TTC after Miscarriage Thread 8

[mummyofrb]

Just starting this as last thread nearly full💕🌈

Hi, Looking for any words of wisdom or advice...I'm 34 and had a miscarriage in February at around 6/7 weeks. This was my first ever pregnancy. We fell pregnant the first cycle we TTC.

I had what seemed to be 2 pretty normal cycles after the MC of around 28 days. Surprising for me as my cycles are usually in the 35 day-ish region. My cycles have never been quite regular and I've got a tendency I think to have longer cycles but don't have PCOS. My most recent cycle has been 37 days but never got a positive ovulation test result. My period after this cycle was also unusual. It was very watery/ thin blood. My cervical mucous has also changed since my miscarriage and started out as being quite watery to now non-existant! Currently on day 17 of this cycle and not ovulated yet. Been drinking some grapefruit juice to try and increase any cervical mucous as it's strange for me not having any.

I'm really worried my cycles and hormones are all messed up. I've been to the GP who tested my thyroid and testosterone, androgens, SHBG- all fine. He's sent me for an ultrasound too just to check things out so waiting on that whilst still TTC. Although I've had a few pelvic US's when pregnant and all was okay. I've also just been for my smear (keep up to date with these). I've had negative pregnancy tests and my ultrasound after my MC showed no retained products.

Just feeling very low about it all and worried that there may be some issues and scared my ovulation is now going to take ages to sort itself out. Also conscious that I'm now 34 and worried we've left it too late.
Any help, support, advice would be so so welcomed! Thank-you :-)

@Totoro1234 Hey lovely, I also had a missed miscarriage in February found out at my 12 week scan that the pregnancy hadn't progressed, like you we'd got pregnant first month trying. I had the surgical removal and It was about 6 weeks before I had my period again. Since then they've been regular 28 day cycles but I also feel that I'm maybe not ovulating or something, I must be as I'm getting periods but it used to be very obvious I was ovulating before my miscarriage as I had cervical mucus etc but now I don't really have any symptoms. I think it's still early days for our bodies adapting again, it's so hard when you hear stories of people getting caught pregnant again straight away. I'm month 2 ttc again, it's such a heartbreaking process💕

Thank you so much @mummyofrb for taking the time to respond 😃 I know I need to be patient but it’s just the uncertainty and desperation around it all! Lots of people we know are having babies too which makes it even more difficult. Hoping my body kicks into shape soon but it’s reassuring that other people also noticed changes to their cycle after their MC. With my long cycles before I’m also worried maybe there just something isn’t right with me. Wishing you all the best of luck with everything and again, thanks for replying x

How soon after you MC did people start trying again?

Thanks for the new threads ladies @pangolin84 glad today went as well as can be expected. @mooneagle I tried straightaway..well after the bleeding stopped. So I went to visit my friends new born today..it actually wasn't as hard as I'd expected 😬..also started spotting so think my 1st post MC AF is here xx

@mooneagle straight away for me

@Totoro1234 it’s really hard but it can take a while to settle down.

I am entering my first proper fertile week. we did fall last cycle but it was a chemical. But I hadn’t yet had my period since mc. So not sure if that had something to do with it.

@mummyofrb it’s frustrating well you fell straight away. And then worry it’s messed things up. They happen with me with first. Fell streight away. Lost that pregnancy. Then my DD took 7 cycles to fall again. Beyond frustrating.

it took me 11 cycles to fall with this mc. But I’d started using ferti Lily that month which helps sperm get right by cervix. And I used it when dtd after mc and we did fall it was just a chemical.
so I’m hoping if I keep using it won’t take 11 cycles!!

but worried about anymore losses. Two in a row doesn’t seem great. But trying to just think the chemical was sign my body needed more time

@calimc83 I found my first AF post miscarriage week or so ago a relief. Normal cycles could hopefully resume and be able to follow some sort of pattern.
we shall see

@Indianna2006 I'm glad it's here so we can move forwards. Hope u are doing ok? Do u recommend the fertility cup thingy? X

@calimc83 I’m doing okay. Have the odd wobbly moment but in general considering just doing my best to keep busy etc. and think it’s different as I have DD to keep me busy and occupied. Compare to my first mc when I had no children.

yes I do recommend it! Well I mean I had 10 failed cycles. And fell pregnant the one month I used the fertilily correctly. An then used it during ovulation post miscarriage. And fell just wasn’t a sticky bean and lines didn’t progress.
but don’t think that can be a coincidence. I am using it again now and plan to every cycle. I don’t expect to fall again immediately but I am hoping and certain it might speed it up a bit for me.

my DH had a high sperm count as if was checked. Like what super fertile on his own. So for some reason I think for me the sperm just wasn’t getting got to the egg. Maybe my vagina was killing them all 🤣 so by using that cup. It pushes them all up close to cervix near my fertile mucus. And poof. Pregnant twice. Both times 🤷🏻‍♀️

who knows hey. But I shall continue with it and see 🤞🏼

Hi ladies. I also am having strange cycles after my MMC procedure in March. Luckily this month they seem to be settling but had high OPKs for way longer than previously. You can have anovulatory cycles where you still have a period without ovulating, but OPKs are just an indication. I know friends who have gotten pregnant on cycles with no peak OPK so I wouldn't get too hung up on that. Easier said than done as I pee on the 5th stick today 🤣. Here's hoping our bodies settle soon 🙏🏼

@Indianna2006 glad you're doing ok. I think I'm the same, keeping busy helps but tend to brood over it on an evening when my 2 little ones are in bed..ohh that's interesting!! Might give it a go - can't hurt eh? Are they quite easy to fit? X

@Indianna2006 I know, I'm 4 days away from af arriving and I feel like it's on its way. I haven't tested at all this month and it has been easier in a way because I'm not getting upset over a negative test. Still so hard though keep just having a word with myself that it will happen when time is right just I would've liked a 3 year age gap between my DD and a new baby but it seems it's not meant to be!

@Totoro1234 aw I feel you about friends been pregnant, me and my best friend were due days apart but then I had my mmc, her pregnancy totally healthy I'm so happy for her but actually haven't been able to see her since I had my loss I think it would just be too much for me. I feel awful about it.

@calimc83 I haven’t found them an issue. Takes a bit of practise but once I worked it out I was fine.

@mummyofrb yes I understand about the hope for an age gap. I had to delay ttc and always wanted a 3 year ish age gap. We started late so hoped my DD would only just be 4. Alas a year later and two losses and she will be 5 at least now..😩 But it is what it is. Can’t change it. So no point going over the what ifs. Have to try move forward and think of all the silver linings rather than but I’d of liked such and such. Any child is a blessing whenever they arrive 🥰
how old is your DD now?

@Indianna2006 absolutely I feel so blessed to have had a straight forward pregnancy first time around and so grateful for my daughter, it actually makes me feel so guilty that this has all consumed me so much, she is more than enough I've just always wanted to expand our family because I have a lot of siblings I think! She's 3 1/2😊 runs me ragged but wouldn't have it any other way! What about yours?

@mummyofrb haha yes I know the feeling. Mine is 4 years 3 months. She also runs me ragged 🤪🤣
she will be off to full time school in sept. And the baby was due a few months after. Perfect I thought. But alas. Not meant to be..so on we continue.

fingers and toes crossed a blessing is on the way soon 🤞🏼

we can’t always control these things. And it can be really hard to let go of the realisation we have no control.

Hopping over to this thread!

@Totoro1234 Sorry that you have joined this shit club but know you are not alone! I also had mmc in April where the baby had grown to 11.4 and although my period came back 4 weeks after my D&C my cycle this month is the longest cycle Iv ever had. I still have a tiny bit of hcg leftover too which didn't stop my period and I think I ovulated but never got a peak on opk. Hoping my next period sorts that out.

I had my results appointment with Dr.Shehata today and had raised TNF-Alpha IL10 cytokines. Need to self administer two jabs of humira but then next month I will be good to finally start TTC. Hoping throwing everything at it will work although nervous of all the meds!

Also nervous to start TTC again though as I fell pregnant on the first cycle for both miscarriages so part of me is hoping to fall pregnant again quickly but not if it ends the same way.

This whole pregnancy/ miscarriage/ baby thing is such a rollercoaster of emotions!!

Hopping over!

@Mabelledox as overwhelming as the meds sound, it is great that you have a plan in action! Hope it all goes well.

CD21, I am on day 7 of high OPKs and getting fed up! No temp rise, so it looks like I am trying but failing to ovulate. I feel robbed of a cycle!

Hi ladies, also hopping over!

@calimc83 good to hear your AF arrived for a fresh new cycle 🤞🏼

@Totoro1234 welcome & sorry to hear of your loss. I'm also 34 TTC my 1st baby. I've had 2 MCs in the past 5 months. I have a lot of younger friends who already have babies, so age does play on my mind as I wish we'd maybe started sooner but that's easier said than done. We only felt like last year was the right time to start. Hoping our time comes soon 🙏🏼🌈

Hi @theblueflowers I am the same, on day 3 of high OPKs but I don't temp. I had all the ovulation pain as normal though and EWCM. I did read that it's the rise that's important not the fall after, but if you're temping I guess that's a better indication? So frustrating isn't it 😩. Hope you get the dip soon 🤞🏼 xx

So I've just had a call from my hospital. They've had the results of my miscarriage back and want my husband to go in for a blood test at the same time as discussing what they've found. She didn't say more than that and now obviously I'm worrying, has anyone else had this after cytogenics?
Appt is next Friday so luckily not too long a wait x

@mummyofrb thanks for the new thread 👏

@FfayeN I'm sorry you had that call today, did they say on what basis that want DH to have a blood test? Will you be having the same? I found after my miscarriages I had days and days of EWCM before my peak.

@Indianna2006 I'm intrigued about the fertilily! Is it a bit of a mission inserting after BDing?!

So af arrived today I'm so upset and confused because being dtd every other day around ovulation! It's only 2nd cycle but every month feels like a year ttc😩 then to top it off a woman at work just announced pregnancy, felt like I'd been punched in stomach even though I am happy for her ofc. I just wish I could move on just feel at square one sometimes! Sorry for negativity😭

@bunnykins123 she didn't say anything about why, just wants to discuss the results. He's not been tested for anything relating to pregnancy but I have had multiple blood tests. I have had a peak, but now my OPKs are resting at a high level (about the same colour lines on the T and C) so who knows what's happening. It's a mystery! A frustrating one!
Sorry about AF showing @mummyofrb xx

@bunnykins123 I don’t find it to be. It took me a few cycles to work it out. I was wearing it far too low. And didn’t realise it needed to sit much higher deep right by my cervix. And once I did that. Voila. I was pregnant after 10 failed cycles. An so I think there was something to it - definitely for me anyway. My DH has very good sperm results. Super high. So I was wondering where they could all be going!

it need to sit much deeper than a menstrual cup. There £30 so not cheap but can use upto 6 cycles. And it’s gotten me pregnant twice. Each time I’ve used it in my cycles! Cos I conceived straight away last month but had a chemical. I’m using it again in a few days during my fertile days. Hope it will speed things up and in a few cycles I’ll be pregnant again.

i use it every time we have sex in fertile period. Pop it in after. Push it as deep as it can go. Then I pop my legs up the wall or my headboard etc as it helps it scoot up a bit higher in the vagina. Then I leave it in if day. Or if at night I sleep in it take it out in morning.

@mummyofrb sorry to hear AF arrived. It’s so hard and so crushing. And I know what you mean. Each cycle and waiting feels so long. It will happen tho. Just keep going hun. 😘