your temp at the exact same time and just after you wake up (I often forget 🤦‍♀️) did anything change from taking your temp today vs last week?

@pangolin84 sorry hun. Hugs. No longer left in limbo land. But not the outcome you wanted.

@Chellooo yes I agree looks like you’ve been taking it quite consistently but the triangle suggests the time you took it wasn’t the same which sometimes can make a big difference to the temp

I had an absolute meltdown last night. Turns out I wasn't at all ok with this past week. Feel a bit better today xx

Welcome to new arrivals and sorry you are here. I'll have a proper read at the thread later..on my way to work x

@Indianna2006 @bunnykins123 ohhhh that makes sense then! Yeah normally it's at 7am, today was after 8 am...

@MrsCristiano ah I've been following your posts there, sending you a big hug x

@MrsCristiano biggest hugs from me. It's such a hard journey but you get there 💕💕💕

Hiya ladies,

I hope it's ok for me to message in your thread! I'm very new to ttc and also mumsnet.

We found out we were pregnant towards the end of our honeymoon recently, which was so beautiful as we'd just begun ttc and think we conceived on our wedding night. Unfortunately when we returned home I started to bleed, and although I'd been reassured by a midwife on 111 it was nothing to be worried about I continued bleeding for over ten days and then I showed as not pregnant anymore when taking a clear blue test. So it was a very early mc, I was approx 6 ish weeks.

We just got too happy too soon, and have learnt our lesson now.

I ovulated again and am 10 dpo so may do a test next week.

It's amazing on here what son many of you have been and are going through.

I'm hoping we can hold a baby, im 37 so have all the usual worries, but am in good health.

Anyway lovely to meet you all xxx 💞