Clomid TTC

[lucymc11]

Hi all,

I wondered if anyone who is currently TTC with Clomid fancied joining a TTC thread? I've had a look and can't see a recent one.

My husband and I have been trying for approx 2 years. I have PCOS and also had a congenital uterine defect (complete septum) which was operated on and fixed in November 2021.

We paid for a private appointment with a gynaecologist yesterday who prescribed 6 months of Clomid. I'm starting off cycle 1 with 50mg and will have a transvaginal ultrasound around CD 10-14.

My period is due in about 3 weeks but ofc with PCOS this is approximate and it might be early/late. My consultant also prescribed norithesterone to bring on a period if it's delayed. I'm tempted to start it soon so I can get cracking with Clomid - patience isn't my strong point!

Would be great to hear from anyone else in a similar position and hopefully share our BFPs in the coming months. TTC can be a lonely time and I've decided to not tell my family/friends about Clomid as it upsets me too much when I have to tell them I'm still not pregnant.

@Harper02 I’m feeling the same today after a negative test, I just don’t know if I can mentally do this another 4 rounds, sending you love xx

@Harper02 @Jadeybabes86 im sorry ladies 😭 its all just a lot. I've my next scan in the morning but am bracing myself this time for bad news as got my hopes up for the last one xx

Good luck at your scan @SusieNI hope it goes well!

Sorry you're having a rough time with it all @Harper02 and @Jadeybabes86 😢. It's so tough but try not to lose hope. This will all be worth it in the end hopefully! ❤️

Thanks @lucymc11 had the scan at 7am this morning! (Clinic is a good hour away so v early start). Scan was a little more positive than last (i think), the little follicle that seemed to be dominant last time on my left ovary had totally disapeared and a bigger one was leading the way on my right now which was showing absolutely nothing 5 days ago lol. I dont understand any of this😂 have to go back again this weekend for another scan (3 probey scans in a week...the joys!) But the doctor this morning (4th male doctor to scan me in 5 weeks lol) said month one is trial and error and he wouldnt have arranged a scan with me in my last scan (day 10) as was far too early? He also said 'hes a letrozole man and would have precribed me that instead of clomid' , fab to hear ffs lol. So all in all a bit of a mindf*ck of a morning haha. But he seemed happy so i guess i am for now too!

Hi everyone, I hope it's OK for me to join here. I'll be starting my first cycle of Clomid 50mg tomorrow (CD2-6), and I've been prescribed progesterone from day 14-28. I usually don't ovulate until day 20-25, so should I start the progesterone day 14 regardless, or should I wait until I ovulate? Was wondering if anyone had any experience with this

@SusieNI
oh dear 😳 😆
I thought being scanned once by a male was bad enough.
I suspect I'll have completely lost my dignity by the time this is over.
I saw a male doctor on my last visit and I'm guessing because he was male that there had to be a female colleague present in the room to oversee it and she stood right at the bottom of the table just staring at my privates while he probed me🙈
its so embarrassing .
I'm not very confident and comfortable with that sort of thing at all.
Have my hsg within next few weeks and Im dreading having to get my bits out for strangers again 🙃

@Desperatelyboredhousewife
You take it at the start of the luteal phase after ovulation since thats when progesterone naturally rises . Typically ovulation occurs around day 14 but since yours is 20 -25 days I would wait and then take the progesterone within first few days after confirmed ovulation

@MK85 oh I'm so with you there! 🙈 we may get used to it i guess cause i hear once u do actually get pregnant all dignity does eventually go out the window by the time labour etc comes!
Aw same every time I've been scanned theres been a girl chaperone too just standing watching 🙈lol i think that must be essential? It is not fun I absolutely hate it lol

Thank you @MK85 that's really helpful, I thought that might be the case.

Hi @SusieNI thats great you’ve had some more positive news at your recent scan, amazing how quickly things can change eh! Good luck for your next one. I’m in on Wednesday for mine to see if the 100mg is doing the trick 🤞.

in regards to dignity during pregnancy it absolutely goes out the window. I remember my section for my wee girl, it was an emergency section so not a lot of time to think about anything but I obviously had a catheter fitted and at the end when they were sewing me up I looked up and saw the reflection of my down below in the overhanging lamp, I had been lying like that the whole time and had no idea was just too excited to meet baby girl! 🤣🤣

welcome @Desperatelyboredhousewife and good luck with your clomid journey 🥰

Hi all bitter sweet day for me, AF came but came dead on time which indicates I ovulated this cycle which i didn’t last cycle and it messed my period right up so things are going in the right direction at least,

also explains why I’ve been crying the last two days 😂

hope everyone is well, sending lots of love and support, hope everyone is holding up I know it’s a hard journey physically and mentally and really hoping we all have a happy outcome

xx

Oh @Jadeybabes86 sorry to hear AF arrived has arrived but like you say, it’s good to know things are beginning to go in the direction you want them too! Hope you’re ok ❤️

@TTCX2 lol oh god🙈🙈 its a mans world ladies!

@Jadeybabes86 sorry to hear that :( its just all so intense but please god this higher dose is the one for you!

My scan this am didnt go so good, (new 5th male doctor now 😑) and he said follicles werent big enough for day 18 and so this cycle just 'didnt work' 💔 I do accept it but I question it a little bit too as know some of you ovulate later? But obvs they are the experts. Just dont know whay happened my little strong follicles from Thursday scan but hey ho I guess 🤷‍♀️

@Jadeybabes86 try to stay positive, at least she came on time this month so you can get cracking on with another cycle rather than waiting forever for af to show up again

Oh @SusieNI Sorry to hear it wasn’t the news you wanted at your scan. But you’re right, you could potentially ovulate a bit later? No harm in trying anyway ❤️

Sorry to hear that @SusieNI sounds like you've been on an emotional rollercoaster with your scans 😢. Love your positive attitude though, it could definitely be the case you ovulate later.

I've been in a really good place thjs cycle - feeling positive and hopeful without obsessing. But I just went to see my one week old nephew today and it's really set me back. He's gorgeous and I'm so happy for my brother and his partner, but then it makes me want a baby even more and I just want to cry. My husband was also in love with the baby and such a natural at holding him, feeding him etc. so then I also feel guilty that it's my fault we're struggling to conceive, even though he's never once made me feel like that. It's a really difficult time to be on this journey as it just seems like everyone I know is getting pregnant.

Just wanted to get it off my chest!

Hope you're all ok ❤️

Oh @lucymc11 that’s so so tough. It’s completely normal that you felt that way, I’m sure each one of us has felt like that at one time or another. Please don’t be hard on yourself, there are so many of us in the same boat, it’s such a common struggle and you’re not alone. Good news is coming our way! 🤞🤞🥰🥰

Sending you lots of love @lucymc11
I see OH with his nieces and nephews and how he always talks of them so fondly , every little milestone and achievement and it does make you feel so guilty. I often feel like I'm holding him back and if he wasn't with me he would probably have the family of his own he so longs for. I question why has he put up with me for so long but then part of me takes some comfort in that knowing hes by my side no matter what obstacles are thrown our way. That's probably the most important thing anyone could ask for in a partner

Hi ladies! Hope you don’t mind me jumping on here, but I had to click in as the title is all too familiar to me. I’m not on clomid, but when/if I have another baby (I was lurking due to some weird symptoms I’ve had since having my coil out and I felt pregnant- thanks mirena crash!) then it’s 99% certain I’ll need it. I have had two babies on clomid and maybe could give some hope to those that haven’t had success on their 1st/2nd (etc) round of clomid. But I don’t want to speak out of turn or in the wrong area, but if you’d like to hear it then let me know and I can tell you my experience :) good luck to you all! 🤞🏻 Xx

Ps I should say I haven’t read the whole thread, it’s long lol, just the last couple of pages, so I don’t know if anyone has already done this or said anything similar, so I’m sorry if they have! ☺️ Xx

@MissH82 aw hi there! Yes I think we are all desperaty in need for some positve/good news from a clomid story if you are willing to share? Xx

@lucymc11 sending you so much love, I know how you feel 💔 I got so upset yesterday after my last scan along the exact same lines aa u to my husband, its my fault, feel like a failure, I'm the reason hes not a daddy yet etc. He actually got a bit cross with me for thinking like that as he says its no ones fault and this is all more common than we realised and we will just love and cherish our little one all the more when we finally do get them as we thought and battled harder than normal to get there. Its just so hard as you say there is a baby boom right now on the go, my 2 best friends got pregnant at the same time, one just had her baby a few weeks ago and the other a few days overdue. And I'm here not even able to ovulate once 💔 But if we let ourselves fall down that rabbit hole it will work against us physically (the stress) and do us no favours but it is so so hard.

Our day will come ladies! 💕💕💕 it has too. ❤️

Morning!

I’ll try keep it as brief as possible, but it’ll still be a bit long lol. Feel free to ask questions, I’m an open book.

So I have PCOS and endometriosis, diagnosed during investigations for fertility. I had fallen pregnant once before naturally, total surprise, but ended in MC. So fast forward to being given clomid, I needed norithisterone to start a period (I’m irregular)-

First son-
Round 1, 50mg day 2-6 of cycle - didn’t track ovulation, but did dtd every other day, legs up, the lot lol- didn’t ovulate and totally disheartened, basically gave up!
Round 2, 50mg day 2-6 - dtd a few times, didn’t bother too much as it was a lot of pressure, no legs up, just got on with life - I did ovulate 😁 (level was only about 11 or so) and fell pregnant with son number 1.

Second son-

Round 1 & 2- 50mg day 2-6- no ovulation
2 month break due to having irregular cells on a smear test.
Round 3- 100mg day 2-6 - no ovulation, basically given up again.
Round 4- 100mg day 2-6 - strong ovulation (I think progesterone was around 29?) and I was pregnant with son number 2! 🥰

I only had day 21 and 28 bloods to confirm ovulation, no OPK sticks, no BBT, no scans.

Overall I spent 7 years of my 20’s with no contraception after being on the pill for 8 years, lots of investigations, one laparoscopy, one ‘natural’ unplanned pregnancy ending in MC, two medicated pregnancies. I cried, I lost hope, I considered all of my options such as adoption etc. But I did get there in the end and I’m so so grateful for my children.

I will continue on another message with my advice, this is only my personal view and obviously I completely get why you are where you are and how you feel but looking back I can see where I went right and where I went wrong! I hope this helps just someone to have a bit of hope or feel better xxx

Following on…

My advice if you can - if you are on clomid, or similar, don’t do OPK’s and BBT, you spend your whole cycle focused on it and sometimes just waiting, dtd every other day and just wait for scan or blood results - I totally know this won’t work for everyone especially anyone with low sex drive who needs to focus on a specific time, but if you can, don’t do it.

If you miss a night of sex, don’t sweat it, do it the next night, sperm can live for up to 5 days, so chances are if you ovulate, it’ll be there waiting still.

Absolutely and most importantly, please please don’t put your life on hold, I made this mistake and missed out on SO many things because ‘I might be pregnant’, book a date night, a night out with your pals, a weekend away, a holiday, just something nice to look forward to so you have a different focus as well. I know in this climate it’s easier said than done, but even a film night with snacks and a bottle of wine, just something! I spent so many years in my head and sad and if I could give anyone any advice this would be it, I know it’s easier said than done, I really do, but with hindsight I wish I’d been better at this.

If anyone has any questions, please feel free to ask :) xx

Thank you all so much for your kind words, really not sure where I'd be without this chat.

@MissH82 I loved reading your posts - just the kind of hope I needed this morning. Really happy that everything worked out for you. The bit about not putting your life on hold struck a chord as I'm hugely guilty of this, especially over the last few months. Really reassuring to know you didn't fall pregnant with your second until cycle 4 (though I'm sure it was a difficult time for you!)

@lucymc11 It was such a tough time, but honestly I wouldn’t change my boys for the world, so whilst it was hard in the moment, if I hadn’t gone through what I had, I wouldn’t have the children I have now, if that’s makes sense? I mean I know I’d not know any different if I’d not gone through this, so in one way it’s ridiculous, but I just can’t see my life any other way. I’ll never be ‘grateful’ for that journey, but it’s taught me a lot and I am grateful for my positive outcome. You will all get there too, one way or another, it might take another month or another year, but you will get there!!

And yes, please do try and have a life outside of ttc, it can be all consuming and you’ll miss so many experiences. It doesn’t even have to be things that would affect a baby if you did fall, doesn’t have to be alcohol filled or adrenaline based (although those things are fun 😁) it can be a spa day, a trip to the beach, mini break with lots of walking and fresh air, just something to clear the mind and reconnect with yourself and other relationships. I was better the second time around because I had a little boy to entertain too, but first time round I really didn’t look after myself enough at all! Xx