MC avengers, still eating cake, 2008 WILL BE OUR YEAR!

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Hey ladies I have been brave and started new thread.
Aquababe will not have to look at her thread opener again.

Congratulations splishsplosh x

Congratulations splishsplosh lots of good news in a grey miserable day

Great news Splishsplosh, and Kashi and Albs for your little babies behaving themselves
No point me testing before next Tues, going shopping today though but don't know if I want any tests in the house for a week, just waiting to be used........

Even more good news

What lovely posts there have been today, hope we can keep it up So encouraging for the rest of us that there can be such fabulous news after being so worried and convinced something has gone wrong.

But I am still worrying myself silly about whether I have symptoms or not, how this pg compares to my mc and successful pg etc etc. Ho hum, thats how pregnancy goes for us now eh?

Hi Ladies, thanks for all your lovely messages, it really does help speaking to people who really understand. thanks for that. Wishing you all lots of luck in the near future. Hope we all have some better news for 2008 xxx

Oh my I love good news!!
Lots of sticky thoughts to you all, now I wish I'd logged on yesterday!
Hurray Hurray

Can I ask a question? How long do you think the sensitivity to pg people will last? I started back to work today and my first client to interview informed me that she was 3 mths pg and due in August (when I would have been due) I finished the interview, then took a call from someone else who was 24 wks pg, and 2nd clt had a 10 wk old baby with her, needless to say I've just returned from the toilet where I had a little cry. They seem to be everywhere!!
Please tell me it will get better or I'll have to invest in waterproof mascara!

Shame, poor you Mollie. I found it very difficult for the first couple of months. Has been 5mths since my miscarriage and I am ok around pregnant people and babies now, except those due at the same time I would have been, i.e. next month, that I still find very difficult.
I'm guessing it's different for everyone though, as we all grieve in different ways. Must be hard dealing with it so closely in a work situation though, haven't had to do that.

Sorry you're having to deal with this sort of thing at work Mollie, it must be very difficult and no way round it.
It does take time, as Scully says. It's been 4 months since my mc and I'm generally OK with people I don't know now, such as pg women in shops etc. I find it more difficult with people I do know, for example my friend who is due within the next couple of weeks. I had a bit of a wobble at the weekend when we went to see some friends who had a new baby last month and my friend just thrust her into my arms without asking first whether or not I wanted to hold her (she knows I've had a mc). I just held the baby for as long as was polite and then passed her to DH.
It's a question time - it hasn't been long since your mc so it's no wonder you feel upset at the sight of pg women and babies at the moment. I'm not saying the pain will ever go away completely, far from it, but you'll be able to deal with it better.
One thing DH and I did post-mc was to book a weekend away, which gave us something to look forward to a few weeks later. Could you do something similar? It didn't stop us grieving, but it gave us something to focus on.

Thanks girls for the support,I know it will get better but like you said it's not been long since my m/c so I feel like I'm struggling a bit, trying not to let it show at work but it is getting to me, I really hate not being in control of my emotions. We have decided to book a break at the end of April (when my SIL is due!) we're sort of hoping that all the fuss will have died down whilst we're away or that the baby is born just before so we can escape after, but it's tempting to book something a little sooner as well.

Congrats Splishsplosh, sending sticky vibes to you!

Fab news Kasha and ALBS, so pleased for you. It must be such a relief to see your little baba's wiggling round on screen

Mollie, I know what you mean about feeling sensitive around bumps & babies. Not long after I lost my little boy everyone around me seemed to be announcing that they were expecting twins! There were 3 couples in total; my SIL, my sisters best friend & someone I work with. I mean what are the chances of that!?
I just wanted one and I felt so useless that I couldn't even manage that...

After the second mc I now have teary moments over the silliest of things all the time, but they matter to me and that's all that matters

An update on my current situation - I'm now on day 94 today of the longest ever cycle and I've had enough so I've booked a Dr's appointment for Friday. Fingers crossed they can give me something that will at least induce a flipping af!!
I just don't get what's gone wrong. I had an af after my mmc and so assumed everything was back to normal, well that was in Oct07 & I'm still waiting for her to show herself again! Meh!

xx

Hi everyone,
just thought I'd let people know that as dp and I were expecting, our scan this morning confirmed the mc. I had a pretty horrible weekend, so wasn't expecting any other news. On the brighter side, I don't need surgery and everything is looking healthy for future attempts, so we're going to be positive and not let this get us down too much.

Thanks for all the positive thoughts and support and best wishes to everyone else getting over a miscarriage, TTC or facing any uncertain or difficult times.

and congratulations to those who received more reassuring news...the happy posts give us all hope.
x

Hi ladies - Thanks again for all your support - so nice...

LCY - Glad to hear that you are all ok. Glad you recommended this thread, you were right, the ladies here really do make you feel welcome.

Molliemooma - Sorry to hear of your loss. I know exactly what you mean about being sensitive towards others being preggers. My sister announced her pg, only 2 days before we found out that our baby had stopped growing. It has been so hard, and not a nice xmas for me. People do not understand at all about m/c's unless they have experienced one themselves. The hardest was looking really happy for her when she showed me her 12 week scan. I dont mean to be envious but, i am.... Im normally not that sort or a person, and any other time would honestly be thrilled for her, but its very hard. I know i will feel better once her baby has been born... i hope. Good Luck to you anyway x

Good luck to everyone x

ceedub I'm so sorry

Ceedub - so sorry, I know exactly what you are going through, Take care and be strong x

Mollimooma - so sorry it is quite hard and unfortunately bellies and beans seem to be everywhere all of a sudden. In my experience it comes and goes, sometimes harder around special dates etc. take care it will be your turn soon

Ceedub I am truly sorry please take take to grieve and let others look after you huge hug to you

ceedub - so sorry to read your bad news.

My infection is clearing up or I think it is. I can only feel it a little bit now so about that.

I am having a very wobbly day today. Zoned out doing the hoovering this afternoon and completely forgot to go to my bereavement counselling session. Feel awful now as I had lots I wanted to talk about. How could I forget?

Ceedub, I'm so sorry to hear your news

My mc was 4 months ago, and I've found myself obsessed with bumps, wondering how far along people are, and if I'd have looked like that yet etc. At 1 baby group someone had just found out she was about 20 weeks pg, and was quite upset, which made me feel quite envious. It's all just a real rollercoaster.

Ceedub - so sorry to hear your news. Even though you were bracing yourself for the worst, it's still awful to have it confirmed. Look after yourself and we're here if you need us.
Cece - go easy on yourself. You've been through a lot and the bereavement counsellors will understand. Hopefully you can reschedule a new appointment within the next few days. Glad the infection is clearing up though.
Hope everybody else is OK tonight.

Hi everyone

Been lurking for a while without posting. Sorry to those who have had a MC since I last posted (sending big hugs your way ceedub and congratulations to the all the BFPs (well done Splishsplosh! Flumpytiger - just saw your post about longest cycle ever. Have you had any period pains at all during that time? Was your period after your MMC normal in length, etc...?

This thread is so amazing. I've been finding myself weepy over the sight of baby bumps and small babies too. I'm in the 2ww at the moment - but still very much grieving the two I've lost. I'm hoping it gets easier with time.

Devon1 I know exactly what you mean about it being difficult being pleased for people, when usually it comes naturally. I was privately v excited to know I was pg (early days) on a residential management event last year. Then I lost the baby - no one knew about it - and just before Christmas one of the other delegates circulated the happy news that she was 3 months pg. I could have burst into tears right there and then in the open plan (I just went to the ladies instead).

So good (?) to know I'm not the only one finding this difficult - or at least to know there are people out there who understand.

(((Makecakes pops her head around the door and waves to everyone)))

Morning all-just wanted to say hello and let you know that I am still bump rubbing for you all. This will SO be your year....

(((Make cakes waddles off to the loo- again!)))

Ceedub
Sorry to hear your news, glad to read how positive you are though, sending hugs xx

Hi Ceedub, so sorry that your worst fears were realised.

Congrats, Splishsplosh, I send sticky vibes your way.

I'm feeling a bit confused - my mc bleeding has stopped and did so about a week ago, and for the last couple of days I have been feeling inexplicably fruity and really 'in the mood'. This usually means I am ovulating, but I don't believe I could be ovulating already. I'm wondering whether it's too early to BD yet in terms of safety and hygiene etc when the mc is all so recent.

I hear you on sensitivity mollie, we saw some friends yesterday who are due today. I thought I would be ok but it was actually pretty upsetting. They know what has happened to us, but never mentioned it which I thought was weird. I think they just felt awkward, rather than being selfish bastards! It would have been nice for them to have said something though.