MC avengers, still eating cake, 2008 WILL BE OUR YEAR!

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Hey ladies I have been brave and started new thread.
Aquababe will not have to look at her thread opener again.

PrePG lol about Ken and Gok . We're big fans of Gok in our house. I actually sometimes worry that DH is a bit too fond of him!

mistlethrush - not bought the flat yet, but so nearly there. We haven't seen anything else nearly as good in the area for the price, so even though it needs work we think it'll be worth it. God knows where we'll live if we can't buy it. It has a 22-foot living room with French windows out to the garden. It's only two bed but BIG. Sounds grand, but you can get quite a lot for your money in our corner of SE London (although not usually as much as this, which is why we're desperately crossing our fingers).

Can't wait to have more room - in our little one bedroom flat right now my wardrobe is like a living thing that threatens to engulf us and every drawer and cupboard is bulging at the seams!

Just a quickie girls, I have decided to leave m/n as I have found that it is taking over from my life a little. I wish you all success in getting your BFP's and that you don't have to wait too long for the babies that you all so dearly desire, lots of love to you allXX

Emmsy -I'm sad to see you go, and hope that in the future you'll be back... You have been an absolute treasure, warm and supportive and just lovely, and I will miss you on here!
GOOD LUCK and take care, lady!
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MN can be a little addictive! Bye emmsy - good luck with everything - pop back to let us know how you are getting on now and then!

hello ladies, I hope I can join your thread - I was hanging about on the due Nov 08 thread until Thursday, when I was given the news during my 1st scan (at 11 weeks) that I had an anembryonic pregnancy or blighted ovum - i.e. everything there except the baby - what a shock.
I have been asked to return next Thurs for another scan, after which they will offer me a medical interviention to start my M/C, if it has not already kicked off naturally by then. I am desperate for this to all be a thing of the past so that I can start TTC again.

hi ladies

here is my temperature chart
www.fertilityfriend.com/home/1f3edd

any comments?
did i ovulate cd17?

Hi tammy sorry you've had to join us but welcome. This thread has lots of lovely people on it.

So sorry to hear about your mmc/blighted ovum . I had the same thing at the beginning of March. Found out when I was 10 weeks along. Awful shock - how are you doing at the moment?

I had an ERPC because I didn't want to wait for it to happen naturally - like you I wanted to get my cycle back so I could start ttc asap.

Hi! Tammy, sorry you're having a hard time at the moment. Same for me last week. I had ERPC last tues. Know what you mean about TTC asap. Hope things go ok for you. I've found loads of info on MN so hope it helps.

Hi, new here too. Tammy and Napa, sorry to hear your news. Same here (ERPC beginning of Feb) and we've just started TTC again.

Trying to keep calm and sane, but it's not working!

Tammy, I was on the Nov 08 thread too, but had an ERPC on the 4th April for an anembryonic preg or blighted ovum too. I was offered to let nature do its thing or pessaries, but I asked for the D&C type procedure to get it over and done. Hope it goes well for you, but sorry you have to face it. xx

Napa - good luck with ttc - lets all grab our DH/DPs - I would but mine has left today for a week in Bulgaria.

Could someone please tell me what 2ww means!!? It's not on the acronym list and I just cannot work it out!!

Also - you all seam to be on the ball with your ovulation charts etc - how on earth do you know when you are ovulating? I thought you could tell when your vaginal discharges go glupy!!? I had ERPC 10 days ago, haven't had AF yet, and I'm just wondering, cos we are ttc again.

Twinkle - THAT IS AMAZING NEWS!! UNBELIEVABLE MIRACLE!!! I'll pop over to the Nov 08 thread and say Hi to you!! Bless your Pea!!xx

2ww is the 2 weeks wait from ovulation until af or being able to test.

Sorry to hear your news Tammy, I had a blighted ovum m/c last Aug and another m/c this week, so understand your shock at getting so far along before finding out there was a problem.
Bye Emmsy, hope you're not away for too long.
Your flat sounds great Daisy, hope it goes through.
Divedaisy, your af may take a while to return, doesn't mean you're not ovulating in the meantime though. After my erpc last year, af took 40 days to arrive initially and 65 days for a 2nd cycle to arrive.

Hello ladies, may I join you (again) please? A lot of you are familiar faces from other threads, or maybe from when I was last here, last Nov, Dec, Jan.
My story: first found out I was pg last September, big shock as we weren't trying, but fantastic news. Private scan when I was 7-8wks (cos we were impatient and I was unsure of my dates) showed baby only 4-5wk size and no hb, cue a heartbreaking 4-5weeks of "wait and see" and more scans before an erpc on 2nd Nov.
We waited a cycle before trying again and were thrilled to get a bfp on 14th jan.
Had a tough time from the start, had some hcg blood tests whch showed levels not doing as they should, but a scan at 6+5 showed a strong hb and baby measuring right for dates. Was told by the epu not to worry about the blood results, as they mean nothing once you have had a successful scan...
Then had a few episodes of spotting so more scans at 8+4 and 10+1 which were both fine.
12 week scan and nuchal on 14th March seemed good til we got the results of the blood tests which showed hormone levels so low they were off the scale. They repeated the test to check it and we have been having weekly scans from the consultant since who has been "increasingly pessimistic" despite baby continuing to measure right for dates.
Had an amnio last wednesday at 15.5 and got the results on Friday which showed that the baby has a very rare chromosome disorder called triploidy - basically an extra copy of every chromosome. Babies with triploidy cannot survive, it is 'incompatible with life'.
We have been given the choice of waiting for mc to happen naturally at some stage between now and 40 weeks which would become increasingly dangerous for me as the baby gets bigger, or having a medically managed mc. Neither option is very tempting, but we have decided ther is no point for any of us in prolonging the inevitable.
So I have to go in to take a tablet next thursday or friday which will 'turn off' my pregnancy hormones and then I'll go into hospital next saturday or sunday to be induced.
We found out on friday that our baby is a little boy and we will call him Thomas.
We're planning to wait a while before trying again. We're going to fight for chromosome testing on us to make sure this isn't inevitably going to happen again and again. We've been told that there's unlikely to be any link between this and what happened last time and that it's very unlikely that the triploidy has been casued by any genetic problem with me or DH, but I don't think "very unlikely" is going to be enough for me to face going into a new pregnancy. I need to know that next time we have as good a chance as anyone else of things working out.

So that's me. Sorry for the long introduction.
Next time I'm here I will make sure to bring cake and hot chocolate

kate, so sorry to see you back here. been trying to stay away but not doing a good job.

welcome kate
so sorry that you have had to go through so much heartache

Kate,
I was wondering how things were. So sorry to hear this. Your induction sounds the same as mine. CAT me if you want to talk.

Kate so sorry to hear about this, good luck next week.

To every one - I am off on holiday today. Should have been going away pregnant and happy but not now so feel a bit weird about going but its double birthday celebration for me and dh so going to try my best to enjoy even if just for dd's sake. Thanks for all your support over the last 2 weeks and see you when I come back. Hope everyone else is ok in the meantime

Thank you all for the welcome. Cece am being very thick, to CAT you do I just click on the envelope icon on one of your messages? xx

I don't know where the thing to click is - I thought it was along the top with all the other search options and so on. You are looking for something that says Contact another talker or soemthing like that..

Looks like you do click on the envelope by my name but I htink it costs £5 in order for you to contact me. Are you on money savings expert.com I could PM you on that with my email...

Hi Kate, I remember you from Nov 08 thread, so know about the triploidy and what you've been through. I think you're well within your rights to insist on genetic tests. You would be worried sick if you were to get pregnant again without knowing for sure tht everything is OK with you and your DH, and that would not be good for you. I hope next weekend will be ... I don't know what to say Kate. I don't want you to go through a traumatic experience, yet I know it will be very emotional and sad for you and your family. I will be thinking of you, and I'll pass a prayer on for you too xx Thomas is a lovely name. I hope you get all the help and support you need - and you know we're all here for you when you need us. xx

napa - thanks for the 2ww explanation

scully - hi again! and thanks about the AF and ovulation information!

Well must go and rescue my sons fish from the oven - our next door neighbour caught it for him today!! Fresh or what! Yum xx

Hello all, thank you for being so lovely and welcoming, it has made me feel less alone knowing that there are other people who understand and have experienced similar and hearbreaking losses.
kate hello and welcome, I am also expecting to be given the pill that will induce a MC on Thursday
Planning to go into work tomorrow, hoping that I will be feeling a bit less down, and that I won't be asked if I am better yet (people think I am off with a cold).
xxx

Hello lovely ladies. And very big welcome and ((((hugs))) to Kate, Tammy and Dive Daisy. Especially sorry to hear about your situation Kate. I remember you from Nov m/c thread. My heart goes out to you all. There's plenty of tissues, cake and shoulders to cry on here. I know everybody says it, but pleae take care of yourselves. Easier said than done when you're angry, confused and scared. This is certainly a time to be selfish and concentrate on you.

It was DH's birthday yesterday. Went out for lovely meal. Had a few glasses of vino and was in the bathroom at 3am pukking guts up. Feel rough as hairy eggs today . Think it's safe to say that my drinking days are long behind me.

I've also decided that I'm going to allow myself to 'graduate' from the thread. Hard decision as you've all be fantastically supportive, but I think I need to be away from babies, ttc and pg for a while as it's starting to take over my life. So, I'm passing over the pom poms of fertility to someone else . I will be lurking in the background though and will have fingers crossed for everyone ttc. I really really hope that everyone gets what they want.

I leave you with a HUGE home-made moist choclatey Devil's Food cake with fresh cream filling, caramel sauce and fresh strawberries and a glass of champagne. xxxxxx

kate and tammy hello, sorry you had to join this thread but happy to meet you. I was on the Nov 08 thread too but fleetingly. I hope you get through the next few days relatively unscathed. Good luck re work tammy I went straight back but am thinking it may have been a bit too soon as have had a few episodes of it all getting a bit too much and wanting to run and hide in the loo.

CAn't believe TF's story - what must she be feeling like now I wonder??

Had a wierd weekend - we went to my niece's 21st and it was the first time I had seen my SIL and nieces since the mc - not a word was said, not even 'how are you?' Cant help feeling a bit upset, it was real after all and they were all so thrilled when they found out i was pg. DH said they didnt want to upset me but the irony is it did anyway! Ho hum. Here's wishing lots of BFP's to the 2ww-ing girls

ALso, did anyone read the artilce in Red re mc? I read it at the airport on Friday night when v tired - BIG mistake - I was in tears at passport control