TTC after Miscarriage Thread 8

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Just starting this as last thread nearly full💕🌈

@ASwimInAPondInTheRain very sorry to hear you’ve had a difficult time. Often people say things and they just don’t think about it in there head.

I just try think of it as never had a pregnancy loss. Can’t comprehend it.

feel like we’re very similiar. I took mc in April at 9 ish week. Feel pregnant before AF she and new cycle. Chemical tho.

Now awaiting first proper cycle outcome.
Also have a nearly 4.5 DD and we also had to delay ttc for health issues and what not.
i have been on this journey a year now tho.

meh. Sucks. Come on little sticky bean baby. Time is going soooo slow

@ASwimInAPondInTheRain awh it's just so hard, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm a similar age to you age have had 3x chemical miscarriages. We did seem to conceive easily but suddenly that's changed and I'm wondering if stress is playing a part in that. It'll be 1 year (with a few cycles in the between that we didn't try) since we started. I second going to the GP, I'm getting bloods taken for CD3 of my cycle to see if anything hormonally is playing a part. This group is a great space for support and venting - ttc conceive is hard enough without having anybody to talk to about it. Big hugs 💕

@calimc83 yaaaay, welcome back on the bandwagon! 👏

@FfayeN oooh love a spreadsheet! 😆 thanks lovely...yeah gonna ring my doctors tomorrow to get them to authorise this code that u need to sort it. Why is nothing straightforward ?! X

@Cdoc maybe wait till say 14DPO? I think testing around 10 often leads to heartache - whether it just be a blazing BFN or a chemical..I've never tested that early and gotten a BFP ( though I know others have) x

@bunnykins123 back in the saddle!! 😝 x

Thank you so much for your lovely messages everyone! I really appreciate it.

@FfayeN thank you for your lovely words of support and wisdom. I'll definitely check out the book, I've read lots about it but not the actual book. Am downloading it onto my kindle now! I'm rattling with vitamins haha but I didn't know about the Myo-inositol, I'll investigate! I think I will go to the gp and get the ball rolling there. I can imagine it will be quite a wait so I should get moving. Your msg was so helpful, thank you so much 😘😘

@calimc83oh goodness, that sounds really tough. I hope you've been really gentle and understanding to yourself during this time. It's hard not to be triggered by these things sometimes. Wishing you loads of luck and love as your start ttc🤞😘

@Indianna2006 our journeys sound v similar, you're right. Thanks for sharing with me! It does indeed suck and requires such strength and guts to continue ttc when it's been so stressful. I hope this cycle brings you a beautiful sticky bean.

@bunnykins123 it's so hard not to be stressed about it isn't it? A few ppl have said to me 'don't be so stressed' and I'm like 'i don't really feel that stressed right now' and also telling someone to not be stressed is the most unrelaxing thing 😂
There is something to be said about being mindful and present in this situation, but that's hard for so many reasons, not least because ttc is all about timing and planning...argh!
Do you know what the CD3 blood tests look for? Are they different to the CD21 blood tests I've heard of?

@calimc83 14dpo sounds like the best idea 😊so much easier said than done but anything to save the heartache. Hope you’re feeling okay about being back in it again! Who knew it would be this hard x

@ASwimInAPondInTheRain so sorry to hear of your losses. This is the most supportive community. Please be kind to yourself and give yourself the space to grieve however and as much as you need to x

@Cdoc it really does! Says me...the crazy cervix checker! 😆😖...x

@Cdoc it feels weird...hopeful but at the same time I'm papping my pants. Really don't want to go through another MC x

@calimc83 crazy cervix checker 🤣🤣that’s really tickled me. I know exactly what you mean, a mix of nervousness but a little bit of excitement. Mostly nerves that MC could happen again, but trying to be positive 🤞🏼

@Cdoc 😆 the things we resort to...I know, I feel like it's Russian roulette on whether it's another MC or not x

@ASwimInAPondInTheRain it’s so hard with pregnancy and miscarriage and I feel like friends even if we’ll meaning can never say the right thing. We are in similar situations I feel. Also 2 miscarriages down the line and I have a 4.5yr old. Although I’m 38 and feel time is really not on my side!

I’ve been MIA for a while, just so busy!
CD16 here. Not close to ovulation yet as far as I can tell. Don’t know how I feel about this month. Not optimistic, not dreading it, just a bit meh about it now.

@LuckyMoonstone Same here re the meh feeling. Started getting EWCM on Friday so we're now in DTD mode until it dries up again. I've not been thinking too much about it really, it's kind of nice to have TTC thoughts in the background and I've been focusing on doing more in the house/garden to keep me distracted. I think I'm almost resigned to the thought that the MMC was our only chance at a second child as I don't think we'll be lucky enough to get pregnant again.

I also almost kind of don't want it to work this month as due date would be 14th March and I have nieces born on the 13th, 15th and 26th so it would be a very busy time of year for our family 😂

@LuckyMoonstone hi 👋 was wondering how you are getting on! How are you finding using the ovusense? Still can't get mine to work 🤦‍♀️

@TheBirdintheCave I feel the same. I've also been trying to distract myself with housework / gardening - apparantly this is good for the soul so I'll give it a whirl. I had a meltdown on Friday, long story but I've started that conversation now with DH regarding considering ivf. I can't believe we've got to this point. Hope you're doing ok lady, you are so not alone 💕

Same situation as you @mooneagle, putting so much pressure on myself due to my age. I have a 2.5 year old and started trying again last August with 3 early miscarriages under my belt. Have you had any testing done?

@ASwimInAPondInTheRain if you scroll down this forum, a few days ago I listed all the bloods that they are testing. There is quite a lot!! I haven't had mine done yet, that's happening on cd3 so I'll keep you updated. I think I'm also going to look into getting DH spermies checked and have a ultrasound done on my uterus (I hate ultrasounds though!!)

@bunnykins123 We had a consultation at the fertility clinic and they’ve done the standard tests and all seem normal. Their thoughts are that the miscarriages seem like isolated incidents as they happened at different stages and think I should just keep trying. I’ve got PCOS which hence recommending to now going down IVF route.

It is all just a bit of a nightmare. I just wish that the next one will stick stick stick!

@bunnykins123 that’s a pain, what have they said about a replacement? I’m enjoying using it but I do think it shouldn’t jump the gun so much re ovulation! It’s a good job I also test/look for physical signs otherwise I’d just think it was over

@mooneagle that's interesting, my clinic said the same but as mine all ended around the same point I wonder if there is an issue. Have you decided if you will go ahead with ivf? Would be interested to compare what you've been told as I'm looking into it due to age alone.

@LuckyMoonstone they keep asking for loads and loads of stuff (videos of me doing certain things to get it started - feels like they done believe I'm doing what they've asked 🙄) and it's getting a bit tedious now. Have you found the hot weather has impacted your temps? My temps are all over the place this month but I don't really trust my bbt plus the hot weather must have been a factor!

@bunnykins123 what model of phone do you have? I saw on the Facebook support group that people with Samsung phones are having problems so it may not be you!

I should be busy worrying about holiday this week but got to 7DPO and now I can’t think about anything else.

have promise myself I won’t test until 14dpo when I’m due AF that day but ugh…🙈🙈

why is it so hard lol.

is anyone due to test soon? Or lots waiting for ovulation?

@Indianna2006 I almost caved today at 7dpo. I had to look at that website that gives you the odds on getting a positive to talk myself down 😂 actually ridiculous

I have FRERs arriving on Wednesday...
Are you going to test before you go away?!

@theblueflowers no I was going to try not to! Day we fly is 11dpo. So I figured still bit early and just try wait out for period of holiday keeps me busy but…

lol. Its hard isn’t it. Think the chemical last month has put me off. I just want a bold line if that makes sense. Not faint lines which then fade away.

@Indianna2006 that is totally understandable.

I seem to be fine in the first week of the TWW, and then something switches! I hate to think I'm just wishing my life away, but that's how it's felt for so long now during all of these waiting times.

Hopefully the craziness of packing will help distract you?

@theblueflowers I hope so!!

i know same. I was okay until now. And now it’s like getting closing start losing my head 😅

it does feel like wishing your life away. I’ve wished the last year away and feel no closer.