MC avengers, still eating cake, 2008 WILL BE OUR YEAR!

[ronshar]

Hey ladies I have been brave and started new thread.
Aquababe will not have to look at her thread opener again.

Sorry for what you've been through Babyfever.

About trying again, some doctors advise waiting 3 months, some say wait til you've had 1 af, but it seems this is more about theory on emotional recovery, and on being able to date the pregnancy accurately (but that can be done with the scans anyway)

Some people have become pg straight away, so before 1st af - I think it's more about when you feel ready. Once the bleeding has stopped it's ok to get back to it if you feel ready x

OMG Lcy that is an amazing story, oh I do hope that is what is happening to me. But I am pretty sure it isn't, so don't worry you havn't got my hopes up. So glad it is all going so well for you

Will be thinking of you x

Thanks, my scan is tomorrow at 11am.

I spoke to such lovely GP on the phone today and she says she will refer me for investigations if this is indeed a mc. She is the first proffessional who has genuinely sounded sorry for me and wanted to do anything to make me feel better. Although she did almost make it sound like BINGO when she said 'aha thats 3 in a row, we can refer you for tests!'

babyfever I think I can safely say that one af is all you need to wait - the 3 af thing is more for if you need more time to recover emotionally. However, many women have tried again straight away.

Babyfever Sorry to hear about your mc Like you I felt my only way of coping was to try to get pg again asap. I did a lot of reading and research and the only reason I could see for waiting for 1 AF post-mc was to date the next pregnancy. It would have felt a bit odd to use contraception for just 1 month so we didn't. I'm not pg yet unfortunately, but there are lots of women on MN who fell pg immediately after a mc and have gone on to have healthy babies. As the others have said, once the bleeding stops you can start ttc again as soon as you feel ready. In the meantime, take time to come to terms with what has happened and look after yourself. I hope you've got lots of support in RL (((hugs)))
Lilypink Fingers crossed for your scan tomorrow. Will be thinking of you.

babyfever - sorry about your mc, whenever you feel ready think is the answer.

lilypink best of luck for tomorrow keeping fingers crossed.

Thanks everyone, I knew I'd get excellent advice and support on mn.

My dh has been great, although it has really affected him aswell and I think he feels he has to be strong for me and hide his upset.

Going to be positive - 2008 can still be our year!!

Hello ladies, babyfever so sorry to hear your news, I agree with sfxmum - whenever you feel ready is the right time to try again.

Keeping everything crossed for you today lilypink

Well, things not looking so good here. Got the results from yesterday's bloods really quickly. They showed that the progesterone has risen a little and the hcg has risen too, but not enough. It should have been minimum 12200 given my previous reading but was 8811. Doc started me on cyclogest yesterday and going to re-do bloods on monday but she's not optimistic. TBH I feel like I know it's not going to work. She says she'll refer me to a consultant this time as what's happened is so similer to last time, and that I should be able to have an erpc next week if that's what I want (it is).
Just finding it really hard. My parents go on holiday today for 2 weeks, haven't told them about the pregnancy as didn't want them to be worrying while they were away, but now it looks like I might have to go for the erpc by myself. DH will be working. He works for my dad and with my dad away there's no real way he can take a day off. And everyone else will be working. I know I could go in by myself, but not sure if they'll let me drive home afterwards and the thought of being by myself staright afterwards is so horrible.
From what I understand currrently if the cause for both mmc has been low progesterone it's not particularly treatable. Just a case of taking cyclogest from the moment of the bfp and hoping for the best - it might help, it might not. But we'll have to see what the consultant says. Apparently wait is normally 4-6 weeks so not bad.
Just can't believe we're going through this again. This bean was conceived 2 months to the day after my last erpc

Kate I am so very sorry that this is happening again. It is no small consolation but at least you are getting fantastic care from your GP. Having had an ERPC I most certainly wouldnt recommend you go alone. Besides the staff wont let you leave on your own. Against protocol to be alone post- op. Do you have a friend who could sit with you until DH comes home from work? Where do you live, I will come with you!

Oh Kate So sorry to hear your news. There is a glimmer of hope from what you say, so will be keeping everything crossed for you over the weekend. (((hugs)))

I really dont want to be insensitive but I simply will burst if I dont tell.
I gave in last night and made a special trip to get sainsburys cheepie test. I thought the wee stick last night didnt work, so after a lot of stamping and sulking, I decided to do one this morning.
Guess what, yes it was BFP.
I checked last nights one as well and that showed a line too. Flipping heck. I have finally managed to get myself pregnant again.
I am now not going to say anything as the last one only lasted 4 days!!!

kate I am so sorry, so hard to take and particularly not knowing although I hope you get good consultant care. I would echo what Ronshar has said, please do make arrangements to have company. take care.

ronshar many congratulations, fingers crossed this one sticks

hi everyone else

Congratulations Ronshar and really hope this one sticks for you. Fantastic news!

Ronshar - what happened to the being strong???? Am so pleased for you though, loads of sticky thoughts to you and the bean, fantastic.

Kate- So sorry for the news you received, you can't go on your own for the ERPC it's far too emotional and as Ronshar said they won't let you leave on your own, you can't drive for at least 48 hrs, you need some support, at this rate the whole of MN will be with you as we'll all be offering to come

Yes I know sorry I wanted to be strong. I failed. I think I knew really.

Ronshar - I'll forgive you - but just this once!!

Congrats Ronshar Impossible to keep that to yourself!
Kate, I had my erpc in Australia in Aug and I imagine it's the same here as there. dh didn't stay with me at the hospital as he had the 2 dd's to organise, but he had to come and pick me up afterwards and I had to be discharged into someone's care, I couldn't leave the ward until the nurse had spoken to dh and explained the basics of having had a general anethestic etc etc.
Day 29 tomorrow (this message will show with UK time when I post it, but it's actually 9pm down here so I can talk about tomorrow already )
Hope everyone has an enjoyable weekend.

I'm so sorry to hear what you've been through babyfever. I agree with splishsplosh that 1 af should suffice, just so you can be dated when you fall straight away. Once you feel ready is the right time.
It's so hard for our men too. So many people give sympathy to the women & forget that the men are suffering too, very probably just as much because they're worrying about us too.

I know when we lost Harry I felt like screaming at some people that my poor Dh was suffering just as much as me... It was so awful to see him trying to be strong for me when I knew how he must have been feeling inside.

Lilypink, sending lots of sticky vibes your way. Will be thinking positive thoughts for your 11am scan.

Kate I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this again. Can a close friend or relative go with you next week. You absolutely can't go on your own! Big hugs...

xx

Big congrats Ronshar - Sending lots of sticky vibes your way!

Sorry for being insensitive but I'm just gonna pop if I don't tell someone - I did a test this morning too, mainly so I could tell the GP this afternoon that I'm definately not pregnant & my af has just completely disappeared because I knew that's the first thing she'd start going on about...

It's only a flippin BFP!!
I nearly fell off the loo, I just can't believe it.. I've felt a bit ick and really tired but just thought it was the stress of no af for 97 days!

I've done about 3 or 4 other tests previously and all BFNs, so what the heck is my Gp going to do to work out my dates...

I'm knicker checking like some crazed woman now, it's like I've taken up residence in the loo now!!

xx

Ronshar! That is completely brill. This one will be fine. I can feel it in my water.

CONGRATULATIONS RONSHAR
Scary time for you but i will be keeping my fingers crossed for a very sticky bean xx

Kate and babyfever -

Flumpy and Ronshar! - Yeah

Flumpy I imagine you will have to have a scan to date it!

Flumpy! Well OMG. You lucky lady. OOOO you get a scan straight away.

Thank you ladies. Dont get too excited I only managed 4 days last time so I am not getting too attached yet!

Flumpy congratulations