MC avengers, still eating cake, 2008 WILL BE OUR YEAR!

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Hey ladies I have been brave and started new thread.
Aquababe will not have to look at her thread opener again.

My I join you? Ronshar on the Oct 08 antenatal thread sent me your way, and I'm really missing the ladies on there, but I know it's not good for me to keep checking up to see how they are .

I m/c'd last week at 11 weeks and I have to go back to hospital tomorrow for a re-scan and maybe a D&C. It's our first and DH and I are feeling pretty sad, of course, and I've been lurking on here for the last few days for comfort. Just want this bit over with so we can get on with our lives and start ttc again.

hello everyone, hope your Easters were restful and things are going ok.

daisyj my tummy sank when I saw you on here - remember you from the Oct thread. how are you doing with it all? I hope the re-scan is ok, and gives you the all-clear tomorrow. I know what you mean about missing the Oct thread, I just about lost the urge to lurk there last week. Hopefully in a few months we'll be able to go back and say hello to them all without feeling too sad.. Look after yourself, lady, this is all just horrid.

dawny welcome to you too. I'm sorry to hear about your mc. glad you found this thread, hope you can feel relaxed and supported here.

emmsy your dh sounds like he is in his own little bubble. So hard when you are the one doing all the thinking and sorting out, especially over money, it is such a shitty boring thing to have to worry about. I hope he is making up for his pantness. How are you doing? Not long til the scan (is it 7 nights to go?)

mistlethrush thanks so much for the link. We decided to see the garden first, find a place and then think about what it would make sense to plant there. As it was we buried little boo (that was the name we had for bean) under a quince tree. It's a part of the garden that is lovely and sunny, lots of crocuses and hellebores and snowdrops grow under it, and it's next to a bench where fil sits every day, it's the most social part of the garden so boo will always have company! There are michelmas daisies there too, so there should be flowers there around boo's edd.
It felt like a good place, and the best way of saying bye. Not as awful as I thought it might be.

xx

Spink that sounds lovely. Hope that its a lovely memory and helps to give some closure on things. We never managed a similar for our bean #1 at 10wks - d&c elsewhere, at the time that was th elast thing we were worrying about (were on holiday at the time, etc, just added to stress). I did write a poem the night I was in hospital after d&c. Most recent 2 mc were too early to get that far... We have planted a quince for ds though.

yay cricrci that's great news - it's so good to hear lovely news like that. hopefully all of us will one day write a similar post here! you must be so chuffed- here's to a very uneventful rest of pg.

hello to all the newcomers - daisyj, rosie, dawny, saz sorry to see you here. but hopefully you regain your sanity here! saz after my dc i bled for 2 weeks, then nothing for 2 weeks and then a period 2 weeks after (so af arrived 4 weeks from the day of the d&c). not sure if that's helpful. they do say that if you bleed with clots and have pain or fever, you should contact dr again in case it is an infection.

cece horrid tummy bug - i hear that it is going around at easter - hope you are better now.

emmsy re your (d)h. what is he thinking? you really don't need the stress of that on top of everything else. i hope he soon realises the error of his ways! sending you calm vibes to deal with this situation.

mollie thank you for steak & red wine mmmm. i managed to stay on the good side of diet and didnt eat any chocs all easter weekend only to ruin it all when i forgetfully wolfed down a bowl of cream of potato soup last night without thinking it had dairy in it. long sigh....where are my brains these days?

hope everyone else had a good easter. i had a nice and relaxing time not thinking of ttc for once and actually had non ttc bd for the first time in ages it's actually quite a relief not to have to worry about 2ww, when to test etc.

Good morning all. I posted a couple of weeks back and having been a lurker since. I had a bit of a rubbish weekend really. One of my close friends of nearly 2o years had her 2nd baby on Friday. Me DH and DS went to see them on Sat. I thought I'd be fine. The tears welled up in my eyes as soon as I saw the new baby. Initially I couldn't decide if it was sad tears or happy tears. But when she asked if I wanted to hold him, I couldn't. I didn't want to spoil her happiness. So I ended up blubbing big style in the car on the way home. Definately sad tears.
Then my mother announces that she has a job interview for a new job that would involve at least an 11 hour plane journey to see her/her to get home.
I feel rubbish.
Oh but I did get AF after my mc 4 1/2 weeks ago so the TTC can start all over again.
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LH its crap isn't it. I know how you feel - and you're not alone feeling it - and I hope that makes it a bit better in some ways. Did your friend know about mc?

Do stay and chat, I find it helpful, even if its just offloading all those things that you want and need to say but can't say to anyone in RL - inc dh, who if you told them all wouldn't know what to do anyway (and would just then get upset themselves which wouldn't help the situation either)

She did know about the mc and I'm sure she would have been ok with me if I'd broken down in front of her. But it seemed a little selfish to do that as she had, after all, just brought home her baby and it is a happy event. I didn't expect it to be so hard!

I've been ok for the past couple of weeks as a whole, but just feel wretched this morning.

Anyway at least I can start counting cycle days again now. CD4 and counting.

You're entitled to feel down, and its not surprising - don't be hard on yourself because of it. As you say, at least you can start trying again now. Although don't expect even that to be easy.

CD1 for me today, as expected. Will really have to pin dh down and not allow him to go out to work until the deed is done. All this allowing him space and not putting any pressure on for performance is all very well, but he seems incredibly good at totally missing the important dates!

Hope that you're feeling a little more like yourself soon.

spink Brought tears to my eyes, you obviously put a lot of thought into what you did at the weekend, it sounded lovely and I had my own vision of the spot in my head, beautifully described. So glad to hear you felt good with it all too x
LadyH Sorry your feeling a bit crap at the moment hun, but glad you came here to get it all out, makes you feel better doesn't it? I'm sure as mistle said your friend understood, my SIL has just had a baby, he's in special baby care at the moment (which helps as there is none of this whether to hold him or not business ) The day she had him I was a mess, thought I was doing OK until that point and fell apart!
If your seriously ttc you should come and join the other thread that I'm on and a few others from here, Mistle you too! This is the link http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/1366/487400?ts=1206447021279 they are another bunch of lovely ladies
BunnyDid you enjoy the soup though?? Shame after all that hard work though hun bet you were gutted when you realised! Congrats on not touching the chocolate though, can you send me some of your will power please? You sound like me, since the m/c I've been so distracted and forget so much, I've noticed that I am getting slightly better though so there is hope!
Hope everyone else is well x

Oops link didn't work
The thread is TTC Waiting Room

Oh my goodness see what I mean about distracted I forgot Daisy
Hi Daisy so sorry you have to join us on our little thread, but glad you found us hun. I had a mm/c in January and it was our first, it's so horrible. Good luck with your scan and D&C if you have to have one, hope to see you on here again soon x

Hello ladies. Missed you over Easter.

daisyj, rosie, dawny, saz and lady h - hello. Sorry you've had to join us, but we are a friendly (if slightly cake obsessed!) bunch and I for one couldn't have got through without all of these wonderful lasses.

Haven't a chance in hell of catching up with everyone so will just pile on in and join the chat.

Ooooo. Who wants some lemon and poppy seed cake? Fresh from the oven....

Went to the gym today for first time in 2 months. Didn't go whilst pg because didn't want to do anything too strenuous. Anyway, I did some really good anger running (pounding on treadmill with Foo Fighters turned up REALLY loud on Ipod) and am feeling bit better.

So, who's TTC this month? Which direction should I be waving my flags and shaking my pom poms . Obviously is a subtle way so as not to put your DH/DP's off their stride .

Hello everyone

daisyj I'm also from the Oct 08 thread. Very sorry we both have to join this one, but hoping we can help each other.

ladyhelen I can imagine how you feel. My DH and I each have one brother and no other siblings - both have just announced that they and their wives are expecting within weeks of when our baby would've been born. Both pregnancies unplanned. I'm definitely not looking forward to October, although my mother and DH keep assuring me I'll have a huge bump by then. fingers crossed. Had a huge breakdown on Sunday evening, but I think it's helped me to move on a bit.

We agreed to wait one cycle before we start trying again, but I'm getting itchy already. Took my temp for the first time this morning in order to begin charting again. I'm hoping my cycle returns to normal soon.

GeorgieGirl,
Thanks for your lovely welcome and the cake. I very much approve of your gym pounding music. Mr Dave Grohl is number one on my list of fantasy shags! Now thats bought a smile to this miserable face!
In the meantime, I will be TTC this month. Now that AF has arrived after MC 4 1/2 weeks ago, its time to try again. I tend to OV late (about day 17). So reckon we'll be BDing from day 11 or so (with DH and not Mr Grohl though).

GG Hi, just a small slice of cake with my tea please? Decided I need to start getting in the right frame of mind and start losing weight again, I'd lost 2 stone before m/c but think I've put it all back on again! But you can definately shake your poms poms at me this is my 2nd cycle of ttc, just hoping that it won't take as long as the first one as we'd been trying for nearly 2 years!
Prepg Glad your feeling ready to get back on that proverbial horse! Fingers crossed we'll have bumps by October It is hard though, when my SIL got pg without planning it I was devestated, she was thrilled when we got pg and was so excited that there would be 4mths between our lo's but unfortunately it wasn't to be for us She has been very supportive though bless her x
LadyH You could pretend dh is Dave Grohl (hmm) I might do that later!!

You lot do make me laugh . I know we've all been to hell and back in a hand cart, but at least we can make each other smile and get each other through the tough times (which will be numerous and bite us on the arse when we least expect it).

Mollie - I'm with you on the weight loss front babe. Am not over weight, but am feeling heavy for me and that makes me feel a bit unattractive. Am trying to reduced carb diet as I shifted a ton of weight on that some years back. Brown rice and steamed veg for me. Yum

Lady H - Glad I made you smile hon. there is a certain something about Mr grohl that makes you want to be a filthy hussy for half an hour .

PrePG - got my pom poms at the ready. Just give me the nodand I'll start shaking them .

Mistle, Bunny - you OK ladies?

Emmsy - have you forgiven H yet? Is he still (rightfully) in the dog house?

So, here's a question.... top five celeb shags????

In no particular order mine are:

1. Michael J Fox (in his Back to the Future days.) Sigh
2. Edward Norton. Double sigh
3. Jake Gyllenhall. Eye candy extrordinare.
4. Richard Hammond
5. Eminem. Bit of rough.

hello gg glad to see you in a chipper mood. i'll add a v. corny one to your list - russell crowe in his gladiator outfit ha ha. colin firth always finds his way to my top 5 too.

pain in side has returned and still havent had my scan yet! am still hoping that it is muscular rather than anything more ominous.

morning I'm feeling much better today, and dreaming about french toast with raspberries, which I'm more than happy to share! How are you lot?

I'm another one feeling heavy around the middle, doesn't help that I had started to show a bit (I seem to show early, had a bump at around 8 weeks with ds). and still, in the evenings especially I just look so bloody pg. I know some (most?!) of this is down to the cake and chocolate eating. I am going to start doing yoga again. I AM ( i might need you to remind me that I am, when I forget later today)

Georgiegirl, can I add a wildcard to the list in the form of Adrian Brody. YUM YUM YUM

Can I add Tom Cruise - but it would need to be a scaled up version of course, but isn't that part of the phantasy list - you can change them as appropriate !

I'm also trying to lose weight. Have managed to do well twice, then had mc each time and put the weight back on. Really have to be in the right frame of mind as my body is clearly very efficient at food use - I can put weight on on if I use all the points I should be using if I do Weigh Watchers. At least I do like veg - and even brown rice!

Ds has been a lot nicer this morning, so feeling more like having another try this month

Morning all, sad welcome to those just joined.

Mistlethrush exactly the same with me, had lost over a stone before I got pregnant, stayed the same weight up to the mc then piled it all back on.

Thanks so much all of you - just knowing you're all there makes me feel better already. Didn't have to have D&C after all, and the staff at St Thomas' were all fantastic - I recommend them in a crisis! Spink and PrePG - here's to our own new bumps in October, so we can go back and wave hello to the other ladies .

PrePG, my cousin is due two days before I would have been, and we were so looking forward to having our 'twins', so I really empathise. It's that combination of happiness for them and sadness for you that makes you feel really mixed up.

Spink - I am SO with you on Adrian Brody - I have a bit of a thing for regal noses!
And we'll have to encourage each other on the yoga. I was doing quite well with the swimming while I was pg, so want to get back to that, too.

GeorgieGirl - Richard Hammond - so cute and so TINY. I met him once and I wanted to put him in my pocket and take him home (and I'm only 5'3"). I have a story about him, too. DH bought a Fiat Barchetta before he met me, whose previous owner was the Hamster, who he spoke to on the phone in order to find out more about the car. He then sold it so he could buy my engagment ring. I later met Richard at a party and told him the story, and he rememberd DH, which was rather fun .

Am now going to local caff for breakfast with DH - full English anyone? xx

Hmm so we're all going to eat well, some of us are starting yoga or some form of exercise, wonder how long it will last? Good luck to us all I say!!

Can I add John Frusciante (bass player from the Chili Peppers) and Rob Lowe to the list please?

Daisy Glad all went well yesterday for you hun, enjoy your full english x

daisy glad it went okay - I also didn't have to have the D&C in the end which I think helped me have more faith in the process and in my body - it seemed to take care of things before I could even get to the operation, which makes me feel a bit more positive about the future. Maybe that's completely misguided, but for me it made me feel like everything is going on in there as it should and I will go on to have a baby someday. Best of luck to you and if you ever need someone to talk to - who has basically gone through the same thing at the same time as you! - I'm here.

Can I add Hugh Jackman to the list please???? Oooh and maybe Jon Stewart too. Not sure if you all would know him - he does a political comedy show in America, it's on More4 here - but he's cute, funny AND smart! A rare combination!

Hello to everyone. I glad Daisyj found her way here. I tell everybody who need support to come here. I know that without this group of ladies I would never have survived my two MC's last year.

I am waiting for my nuchal scan I had hoped I would have had it this week but have to wait until next week. Bugger. I will be 13+3.

It doesnt get any better I can tell you. All I seem to have done for the last year is wait. If it isnt waiting for the right days to bd, it is waiting for AF. Then you wait to take a test then. Then it starts again. Then if you actually get a BFP then the waiting gets worse. I am now officially insane. Also I couldnt eat cake for ages. It was horrible. I can now so all systems go.
Would anyone like soon ginger cake I amde in my bread maker?

Dont get me wrong though. I dont mind.

I hope and pray to see all of you over on the AN threads very soon.

Also being pregnant has made my grammar and spelling dissappear too!!!