TTC after Miscarriage Thread 8

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Just starting this as last thread nearly full💕🌈

Hi ladies, I hope you’re all as well as can be. I recognise some of your names from the miscarriage boards 💐

I’m on first cycle of TTC since medical management of MMC at the end of April. Currently 14dpo and I’ve had a few symptoms over the past week which makes me think I’m in with a good chance. I’m trying to hold off testing for as long as possible. Not really sure why, just a bit nervous I guess. I’m 50/50 constantly thinking about testing but also too scared to! Does anyone feel the same?! 🙈

Spotting after peak yesterday? This is new 😳

@ChipAndDip so scared. Also scared to ttc I understand you holding off but so much luck if you decide to test Xx

Thank you @MrsGrealish 💜 TTC again feels like nothing has changed but at the same time everything has. Really commend you for taking the time you need to try again. It’s such a horrible thing to go through and I’m sorry you’re feeling scared as well.

Lovely to see so much support on this thread xx

Hey ladies, can't keep up today. Actually had to go into the office today so had to tear myself away from Mumsnet 😆. Sorry about the bfn @TheBirdintheCavebut you're still early? I've never had an early positive. @ballet-shoes welcome 🤗lovely. I'm ever so sorry for your loss. I think my AF turned up 5 weeks after? @Indianna2006 currently 12DPO but don't think I'm gonna test 😬 xx

@ChipAndDip welcome 🤗 sorry u find yourself here but it's a lovely board. @MrsGrealish how u getting on?? Oh spotting after ovulation - is it a lot or just a tiny bit? Hope u are ok x

@mooneagle I'm sorry it's shit if u are stuck at work as well. Could u start looking again? X

@ChipAndDip as much as I'm scared it's also partly medical 🙈 There's a tiny bit of tissue left the doctor was hoping would come away or be re absorbed by my next period. It was heavy so I thought all good but did a pregnancy test after and it was still a faint positive. So I should be ringing epu but have been putting it off. So I think I'll do another in a few days and then will have to go if positive 😢I feel your pain @Margo34

@calimc83 literally came home from work, went to toilet and saw the spotting (just slight brown CM atm) Automatically felt the need to share so sorry for tmi 🙈🙈

Big thank you from me for listening to my drama😘

Oh that’s so frustrating @MrsGrealish! I had a small bit of tissue left as well but luckily got a negative exactly one month after my medical management, shortly followed by my period so assume it’s all gone now.

Thanks for the welcome @calimc83!

Just agreed with my partner that I’m going to test on Saturday if AF hasn’t shown by then, so we’ll know for sure either way. We don’t have any plans that day so I’ll have time to process whatever the result is x

Hi, wondering if I could join. TTC #2 after giving birth to our poorly baby girl at 18weeks in Feb. it's her due date in a few days and we have just decided that^ we think^ we are ready to try again! Terrified is the word that comes to mind, how did you all find deciding to try again?

@HoneyPea sorry for your loss. I’m too miscarriages down and also terrified but I think I’m more terrified of not having another! It’s a constant rollercoaster of emotions. I think women are so physically and mentally resilient to keep doing this..or mad!!

@MrsGrealish nothings ever TMI here 🤪 x

@HoneyPea oh gosh welcome, I'm so so sorry lovely xxx

@HoneyPea I'm so sorry for your loss. My friend had a late miscarriage and every time she talks about him I'm amazed at her strength.

I'm terrified to ttc again and my miscarriages were first trimester. 8 weeks and 6 weeks. Still recovering from the second so probably not the best person to ask Xx

Just wanted to say hi and welcome xx

@HoneyPea sorry for your loss and welcome.

I don't think you ever really know if you're ready to TTC again after a MC, in the same kind of way of that cliche "there is never a good time to do xyz".

I've had 3 MC (all first trimester) and for me, I felt ready to not 'not' try again, if that makes sense? I felt ready for qué Sera, I think I mean, and when I recognised that I wasn't so sad about it as often.

You have to be so emotionally tough to be a woman!

Good luck in your journey 💐

Thank you for you kind words.
@Margo34 That's exactly how I feel. Don't feel ready (don't think I ever will) but also don't feel not ready! I'm just very nervous as both DS and Angel DD were conceived in the second month of going with the flow and seeing what will happen.
Currently CD14 but have only tried once or twice this fertile window.

@HoneyPea @ChipAndDip welcome and sorry for your loss ❤️

5 weeks today and still positive 🙄 though the frer is a lot fainter than before I'm I'm hoping that's a good sign 🤞🏼 if still positive next week the EPU will scan me

I can't believe it's been 5 weeks feels like it only just happened. Feeling a little sad today I should have a cute summer bump but instead I've got no bump and spent a small fortune on pregnancy tests that are still positive.

Oh @mummatara I feel for you. I've been there, it's hard. Try the exercise and green tea - see if that works, loads of water too to flush out the system. Having a miscarriage is hard enough without having lingering HCG to deal with too. Have you spoken to your GP to have a scan for retained products?

Welcome to @HoneyPea @ChipAndDip I'm sorry you've found yourself here 💕

@Margo34 I've had 3 losses too. I'm in the process of having tests done. Have you had any tests done to see if you have any clotting / immune issues?

@LuckyMoonstone yes mine were, heavier and longer. They have sorted themselves out now.

@bunnykins123 I'm on it flushing out the system let's hope for good negative news next week 🤞🏼

@bunnykins123 forgot to say the EPU said they will scan me next week if it's still positive

@mummatara i drank two litres of water a day to try help mine. And a few long walks. Not sure if it helped but I felt it did to ease bloating and just feel a bit healthier again.

Shit though isn’t it? You’re usually so happy to see the two lines and now it’s a bad reminder.

@calimc83 i just updated my CV today! At least give myself a distraction for now!

@mooneagle yes I agree utterly shit 🙈 I drinking about 1.5 a day anyway so will try and up.

I did at least have some good news today my ds passport has been approved so we can finally book our honeymoon just in time for the expensive school holiday season 🤦🏼‍♀️

Just a quick question for you all did anyone use any of the miscarriage charities for support? I haven't as I've had quite good support at home and all of you lot have been wonderful ❤️ but I would like to make a donation to one and want it to be one that people felt like helped them a lot

I did another HPT this morning before my scan, still positive, so off I went for my appt scan at EPU. The lady was so lovely and compassionate, the GP hadn't passed on any notes or anything so I had to explain again that I believe I miscarried about 4+ weeks ago but still getting positive tests at home (Inc this morning). She asked why I was still testing and just said that I'm waiting for it to be neg again before resuming TTC. She did an US and TV scan and both showed no retained products and no sign of unknown location pregnancy etc etc , so she said let's just do a preg test now to check. They did 2 and both came back negative 🤷 I'm so baffled. At home, I am still coming up with positive tests, not even squinters, like unquestionable positive. And not even FRER or early tests, just cheapie shit from boots/pharmacy! So I felt like I wasted their time and resources. I did ask why I'm still getting positive results at home and the lady said it can take 1-2 weeks to clear hormones from system but couldn't explain why I'm 4+ weeks and still not clear. I'll be attempting green tea and exercise and flushing it out now then, @bunnykins123 !

@bunnykins123 I had blood tests today while I was up at the hospital, my GP gave me a form for blood tests for proteins, creatine, urea, thyroid, liver function and full blood count (and a bunch of other stuff I have no idea what they are for).

@MrsGrealish On the emotional side at least I know it's all gone and feel like a bit of a weight lifted, closure almost? Which is better than I was bracing myself for. I guess I'm just sitting it out for AF now then.

Hope everyone is doing ok

@Margo34 that's really random with the home tests though but really good news you're ready to go again. I'm was scared that if I was lucky enough to conceive again the bit of tissue would mess another pregnancy up.

I'll do a test soon hopefully it'll be negative 🤞 then I'll have closure. My emotions have been up and down for weeks..me and DH finally had a long talk last weekend after me being super snappy so our relationship is in a better place now. It is such a head f**k