MC avengers, still eating cake, 2008 WILL BE OUR YEAR!

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Hey ladies I have been brave and started new thread.
Aquababe will not have to look at her thread opener again.

hi everyone - hope you are all okay.

nice to have a new thread - 2008 is going to be a great year for all of us!

i am currently on the long wait til my 19-20 weeks scan - its only two weeks from now actually but feels like ages.
also bought a doppler from ebay so will be checking the post daily.

but am chilling and being positive.
hope you all are too.

no cake today, but had a fantastic brunch: blueberry pancakes, toasted sesame bagel with butter and raspberry jam, fresh fruit, scrambled eggs, bacon, hashbrown, juice and ice-tea. Its a great little cafe here - the owner is from Chicago and hooks up a brunch plate that is a mixture between the delicate danish style with hearty american style.
Sorry, i used to be a restaurant reviewer for the local paper here, so i do get a bit over-enthusiastic about my food (which is why i am chunky - but funky).
Tonight i am going out to eat again (although i am so stuffed still -food takes AGES to go down out the moment - i feel like a boa constrictor after a huge meal) - to a place around that corner that gets rave reviews here in copenhagen.
yes, and that's the excitement of my life - my appetite is back . . .

lissie - if you ever need anyone to practice on I'm here

Tjuice - I have got about 7 long weeks until the 22 week scan, are you going to find out the sex?

Dustin - hope your pain isn't too serious and you are back on the horse soon, thanks for the well wishes

TJuice was thinking of getting a doppler whenever I get pregnant again might take it off your hands later

Have my 39th birthday on the first weekend of February and a brunch of blueberry pancakes will doubtless feature yum yum

SK nice to see you glad all going well

Lissie i can only imagine how upsetting that must have been

Kasha massive hug to you hope you are ok

lol SK, if onlywe were closer!i need case studies from next month!

SFX, it wasnt very nice. im really sad that mc is now a fact of life for us...

TJuice, good luck!

Kasha thinking of you sweetheart, loads of love sent to you, I will pray for you and your babby bean.

Hi Ladies, im new on here, hope you dont mind. I have kinda been watching several threads but just need to talk... Feeling very low at the moment, I had a m/c in November. We found out the heartbreaking news at the 12 week scan. Baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks. So I had a D&C 4 days later, but my GP advised us to TTC after 3 months...im 35 and feel like lime is running out... so after looking over the net on several websites, I found out that they recommend one AF, so we did. My AF came exactly 30 days later, which meant i would be O this week, but DH will not do the deed cos of what the GP said, and its really frustrating me. DH is very worried and wants to wait 3 months. I just want to try ASAP.

Hi Devon1, sorry to hear your news. I had a m/c in Aug, also at 12wks, thought we were over the 1st trimester hurdles but not to be. I think some doctors say to wait to give your body (& mind) time to heal, but it also makes it easier to date another pregnancy, if your cycles are back to normal. Did your gp give you a reason for waiting?
We have only just started trying again now, as I wasn't ready, and also had a long time between cycles - 40 days and 65 days. Last cycle was 31 days and I managed to know when I was ovulating with an opk so felt more ready then, as my body seems to have returned to 'normal'.
Know what you mean about age, I am 37, so would like no3 to arrive this year, not next

devon1 So sorry that you had mc in November, I did too. We waited one af and now pg again. Now, I have done alot of researching on the internet and I honestly can't find anything that says there is a medical reason for waiting 3 months. I think it is more for you to get over it emotionally. But it sounds like you are like me - and it would kill me to wait 3 cycles and then try - such a waste of time!

I wait 1 af so I know all pg hormones are gone, pg test will be accurate and dating easier and I also feel that the af has cleared my system (the 1st af after mc is usually pretty heavy).

Also you are more fertile after a mc - so why miss out on the opportunity!

But as before it is such a personal decision many many women like to wait 3 cycles or even longer - I think it is up to you. But reassure DH that waiting one cycle is medically sound.

hi devon sorry to hear your news, I miscarried in early December and I am 2wks shy of 39, I get the feeling of time running out and I thought I would want to try as soon as I got the first AF but it was not so.
on a previous mc I waited 4yrs I was so upset.

now I have a dd and would like to try again soon but I feel I might only be ready in a couple of cycles, we will see.
dh has similar feeling they get quite affected by mc as well and are often less able to express it

Hi Devon

I had a late miscarriage in Dec and we started trying 2 weeks later.

Sadly I have just had first AF and it was brought to light that I probably have retained some of the placenta. So have ended up on very strong ABs which means that I cannot ttc this month. (i was in a lot of pain...)

However I was 18 weeks and had a natural birth so my miscarriage was probably different to yours in that she was more developed.

I think they only tell you 3 months or 1 month so that you can be ready emotionally and also it is easier to date if you have had one AF.

My doc has told me to wait two motnhs from now but we will only wait this month and that is due to the AB's which are dangerous for a fetus. That is providing the pain has gone...

I too am worried about my age. BUT I am going to be 41 next month. Believe me my GP gave me a very stern lecture on the risks involved if we were ttc!

Hi Devon, hope you are ok. My GP also said wait 3 months but when I asked why she said that really there was no medical reason for it and it's really just for doctors' convenience so they can date your next pg more accurately! I waited for one af to allow things to get back to normal (had an erpc) & she said that would be fine. Am now 4+3 and absolutely TERRIFIED but I know I would not have been any less scared had we waited any longer, as quite a few ladies on here have said mc can really take the joy & innocence out of pg. You can tell your DH with confidence that there is no medical reason to wait 3 months unless you are in a special situation, really it's just a case of when you both feel ready. HTH.

Hi Devon,
Sorry to hear about your recent mc. I also had a mmc which was detected at my 12 week scan so I know how heartbreaking that is (as is any mc obviously)and how cruel it feels.
I wasn't advised anything about ttc again by the medical profession and did my own research on MN and elsewhere. I can't see why you would need to wait 3 months before ttc, except for psychological reasons as others have said. Personally I felt the best way I would deal with the mc would be to get pg again asap so we didn't even wait for 1 AF before ttc. (As it is we're still waiting ) Everybody deals with mc in their own way though. I found this site extremely helpful and also Lesley Regan's book on mc. The Miscarriage Association site is also very useful. Perhaps if your DH had a look at a few sites he might be convinced? Maybe he needs time to deal with the mc too - often men aren't able to express their feelings for fear of upsetting their partners yet they may be feeling the loss just as deeply.
I know what you mean about time running out though - I'm 35 and have no DC yet. Every month that goes past I feel the clock ticking.
Hope everybody else is OK? Kasha How are you? Have been thinking of you and hoping everything is OK.

Hello everyone,

Devon sorry you have suffered a mc. I didn't wait 3 months just waited until my 1st AF. I am not sure it really matters when you start ttc again as long as you feel ready.

Lissie the 1st part of my Reiki was a 2 day course a week apart. I then have to practise on willing victims for 3 months before I start the Reiki 2. Really loving it but I also would like to do reflexology. How long is your course and are you enjoying it?

Sweetkitty Thanks, just want to get the scan over and done with. Doctor thinks may have ovarian cyst. I just want everything to be ok, just feel life is on hold at the moment.

Hello everyone,

Devon sorry you have suffered a mc. I didn't wait 3 months just waited until my 1st AF. I am not sure it really matters when you start ttc again as long as you feel ready.

Lissie the 1st part of my Reiki was a 2 day course a week apart. I then have to practise on willing victims for 3 months before I start the Reiki 2. Really loving it but I also would like to do reflexology. How long is your course and are you enjoying it?

Sweetkitty Thanks, just want to get the scan over and done with. Doctor thinks may have ovarian cyst. I just want everything to be ok, just feel life is on hold at the moment.

Sorry don't know what happened there!!

Devon so sorry about your mc have you talked to DH anymore about not waiting the 3 months? Fingers crossed he has agreed to try again. I had a mc at 9 weeks in Sept and we were told by the docs at the hospital that we had to wait for next cycle before trying again, but not 3 months.

lots more bleeding now. oh no

Just popping on to say hello to everyone! I am glad you have joined Devon and hope you are ok. Sorry to all the over new people who have joined - but hope you are finding the thread a good support!

Alittlebitshy - i am so sorry you are bleeding. It is very stressful - but doesnt always mean the worst. Thinking of you x

Devon - I'm sorry about your m/c, and the situation you find yourself in. I hope you can manage to reassure your DH that there is no physical reason why you shouldn't start TTC as soon as you like (emotional is a different story). I waited 1 cycle this time and have been TTC this cycle - now in the 2ww! I'm a bit of an emotional wreck at times (in mothercare today getting bits for DD I got all weepy suddenly) but I still know it's right for us to be trying again.

alittlebitshy - I hope you're ok.

Hi, sorry to see that more people have had to join us, hope you find it helpful to hang out here with us and our cake.

Kasha & ALBS - thinking of you both and hoping for the best.

I thought I'd share my top insensitive comment so far, from dp, who today patted my tummy and said "how does it feel not having a baby in there?" . He says he wasn't thinking at all about our lost baby (that was due in less than 3 months), but about dd, who's just turned 2.... I couldn't believe how he could not think about what he was saying.

Af due today, I'm feeling the pull of testing, keep convincing myself I could be pg, but don't want to prove I'm not.

Hope everyone else doing ok tonight.

Devon - Hi, sorry you've had to join us, nly recently joined myself and everybody is so nice and really helpful.
CriCri - I had a look at your link to that website and thought it was so good it has some really useful info and support, have added it to my favourites, so thanks a lot.
Kasha - still thinking of you, ALBS - relax fingers crossed and sticky thoughts.
SplishSplosh - in my youth my friends and I had a saying for all men which was that they were SIB's (Selfish Insensitive Bast**ds) even my dh now gets called this on occasions, I think it's in their genes!

MollieMooma I'm pleased you found that website useful - I know I certainly did.
Splish I can't believe your DH's comment! I hope you gave him a good slap for that! A case of not engaging brain before opening mouth I think...
On the subject of insensitive comments, I had friends round for lunch last week, one of whom is pg, due in a couple of weeks. We were discussing pg symptoms (she knows I had a mc last year) and she said something along the lines of "Of course, next time, when you're properly pregnant..." So I wasn't "properly pregnant" then, before having a mc?
I'm also feeling the pull of testing at the moment and symptom-spotting like crazy! AF could be due anytime between tomorrow and next Sunday...

thanks for thinking of me.
got a private scan tomorrow anyway, so we'll see......
Had one gush and rest is when i wipe. Meant to be 12 weeks today
off to bed now

Albs - thinking of you, hope all goes well tomorrow, let us know I'll be getting cramp from keeping everything crossed for you x
CriCri - how insensitive!!! OMG I can't believe some people, how did you not punch her!

Albs & Kasha thinking of you

sorry for the insensitive comments so much worse when from those near to you.

for those waiting to test fingers crossed

for those ttc enjoy